₦airaland Forum

Sapphic:
It is indeed subjective. Many times, it is not the magnitude of the act, but the very gesture. However, there are somethings that make many people sigh with longing generally, like when a woman narrates how her boyfriend proposed and you jear a collective sentimental "aaah". Another woman's proposal may have been just as romantic to her but people might snigger. Generally though, when the tree man said he generally thought that he was more romantic than Naija girls on average, i wanted to know why he thought that.

example
i told heatfusion the other day that
i could buy her perfumes(ie suggest really nice ones i know and once she tries it out and likes it, buy them) for her
and also buy her clothes as well ( i know she will like it too)
she said she'd rather buy her own stuff

Sapphic:
So you really do not know until you find or are with "that girl"

People do it all the time. ^{(To make their persona seem much more attractive to anyone reading)}

Sapphic:
So you really do not know until you find or are with "that girl"

Sapphic:
Yes! But who do you think you have fooled? Definitely not me, cos I couldn't care less one way or the other. But YOU on the otherhand will know that you are so pathetic that you had to resort to lies to make you look good.

Sapphic:
No. I may not know the difference because I do not know you personally, nor do I know what you are capable or incapable of. however, you do. And seated in front of your computer, you know in your heart whether or not you are really romantic. Forget the crap many write on here, at the end of the day, you know who you are and you are not fooling me because it does not matter to me one way or the other (but it must to a person if he/she feels the need to lie to make their actions seem better or more acceptable to readers).

Sapphic:
Abeg no come quote one textbook or romantic film jargon for me o.

HeatFusion:
what's the diff between what you'll do and what you've done? they're both personal.
Might as well talk about neither of them

Sapphic:
Do you know anyone personally here? or Does anyone know who you are?
Moreover, I did not ask for any sleazy details of God-only-knows-what. If we are talking romatic, then it is not something that should cause embarrassment. But Okay, you are entitled to withold whatever info makes you uncomfortable.

Sapphic:
You assumed right. But with your definite reply, I wanted to know how gr8 you thought you were. What is the most romantic thing you have done for your girlfriend (be honest pls), and when was the last time you did anything romantic & what was it?

Sapphic:
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So you believe that you are more romantic than all Naija girls?

Sapphic:
Believe me, as ignorant as you may think the lasses are, they are light years ahead of the blokes.

Sapphic:
Not fibbing. Just harsh.

Sapphic:
Shuo. . . Ognene Biko.

SeanT21:
LIE!!

LIE

LIE

Sapphic:
Why just marriage. If you are a good man, you are a good man. How likely is it that when you were not romantic during courtship that you would suddenly turn romantic after you have gotten wed? My people have a saying that it is from afternoon that you will know how the night would be. In fact, most men complain that the woman wants to change them after marriage and majority of them change for the worse, dropping whatever pathetic pretense they had at romance the minute they snare a woman. Marriage for many women is a prison, a jail term from which many never return sane.

Sisi Jinx:
No it isn't ! It is absolutely on point!!

Maybe we have been fighting the wrong battle, If we. . . especially men can really understand that marriage isn't just another passing fancy in life like growing a mustache and that women are not just "help mates" or mere vessels to make life easier for them, majority of the discussion we have on the romance section will cease.

We talked about respect and we had guys going on and about how the girl must cook, she must clean, she must this and that nothing about someone understanding them, supporting their dreams, being there for them. . .  Nothing that touches on the deep emotional side of things, just every day convenience.

Again how do we define these things. . . Love, Romance and Respect?  If our definition of love is remotely close to what we have above, certainly cooking cleaning, bowing down and worshiping won't be the first that comes to mind when we talk about expectations neither will it be He must have money, be able to buy me Gucci bag and matching shoes.