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lordyugo:
Its a lil bit of everytn u mentioned.everybdy dt has ever gotn married since d beginning of time got married for sm selfish reasons ,all d talk bout luv romance etc is jus to gloss over it and make it appealing, if not u wont hear for better or for worse cos d knw both parties r coming wit different selfish reasons

sholapot:
Nigeria



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owolawitola:
Besides in my own secondary school, our stainless plate no get partition. Which school in Nigeria uses that sef?

Defcon1:
lf you were given two versions of your favourite meal, one prepped at a roadside eatery, and the other at the Hilton, which would you rather choose despite the fact that both would satisfy your nutritional requirements?

Gaucho:
That one wey you dey use for 9ja food,na lie!

Cavenchy:
I know some would say this is probably none of my business but it is my business cos women are responsible for our continued existence and without whom mankind would be extinct.

Have you ever stopped to wonder if women stopped giving birth to boys and only girls what would happen to the world? Would they miss men? Would they love each other better?

Phonon:
You will definitely hate someone who can see through all your disguises and bulls**t. A woman can't deceive another woman neither can she have her way all the time with a woman. A woman can't fake tears to another woman and so on.

Some women on the other hand love men as friends because it is easier to manipulate men with all the wigs, makeup, eyelashes, fake butts, and other whims and caprices. Men can't easily see through while women can smell fakeness from a mile away.

Elbisco:
We all want to be happy,I yet have not seen any human under the sun who doesn't want to be happy,(perhaps there is,I don't know). I believe one of the reasons why you are reading this is because you want to be happy,and you also want to know how to avoid little mistakes made in the pursuit of happiness.
Nothing good comes easy,non that I know of,not in this world,maybe in Pluto or Saturn,but most definitely not on planet earth..
And because nothing good comes easy,there abound little mistakes or difficulties encountered in the pursuit of happiness. You'd be intimated of these mistakes in the remaining lines of this post.

Mistakes made in pursuit of happiness

1.Not letting go of the past:- people who do no let go of their past often miss out in the joy of the moment.not letting go of your past means you are still dwelling in it and you don't expect to have the maximum feel of the present while still in your past.once you let go of your past,you start releasing yourself for the wonderful moments ahead.Holding onto the past makes you over 'conscious' of the tendency of getting hurt and this keeps you in your shell. Let go of your past,you no longer have control over it,its gone,let it go and take charge of your present and future.....

2.comparing with others: people often compare themselves,possession,achievements with other people and this causes only sadness. You are different. Why compare? Its an insult on your being,comparing it with another being. Whatever you can not have,ignore the. For women its mostly jewelry,accessories and clothes,for gadget lovers,its latest tabs,smartphone etc. If you cannot afford it,then forget it(at least for the time been).We've heard of people who cannot live in the league they choose to,they take part in vices like stealing, s*xual excapedes,and the likes,those who're unfortunate and caught have been lynched,jungle justice have been melted out on some,death has even caught up with others..Imaging the same,disrespect,humiliation,embarrassment and disgrace received for a gadget that it's price would drop after a month or so.. My point,if you can't have it,don't compare,just be happy with what you've got

3.Pursuing the source of happiness rather than the happiness itself: people often go after what they think would make them happy,instead of the real happiness itself. To illustrate,people who chase money at the expense of their family thinks money is happiness,or a path to happiness and they ignore their family,friends and relationships which are the real happiness. I'm not advocating laziness,instead am after a balance. You need to find a balance between work and your loved ones.what is the essence of money when spent it alone. Invest quality time in those who makes you happy.they are the real happiness.

4.they pursue happiness instead of living their lives and be happy: In search of happiness,you often forget to live the life of happiness. Why not stop searching for happiness and start living your life happily. The pursuit of happiness would make it elude you.

These are just a few mistakes made,please do share other mistakes you know. Have you ever experienced this,you know someone who have...? do share with us here.

Source:- inspiredfully.com

XVIER:
You ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits aren’t helping you, they’re hurting you. Here are a few examples of the latter that will steal your happiness if you let them:

1. Focusing on everyone’s story except your own.

Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own. Unfold your own tale and bring it to life. You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. Incredible change happens when you decide to take control. This means consuming less and creating more. It means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you. It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts to write your passage.

If you want your life story to soar to new heights, you’ve got to clear a path, reduce the time-sinks and burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things that give you wings. Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day. If you truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, there’s almost nothing you can’t accomplish.

2. Waiting for the perfect moment.

Don’t buy into the myth of the perfect moment. Moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make them. So many people wait around for the stars to align to do what they’re here to do. The perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, the perfect state of being, etc. Wake up! These states of perfection are myths. They do not exist.

Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly related to your willingness to act in the face of imperfection. You will come to succeed not byfinding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfectly.

3. Working for nothing more than a paycheck.

Work without interest is imprisonment. Even if you aren’t super-passionate about your work, you’ve got to at least be interested in it. When you design a lifestyle in which your work is something you suffer through daily strictly to pay your bills, you end up spending your entire life wishing you had someone else’s.

Think about it. This is your life; your work will fill a large percentage of it. It’s not all about the money; it’s about you. Ignore the propaganda, especially from people who say, “Don’t let your work define you.” Reverse this message and mediate on it: “I will do work that defines me.” When the essence of who you are defines at least some slice of the work you do for a living, that work generates fulfillment.

Bottom line: Interest in your work puts quality in your output and happiness in your mind. Don’t settle for a paycheck. Shuffle around until you find work that interests you.

4. Harboring feelings of hate.

As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” Truth be told, when we harbor feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us. It takes control of us. We forget why we hate, what we hate, and whom we hate – we simply hate for the sake of hating. And then, naturally, we begin to hate ourselves too.

Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent space in both your head and heart. So if you want to eliminate something or someone from your mind, don’t hate. Instead, disconnect yourself, move on, and don’t look back.

5. Holding tight to worries and fears.

Someday when you look back over your life you’ll realize that nearly all of your worries and anxious fears never came to fruition – they were completely unfounded. So why not wake up and realize this right now. When you look back over the last few years, how many opportunities for joy did you destroy with needless worry and negativity? Although there’s nothing you can do about these lost joys, there’s plenty you can do about the ones that are still to come.

You will find that it’s necessary to let some things go simply for the reason that they’re heavy on your heart and soul. Let go of them. Don’t clamp shackles to your own ankles. It’s incredibly easy to enjoy more of your life right now, no matter what the situation. It’s just a matter of letting go of the layers of nonsense that are weighing you down.

Let go of your worries and fears, of your rage and jealousy, of your need to always be right and control others. Let go of your pretentiousness and your need to have everything your way. Underneath all these layers of nonsense there is a happy, productive person. When you start peeling them off and simply appreciating everything for what it is, life can be wonderfully fulfilling.

6. Dwelling on difficulties.

A bad day is just a bad day. Choose not to make it anything more. Times of adversity will inevitably affect the conditions in which you live and work; yet you don’t have to let it affect who you are and where you’re headed. Take note of the setbacks and adjust to them, but don’t expand on them by making them a bigger part of your life.

Every day brings new lessons and new possibilities. There is always a way to take the next step forward on the path you’ve chosen. Events may be terrible and inescapable at times, but you always have choice – if not when, then how, you may endure and proceed onward.

7. Constantly seeking fleeting contentment.

There are two variations of contentment in life – fleeting and enduring. The fleeting type is derived from instants of material comfort, while the enduring type is attained through the gradual growth of your mind. At a glimpse it might be difficult to decipher one from the other, but as time rolls on it becomes vividly obvious that the latter is far superior.

Enduring contentment sustains itself through life’s ups and downs, because through them your mind remains confident and at peace. On the other hand, when life’s fleeting changes have the ability to ruffle your mind into a frenzy, even the most elaborate physical comforts won’t make you any happier for very long.

8. Trying to make a big difference all at once.

If you want to make a difference in the world, start with the world around you. Making a big difference all at once is usually impossible, and the process of trying is extremely stressful. However, instantly making a difference in a few lives is entirely possible and usually fairly easy. You just have to focus on one person at a time and start with the one closest to you.

Work to make a bunch of small splashes, and let the ripples spread naturally. If you want to change a person’s mind or mood, sometimes you have to change the minds or moods of the people around them first. For instance, if you make one person smile, their smile just might make others smile too. In this subtle way, you can touch the masses with your thoughtfulness without stressing yourself out.

9. Holding on to someone who hurts you.

Sometimes you have to walk away from people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t. When someone hurts you time and time again, accept the fact that they don’t care about you. It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s necessary medicine. Do NOT strive to impress them any further. Waste not another second of your time trying to prove something to them. Nothing needs to be proven. Do not act with any thought of them ever again.

10. Over-amplifying the importance of physical attractiveness.

Infatuating yourself with someone simply for what they look like on the outside is like choosing your favorite food based on color instead of taste. It makes no sense. It’s innate, invisible, unquantifiable characteristics that create lasting attraction.

Just as some people enjoy the smell of mint, while others prefer the scent of cinnamon, there is an undeniable, magnetic draw that attracts you to the qualities of certain people, places, and things. Sometimes it’s even the scars your soul shares with them that reels you in and creates the very hinges that hold you together in the long run.