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EfemenaXY:
What sort of questions?

That thread is nothing more than an open invitation to those married men in happy marriages to share their experiences. It's also meant to create some sort of balance to all the horror stories about marriages from hell - and show that it isn't all doom and gloom.

So how could the thread starter be scheming something. What "something" if you don't mind my asking?

Just my opinion.

Anyway, also in my opinion, "happily married" sounds like something you see on those nigerian bios mostly of a political nature or some money related venture where the cv is polished and "happily married" thrown in for good measure even though in real life the wife or wives in the marriage are probably doing prayer and fasting 24/7 as well as visiting various "african power" specialists all in a bid to curtail the man's numerous mistresses/side chicks and wandering blockis. With the mistresses and side chicks also doing the same.

Yet the public pictures will show the man with a beatific smile and "happily married" glued to his profile.

Shymex posts have been reported.

Hope the mods will remove them.

For the record, male role model does not mean male model, perhaps I did not understand mondisweet's post.

How is the thread vulgar?

Shymexx is the one posting n.ude pictures .

Neither do I know why idris elba's photo is here.

And yes, imo, the other thread is childish, not to mention 9.9 times out of 10, when a woman asks a man those types of questions, its because she's scheming something.

Black in the context of this thread, means negro, or people descended from natives of subsaharan africa.

Mods remove the nu.dity pictures instead of sending the thread to sexuality, thanks.

It is not a sex related topic.

What I mean by "happily" sounding child-ish, is not that happiness is foreign to marriage, but rather, for a man, marriage, whether "happily" or not, is not the sum total of their worldview like it is for most women.

If happiness is what you're looking for, then you might as well get the feeling from beer since the high is at least guaranteed.

This happiness misconception on the part of women is also why in the event of a break up, the man tends to move on quickly while the woman does not.

Dream a better dream like that movie said.

This is for women who prefer dreaming about males.

Ask God to help you dream in a Christ like manner.

Besides, what the bible says is test every spirit.

Oyo

Aye

Oyinbo

Oye

Oyato

Iyo

Oyi



All indicate either outside influence or influence exported outside. Migration, trade, etc.

Any exception to this rule can be stated here so I can examine it.

kikuyu1:
Here's a secret. It was required by Masaais. A platoon of maybe 20-30 would spear it to death and the first to touch it would wear its mane. The truth is Kalenjin,Kambas and even Kikuyus regularly killed them and even leopards without fanfare.

We learnt about it in school back then.

It was in the olden days, not now.

bukatyne:
What is 'kids material' about "happily" married?

Sounds childish imo.

olowodaran:
I posted this from experience and i didn't say we should not honour our fathers, i said mothers should be more honoured.

The bible says honour your father and mother.

Most people are probably aware.

Is this the first olympic sized stadium in nigeria?

Or maybe southern nigeria?

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masonkz:
Like someone said there, do girls also complain of shortage of boyfriends? There lies your answer.

Doesn't seem like there's a shortage of boyfriends, just a shortage of husbands.

spoilt:
i dont blame the american embassy, nigerians have been known to 'cross over' with the kids of relatives as their own.
We have been doing it for too long.

Anything for a better life.

vigasimple:
DNA is usually ordered when there are some doubts by the consular officer to whether or not the child or children belong to the couple has claimed. They will usually have their reasons.

So it is not compulsory but can be mandated if there is a reasonable suspicion that the child does not belong to them as claimed.

True.


A lot of the uproar is probably from the couple pretending they didn't know the kids weren't theirs.

Whereas its likely they were just trying to sneak the children in to begin with.


I see their ( or the man's) point of view though, is he supposed to just up and admit he was trying to pull a fast one?

amor4ce:
Unmarried black women
Down or out
A black male professor kicks up a storm about black women and marriage

Oct 15th 2011 | LOS ANGELES | from the print edition

https://media.economist.com/sites/default/files/imagecache/full-width/20111015_USP506.jpg

AT SOME events on his book tour, black men have accused Ralph Richard Banks of advocating genocide. In fact, the Stanford professor of family law has merely written a book called “Is Marriage for White People? How the African-American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone”. But abuse is what you get for suggesting, as Mr Banks does, that black women—not only the “most unmarried” group in American society but also the one that least intermarries with other races—should look to white, Latino or Asian men as potential mates. After all, the alternative is often no marriage or relationship at all.



The collapse of marriage among blacks is well documented (see chart), but not the sexual, psychological, emotional and social toll this has taken on black women. Seven out of ten are single. Of the others, many are forced into “man-sharing”.

This crisis in the black “relationship market”, as Mr Banks calls it, starts with a “man shortage”. About one in ten black men in their early thirties are in prison. As a group, black men have also fallen behind in education and income, just as black women have surged ahead. Two black women graduate from college for every black man. As these women rise into the middle class, the men stay in the lower class, becoming less compatible.

Many black women respond by “marrying down, but not out,” as Mr Banks puts it. But that makes bad marriages. Two out of every three black marriages fail, about twice the rate of white marriages.

The real problem is the behaviour of those few black men who are considered good catches. They often stay unmarried for the opposite reason: they have too many options. As one man told Mr Banks: “If you have four quality women you’re dating and they’re in a rotation, who’s going to rush into a marriage?” Even black men who nominally commit to one woman are five times as likely as their white counterparts to have others on the side.

One way or another, many black women thus become, or stay, single (as two of Mr Banks’s three sisters are). As one woman tells him: “We focus on our careers, our friends, go back to school, whatever. We fill our lives with other things.” But in the hundreds of interviews Mr Banks conducted, he found pervasive sadness.

The most obvious solution, he discovered, also runs into the greatest taboo: intermarriage. This is ironic, because black men are statistically very open to marrying outside their race—more than one in five does. But fewer than one in ten black women intermarries.

For some black women, a white husband brings bad memories of slavery and Jim Crow. Others have conditioned themselves to find non-black men unattractive (lacking “swag”, in the argot). Still others fear that men of other races find black women unattractive, or that their children might be “not black enough”. But by far the most common reason seems to be that black women still regard intermarriage as tantamount to betraying the race. “My black heart,” says one black woman as she contemplates marrying out, “I would need to turn it in.” “We know it’s a struggle,” says another, “but we women got to stand by the black man. If we don’t, who will?"

http://www.economist.com/node/21532296?php%20$this-%3EincludeSnippet%28%27Publishers_Omniture%27%29;%20?%3E

I don't see how intermarriage is regarded as betraying the race unless someone expressly sets out to do so.

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Well, we're watching.

The action will soon start no doubt.

Will edit the thread title then.

CFCfan:
Adesewa Josh is on the first page.

Thanks, but surely there are more female journalists than that.

Why are you imagining that about the other baby mamas?


Quite a general statement imo, and based more on fantasy.

So, idris elba is ghanaian on his mother's side and sierra leone on his dad's.


Why was he featured on the thread?

Not sure what I'm missing here.

If he's a role model, then state why you consider him one ( IF YOU ARE MALE). I said this in the opening post .

The thread is not for spamming with abs or hotness plz, there are separate topics for those.

Not saying a physical fitness model can't be your role mentor, just that I don't want the thread spammed with photos of abs unless the picture is accompanied by a reasonable post without rancour.

SirShymex:
I've , never had a male role model

I don't think anyone doubts that.