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 Family › Re: What Do I Do? by TroyJay(m): 11:13pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
Vikin:I dont think we've met!  |
| Romance › Re: How Do I Woo A Girl I Met On Fb? by TroyJay(m): 11:01pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
priest2u:Same page, next page, last page!  |
| Romance › Re: How Do I Woo A Girl I Met On Fb? by TroyJay(m): 10:53pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
priest2u:Very good mindset! Just continue on your principled lane, and dont come across as Desperate! Desperation is a big big turn off!  |
| Romance › Re: How Do I Woo A Girl I Met On Fb? by TroyJay(m): 10:49pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
priest2u:Well, it starts from a little "hi". Whether it's on the streets, in a gathering, in a meet up, or on facebook! There's no difference. Just be mature about it and dont be too forward & excited to type words you cant take back when the situation calls for it. |
| Family › Re: What Do I Do? by TroyJay(m): 10:41pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
Daresh, just move on. Dont hurt yourself more by trying to get back at him. You are emotionally attached to him and thinking of how best to get back at him may affect you more than you anticipated, and you may end up hurting yourself pretty bad! Move on!  |
| Romance › Re: How Do I Woo A Girl I Met On Fb? by TroyJay(m): 10:38pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
Woo her normally. Pls endeavor you dont commit yourself too deep before you two have the time to actually meet up. When you do meet up, and you dont like what you see, bounce. It will be easier to bounce if there is no prior entanglement a.k.a commitment. If you like what you see, you can continue dating her online or wherever. Dont let her facial beauty becloud your ability to think and take decisions rationally. All ze best! |
| Nairaland General › Re: How Have I Been Able To Stay Strong? by TroyJay(m): 10:10pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
So how have you been able to stay strong? I could learn a thing or two! |
| Family › Re: Guys Whats The Maximum Amount Of Dowry You Can Pay? And What Is The Most Outrageous Dowry You've See by TroyJay(m): 10:03pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
Ozegbe:I'll rather marry a 2008 Infinity FX 45 full Options! |
| Romance › Re: I'll Tear Them Apart! by TroyJay(m): 9:44pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
divalishis:Carried away? By Mimi or by Peter or by Henry? |
| Romance › Re: I'll Tear Them Apart! by TroyJay(m): 9:40pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
I pray they do! Else the tearing apart would be difficult. . . |
| Family › Re: What Do I Do? by TroyJay(m): 7:56pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
Forgive him and END IT! Your trust for him is eroded enough. Infidelity is a very good ground for divorce. And here, we are talking of multiple infidelity! 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: My Happiness For Her Life by TroyJay(m): 7:50pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
Your Happiness. There's no guarantee that she wont commit suicide for infinitesimal things like raising your voice, or because the butter in the fridge is finished! And to the parents spitting trash, they should have also trained their daughter better not to follow every stranger she meets! They are getting the consequence of their lackluster and lackadaisical approach to child rearing! |
| Romance › Re: Who Do U Love More? by TroyJay(m): 7:43pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
victorazy:That's to show you that choosing a parent over a spouse(married) is a fallacy. |
| Romance › Re: Who Do U Love More? by TroyJay(m): 7:24pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
Between my mother and my girlfriend? My Mother Between my mother and my wife? My Wife. I love my mother dearly. Getting married doesnt stop that love for my mother. Simultaneously i love my wife as well. Where the love for my wife tips the scales is the fact that she will become the mother of my children. Mothers are not replaceable, but legal laws binding marriage does not make provision for any man to come between a man and his wife. . . Mothers included. As long as i'm not married, mother's love all the way! |
| Romance › Re: Should I Do Away With Her? by TroyJay(m): 7:10pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
@Troyjay,Bro, if you are getting to know her better, why did you decide to marry her? Is 2 months enough for you to say you have totally known someone and deem her a potential marriage mate? You have passed your verdict by calling her a home wreck, so why are you asking if you should marry her? henryhemon:You ask me to use my head? Did i complain to you? If you knew "all" why open a thread? If you want to know a bad woman stop spending on her, but then you are yet to spend! How will you know if she is bad or not? She requested for chicken you said no, she requested for money for her hair do you also said no. So, where did you spend?  The problem with some of us dudes is that we take all ladies to be the same, and we take all situations to be the same. We believe we are too smart and sometimes, that's to our own detriment. My final say on this issue is, spend on her, then withdraw(since that's the tactic you wanna use). It's wrong for you not to spend on her and then call her materialistic. I hope you understand |
| Romance › Re: Does A Guy Have To Be On Bended Knees While He Proposes To His Girlfriend? by TroyJay(m): 5:38pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
claremont:I believe it has started already. . . |
| Romance › Re: Does A Guy Have To Be On Bended Knees While He Proposes To His Girlfriend? by TroyJay(m): 5:11pm On Feb 10, 2012 |
~The direct answer to this question is no! He doesnt have to be on bended knees. Proposals come in different styles. But then, looking at the issue from another view point, a guy on bended knees humbles a lady. It makes her feel like a queen at that particular moment in time. Depending on the venue of proposal, the lady is most times the cynosure of all eyes. The love welling in her heart at that particular time is incomparable. She is emotional and will almost be moved to tears. While it's not a must to propose on bended knees, i'll personally recommend it to anyone. ~Marriage proposals are once in a lifetime (Not applicable to those loving a divorce ) Nothing compares to seeing the woman you love so happy and sometimes with tears in her eyes. It's a very romantic scene for the couple and any observer. Some guys are naturally shy and it would be understandable if they cannot bring themselves to bended knees. But they should remember that proposals should be a memorable event. When you both have grown older, reminiscing on what transpired on that day should always bring joy to your hearts.~Make it as memorable and as Romantic as possible, she is the love of your life, the apple of your eyes. |
| Romance › Re: Should I Do Away With Her? by TroyJay(m): 10:36am On Feb 10, 2012 |
Can i ask what you meant by not falling for a request to buy chicken? Is your relationship with the said lady clearly defined? Is it initially heading for the altar? If you have previously agreed to marry her, you must have taken cognizance of the kind of lady you asked her hand in marriage. Her financial ability, her upbringing, every necessary detail about her. It's a responsibility marrying someone, and personally, i dont see anything wrong in buying chicken or paying for hair do of your wife to be that is. If she got angry and regrets dating you, i wont blame her much. There's a thin line between thriftiness and stinginess. If you get stingy up to someone you are wooing and have secretly decided to marry, when will you spend on her? When you marry her? She must have seen your refusal as selfish, and must have thought of how you'll treat her when she becomes your wife and make simple requests. When you are wooing a lady, pls bear in mind that she has rights to accept or not. You have to prove to her why she must choose you over the next fellow. If her request is not outrageous, fulfill it for her and if you cannot, lovingly explain to her why you cannot fulfill it. She will understand your explanation unless she is out to have fun with you and go. And based on her response after your explanation, and then subsequent manner of requests, you can now decide whether she is for keeps or not, and then decide to let her go. Requesting for chicken or money for hairdo is not a crime, IMO. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: 5 Bad Characters Of Nigeria Girls In Relationship by TroyJay(m): 10:20am On Feb 10, 2012 |
This is sadly, close to the truth. But i really would not agree that the statistics are in favor of your argument. Mentality differs individually and is subjective to upbringing. You may have had experiences in the past, so i'm assuming this post is based on your personal experience or firsthand experience of friends around you. When you start using words like "they always" or they never" it just takes the point out of whatever message you are trying to get across. And people react by terming your post a generalizing one. 1 Like |
| Romance › Re: How Do You Get A Lady Fall In Love With You? by TroyJay(m): 9:41am On Feb 10, 2012 |
slimyem:Thanks ma'am. Do you mind adding to that list? I know it's not complete. That's all i can remember for now. Maybe when i see yours, i'll remember the rest. |
| Romance › Re: At This Age And Still A Virgin? by TroyJay(m): 9:10am On Feb 10, 2012 |
Great advice. Atleast ur stated u point in an intelligent manner. nice point of view!Thanks. We are all humans, and sometimes we make mistakes. I speak thoughtlessly at times too. If i'm accepted for who i am, every other person deserves a chance too. That's what i believe. |
| Romance › Re: At This Age And Still A Virgin? by TroyJay(m): 8:36am On Feb 10, 2012 |
Mademoiselle. It's good if you can keep your virginity. It's not easy to do so especially in a morally bankrupt and perverse world. It's not a lack of opportunity as opportunities must have come to pop a hymen. Some value it, others do not. Some keep it, others do not. Some regret losing it, others do not. Circumstances surrounding the loss of virginity differs from individuals. If it was forcefully taken from a lady for example, how do you expect her to feel when you open threads such as this to sing your self praise? I believe since keeping your virginity is a personal decision, you should keep it personal and not broadcast it. If you bring faith into this, i'll tell you that God forgives even the worst of sinners. Repentant sinners that is. So in the end, virgin or not, God accepts all. He looks at the motive behind actions. If you speak thoughtlessly, you have sinned. If your God looks at your heart, and the motive behind this thread is not pure, you have also sinned. Just take life easy. Pride goes before a crash! |
| Romance › Re: How Do You Get A Lady Fall In Love With You? by TroyJay(m): 8:19am On Feb 10, 2012 |
Be confident but not over confident Be Natural Be funny, but dont tell senseless jokes. Be honest with her. If her breath stinks, tell her. First impression matters. If you look life a riff raff on first encounter, that impression is everlasting. Dont try to show off your assets. She may like your assets, but you want her "love" and not her "like" Treat her with respect. Respect should be evident from your speech, the way you look at her, and simple etiquette. Never ogle at her bo[i]o[/i]bs. Ok. Ogle, but dont let her see you doing so. Dont be too forward with a lady. A lady that will love you will take even the most infinitesimal acts into retrospect when asking herself why she loves you. . . To be continued. |
| Romance › Re: Desperate And Dangerous An Advise For Romance Section Women by TroyJay(m): 8:04am On Feb 10, 2012 |
If half of what you wrote up there is true, Nairaland is not safe.  |
