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Caveatemptor:
Tpiah obsession,
. I am gonna be reporting you to a mod henceforth..

LostMermaid:
You're right...

Maybe in everything we do; there will be people who will speak bad of us, no matter what. Because some people feed their ego by saying bad things to others or by talking behind their back.

I hope our lives can be surrounded by more of good hearted people who, before they judge, understand that they are human too.

kaboninc:
Like she said, they were her thoughts. THOUGHTS! And even you when faced in tough situations can entertain even very wicked thoughts.

She's with the man. Not you. Aside from this issue, there's no other issue she has mention that is a potential reason for her to jump ship. Sometimes, the advices you give can tell how you understand problems. Its obvious she likes the child. Its only a thought...and she's entitled to it.

What if she came to nairaland to seek for advice on how she'll cope with a man who has a child out of wedlock?

LostMermaid:
Not everyone is judging I've read plenty of comments that are written with understanding and a positive, productive attitude. AND;

THANKS TO THEM;

I changed my view on the baby mama.

Also added a note on this on the main post, saying it was wrong to view her bad, based on what he told me, as it's past time; and noone can tell 100% what really happened.

I think you didn't read many things; and you based your comment on a few things you came across on the main post making quickly a judgement.

SirShymexx:
In brotherhoods where everything is done under an oath and you have remain loyal at all times? That is my reality.

LostMermaid:
ATTACKING THREATENING A FOUR YEAR OLD?

What's wrong with you for God's sake? I SAID I AM BOTHERED BY THESE THOUGHTS that SOMETIMES cross my mind. Do you know what that means; that means I'm scared these thoughts might grow and affect how I behave; and I'm aware that I must kill those thoughts? How on earth this sounds HARMING to the child? I am actually VERY CONCERNED about it; I do not want to act like a bad person; I am willing to replace these thoughts that crossed my mind and scared me; with positive and hopeful, loving thoughts and there you are saying what!

I SAID I DON'T HAVE THESE THOUGHTS when I see the child. AND; I see the child rarely but when I do, I have a lovely relationship with the child. I also stated she called me mummy; this must mean I treated her RIGHT; doesn't it? Children understand well who treats them right who do not.

God, you're extremely judging; by missing a lot of other perspectives to the issue.

Bosch10:
whao,hw did u know that i am supposed to go to church.actually i was on my way to church before i changed my mind

Bosch10:
that is it o my broda,the christians of today do look for ways to gratify their sinful wayz.some pple wil quote the bible to back themselves up,and they wil land in hell.may God help us

Bosch10:
by their fruits,we shall know them

Bosch10:
u see,am a xtian,bt yesterday,i backslid,praying to God 4 mercy

shinejackie:
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hahhahaha......I drink kainkain......

Wale112:
Ghanaians girls have the best skin. Nigerian girls' skin are so tough you can strike a match stick in their palms.


I have spoken and Its final

Discuss

pickabeau1:
Lostmermaid

If you love your sanity
Do not share any further information about yourself here
Some here specialise in digging posts to be used to assassinate your character later on

sukkot:
yeah i hear ya. you do know that in life there is only one woman or man ( in the case of women ) you will ever truly love deeply and purely. and this happens around the ages of like 17 - 21. around that time in your life when you have zero responsibility. no bills, no worries. just unhinged pure unadulterated infinity love. thats that woman or man whom you will secretly be thinking about forever. the secret is never to let that one go. however in our youthful exuberance like 90 percent of us let that one go. i think that is the situation with the one you said you didnt mind sharing your space with. yeah when you get to the age of 90 you will still secretly be nursing the ' what if ' . there is one man or woman that everybody secretly thinks about. the love was so pure and uncorrupted. you do know in life we are only accorded only one of that kind of pure unadulterated love. everything after that is conditional- love lmao.

SirShymexx:
I don't ever want to love any woman, apart from the ones in my family. That's akin to playing a game of Russian roulette cos these daughters of Eve can never be trust. And blah blah for me to take a darn bullet in my skull when I become disloyal - that's why it's not worth it with these unstable group. I don't want blood on my hands, hence they word "love" doesn't exist to me when dealing with them. Bredrin I'm from a place where it's all about death before dishonour and loyalty above everything - the mentality is different. And the "wages" of disloyalty is either death, or get seriously injured.

Unconditional doesn't exist between men and women in marriages/relationships - folks just like telling themselves porky pies. Father(mother) and kids? - yes. Brotherhood? - yes (jury is still out on this one). Siblings? - yes (not all the time tho).

kaboninc:
So many judges on this case and most of them without personal experience. Its easy to see what's inside from outside. But when inside, it becomes so difficult to carry out advices you once gave from the outside.

Lostmermaid, she's young and naïve; just like every other woman, she has this possessive instinct in her. So its perfectly normal for her to think her husband's love for her OWN children must be FIRST among equals. However, her personality, time and experience will give her wisdom in dealing with issues like this - if she wishes to learn.