₦airaland Forum

Maryliola:
Hey guys

I’m making this post because I don’t want to be judged and I can’t turn my on people in my real life because they may not understand. Well I’ve been married for 2 plus years I’m 27 with a son. I’m going to get personal so embrace yourself.

Myself and my husband have a good relationship, almost too good because I literally see him like my brother. This is to the point where our romantic/lover side of our relationship is kinda dead. I see him naked, it’s like looking at my brother naked. I don’t feel turned on, or excited. We talk and gist like friends, but romantically things are flat. Our sex life is mediocre I guess. He doesn’t do oralll sexxx and he ejaculates very fast. I’m talking 10 seconds, and it’s every single time despite taking different preventative measures. I know that I’m extremely clean as I’m very observant of myself and he also tells me all the time. Yet orall sexxx is disgusting to him and “dehumanising”. There’s no passion when we kiss, its forced most times.


Lately I’ve been finding myself fantasising about being touched by a man , almost every night . A man that will give me orall sexx a man that will turn me on and blow me away. I don’t want to be judged here, but this is genuinely how I’ve been feeling. I don’t want to put pressure on my husband as he has other things to worry about.
A man that will kiss me in all the right places and make me feel like a woman. Sometimes I believe I’m being delusional, or unrealistic. I’m trying to get rid of these thoughts, but I really don’t know how. I have never cheated on my husband and I don’t think I have the guts to do it. I really just want to know how married people cope when that spark is gone. When you begin to look at your spouse like a brother or sister, and romantically the vibes are not there.

Let me also say that I’ve addressed this to him many times, but he stands he’s not willing to compromise.

Help!

Mods, I need this on front page as I need help for people to see this.

Mexicanbreed:
The difference

yanabasee2:
I swear.... it's not about the party... but the people involved.... APC is more or less a northern regional party... While, PDP was not a regional party but carried all regions along....


The reason why we have almost all the regions seeking to break free....


This government favours the North and do everything to keep that energy...



I will prefer that power shifts away from APC...

shigishege:
Confused people. Is this not the same PDP they were so obsessed with that has disappointed them?? The problem this set of people have is that they don't know how to play politics. They should rather continue selling their gala, politics is not made for them.

Because of the hatred, they have for people they decided to place all their eggs in the PDP basket not knowing that politics is not played like that.

And now, they are running into APC while others especially Yorubas and Hausas have gained ground in the party. No president for them come 2023.

NickD:
And APC isn't a party of looters? I used to think you were smart and won't even bother having a discuss with you. Your write up reeks of pure hatred. Protect your mental health.

Gbajure:
He will visit the SS and even SE dude for campaigns and permutations. If you are unreasonable enough to try another Gulak again, the 66 deaths will be a joke thus tune around. Bunch of sub-humans

SonofDevil:
so election started in 2015?
Betrayal yen yen when they voted your slave master gej in 2011 what did sw get in return?

South west dont need entire south to win election so calm your nerve down.
South west acn + northwest cpc alliance is enough north east and north central will fall in line. You can keep your votes for your slave master from adamawa who cares both of you will be thoroughly defeated again

frankdre:
oga shut up, am not Igbo, am from Edo state. IPOB syndrome has gotten to your head, for you jagaban to be president, he has to have votes in Nigeria Delta also and that he will not get. That is why I said he will be president of Lagos only. The SE and SS will not vote for him. Even the so called SW will betray him with osinbanjo's ideology. Tinubu na noise maker. Bunch of losers

HIGHESTPOPORI:
Osibanjo too like grammars, after six years they are still telling us we will, we are going to.

humility33:
Speak for yourself ooo
SS/SE will vote for atiku if he picks Obi again as his running mate like we did the last time

The southern presidency sentiments wont work because if we are been fair and sincere SE deserve the shot and not SW and more so u think SS/SE will vote APC again despite the current hardship we are all going through

Philipponzaghi:
PDP will still Atikulate in 2023 as usual.

North got chairmanship already and I’m pretty sure that Atiku will still be the one to be their candidate in 2023.

They will all come here and shout Fulani this, Fulani that but still turn back to vote those Fulanis.

maureensylvia:
Only women who are married monogamously under the marriage act (in court or in an approved church) have the right to say “My husband is cheating on me”! If you are only married traditionally, your husband never vowed to be faithful to you!

when you are married only under native law and custom your husband has the right to marry as many wives as he wants and there is NOTHING you can do about it. Also your children belong to him custody wise under native law and custom.

Constrictive criticism is allowed

athaboi:
Nonsense
But your companies won't leave our oil

Afamed:
The fraud should be investigated. He has a record of thieving Peter to pay Paul

perambulator:
Im not an APC or PDP fan ... they are both useless. and currently APC is a better party than PDP. APC without Buhari will be a much better party also. But they are both hopeless bloodsuckers, it's just a question of which punishment do you prefer.


For me the major problem with APC is Buhari, whereas the problem i have with PDP is virtually all their members. there are not many people I have time for left in PDP and too many people I cant stand.

Spherical77:
Yes you are right though. But this buhari regime is nothing to compare to other past leaders. Nigerians don suffer under this buhari abeg and it would take a whole lot of work for another fulani/Hausa to emerge as president again after this disastrous buhari term

perambulator:
I am not a PDP supporter but this is a good move by the PDP. I have said it many times, they cannot win in 2023 with a southern candidate, the only hope they have is with a Northern candidate and by that I simply mean it's their only choice. It s not a guarantee of victory but at least they are in the race. Southern candidate is handing victory to APC on a platter!!!

Babanah:
Float the naira. How much did Thailand make from tourism alone in 2019? $64 billion. Not to talk about FDI and portfolio investment. Even poor men go to Thailand and live as kings for two weeks. A lot live like big men while on state pension from their home countries.
No wonder Thailand is far more developed than Nigeria.
Imagine Nigeria with a devalued (appropriately) priced currency. All those oyinbo men will retire to Akwa Ibom sharp sharp and enjoy life.

allthingsgood:
You are too small for the VP to even notice ok. Go and rest with your lies

loveth360:
All this yoruba pastor sef.





When i hear people that betrayed we south south now calling others betrayals i come dey wonder if betray mean different thing in their region.

seunmsg:
Naso e suppose be. I want every single thread in the politics section to be about Tinubu from now till next year. There is no bad publicity. Directly or indirectly, they are promoting the man.

seunmsg:
The north is not offering you the VP so stop lying. APC and PDP are planning to field presidential candidates from the south so where and when did the north offer you VP?

Anyway, the Igbos will get their fair share from national positions if Tinubu is elected the same way they got what was due to them during the Obasanjo presidency. Senate president, SSG, top ministerial positions, heads of federal agencies and strategic service chief appointment.

dapolaw:
No be only laundry nah drycleaning

How do I school you the meaning of money laundering when you don't even know the difference between laundry and laundering.





You have a tissue brain

dapolaw:
Children of hates and anger.... Please which law did Tinubu break by using bullion van to convey his personal money to his personal house?