₦airaland Forum

Fryx:
Thats not an issue. She is naturally defiant and stubborn.

But it's not an issue. All I care about is faithfulness to me and trust. If we trust each other, it's easier to open up to each other.

She is very stubborn normally and proud. But, she listen to me.

Initially she listens cause she was scared of losing me. I hate leading people with fear because it's dangerous, they will turn against me. So, I had to ease up.

She is free to open up to me because she trust me. I don't trust anyone, but I make sure I convince her that I do. And I find reasons to trust her, so that it will be convincing enough.

But regardless, we are best friends, so we can weather any situation together.

but blocking her dad is wrong and very bad here. You have to sit here down and correct where she's wrong. Definitely she doesn't show respect for her dad. Soon she will disrespect you one day too. She should know her flaws, she should apologise and connect with her dad back.

Hassanmaye:
You must not have big capital to start a business, I started with 100k today I'm worth 25m

that 100k capital you started with na 5 years ago business you did. Not in this hyperinflated economy we are running for years now.

Kobojunkie:
I never attended a single traditional marriage in my whole life het I have lots of married Nigerian friends. Look, many people in who you think are married are not even married on paper. So, what makes you think that your traditional marriages are a mistake,abeg! 😩😩😩😩🙄

definitely you are not in Nigeria. There's no wedding that doesn't involve traditional wedding here. Traditional wedding is part of culture of all the tribes in Nigeria.

Kobojunkie:
Results of woman that are submissive? Are you ok at all? Are any women more submissive than women in Northern Nigeria for instance? What is the result there? Do they have great homes and great marriages with a divorce rate as high as 81% in many places thanks to the religion? Isn't it time to snap out of this sordid delusion by now?

tell me the regions that divorce women pass. Don't be hypocritical here

Kobojunkie:
The traditional marriage model was created by men in order.to allow men by themselves, by way of 100,% financial contributions to the marriage, the right to be head of household/master over the woman in the marriage. It was a wholly patriarchal move so query your forefathers on the why. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

2. Wising up is far from what is taking place. You, for example, are here busy arguing over how can eat your cake and still have it --- You don't need any to carry 100% financial responsibility throughout the marriage, and you still expect the woman to submit to you even at that. That is stewpidity! 🥱🥱🥱

but the men paid bride price now? You have no point here. In as much the men paid bride price to the family of the bride, they have the authority over their wives. Both the bride and the groom do involved in traditional wedding. It just depends on the type of traditional wedding niiii. Some traditional wedding are of low key wedding why some are of high price wedding.

Afonja007:
🤣🤣🤣🤣

yes soooo. Not funny seriously

MIKOLOWISKA:
what have you gained from degree and PhD holders

nothing sincerely. I'm self employed brother

Those that partake in this extortion must be arrested. What's Igp egbetokun doing for God's sake.

MissOpe:
Yes we are not ready for it..
If men submit to women, will they die?
Awon werey

please don't hide from the truths here. Men is the first person that submit in marriage, it's the egos of women that makes them not to submit. We can see the results of women that are submissive and the ones that are not submissive in the family's.

MissOpe:
When you say responsibilities of the family....what do you mean by that?..
You no see where i say what if they split bills 50-50 and the ego stricken man demands submission...

You guys failed to realise that the submission our ancestral fathers and the manipulative men who wrote the bible demanded were done to subdued women...
If truly women were created to submit...
Why do we find it difficult to submit..?
The answer is simple, we also have ego like Men....
The women who submitted in the past, check well, majority of them were vulnerable and afraid of the consequences , not that it really pleased them to submit.....

it's the women that raises their ego cos' they are not ready for any submission again. Don't you know that it's the submission from women that increase the growth of families. It increases the growth rate of families.

MissOpe:
Ogbeni, am in my late 30s and in fact would be 40 next year, I fit no be gen z age wise but I'm a full blown genz at heart....

And I say again, if man and woman share responsibilities at home regardless of the sharing fomular , na half submission the man go dey get..

Life is transactional.....

when you know that life is transactional why giving full responsibilities to men alone. If not because the men of this generation are wising up on responsibilities here. You can't think in that line before. The rate men died on top responsibility is alarming.

boxypane:
I wish it was 50/50 in all areas. Na men wey wear skirt full outside now

it's becoming 50:50 already. Its just that the submission from women has reduced tremendously. It's very unfortunate situation in our families.

san4P:
A painful but true rhetorical question asked silently and in the heart of many youths of our present Nigeria...

A friend shared with me that the children from his community asked why they were forced to go to school... because those who didn't take academics seriously... rather were radical and blew up pipelines... were the ones been catered by the government and having soldiers as escort... meanwhile the "bookworms" were walking around still sharing their "I beg to apply"" CV...

We pray that ALMIGHTY GOD answer our prayers... and give us good leadership...

Although I am up for the race of becoming Nigeria next President... I believe this is my good quota to contribute to our Nigeria revival...

it's bad leadership that's affecting us seriously, this set of government preferred their family first before they take other people serious. It will take more donkey years for the right things to be done.

Fuckyoumod:
I don't get moved or worried by girls like this, because I know where they will eventually end.

It's either they are ending up with a SIMple man or they will end up as evening newspapers.

A well nurtured lady always knows the difference between a man and a woman, she understands that they are not equals and can never be equals. So they know they must submit to a man, just the same way their mom's submitted to their fathers.

It also tells us about how ill trained and groomed these girls are. Failed parent brings nothing but shame and embarrassment to herself and her family.

they are already ending up as evening newspaper cos' of their bad characters and wayward lives they are living in the society. No one wants to settle to any lady that's of no value.

MissOpe:
Even though I'm not a gen Z, I support them with all the fibre in my being...
Women should not submit but rather by understanding partners in a relationship, the same applies to men .
Also women should be ready to foot 40% of the house bills and not rely solely on their husbands for basic expenses at home...

If our grandmothers and mother's submitted to their husbands cos of the patriarchal system in operations then, the present day genZs say nooooo.
Enough is enough, those people who made those sadistic laws and culture are dead and gone, we are alive and we will carve our own niche, we will create what we want for ourselves.....Finish

you are part of Gen Z ladies except you dey lie here. Doing more responsibilities in the house isn't a bad idea, it's a good idea. Infact it strengthen the family more. If there's more responsibilities for women in the home, men won't lose their mental health in the house. You should understand what I mean.

free2ryhme:
Baddie don fire back with full throttle

Make una dey play 🤣🤣🤣

Gen Z ladies of this days are very stubborn and not ready to submit to the husband instructions and leadership in the family.

Fryx:
Not true. My babe is a hot blooded genzee baddie. She do everything I said. .
The only thing is that I have to think thrice before asking her to do something or stop doing something.

She will always ask why, but she will do it regardless.

Or, she might tease me that she won't, but she will.

And if she doesn't understand, she will say. Ok, but I don't understand why. But, it's ok.

So, all it takes is reasonability. Be reasonable and any reasonable human will listen to you.

I personally know that if I start making unreasonable demands, she will rebel and tell me to do my worst. Someone that blocks her dad and refuse to pick any call from her family because they corrected her. I had to ask her to unblock them and speak to them.


I be gen zee too Sha. But not easily influenced by peer.

you should be very careful with her here. Hmm 🧐, she blocked her dad cos' they correct her, this is very bad. Her dad gan gan. Definitely, she's an hypocrite and should be closely monitored.

MissOpe:
Let's assume there's 50-50 shared responsibility at home, you still need the lady to submit abi, after she don change her name to your own, after she done born for u and her children dey use Ur name, and most times she'll do more of the chores and still go to work like u, u still need her to say yes sir to all your demands and request .
Mr man, make I no knack u wetin dey my mouth..

As if it's the lady that will carry the responsibility of the family. This mentality doesn't add up at all. You should understand how family works

MissOpe:
Yes we are not ready for it..
If men submit to women, will they die?
Awon werey

sincerely men submit, the generation of ladies aren't lady again. Why? Is that not a curse niii?

This conversation will long ooooo. GenZ ladies aren't ready to submit again.

Kobojunkie:
Submission is only a requirement if the man is a traditional man in a traditional marriage.

✓ A traditional wide should never have to "do little thing" in her traditional marriage. Again, the man is meant to be the sole provider in that model. Having the woman carry the man's weight at any point renders the marriage nontraditional. That generation before this one accepted the unfair practice of women contributing to their traditional marriages is one thing. The current generation rightly choices not to enslave themselves to similar stewpidity..

in the Nigeria settings we are running, is the couple not going to do traditional wedding before the marriage start?

GoodSpirit:
There is nothing like traditional man and traditional woman, the both parties must work for the success of the home.

exactly but the woman aren't ready for submission again.

Kobojunkie:
How many of the men are able to fully provide for their household without fail? Isn't it better to share responsibilities than pretend you can have what you are not qualified to have. -- a traditional wife?

even if there's shares of responsibilities, no form of submission from the ladies again. Once they do little things in the family, they quickly say they are the ones providing for the family. Isn't that absurd?

Hassanmaye:
If you are going to school to get a job it means you should not go to school at all, you are going to school to create jobs, an employer of labour and shape the world

when she doesn't have the capital, strength to create a job, what will she do?

Chibuezem:
It's baffling that we're pushed to pursue higher education without job guarantees. The SAED(Skill Acquisition Empowerment and development) of NYSC initiative's emphasis on skill acquisition is a Band-Aid solution. Why counsel Nigerian youth to spend years in school without assurance of relevant job opportunities? It's disheartening to see graduates struggling, leading some to feel that education is a scam. The expectation that professionals like doctors should diversify into unrelated fields like soap-making or tailoring to survive is unrealistic. The system needs reform to prioritize job creation and align education with industry needs.

it's the government that can do that. But they are not ready cos' of the huge selfish interests that they have in their government.

Nigeria police on the road are set of criminals in disguise. They even carried guns to perpetuate their crimes.

Man shares his experience with police officers in Lagos; he was stopped and charged for driving his new car he bought and registered a day ago without a plate number on it then later extorted him!! They collected 50,000 Naira from him. See their faces !!!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=il2ry-8Ax3M

omojeesu:
Even in America! Ask Robert Kiyosaki

Poverty is relative!

but not much in America. America system really works great for American graduates. They are employed too. Low rate of unemployed graduates in America.

Caleycash:
Not only in Nigeria... it's rife as you said all over the world, most notable world richest men are dropouts.

yes. But it's predominant in Nigeria. Millions of graduates are jobless in Nigeria

LOVEGINO:
my dear na just to read and write o

not only that, na to cram and pour during exam period. No hope for jobless youths in our generation.

MrSly:
Epistle of a second class lower and third class graduates.

even there's no hope for second class upper graduates in terms of getting jobs in the present Nigeria settings. Millions of youths are jobless.