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Season 7, 24: Redemption

Set and shot on location in Africa, Bauer and mentor Carl Benton battle an international crisis, while here at home the nation prepares for a new president on inauguration day. Taking place just a few months before the new day dawns, U.S. State Department officer Frank Tramell and Jonah Hodges are pulling the strings that will set the stage and raise the stakes for Season Seven.
Aired: 11/23/2008

i saw it in a site ok dont shoot the messager ok

I was browsing and i came across this
Q. As I read through your website and book, I notice that the D&S activities that couples participate in seem to get more intense with each passing year. What worked last year is getting boring this year. You stress over and over again that serving your woman is the core of the FemDom lifestyle, and it is the place to start. Why does this lifestyle seem to progress is such a perverted way? Why is the man not content with just serving his woman? I know in my own life I’m getting bored with just servitude and find my mind drifting to the D&S fantasies. Just servitude doesn’t seem to be giving me the fulfillment that you claim other submissive men are experiencing.

Is the FemDom lifestyle really like an addictive drug that you need to increase the dose every year by getting more perverted in your D&S activities?

A. What exactly are you referring to when you say “perverted D&S activities?” And why are they perverted? If two people embrace a mutually fulfilling lifestyle and if two people embrace a consensual sexuality within a loving relationship, it is not perverted. It may be “unique” or it may be “wild” or it may be “trend-setting” or it may even be what certain elements in society would call “kinky” but that does not mean it is “perverted”.

Having laid that down as foundation, now we can examine your most interesting question. Does the female domination progress? Yes, it should or else it will become stagnate. Another word for progression is growth and I think we should always be growing in our relationships. A relationship that is not growing is dying. Divorce is so rampant because so many relationships stop progressing.

Does progression within a female domination relationship mean that the activities become more intense? Perhaps, but not necessarily. Growth can occur on many levels and in many ways. What is intense for one couple might be mild to another couple depending on their sexuality and their emotional and sexual needs. I would say that a man who was reluctant to do household chores for his wife in the beginning of a FemDom relationship but who now does them willingly is a man who has experienced growth. Perhaps some intense D&S activities assisted in his growth or perhaps he made the transition in his heart through a revelation of a woman’s worth and a woman’s authority. Again, each person is unique and every journey is not the same.

It seems your question equates servitude as a beginning point which leads to more advanced FemDom interactions. You didn’t say this in your question but allow me to make an assumption of what you are implying. You feel a man who does chores and who serves his wife in a domestic way today will become bored unless the woman’s domination becomes more advanced. I would venture to guess you are looking at the stories on my site and you figure that perhaps male chastity or male discipline through corporal punishment is needed to keep the man focused. This might lead to other activities where the woman exerts more power, perhaps cuckolding.

I cannot dismiss your premise because some couples do progress along this path. As a woman grows in power and as the male surrenders more areas of his life over to the woman, it is only natural that they will desire to experience new things and they will want to explore new levels. As trust is built and as intimacy grows, that opens the door to new possibilities. However, it is a mistake to assume that a certain path will be followed because every couple is different. There are couples who might think that a golden shower is the wildest thing they can imagine and once they experiment with that they may think they have just expanded their boundaries beyond anything they ever dared imagined. Yet, another couple might think of a golden shower as mild and no big deal, thus the experience would not have the same effect or equate to the same level of a power exchange.

There is a progression and there needs to be a progression or else the relationship will become stale. However, that progression will vary from couple to couple. The woman needs to grow in her dominance just like the male needs to grow in his submission. D&S activities can assist that growth but we grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It is what is happening on the inside of our natures that matters. The externals will vary and some people will view those externals as being wild or mild or kinky or tame or perhaps even perverted but the bottom line is that the value of any D&S activity depends on the valuation the couple sets upon that activity.

D&S is not like a drug where the body needs something stronger in order to achieve the same kind of “high”. There may be people who are out of balance and who are not grounded in their D&S relationship, thus D&S can become a kind of sexual addiction. But that can happen with any form of sexuality. There are people who are addicted to intercourse and who “sleep around” and are emotionally unfulfilled due to a sexual addiction. There are people who are addicted to pornography who cannot relate to a real relationship because reality can never match fantasy. There are many forms of sexual addiction and D&S is not immune from this.

When practiced within a loving and committed relationship, D&S can be a very healthy form of sexuality, especially if it is within the realm of a female domination lifestyle. D&S requires trust and trust must be earned and built through genuine intimacy. Domination and submission cannot be faked for very long. When that power exchange is genuine, it satisfies both parties.

When an appetite is satisfied it may become hungry again in order to experience growth. D&S is more like our need to eat. We hunger, we eat, we are satisfied but we hunger again because our bodies need it to live and to grow. That is why female domination is a lifestyle. It is an on-going progression and it is an on-going journey. Those that stop growing are those that starve that area of their lives and that area is in danger of dying.

The submissive desire of man will not go away, so what will die is the intimacy of the relationship. Romance can die. Intimacy can die. But the male desire to be dominated by a woman will not die. It will channel its appetite in another direction. I tell women that if their FemDom relationship stops growing, they can be assured that their husbands will turn to other avenues, be it FemDom internet sites, or FemDom magazines or DVD’s, or even a Professional Dominatrix.

It is Ok to take breaks from this lifestyle and we can certainly enjoy our new levels of growth for prolonged periods of time, but at some point there will need to be new growth. What that growth entails will vary from couple to couple. There is no magic formula or magic plan. You have to be true to your heart and be willing to share with each other and experiment with each other. There is no substitute for communication and honesty. And for all men, there is no substitute to developing a servant’s heart. No matter how much you want to experience the more “advanced” stuff, the fundamentals of serving a woman will never change. That is what will always provide the deepest fulfillment to the submissive nature of man.

So getting back to the central point of your question, a man can be fulfilled and happy by simply serving a woman. It comes down to his heart and his attitude. You may be desiring more advance D&S play but when you come into that revelation of the value and the authority of women, your submissive nature will find that all forms of serving (both inside and outside the bedroom) are fulfilling. You may not be there yet but that will come with growth if you stay committed to your service of your wife. Take care!

What do you think can it work in nigeria?

nobody is saying virginity it is a bad thing but the truth
is bitter everytime. In real life two virgins shouldnt get
married ok one has to be experience because experience
is the best teacher.

I dont know why people like to talk in fairy tales
it is a very bad idea that two virgins getting married.
The logistics of the whole thing is going to drive any
one crazy. Guys dont be fooled we women what to
be in an experience hands on our wedding night that
is why we usually date guys older, more experience
than us.

I mean any kind of virgin because i am talking
about penetration sex ok, virgin that gives head
and virgins that cuddles and touch themselves.

Here is one "girl your legs must be tired because
you have been running through my mind all day"
and another one "Do you believe in love at first
sight or should i walk past you again

Idupaul have you ever disvirgined a girl before? With different girls
different things happen ok. He was a snail so that i will not bleed
on the bed ok. And i am not trying to insult you or anything like that
ok. I love guys very much ask anybody in nairaland

Exactly my point, the guy will not know where the vagina is or the
ass hole is, if to put it inside or pour it from outside etc. I remember
when a guy disvirgined me it took him over three weeks because it
was painful on my part and he wanted it to be as painless as possible
and he knew what he was doing talkless of someone who doesnt know
what he is doing

My point is that make sure you do things the way
you want them to be at anytime in the relationship
like sex, money, games played etc, be constant in
your actions always.

Well if he is good yes we women cant know but i believe
at that stage everybody is just trying to have a good idea
of who the person is. I basically think that it is like an advert
of a product, so advert are so good that you will want to buy
the product immediately but it doesnt mean that you will get
that was advertised from the product. But some products dont
even have adverts but are so good. I guess people are like that
as well. Some are good at portraiting themselves in a good way
while others cant. So we go out with the best advertised guy we
meet at that point in our lives

Well we women like to be seen as individuals to be
talked to not some kind of game men play but there
are guys out there that have master the art of seducing
a woman. Trust me it can be learnt anyway what i am
trying to explain is that a should show us his honest
interest in us which involves listening to the crap that
comes out of our mouth but also control his environment.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. I am saying men should not
try to impess us ladies because we know when they are
acting or trying to impress. It is like lying about something
and we hate lies. Most guys dont know who they are, so
we women need something that is in control of himself,
actions and emotions. Sometimes this statement
"It depends on the individual" gets lost in translation.

You said it chrisbenogor a serious blowout in
the making.

You are right. In any relationship we get into our initial actions always forms the way the other person in the
relationship sees us. Like a friend of mine was going out with three guys at the time. One(guyA) had a good
job, nice house and car (always gives her). Second (guyB) one is a student like her so just manages with her.
Third one(guyC) is more like a thug. GuyA always takes her to nice restaurant and eating joints and has not
had sex with her (but has kissed her on the cheek). GuyB has also takes her to nice places but not as
expensive as GuyA out-ins (has not ever touched her breast by accident). GuyC doesnt take her anywhere
whenever she comes back from see him she is also look rough and smiling. She behaves like a village girl
when she is around GuyC but like a girl that studied in the UK when she is with the other two guys. And guess
what GuyC has sex with her everytime she goes to see him and with any style he wants. The thing is that of the
three guys, GuyC didnt try to impress her when they met.

Danadam and steaming you dont see anything wrong with
2 virgins getting married hahahahaha well be careful what
you wish for. Think of the logisitics of what you are saying
first before talking ok.

Well i had this discussion with a group of friends and it was
really interesting and i will like to ask again the ladies
that what to be virgins till their wedding night who will your
hushand to be learn how to have sex with or well your wedding
night be like a story that come up in this discussion that two
virgins got married and when it was time for the sex(longover due sex)
the girl was not ready and he husband chased her round the room
until he caught and raped her so what do u think?

Yes that is so true so what kind of test do you recommend Tatase

Does anyone know any sites that has free
cartoons and comics

What do u think will happen if two virgins get married? I think
that is a good question for all the nairaland ladies that want
to remain a virgin before marriage. If you believe that your
husband to be should not be a virgin that who should he have
slept with a prostitute or a girl that will not be a virgin when
she gets married you decide.