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Integrity must be your watch word!

A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

Forget the former things,
do not dwell on the past,

See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up, do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert
and streams in the wasteland

ISAIAH 43:18-19

For the law was given through Moses,
grace and truth came through Jesus Christ

No one has ever seen God, but God the One and Only,
who is at the Father's side, has made Him known

JOHN 1:17-18

PSALM 46:1

GOD is our refuge and strength,
a very present help in trouble.

PSALM 27:1

The LORD is my Light and my Salvation;
whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the Stronghold of my life;
of whom shall I be afraid?

Father, thank you for the grace to appreciate your majesty

Deeply in love is when you love someone who loves and appreciates you .
Desperation is when you throw away your dignity trying to love someone who doesn't care .

Desperation is tolerating the things you will normally not tolerate

Naetoja, if you don't mind, you can flip to another thread 'Torn Between A Major Decision' still in the Romance Section, with similar issues. You will learn from the experience of van der jo, the views that followed, including mine.

@poster
The answers in this thread are very sincere and the best you can get anywhere!

A lot of us had gone through similar experiences, some even did worse than you did. We only learnt our lessons when we came out of it. Don't be hard on yourself, we all make mistakes, it's natural. The good thing here is you realised your mistake. Love is not mathematics where 1 plus 1 is 2. When we are in love rightly or wrongly, our sense of reasoning is beclouded by emotions, even in our sober moment when we realise we are not doing the right thing, it's still difficult for us to come to terms with it and keep hoping upon hope that things will work out well.

My advise will be based from two perspectives, though not different from what others had already written.

ONE: Since you and the other lady (the one you met online) had communicated for two years, it presupposes you know a little about her. Since you have spent time and money trying to build the relationship, the only reasonable way that relationship can work is for both of you to meet (not once but frequently) so that you get to know each other better. Proposing marriage to someone you never met before was an action taken too much in a haste.


TWO: From your write-up, the lady you met online has little prospect for you, she seems to have realised your naivety, so she decided to exploit it. The decision here is to forget about her.

I only dwelt on the lady you met online because I think you should forget about the other lady without any consideration.

My advise will be to forget the two ladies and start on a clean sheet, that is, after giving yourelf enough time to heal the wound.

Though, the choice is still yours to make. Good luck!

onyxera, no human being has the power to change another human being.

We all have the right to life, so also the right to fall in love.

Unfaithfullness and lies!

@poster
Take it or leave it virginity is not dignity it's simply lack of opportunity


What a myopic view and the extent of degeneration of this present generation

Well, just like others said, confront him, then see the excuse he comes out with,
and then it is left for you to make up your mind what you want from the relationship.
If you find out he is cheating on you and you decide to stay with him with the hope he will change,
sorry, for there is every possibility something similar will occur in the future.

Why don't you trust your lady?
Was she dating someone before you met her? Or is it a sense of insecurity on your part?

In any relationship, trust is one of the most important ingredient,
and once trust is missing, then the foundation of that relationship in definitely on a wrong footing.

Find out why you don't trust her and try to discuss it with her
because if you don't trust her then your relationship in on a borrowed time.

PROVERBS 3:35

The wise will inherit honour,
but fools get disgrace

MARK 11:24

Therefore, I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer,
believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

ZEPHANIAH 3:16B-17A

Do not fear, O Zion,
let not your hands grow weak,
The LORD, your God, is in your midst,
a warrior who gives victory.

MARK 11:22-23

And Jesus answered them, have faith in God.

Truly, I say to you, whoever says to this mountain,
be taken up and cast into the sea,
and does not doubt in his heart,
but believes that what he says will come to pass,
it will be done for him.

What is your Vision/Purpose in life?
How do you want to live your life?
And what impact do you wish to make/leave behind?

Simple Question?

Well, Wait and Give it a Thought!

Father, thank you for the gift of live.

GOD'S COVENANT WITH NOAH

Genesis 9:11

I establish my covenant with you,
that never again shall all flesh be cut off by the waters of a flood,
and never again shall there be a flood to destroy the earth.

SEEK GOD FIRST

Luke 12:29-31

And do not seek what you are to eat and
what you are to drink, nor be of anxious mind.

For all the nations of the world seek these things;
and your Father knows that you need them.

Instead, seek His kingdom,
and these things shall be yours as well.

This is the day that the LORD has made
I will rejoice and be glad in it.

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ,
he is a new creation,
the old has passed away,
behold, the new has come

II Corinthians 5:17

Jesus: The Generous Giver

If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God,
who gives to all men generously and without reproaching,
and it will be given him.

James 1:5

Jesus the Shepherd

Truly, truly, I say to you, he who does not enter the sheepfold by the door
but climbs in by another way, that man is a thief and a robber;
but he who enters by the door is the shepherd of the sheep.

John 10:1-2

For God so loved the world that He gave His only SON, that whoever believes in HIM should not perish but have eternal life. (John 3:16)

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. (Romans 8:1)


For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 6:23)

Adam, the first man sinned and since then man was conceived in sin, so it is the nature of man to want to live in sin, that is how John 3:16 came about. That is why the Bible says if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive and to cleanse us from every unrighteousness. Remember we are not saved by good works but by Grace through Faith. It is not for us to judge who a true Christian is, that is the prerogative of God to determine.

Father, you are the LOVE of my life.

The LORD will cause your enemies who rise against you
to be defeated before you; they shall come out against you one way,
and flee before you seven ways.

DEUTERONOMY 28:7