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Well i think rich guys have a problem because it is hard for them
to make real friend that will stand by them when the money goes
down, let alone girlfriend so i guess games as you said are necessary.

Men like to believe that women are attracted to men because of
the sexually nature of men, it is true but not the main reason a woman
says in a relationship. We women dont like to teach our husband/
boyfriends anything we except them to know that is why we date
guys that are older, more experience than us. I have stayed in a
relationship that my boyfriend sexually was useless but i was getting
want i need which was a that could protect me, make me feel like a
woman etc. So i think we should not advice her just leave her to get
what #ever she is get because it looks like something great for her to
forgo her love of kissing.

I was watching a film yesterday and in the film a rich guy that was living on this father's money all
his life was now going through a test set in his grandfather's will to teach him about money. There
was a time in the film when his bank account and personal things were all collected so he was broke.
He was in a restaurant with his longtime girlfriend and he found out that his credit card was cancelled so he
asked her to buy the bill that he will pay her later. She was so upset that she left him in the restaurant and
started dating his friend. I have watch a nollywood movie with a similar plot but cant remember the name of both
movies. Anyway what i will say is that i think the girlfriend got used to him always paying the bill that she thought it
will continue until the marriage and till death do them apart. My advice for you guys which i love so much is that dont
always spend money on your girlfriend because if she get used to you gtiving her money then you cant stop because
she see you as a guy with money. What do anyone else think?

Hi untained i didnt make the list why im really
offended tell me why i didnt make the list.

well he didnt go through all that for me, he did it for
himself because all his friends were having relationships
left and right but not him so you can say it was pair pressure.
Anyway because of what he want through he is a well rounded
guy that really understand women alot and most of what i know
about men is because of me. He took time to teach me alot what
most guys will not do so im lucky he chose me out of all the hot ladies
out there.

Whitelexi let me guess you want to Bleep the prom
queen but you know you have to be better than
the prom king to do that. (Read my other posts)

I guess you should have explain that to her but we girls
are crazy so i suggest damage control ok. Good luck because
you will need it.

Ujujoan what is your problem i hate it when girls like you
start your crap.Playah P i know that we women are crazy
people but as a man we need you to be our hero and if
you fall we will comfort you( at least i will). So hang in there
as Sean Connery said in THE ROCK "loser always talk about
going their best but winners go home and Bleep you prom queen"

I found out some days ago that my guy was a very sly guy in secoundary
school. He have no girlfriends, he love to read his books all day and was a
good boy (the kind of boy we like make friends with for favours but never
fall in love with). So when i was in the university that was when internet
came to nigeria so he was always browsing like we all did(well at least those
of us in nigeria),so he found a site about seduction. He bought the book about
seduction and started using it. His no girlfriend life started changing to a life
with a lot of ladies. I have seen a list of his ex girlfriends and wow they are girls
even as a women i really find them attractive(i am also a hotty as well). So i ask
the ladies in the house if you know that is what you boyfriend did to get you
what will you do?

I dont want this to turn into one of those we must insult men
talks ok, so it that was your thinking when you posted this then
you are out of line ok. J-girl stop what you are doing now ok.
Sistawoman i completely disagree with you now.

I think we women always date guys that are above up,
in primary,secondary and even in University. I will like to
ask the ladies what do u do think of a sugarmummy? If
you ask me it is the same thing. Men are trained to lead
so that is why most men cant stand women more smarter,
richer, etc than them.

Well buy his best team jersey and wear
it when having sex

Well for we ladies that is not enough but for
guys it is alot cheaper that way

Tatase nice post i think you should have started your own topic.
Yes you are right it is hard for guys and we girls dont see it from
that point of view most of the time. But if any guy wants to toast
a girl, he should first find out what he wants to do with his life then
go after it with all his heart. In that state of mine he can get any girl
he wants.( for more of that advice go to www.sosuave.com)

Netotse like what kind of bad advice and from which film?

come on people comments

Thanks for posting it but if you relate with women better and you
dont know how to handle this situation then there is something
wrong with this story. Anyway R is more precious to you so let
S go ok. We ladies are more than guys in the world so you will
always find a replacement ok. Good luck

Akinagirl what about Hitch, i think the film has some very
good advice for a lot of guys out there (my oyfriend told me
that he has gotten many girls including me from some of the
advices in the film like "Without gily and game there is no girl"
and "60% of all communication is body language and 30% is
voice tone, so what ever you are saying isnt coming out of
your mouth" but the end of the film was so fake.

tope2000 i saw your picture and you are the kind of girl
my boyfriend calls hott mama, anyway which famous
chick flick do you think misleds the most?

Well as my boyfriend always tells me that he can never have
a girl as his friend at first i didnt understand why but with some
stories he told me and this your story confirms it. I feel it should
be a leason to you boy that ladies dont think we feel. So next
time lock your phone from all the ladies in your life. like my boy
friend has a lot of porngraphic pictures and videos in has phone
so it is always lock so my lady friends dont look at it and start
talk. I hope this helps but take heart

I was having a discussion with a group of friends and this topic
came up. For those naija people who dont know what Chick Flicks (naija people
out of the country will be more use to what i am saying are they are films that
are like soap operas eg foreign ones are Hitch, my best friend's wedding,
Pretty woman, In love and basket ball,Notting Hill,Titanic , Never Been Kissed ,
Notting Hill , Legally Blonde , Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood , Love Actually ,
Mona Lisa Smile , The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants , and The Holiday to name
a few. Theyremind me of M&B novels i read when i was in secondary school. The
relationship usually have happy endings. Well i guess it is from the woman's point
of view and i guess it is like a tv ad. If anyone follows the advices there you may get
lost. Common advice that is always given to guys in this film(except Hitch and Love actually)
"Just be your and the girl will like you for who you are" and we ladies all know that is bullish.
What they tell us ladies is that beauty comes from within well if this is the case how come
bad girls gets all the good man. The say love defeats all but there is not truth.
Nairaland what is your take on this

As a lady i feel a guy has to lie because our expectations are
too much. So they have to make us feel safe and our hormones
also make us unstable.

I was talking to a girl friend of mine when she told me that she was having problems with her boyfriend. A close family member died and he was feeling down so he expected her to cheer him up. She wasnt sure what to do so she was like he should shake it off and be his usual fun loving self. Welll i also thought so but after a heated discussion with my boyfriend about the issue at hand, i realized alot of things. Men are just humans with real feelings and real hearts, and a lot of men have really generous spirits, they do, and they don’t deserve being treated like they often are. Really, I wrote it for some of the men in my life, guys I’ve worked with, some may be your husbands even, and guys I know. Good men, not bad men…hardworking, these guys so try, and we so mystify them, and ignore them and abuse them! They just want us to be happy and they just want to be happy too. This isn’t a sex manual or a how to manual it is really about caring about each other…the rest sort of falls into place when we do care and listen, so listen to this stuff, please? It doesnt take anything to cheer him up just  be unselfish about it. Men aren’t selfish, they really aren’t, what they are is quiet, introspective and unsure how to explain what they want any more than you are at times. And what they want is to be your man, your idol, your hero, and your friend. Sort of like that before you were married stuff, they want you to like them, and they want to be told they’re cool, and smart, when they are. They want you to be attracted to them, and oh, they all want to know you love them? They hate being yelled at and bitched at even if they do do something stupid, friends don’t nag each other? And what they’d like, if they hand you this, is to get closer to you, to fix the problems and to make your relationship stronger and more rewarding for you both, and I sort of ended up their spokesperson, cause I sort of speak their language. So will you please give him a chance and think about how he must feel when you sound off or ignore him or put him off, or tell him you’re too tired, or snarl at him or wound his pride, would you please? They cheer us all day, try to understand us but we couldnt care less about what they like, feel etc. The first thing to do is get a list of things that he like. From the list you can figure out how to cheer him up. How it helps someone out there and for all you ladies thinking that i am out of my mine well i tell you this you man leave you for another woman very soon if you continue with your way fact.

As a woman i hate it when another woman uses the
word control up a person she says she loves and girl
you arent his mother i bet every feeling he had for you
has gone because you had turn yourself into his mother
instead of his girlfriend he wants to sleep with and remember
boys arent attracted to their mothers ok. Please read zitar's
post APPRECIATE YOUR BOYFRIEND/HUSBAND for more information