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btw, i thought killing a lion was the ancient required manhood ritual in kenya?

what the. . . . . ..

bro, you should have posted a warning

tbatbaby:
Hello nairalanders!Pls kindly list d items and gadgets needed in a newly weds kitchen.Thanks as i look forward to u guys comments!

you should know nah?

you are even female and you're asking this question?

those are not her usual eyebrows.

that's why she looks different.

thats the standard nigerian eyebrow, not her own style.

i'm not sure.

some initiations are mainly for purposes of brotherhood, male initiation rites imo are somewhat different because they focus more on the individual understanding of manhood. But brotherhood rites might also qualify?

noperson:
@op
Point of correction, KSA is not married. He never did and yet to. All the women are his baby mamas, he never legally or traditionally married anyone

so you're saying someone ( side chick/mistress wannabes who would like a piece of him) should still be hoping he'll do all these for her (ie the whole wedding shebang) . . . . . . . . .

Ok, Oyo state, check

Ondo state, check


Where are Lagos, Ogun, Osun, and Ekiti states?

abi na only Oyo and Ondo states waka come?

wouldnt coming from the water mean coming over the water by ship or boat?

mods, why does airforce1 keep opening threads to post his pictures here?


should these threads not be in another section?

diaries or something?

even seun wey own the site no dey post im pictures like this nah?

this, for example, is not local, or is accepted local behaviour:

https://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/9d/24/04/9d24047dca2fd2067386d229ccee6723.jpg

let's also look at some common misconceptions about localness and cuisine (or when its cool to be local):

13. Drinking garri is local

Not true.

14. Eating with your fingers is local.

Its not.


15. Foods like eba, etc are local.

Not really.


16. Eating bush meat is local.

minus the ebola outbreak, bush meat is not considered a local food. Its a delicacy and exotic. I'm referring to standard wild game.


17. Going to a buka means you're local.

Not true. Going to a buka to eat good food at cheaper prices is not local, or is accepted local behaviour. Likewise eating rice in leaves, etc.

https://help.cbp.gov/app/answers/detail/a_id/289/~/importing-a-non-u.s.-version-%2F-non-conforming-vehicle-or-car-into-the-u.s.


http://www.cbp.gov/trade/basic-import-export/importing-car


https://help.cbp.gov/app/answers/detail/a_id/218/~/requirements-for-importing-a-vehicle-%2F-vehicle-parts


http://www.nhtsa.gov/cars/rules/import/

as per efemenaXY's question

there is nothing wrong with being yourself regardless what your personality is like, however, my emphasis is on observing your environment.

Its true some people cant and should not change to become a fake version of their actual selves, what is important imo is the willingness to be open to consider other perceptions.

contd:

12. Being local and acting local are the same.

No they are not. Being local means someone is local. Acting local means someone is deliberately displaying local behaviour for whatever reason.

@ kilokeys

you mentioned A local as opposed to local which is my own point of reference.

A local of a place is someone who is from a place, while local as verb means local behaviour or attitude.

further misconceptions:

9. Poor and local are synonymous ie being poor automatically means you are local.

Poor and local are not synonymous. Someone can be poor yet not be local.

And no, i dont understand why this is so. And yes, local is more common in the absence of money.



10. There's nothing you can do about local, its simply ingrained.

imo, local is strongly proportional to level or amount of parental care during infancy. There is no hard and fast rule on this, but increasing your involvement and emotional connection to your child, goes a long way.


11. Local means not being European in behaviour.

No it does not, although exposure is often construed as European. I do not believe African culture is only about acting local.

For example, the Yorubas have a concept of "Omoluwabi" which is a guidance code for those who want to modify behaviour. You have Calabar fattening rooms where women are taught social graces and how to behave (ignore the fattening part which most women today will object to), Fulanis also have a concept called Pulaar.

So, i believe African culture is not always necessarily as uninhibited as people think it is. More accurately, there is a time and place for everything.


I was fairly shocked when someone told me, in their area, southern Nigerians are generally considered loud, out of control, rude, and noisy, and people were warned not to pick up those habits when associating with them. I felt shocked because i had not considered those things a character trait people would call shortcomings.

kilokeys:
me no understand this thread..

if we rnt local.. why do we claim local governments?

an American is a local when he gets to his base.


dont miscontrue local for classless

local (v) verb is not the same as local (n)

EfemenaXY:
What's not to understand?

That this thread extols self-hate, encourages ladies to be embarrassed about their roots and who they really are?

being a lady extols self hate?

EfemenaXY:
What's wrong with being local?

Isn't it better to be true to oneself? Than putting up false airs and graces in the vain bid to impress?

Give me loud, brash, and "local" any day. At least they're honest and ooze self-esteem.

like i said, its an issue of context. It is important to be yourself but there are times when you have to inconvenience your natural self and modify your behaviour to suit your environment.

if someone who is not local, for example, is in a local environment, then you modify your mannerisms to match where you are. And vice versa. Its a question of being open versus narrow minded.

interesting, didnt know its a real picture.

coogar:
local is impossible to modify.
once the background is flawed, you cannot really have the complete package. money can only do so little, the overall package would still have rough edges.

razz might become tushed but it will never be posh. the diction alone would tell you he is not posh. the razz mannerisms would still be present & so on and forth.

local can be modified with training, although it could be difficult to change it completely.

^ that's true, unless the school is a good one.

if not, then is the op is saying s/he never left the village at all since his or her father's time?

ximarro:
U see guys, it may sound funny but this is what goes on in many homes and it is one of the causes of marital problems. I believe a man should tell the wife that he has a particular amount at hand and let the wife be the one that will know how to list the items and the prices to accommodate the amount the husband has.

when you marry, do that.

LewsTherin:
Word. If the wife isn't complaining, what's your business in who writes it?

My Lady and I work on the list together and we go shopping together if we do not use a shopping service. And there are times I do the lists myself cos I work better with the terms and conditions of the shopping service. So who cares who writes the list?

Stereotyping roles in families is one of the reasons there are so many issues in families. Let the better person handle any job. Or the more opportuned person. Why mandate roles based on gender? This is where communication and trust should comes in

I tire bo

no, i dont see why it should be a big deal as long as both parties are ok with it.

the topic has just about been covered i should think.


most of the info is correct i guess.


however, after a while people may tend to move out of their comfort zones into relatively unfamiliar territory, even though the majority stay where they are.

whatever works for them.

am yet to see any new ones after santa clause.

i guess i havent been keeping up.

More misconceptions


8. (insert name here), is famous and making good money from local. Therefore its ok to be local anyhow.

(insert name here) may be making good money by marketing local as a brand, but unless they are selling local, they are not likely to push local ALL the time. Just mostly when they are selling it.

You'd be surprised (insert name here) can still snub you should you by any chance happen to meet and you act local in their presence.


In any case, as mentioned before, local has more to do with how much priority you place on adaptation skills. Do you notice what context you are in.

A lady i knew from decades back came from a local background which got into money at some point, and it was interesting to see how she deftly managed to interact between two worlds- local and sophisticated- without losing her identity. She was comfortable with both worlds and did not feel inferior to either.

its much more than that.

Misconceptions contd:


5. Everybody who is not a beauty queen or beauty pageant contestant, is local.

Absolutely not true.

You dont have to go through special training in order to shed local behaviour. Its entirely up to you, although admittedly the beauty pageants will give you an edge if you need one.

I'm referring to official offline beauty pageants plz.

So do not be intimidated or discouraged by the photos, glamour and blitz you see in pageant contestants or specialized photos. You can be just as classy and glamorous as they are if you want to (ok, maybe not quite as glamorous as them but at least what you can be in your own little way).



6. Local is "in" these days.

Is it?



7. If you have tried to be "unlocal" and it just seems impossible or you just cant cope, then why bother.

Local is mostly about mindset, not necessarily behaviour or appearance (or behavioural appearance) only. You can try to do as much as you personally are comfortable with, and check to see how it looks in general interaction. That's the yardstick you can measure your attempts by.

If you find you constantly need support from "like minds" (ie other local folk who encourage the local behaviour) in order to make you feel better, then chances are you are still at square one. If however, you get encouraging feedback (check body language) from people who ordinarily would consider you local, then you will find out what is being improved on and what still needs work.

and yes, this debate has been going on from time immemorial.

for example, pygmalion, trading places, miss congeniality, are all stories which examine this issue.