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TisaBone: Mr. Osewa,


My body of work has continously been moved to "Violent and Disgusting non-celebrity crimes" That is absolutely preprosterous, and non-sensical, but mostly, unfair. I have suffered from extreme emotional anguish because of this grossly unfair action. Your signifact has also written which is tale entitled " Kidnapped by a Very Nice Handsome Man." The title of the story is indicative that the main character is displaying the classic symptoms of Stockholm Syndrome. Is not that violent and disgusting as well? I don't believe so, she is merely exercising her rights of artistic liscence. So why can't I?

A lot of us on Nairaland believe that there is something going on between "Umari Ayim" and "Seun Osewa". But hey, it's his forum right? No one tells him what to do. I'll be shocked, as in flabbergasted + overwhelmed if you get a response from him. . . Just take heart. Life is not fair.

kola oloye: ^ Sharp guy,I like you.

kunletiwoo: Intelligeeee

Pot trying to call kettle black? For what na?

Michelle22: I completed 19 last mnth

First of all, you are not too young to date. You are of legal age to get married so don't mind what people say. i understand what you mean by 6 guys, sometimes it could be more than that. Well, thinking you love them equally is wrong. You can't love six people equally.
Like others have said, NEVER date your age mate. E.g If 3 out of the 6 guys on your tail are of the same age group as you, kindly tell them off. Now the remaining 3 will be judged based on how they treat and appreciate you as a person.
Anyone that has told you "I love you" should be eliminated ASAP! When you love a girl, you get closer to her before you confirm that love for her. Anyone that tells you he loves you on first contact is complicatedly discombobulated, and does not know what he wants.
Anyone that has asked for sex should be eliminated. Sex is not love, and that is a common phrase that is so old that sometimes, i can't help but wonder how some girls still fall for that crap.
Anyone that commends you on your looks alone, like always telling you "I love your smile" "I love the way you move" "There's something about your eyes" "You are too beautiful, you are the prettiest girl i've seen" yada yada yada. ELIMINATE sharp sharp! Those are physical features that are temporary, and once he meets someone more pretty, someone with a better smile or eyes, you get the boot! So watch out.
Be quick to hear what they say, then you ruminate over what they say and pick out who you think completes you the more. Who makes you more happy e t c. . . Ask more questions if you have. You can learn from our experiences without necessarily experiencing what we went thru.

Ruth Oluwaseyi: I've been so vigilant about what i've been hearing about girls which is never true.If guys what to refer to anything caused by girls,they use the phrase or clause saying "ALL GIRLS"which is not meant to be so.Now,my question is this:[size=14pt]Why do men have same negative notion for all ladies,and not some ladies?

I think you just made the same mistake. . . Not "all men" have negative notion for "all ladies". You may wanna rephrase the question.

ijebabe: Men prefer to do the chasing and most men don't like it when a woman ask them out. I have asked my male friends this question and this is what they told me, only a few don't mind. I think most women are open to this but don't just to avoid criticism from men only because she expressed her feelings. [size=14pt]I have done it and I don't regret it one bit because now he keeps saying he's at his happiest since he met me :[/size]D

bolargeez: I was opportuned to grew up with and befriended some remarkable women. But, as we are growing older and many of them are getting married, communication between us keep diminishing.

These were ladies I considered my best buddies, some I dated and the rest were just my buddies.

Is there some stuff that made people to change after marriage? Although, I find it somehow difficult keeping conversation flowing among those that are still trying to reach out to me.

So folks, how best can one keep friendship with married female friends?

Loko one one: He who created them from the beginning,created He male and female_Gen1:27

A further reading of the above chapter says a man shall leave his parents and cleave unto his wife and they both shall become one flesh.

Is it safe to conclude from this biblical version of man and woman union that a man is saddled with the responsibility of initiating a relationship?

Most culture of the world today aptly believe it's a man thing to ask a woman out and frowns at it when it is the other way round.

The question is;is there any gender tradition or rules that says the man is expected to make all the efforts when it comes to courting,dating and marriage proposals?

Personally,I think women should break social norms and conformities when it comes to approaching men if romantically or sexually interested.Pronto!

Let me feel ur pulse now.

holamiday: My girl left me(i wont say dump because i did not lose anything) for another guy recently. Though it was really my fault cos i treated her very badly in some ways i can't explain now(it's not molestation, rape, neither did i beat her).

It was just that my kind of life is so boring; i don't go to parties, i don't stroll, i've neva gone 2 c her at her house, i don't walk with her i don't do anything that makes a normal person happy except that i give her gifts & money a lot & i call her a lot on phone.

I know it's bad for me not to be doing those things but it's just my life; i'm a very introversive person, that just likes to be alone. I have the money to buy the latest clothes and shoes but i just keep wearing my clothes since 3 years ago.
It's just me, i don't care about anything. There was a time she was very sick for about three days & i did not go to her house to c her. It's not thati was wicked but i just feel too shy i don't like to go out.

I don't kno how to explain this but i hope someone understands me. During the illness i spent not less than 3k on calls alone.
I remember i bought mth 750 like 4 times amongs 200 andd 400. She knows i'm 100% faithful to her, which i realy am, she knows i love her very much but when john came she just culd not resist him. john is not more financially balanced than i am but he's very sociable, he wears the latest style in clothing, he likes clubbing, dancing, etc(which my girl likes and always tried to convince me 2 be doing) & i must confess he is more handsome than i am.

I'm a third year student of mechanical engineeering student in the university of first choice & she knows it, John goes to work according to her(perhaps he's a sales boy at a shop) and i'm sure the highest he has is an ssce certificate with perhaps no push to climb higher and i can humbly say that i am greater than this my rival in almost every aspect asides clothing and social nature. Now she's with him and when i begged her to give me a chance and that i'd change, she bluntly told me she could only date me & john together or John alone. I can't share her with someone else so i refused & she refused to bend her resolve too.

I know john will not and does not take care of her in the aspect i was skilled in, above(giving her cash, recharging her phone, and calling her excessively) but she seems to be more comfortable with him than me. What does any1 hav to say about this story? I'm nt handicapped, i'm not short, i have no disability, i speak good engish better than john's, i'm handsome in my own ordinary way also.

I see no reason why this girl should prefer john to me. Someone please explain things to me.

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Jxt On Fuel Subsidy Periods Bro [/color]

MRbrownJAY: @OP
if this is your way of looking for "love", then i am sorry to say that the only thing you will probably find is Luv

chrishenzo: Please I would like to know if this has to do with our education or what. I have get enough of this question from both local and foreign especially foreign friends asking why most Nigerian guys always " I love You" to someone they met online for the first day. Even when the picture of the girl is not there. Some even go to the extend of saying "I want to marry you".

Please note that this behaviour doesn't apply to all Nigerian guys but recently I have been seen this even on facebook. Not only does it make our guys look stupid but also desperate. Anyone know why some guys are behaving like that?

4wardever: Dude, just face the topic besides I've been guilty of this fad many times but since someone had objected to it especially in the context that people do use it (prayers/wishes) & bearing it in mind that we are very sensitive of (prayers/wishes) in this part of the world then it is better to give it a second thought.

And for your information, 4wardever is just a username. Next time, try google what a username means.

Oh, let me save you the stress: A username is a name that uniquely identifies someone on a computer system. For example, a computer may be setup with multiple accounts, with different usernames for each account. Many websites allow users to choose a username so that they can customize their settings or set up an online account. For example, your bank may allow you to choose a username for accessing your banking information. You may need to choose a username in order to post messages to a certain message board on the Web etc. Source: iwebtool.

buchi4action: i will send the contact no to you after i finish bleeping her...(first come first serve.) i've spend a lot on her (buy her phone,cloth etc) I NEED TO BE COMPESATED.

swtdarling: cos its such a chore.lol.smone is always havin a birthday every day on fb.so abbreviating it makes d task easier!

mattaz: Hey NLs
Okay I'v been tinkin abt dis topic 4 days nw&thus decided 2 air it @least 2 get oda views on d issue. Is takin tym 2 delve into d family files of d persn u plan 2 marry really important?Jst yst a frend wz talkin 2 me abt checkin out my gurl's family&M lyk wat if I find out dat dey r all robbers 4 instance shuld dat make me throw away d healthy r/shp I&my gurl av managed 2 groom al dis yl?Somtymz I tink we nigerians take dis findin out abt d odas family tin 2 seriously...Wat'd u tink

4wardever: Yes, to you it isn't but cos it's not everyone that uses/understands it, wouldn't it be much simpler spelling it all out for clarity's sakes?

El Guapo: [color=#0066ff]Doesn't it jxt Seem Wrong that Most Dudes rush into Marriages without Thinking Up what the heck they are In for i.e Wife things!

Wanna Use this Medium to know From U lot what u think is BEST the Definition of a Wife, Here's Mine :

W -- WASHING

I -- IRONING

F -- FOOD

E -- ETC [/color]

190: [color=RED]Keep your opinion to yourself, Let your man make the decisions for you, Do as you are told, Ask for permission when you want to do something, Speak only when you are spoken too, The man is always right, Men and women are not equal, A woman's place is behind her man, A woman's role is to be a servant, Your only job is to perform housekeeping duties, SEX and bear children,

Peace Out!!! [/color]

4wardever: What's your take on using abbreviations like "HBD", "LLNP", "HML" etc when congratulating people? Is it wrong to use the words HBD & LLNP when wishing your loved one a happy birthday, Happy Married Life amongst others?

A friend of mine insists that she doesn't like to receive those abbreviated messages saying: "U cant wish someone a HBD or HML meanwhile you have already shortened it by abbreviating it".

Is it due to impatience or what that makes people write that way?

xxhoney: i am writing this because i am not sure if my view on this matter is right or not. my friend has been dating this guy for over four years and all through this time, she has been the one taking care of him even when she had no job. its not as if he hasnt been trying to get one but even after all his struggles, it was very tough on him. she has been taking care of him as everyone abandoned him even his parents. he is a good guy in d sense that he doesnt womanise, smoke but drinks moderately. the only problem i have with him is his strict nature. he has an attitude problem, he disagrees with alot of things. he is still a nice person and he appreciates what shes been doing for him but i still feel that it gets to him because she dares not raise her voice at him, or insult him even jokingly or else his conclusion will be that shes raising shoulders because shes been d one taking care of him. he loves her very much because of her kind heart towards him. sometime ago she wanted to leave him but he begged so much and shared alot of tears she was having too many suitors come her way but she was always cutting them off, rich good looking guys. and shes a beauty too. sometimes i feel so sorry for her because she doesnt deserve what shes been through she is such a good girl. she decided to stick with him after all the pleading. but sometime last year, she assisted him with some loan for a business but he said it was quite little so he gave it to his friend who already had an ongoing business to be returned with interest after 3 months but the business went bad and his friend lost all the money, almost a million naira. it is seriously affecting her salary as she now repays the loan through it. she has been so worried but he isnt finding her complaints easy he said she should stop complaining like this all the time that he doesnt like it that she just has to be strong that it will be well this was what he said when she paid 200k for a visa that went bad that money was lost. this led to a very slight misunderstanding and because of that, he hasnt called her for a week now. about 2 pastors telling her that that guy is her husband even a stranger walked up to her one day and said the same thing and also told her that the guy has a very bright future but do these prophecies come to pass all the time? why will she be going through this pains with someone who is supposed to be the husband she is 30years now and the guy 32. he has a job now though a small one but no plans for marriage yet and she has like 3 marriage proposals pending, one from a top rich lawyer in abuja i know money is not everything but this gal deserves to enjoy pls what do u think? i need your honest comments here

Kenneth4u205: Since u dont want to marry her,then send me her cantact addres.i'm searching for a virgin to marry

breezy047: Swag is style. . .