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Well my top three posters on Nairaland are
Gabrywyl, zitar and Iyakadijat

and my worst three posters on Nairaland are
sistawoman, iice and No2Atheism

there is a saying those people who look hungry never get feed, and a salesman never begs his clients to buy the product the sales

@benpuzzy
Read this i found on the net

***QUESTION***

Dave-o,

What would your advice be for a shy guy who
used to be really ugly but is now not ugly and has
plenty of women attracted to him but they never
talk to him? How in the name of Oprah Winfrey's
ass do I start a conversation with a woman I don't
even know

>>>MY COMMENTS:

OK, you realize that I've chosen your email to
be included here is because you've mentioned
Oprah's ass, which is a funny thing to talk
about all by itself.

Why, I have no idea, but it is.

As far as starting conversations with women,
here are a few ideas for you,

First of all, you must realize that your body
language is more important than the words you use.
Wherever you are, and whatever the situation, you
MUST remember that your composure and body
language are the keys.

I've watched a lot of guys approach a LOT of
women in my day. And I can usually tell within the
first few SECONDS if the guy knows what he's doing
with women, and if he's going to be successful.

Most guys use submissive, apologetic body
language and voice tones, they almost look as if
they're pleading with a woman to give them
approval and that they're nervous and self-
conscious about the whole event.

In other words, most guys come across as
WUSSIES when they first approach women.

On the other hand, the guys I know who are the
most successful with women are the opposite.

They're totally cool, calm, and collected. They
often approach a woman and begin the conversation
like they would with an old friend.

There is no apologetic body language, and there
are no signs of insecurity.

They aren't there to find out if the woman is
going to give them some approval, on the
contrary, they are trying to find out if the woman
meets THEIR standards.

Think about how you'd act if you were only
interested in finding out if she's the kind of
exceptional woman that you're interested in
getting to know better, instead of being concerned
about whether or not she's going to like you,
big shift, isn't it?

Now, here's some homework for you:

Sit down and think carefully about the most
common situations you find yourself in where you
see women that you'd like to meet and talk to.

Think about what's going on in their minds,
where they're going, what they've just done, and
what they're about to do. Think about how they're
probably feeling.

Now, come up with 10 different ways that you
could start a conversation in this situation.
Remember that YOU'RE the one who is trying to
figure out if SHE is the kind of woman you'd like
to get to know better.

Once you've come up with 10 good ones, pick
your favorite, and mentally rehearse it.

I realize that I'm asking you to do some work
here, but it's sooooo worth it.

I'm going to give you one more hint,

Most of the guys I know who are great with
women use the simplest of simple conversation
starters.

"Hi."

"What are you drinking?"

"Hi, are you from around here?"

, I realize that these sound simple, and they
are. But they're so simple that they're DISARMING.
They don't come across as canned "pick-up lines",
and they help you figure out very quickly if the
woman you're talking to is friendly.

And remember, relaxed body language is key!

dating girls is like play football you dont except a team from the conference to PLAY manchester united, because the league you are playing in isnt in her so play in your own league or get trashed by manchester united. my advice start climbing up the leagues before you try to approach her. start with the website sosuave.com

@No2Atheism
THAT IS MARRIAGE NOT A RELATIONSHIP, YOU DO HAVE A LONG WAY TO GO BUT IT IS OK, IT IS A LEARN CURVE. AND THIS IS WHERE I STOP

@No2Atheism
SERIOUS YOU SHOULD STOP WATCH DISNEY, REALITY ISNT A FAIRY TALE AND YOU KNOW WHAT MORE THAN HALF OF THE GIRLS HERE ARE LYING GO TO SOSUAVE.COM YOU WILL SEE WHAT I MEAN

@DIVA 1,
YES I AGREE BUT WE WOMEN SHOULD HOLD OUR TONGUE MORE OFTEN, WE BLAME MEN FOR BEATING A WOMAN WHEN SHE PUSHES HIM TO THE WALL, IT IS SAME THING IF YOU LOVE YOU HUSBAND/BOYFRIEND/LOVER YOU WILL NOT THINK OF DOING SOMETHING LIKE THAT, I GUESS SOME GIRLS ARE LIKE THAT THE SAME WAY SOME GUYS BEAT UP WOMEN IT IS JUST THE WAY IT IS.

@No2Atheism
YES YOU ARE RIGHT ABOUT THAT BUT THAT IS ALL THE CHARACTERISTICS OF A GOOD FRIEND NOT A LOVER OR A BOYFRIEND

FIRST ANSWER
TOO MUCH WORK
SECOND ANSWER
WHO NO WANT BETTER THING
THIRD ANSWER
I AM FROM THE GENERATION X SO WE DONT WANT TO TAKE THINGS EASY WE WANT IT AND WE WANT IT NOW
FOURTH ANSWER
THE GENERATION AFTER MINE GENERATION EVERYTHING GOES WELL USE YOUR IMAGINATION

@Kozzie
well i have done that with alot with some guys that are fun, but this isnt the place to discuss that because persons here arent as open minded as you think

To tell you the truth which most people here are miss is that outgoing persons always get alot of friends so outgoing guys date alot of girls whether he is rich or poor so guys dont be deceived i like an outgoing guy because usually alot of girls want him (when  crude oil is scarce price goes up) so that is why most girls will want to sleep with him. But there are alot of quiet guys (when crude oil is abundant price goes down) so we ladies keep them as friends because there are too many of them. So intelligent goes be care with what ladies tell you. Always have a friend (guy) that is outgoing so you can learn alittle from him without losing you intelligence

@sistawoman
Well we girls also do that as well, always wanting to be right even when we are wrong so i dont blame them for that because usually they have good reasons(proven, thoughful reasons) but we ladies usually have emotional
reasons for wanting to be right. But it is ok, my boyfriend knows when i am just being emotional and acts in the best way (agrees with me but doesnt do it in public)

@faakay
I didnt know how he did it but it happened anyway you will have to ask him, he always video tapes all the girls he makes love to including prostitutes as well.
@acidrop
Guys arent mind readers so dont blame them, they usually have alot on their minds and the ones that arent clueless be careful because all that is in their mind is how to make love to u n leave
But it is not to say i hate men, it is just things they do

Bad boys that beat their girlfriends, sleep around and drink & smoke

@phemytrend
Are u talkin about talkin to your friends about my love make with your boyfriend/lover/husband/wife/girlfriend

One of my ex boyfriends video taped me and him making love with his camera phone and showed it to all his friends. Some of the tried to ask me out behind his back, i guess that is what they do and i wasnt really angry i just loved the attention his friends gave me after that (one of his friend told me excepting i will date him )

i hate when i guy thinks he can buy my interest in him, i will just eat your money and leave. And if you have a whole lot i will just keep eating it
@ Lizzy
i also do that so no big deal it is an ego thing

Come on ladies dont be shy the men have had their talk now it is our turn

Well guys you have listed out the most annoying things we do so now it is the ladies turn to list out the annoy stuff you guys do so ladies let us go.

Some guys that have enough to go around (money to waste) can do that, even in nigeria

A friend of mine sent it to my email what do you think?

SOME couple of years back, Hector, a fifty-one year-old businessman and a colleague took up his daily paper at the breakfast table and gave an involuntary yelp when he got to the obituaries.

For, staring him in the eyes was the picture of a lover he saw only the week before. “My wife wanted to know what the matter was”, said Hector later “but I told her I’d read just a nasty report in the papers and she left it at that. “Later that day, after I’d established that she was really dead and would be buried the next day, I had a talk with my wife.

I had to explain to her why it was that important for me to attend Bose’s (that’s the lady’s name) funeral. She was a girl I was madly in love with, who swore she loved me more than she loved her husband. I’m sure my wife agreed that I should go because now that she was dead, she was no competition. I wouldn’t have told her if there was no chance of the story getting back to her.

“But seriously though, I’d never met anyone as charming and loving as Bose was to me. She wasn’t an ordinary girlfriend. She was like a wife to me.

Whatever I bought my wife, I always made sure I either bought her the same things or gave her money; equivalent to the amount of purchase. Part of me died wen she did and that was no exaggeration. Polyandry has never been an accepted thing in this country.

In fact, nobody dares mention it in male circles, but the fact still remains that for decades, married women have always had lovers they would stake their marriage on any day. A lot of women look on these lovers as second ‘husbands’.

Men who make it possible for choice meals to be placed on their family tables. Men who guarantee paid holidays. Men who have the grudging respect of the husbands of women they are involved with because such husbands are helpless to stop the relationship. The financial power they wield is enough to silence the husband.

At a naming ceremony recently .a few guests gasped as the new mother’s lover sauntered in with a handful of his friends. The guests became more incredulous as the husband made a fuss of the man and showed his entourage to a vantage spot!

Furious whispers then followed regarding all the goodies the lover was able to throw into the couple’s path. On top of that, he was alleged to have used his muscles to get the redundant husband a job that had a car thrown in!

Women have their fun names for men that have come to stay in their lives. They call them “Shock-absorbers”, “Stabilizers”, “God-sent” amongst others, unlike the casual one-night stands they refer to as “interludes” and mere experiments! For the shock-absorbers, the sky is the limit as to what their women would do.

For years, a wife and a mother of three always shopped for two sets of family. Then, she would cook her lover’s dinner in her kitchen using the best ingredients. The driver was always around at the dot of three in the afternoon to take the goodies away.

The cat was finally let out of the bag the day the husband followed the driver to his destination only to discover that the man was also married. He was determined to put an end to the shameful affair before it got out of hand.

He made a lot of noise and the lover’s wife said she knew what was going on. She’d always been a lousy cook and if another woman could make her husband happy, why begrudge him a happiness she can well afford? Moreover, she was married with no likelihood of wanting to snatch her man.

“You are sick”, spat the husband as he charged out of the house. Talking seriously though, if a man can have the stamina for three to five wives, couldn’t a woman have for just two men? A lot of them do already!

Well why do guys think they can buy a girl affection, if a girl treats you a way you dont like leave her, when she said she has a boyfriend away and wants to be friends, you be friends with her not her boyfriend that doesnt have sex with her. As a guy dont be around any girl that doesnt give you the respect you deserve.

Another example of man hating rubblish stop hating men, Poster i hate girls like you. Girls like you make guys call us gold diggers "While the servants wash the dishes, let's make love like crazed weasels in my new yacht, ok?"" stupid girl

only 1500 e-card why not 5000, girls like you make guys call us money hungry bitches

The girl doesnt love you just the attention you give her, so dont take her calls again