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tstx:
I have huge respect for confident people....
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Live your life, do whatever pleases you. no need to come dey pretend.

Crazy people are confident. just a reminder.

Please, all these post secondary school girls, my message to you is this... DON'T HAVE A BOYFRIEND IF YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE SEX.

The Italian actress and director Asia Argento was among the first women in the movie business to publicly accuse the producer Harvey Weinstein of sexual assault. She became a leading figure in the #MeToo movement. Her boyfriend, the culinary television star Anthony Bourdain, eagerly joined the fight .
But in the months that followed her revelations about Mr. Weinstein last October, Ms. Argento quietly arranged to pay $380,000 to her own accuser: Jimmy Bennett, a young actor and rock musician who said she had sexually assaulted him in a California hotel room years earlier, when he was only two months past his 17th birthday. She was 37. The age of consent in California is 18.
That claim and the subsequent arrangement for payments are laid out in documents between lawyers for Ms. Argento and Mr. Bennett, a former child actor who once played her son in a movie.
The documents, which were sent to The New York Times through encrypted email by an unidentified party, include a selfie dated May 9, 2013, of the two lying in bed. As part of the agreement, Mr. Bennett, who is now 22, gave the photograph and its copyright to Ms. Argento, now 42. Three people familiar with the case said the documents were authentic.
The Times has tried repeatedly since Thursday to get a response to the matter from Ms. Argento and her representatives. She did not reply to messages left on her phone, sent by email and sent to two of her agents, who agreed to forward it to her. Carrie Goldberg, her lawyer who handled the matter, read email messages from The Times, according to two people familiar with the case, but she has not responded. A woman who answered the phone at Ms. Goldberg’s office on Friday said the lawyer would not be available to discuss this article.
Mr. Bennett, who lives in Los Angeles, would not agree to be interviewed, said his lawyer, Gordon K. Sattro. “In the coming days,” Mr. Sattro wrote in an email, “Jimmy will continue doing what he has been doing over the past months and years, focusing on his music.”
In an April letter addressed to Ms. Argento confirming the final details of the deal and setting out a schedule of payments, Ms. Goldberg characterized the money as “helping Mr. Bennett.”
“We hope nothing like this ever happens to you again,” Ms. Goldberg wrote. “You are a powerful and inspiring creator and it is a miserable condition of life that you live among shitty individuals who’ve preyed on both your strengths and your weaknesses.”
But for Mr. Bennett, who as a child actor charmed Harrison Ford and Bruce Willis and earned the nickname Jimmy Two-Takes because he rarely flubbed his lines, the 2013 hotel-room encounter was a betrayal that precipitated a spiral of emotional problems, according to the documents.
The fallout from “a sexual battery” was so traumatic that it hindered Mr. Bennett’s work and income and threatened his mental health, according to a notice of intent to sue that his lawyer sent in November to Richard Hofstetter, Mr. Bourdain’s longtime lawyer, who was also representing Ms. Argento at the time.
Ms. Argento, who lives in Rome, subsequently turned to Ms. Goldberg — a prominent lawyer for victims of online attacks — to handle the case. (Mr. Hofstetter is now handling the estate of Mr. Bourdain, who killed himself in June. Although Mr. Bourdain helped Ms. Argento navigate the matter, neither Mr. Hofstetter nor Kimberly Witherspoon, Mr. Bourdain’s longtime agent and now a spokeswoman for his wife, Ottavia Busia, from whom he was separated, would comment for this article.)
Mr. Bennett’s notice of intent asked for $3.5 million in damages for the intentional infliction of emotional distress, lost wages, assault and battery. Mr. Bennett made more than $2.7 million in the five years before the 2013 meeting with Ms. Argento, but his income has since dropped to an average of $60,000 a year, which he attributes to the trauma that followed the sexual encounter with Ms. Argento, his lawyer wrote.
In October, a month before Mr. Bennett sent his demand for money, The New Yorker published an article by Ronan Farrow that included Ms. Argento among 13 women who accused Mr. Weinstein of harassment and rape.
Ms. Argento, whose father, Dario Argento, is a noted director of Italian horror films, began her acting career as a child. She went on to win two David di Donatello Awards, the Italian equivalent of Oscars, and has directed films, written a novel and recorded music.
After she spoke out about Mr. Weinstein, Ms. Argento quickly emerged as a powerful voice for women who have been mistreated by men. In May, she gave a riveting speech at the Cannes Film Festival in which she called the festival Mr. Weinstein’s “hunting ground.” She said he had raped her there in 1997, when she was 21.
The relationship with Mr. Weinstein continued for years afterward and sometimes included sex, The New Yorker reported. Ms. Argento, who had acted in a movie Mr. Weinstein produced, told the magazine that she feared angering him. It was a complicated situation in which she said she felt powerless. “After the rape, he won,” she told Mr. Farrow.
Mr. Weinstein has pleaded not guilty to six felony counts in New York, including first-degree rape; none are related to Ms. Argento. His lawyers have said their relationship was consensual.
Mr. Bourdain, long a fan of her father’s work, met Ms. Argento when he was shooting an episode of his CNN show “Parts Unknown” in Rome in late 2016. The two became a couple, and Mr. Bourdain became her champion as she emerged as a leading figure in the battle against sexual assault and harassment, speaking at conferences and at Harvard .
For Mr. Bennett, seeing Ms. Argento present herself as a victim of sexual assault was too much to bear, his lawyer wrote, and called up memories of their hotel reunion. “His feelings about that day were brought to the forefront recently when Ms. Argento took the spotlight as one of the many victims of Harvey Weinstein,” Mr. Sattro wrote in the notice of intent to sue.
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Jimmy Bennett, playing Asia Argento’s son, in this image from the 2004 film “The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things.” Mr. Bennett has claimed that Ms. Argento assaulted him in 2013, when he was 17.
Ms. Argento, who is divorced and has two children, was both a mentor and a mother figure to Mr. Bennett, the document says, and the two were intermittently in contact as he grew up. “Jimmy’s impression of this situation was that a mother-son relationship had blossomed from their experience on set together,” Mr. Sattro wrote.
Mr. Bennett began acting at age 6, when he was cast in a commercial for a Dodge Caravan. He went on to appear in dozens of other commercials, and secured roles in several television shows. His prolific movie career started in 2003 with “Daddy Day Care,” which starred Eddie Murphy.
Mr. Bennett was 7 when he was cast in “The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things,” a 2004 film Ms. Argento directed, starred in and helped write.
The script, based on a book by the pseudonymous writer JT LeRoy, depicts the grim relationship between a drug-addicted prostitute played by Ms. Argento and her son, played by Mr. Bennett and two other young actors. Ms. Argento’s character dresses her son as a girl to lure men, and the boy is ultimately raped.
In interviews and subsequent social media posts between the two over the years, they referred to each other as mother and son.
On May 9, 2013, the day they met for a reunion in her room at a Ritz-Carlton in Marina del Rey, Calif., she posted on Instagram: “Waiting for my long lost son my love @jimmymbennett in trepidation #marinadelrey smoking cigarettes like there was no next week.”
Mr. Bennett responded, “I’m almost there! ”
Mr. Bennett, who has an eye condition that prevents him from driving, arrived at Ms. Argento’s hotel room that morning with a family member, according to his notice of intent.
The document lays out Mr. Bennett’s account: Ms. Argento asked the family member to leave so she could be alone with the actor. She gave him alcohol to drink and showed him a series of notes she had written to him on hotel stationery. Then she kissed him, pushed him back on the bed, removed his pants and performed MouthAction. She climbed on top of him and the two had intercourse, the document says. She then asked him to take a number of photos.
Later that day she posted a close-up of their faces on Instagram with the caption, “Happiest day of my life reunion with @jimmymbennett xox,” and added that “jimmy is going to be in my next movie and that is a fact, dig that jack.” That post and others were included with the notice of intent, along with three photos apparently taken by Mr. Bennett that depict him and Ms. Argento in bed, their unclothed torsos exposed. (Only one of the photos taken in bed shows both their faces.)
The two had lunch, and Mr. Bennett headed home to Orange County, where he lived with his parents. As he was driven home, according to his claim, he began to feel “extremely confused, mortified, and disgusted.”
But a month later, on June 8, he sent Ms. Argento a Twitter message, “Miss you momma!!!!” that included a photograph of an engraved bracelet she had given him to commemorate the movie. (His Twitter account has recently been shut down.)
That same month, he confronted his mother and stepfather over the state of a trust into which some of his earnings as an actor had been deposited, according to a lawsuit he filed in Orange County Superior Court in October 2014.
Mr. Bennett claimed his parents had barred him from the family’s house and kept his possessions, and over the years had cheated him out of at least $1.5 million in earnings. He said he was broke and two months behind on his rent. The case was settled in December 2014, but the terms were not disclosed.
In the agreement between Ms. Argento and Mr. Bennett, she agreed to pay him $380,000 over the course of a year and a half, starting with an initial payment of $200,000 that was made in April, according to a letter to Ms. Argento in which her lawyer, Ms. Goldberg, outlined the terms of the deal.
The agreement does not prevent either party from discussing it. In the letter, Ms. Goldberg explained that California law does not allow nondisclosure agreements in civil contracts involving the types of allegations made by Mr. Bennett.
One alternative, Ms. Goldberg wrote, would be to work around the California law by using New York lawyers and arguing that the laws of New York govern the agreement.
“Ultimately, you decided against the non-disclosure language because you felt it was inconsistent with the public messages you’ve conveyed about the societal perils of non-disclosure agreements,” she wrote to Ms. Argento.
“Bennett could theoretically tell people his claims against you,” she wrote. “However, under this agreement, he cannot sue you for them. Nor can he post the photo of the two of you.”
“At the very least,” Ms. Goldberg added, “he is not permitted to bother you for more money, disparage you or sue — so long as you comply with your obligations in the agreement.”
Although it is unclear whether Mr. Bennett and Ms. Argento have spoken since the payment was made, Ms. Argento seems to remain supportive. On July 17, she added a “Like” to a moody portrait of himself he had posted on his Instagram account. The account has since been scrubbed of much of its content.

Source-https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/19/us/asia-argento-assault-jimmy-bennett.html

The Italian actress and director Asia Argento was among the first women in the movie business to publicly accuse the producer Harvey Weinstein of sexual assault. She became a leading figure in the #MeToo movement. Her boyfriend, the culinary television star Anthony Bourdain, eagerly joined the fight .


But in the months that followed her revelations about Mr. Weinstein last October, Ms. Argento quietly arranged to pay $380,000 to her own accuser: Jimmy Bennett, a young actor and rock musician who said she had sexually assaulted him in a California hotel room years earlier, when he was only two months past his 17th birthday. She was 37. The age of consent in California is 18.
That claim and the subsequent arrangement for payments are laid out in documents between lawyers for Ms. Argento and Mr. Bennett, a former child actor who once played her son in a movie.
The documents, which were sent to The New York Times through encrypted email by an unidentified party, include a selfie dated May 9, 2013, of the two lying in bed. As part of the agreement, Mr. Bennett, who is now 22, gave the photograph and its copyright to Ms. Argento, now 42. Three people familiar with the case said the documents were authentic.
The Times has tried repeatedly since Thursday to get a response to the matter from Ms. Argento and her representatives. She did not reply to messages left on her phone, sent by email and sent to two of her agents, who agreed to forward it to her. Carrie Goldberg, her lawyer who handled the matter, read email messages from The Times, according to two people familiar with the case, but she has not responded. A woman who answered the phone at Ms. Goldberg’s office on Friday said the lawyer would not be available to discuss this article.


Mr. Bennett, who lives in Los Angeles, would not agree to be interviewed, said his lawyer, Gordon K. Sattro. “In the coming days,” Mr. Sattro wrote in an email, “Jimmy will continue doing what he has been doing over the past months and years, focusing on his music.”
In an April letter addressed to Ms. Argento confirming the final details of the deal and setting out a schedule of payments, Ms. Goldberg characterized the money as “helping Mr. Bennett.”
“We hope nothing like this ever happens to you again,” Ms. Goldberg wrote. “You are a powerful and inspiring creator and it is a miserable condition of life that you live among shitty individuals who’ve preyed on both your strengths and your weaknesses.”
But for Mr. Bennett, who as a child actor charmed Harrison Ford and Bruce Willis and earned the nickname Jimmy Two-Takes because he rarely flubbed his lines, the 2013 hotel-room encounter was a betrayal that precipitated a spiral of emotional problems, according to the documents.

The fallout from “a sexual battery” was so traumatic that it hindered Mr. Bennett’s work and income and threatened his mental health, according to a notice of intent to sue that his lawyer sent in November to Richard Hofstetter, Mr. Bourdain’s longtime lawyer, who was also representing Ms. Argento at the time.
Ms. Argento, who lives in Rome, subsequently turned to Ms. Goldberg — a prominent lawyer for victims of online attacks — to handle the case. (Mr. Hofstetter is now handling the estate of Mr. Bourdain, who killed himself in June. Although Mr. Bourdain helped Ms. Argento navigate the matter, neither Mr. Hofstetter nor Kimberly Witherspoon, Mr. Bourdain’s longtime agent and now a spokeswoman for his wife, Ottavia Busia, from whom he was separated, would comment for this article.)

Mr. Bennett’s notice of intent asked for $3.5 million in damages for the intentional infliction of emotional distress, lost wages, assault and battery. Mr. Bennett made more than $2.7 million in the five years before the 2013 meeting with Ms. Argento, but his income has since dropped to an average of $60,000 a year, which he attributes to the trauma that followed the sexual encounter with Ms. Argento, his lawyer wrote.
In October, a month before Mr. Bennett sent his demand for money, The New Yorker published an article by Ronan Farrow that included Ms. Argento among 13 women who accused Mr. Weinstein of harassment and rape.
Ms. Argento, whose father, Dario Argento, is a noted director of Italian horror films, began her acting career as a child. She went on to win two David di Donatello Awards, the Italian equivalent of Oscars, and has directed films, written a novel and recorded music.

After she spoke out about Mr. Weinstein, Ms. Argento quickly emerged as a powerful voice for women who have been mistreated by men. In May, she gave a riveting speech at the Cannes Film Festival in which she called the festival Mr. Weinstein’s “hunting ground.” She said he had raped her there in 1997, when she was 21.
The relationship with Mr. Weinstein continued for years afterward and sometimes included sex, The New Yorker reported. Ms. Argento, who had acted in a movie Mr. Weinstein produced, told the magazine that she feared angering him. It was a complicated situation in which she said she felt powerless. “After the rape, he won,” she told Mr. Farrow.
Mr. Weinstein has pleaded not guilty to six felony counts in New York, including first-degree rape; none are related to Ms. Argento. His lawyers have said their relationship was consensual.
Mr. Bourdain, long a fan of her father’s work, met Ms. Argento when he was shooting an episode of his CNN show “Parts Unknown” in Rome in late 2016. The two became a couple, and Mr. Bourdain became her champion as she emerged as a leading figure in the battle against sexual assault and harassment, speaking at conferences and at Harvard .

For Mr. Bennett, seeing Ms. Argento present herself as a victim of sexual assault was too much to bear, his lawyer wrote, and called up memories of their hotel reunion. “His feelings about that day were brought to the forefront recently when Ms. Argento took the spotlight as one of the many victims of Harvey Weinstein,” Mr. Sattro wrote in the notice of intent to sue.
Image
Jimmy Bennett, playing Asia Argento’s son, in this image from the 2004 film “The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things.” Mr. Bennett has claimed that Ms. Argento assaulted him in 2013, when he was 17.
Ms. Argento, who is divorced and has two children, was both a mentor and a mother figure to Mr. Bennett, the document says, and the two were intermittently in contact as he grew up. “Jimmy’s impression of this situation was that a mother-son relationship had blossomed from their experience on set together,” Mr. Sattro wrote.
Mr. Bennett began acting at age 6, when he was cast in a commercial for a Dodge Caravan. He went on to appear in dozens of other commercials, and secured roles in several television shows. His prolific movie career started in 2003 with “Daddy Day Care,” which starred Eddie Murphy.
Mr. Bennett was 7 when he was cast in “The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things,” a 2004 film Ms. Argento directed, starred in and helped write.
The script, based on a book by the pseudonymous writer JT LeRoy, depicts the grim relationship between a drug-addicted prostitute played by Ms. Argento and her son, played by Mr. Bennett and two other young actors. Ms. Argento’s character dresses her son as a girl to lure men, and the boy is ultimately raped.
In interviews and subsequent social media posts between the two over the years, they referred to each other as mother and son.
On May 9, 2013, the day they met for a reunion in her room at a Ritz-Carlton in Marina del Rey, Calif., she posted on Instagram: “Waiting for my long lost son my love @jimmymbennett in trepidation #marinadelrey smoking cigarettes like there was no next week.”
Mr. Bennett responded, “I’m almost there!”

Mr. Bennett, who has an eye condition that prevents him from driving, arrived at Ms. Argento’s hotel room that morning with a family member, according to his notice of intent.
The document lays out Mr. Bennett’s account: Ms. Argento asked the family member to leave so she could be alone with the actor. She gave him alcohol to drink and showed him a series of notes she had written to him on hotel stationery. Then she kissed him, pushed him back on the bed, removed his pants and performed MouthAction. She climbed on top of him and the two had intercourse, the document says. She then asked him to take a number of photos.
Later that day she posted a close-up of their faces on Instagram with the caption, “Happiest day of my life reunion with @jimmymbennett xox,” and added that “jimmy is going to be in my next movie and that is a fact, dig that jack.” That post and others were included with the notice of intent, along with three photos apparently taken by Mr. Bennett that depict him and Ms. Argento in bed, their unclothed torsos exposed. (Only one of the photos taken in bed shows both their faces.)
The two had lunch, and Mr. Bennett headed home to Orange County, where he lived with his parents. As he was driven home, according to his claim, he began to feel “extremely confused, mortified, and disgusted.”


But a month later, on June 8, he sent Ms. Argento a Twitter message, “Miss you momma!!!!” that included a photograph of an engraved bracelet she had given him to commemorate the movie. (His Twitter account has recently been shut down.)
That same month, he confronted his mother and stepfather over the state of a trust into which some of his earnings as an actor had been deposited, according to a lawsuit he filed in Orange County Superior Court in October 2014.
Mr. Bennett claimed his parents had barred him from the family’s house and kept his possessions, and over the years had cheated him out of at least $1.5 million in earnings. He said he was broke and two months behind on his rent. The case was settled in December 2014, but the terms were not disclosed.
In the agreement between Ms. Argento and Mr. Bennett, she agreed to pay him $380,000 over the course of a year and a half, starting with an initial payment of $200,000 that was made in April, according to a letter to Ms. Argento in which her lawyer, Ms. Goldberg, outlined the terms of the deal.
The agreement does not prevent either party from discussing it. In the letter, Ms. Goldberg explained that California law does not allow nondisclosure agreements in civil contracts involving the types of allegations made by Mr. Bennett.
One alternative, Ms. Goldberg wrote, would be to work around the California law by using New York lawyers and arguing that the laws of New York govern the agreement.
“Ultimately, you decided against the non-disclosure language because you felt it was inconsistent with the public messages you’ve conveyed about the societal perils of non-disclosure agreements,” she wrote to Ms. Argento.
“Bennett could theoretically tell people his claims against you,” she wrote. “However, under this agreement, he cannot sue you for them. Nor can he post the photo of the two of you.”
“At the very least,” Ms. Goldberg added, “he is not permitted to bother you for more money, disparage you or sue — so long as you comply with your obligations in the agreement.”
Although it is unclear whether Mr. Bennett and Ms. Argento have spoken since the payment was made, Ms. Argento seems to remain supportive. On July 17, she added a “Like” to a moody portrait of himself he had posted on his Instagram account. The account has since been scrubbed of much of its content.



Source-https:https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/19/us/asia-argento-assault-jimmy-bennett.html

mclorenzo:
Why didn't he do it in his house?

You can only imagine the kind of problems his friends family will be going through right now if he had died. No explanation would be accepted. His friend should cut him off after this event. Na god save am

mhizenugu:
Ewwww, see her black yansh.. cover up girl. gosh!!

Leave it like that. Show us your own let us see. Jealousy.

Jirate:
What About This Woman Below, Have You Freed Her?,................ Dummy.

Indeed they shouldn't "free" Adeosun, but you can't possibly be comparing Desiani's case with Adeosun's. This woman nearly robbed this country to a halt.

guruzmarstk:
Wow

Like Wow. As in. We have a long way to go.

lalanice:
Any man that is negotiating to pay for sex cannot be trusted. Hotel or not.

When a man pays bride price , among other things, what is he paying for? Modern women have made it such that men must pay for sex one way or another, prostitute or not.

These instances are just going to increase in frequency as long as the social system is one that rewards and celebrates victimhood. Women like this are desperate for attention, and the best and easiest way to get positive attention is to join the me-too crowd. If you don't have a story in which you've been victimized by men, you're nobody. You can't be a part of the Great Feminist Singularity.

I thought this kind of rubbish has stopped in Lagos? This is exactly what makes most parts of the South-South backward.

kolawoleibukun:
I meet people molested and tortured every time and many places in this world. You might be so shocked that it is happening even inside your family or under your own roof.

many victims are powerless. Imagine what big names like Harvey Weintein and Bill Cosby were doing to celebrities. shocking is the word. You would least expect people with such money and fame to go that low. and the victims are also rich and powerful people. if they felt powerless, imagine ordinary people like this girl. She would be charge for defamation and the litigation process is surely beyond what she can afford or endure mentally.

Bro, men are also raped this days. Do not be a victim to be convinced. If you see anyone speaking up, don't hush them. encourage them because you might just be the next father begging for the public to understand your case. what is your child gets defiled and probably dies or contracts an incurable disease from rape or assault?

Do not pray to be in that situation. The stigma and things.

Think twice!

BULLCHIT. These women were not children nor were not mentally impaired. And they were far from powerless. Weinstein propositioned these ladies and they had the option to say no. But they didn't. They said yes. After achieving fame and fortune they want to eat their cake and have it. Imagine someone claiming to be a rape victim posing for the camera and asking for money. The #metoo movement was not started by bloodied women with torn clothes, running down the street and screaming for help. It was a coldly calculated attempt to pull down great men a sacrifice them on the alter of public opinion.

YelloweWest:
trash.
women who have made it to the top do so with share determination and brilliance!
For a woman to have respect of her male colleagues she must be twice as intelligence.

Name one woman you know who "slept" her way to the top..

What that hell? First of all this is a fallacy of hasty generalization. But Oga, I take it you have not worked in a large organization or in political circles. I used to work at Ecobank in Mary selessor road Calabar. While I was there in 2010, a group of female corpers were brought in and retained. I later got to find out from the girls that they didn't even apply for the job but that they were the top 4 contestants at miss NYSC beauty pageant held at Obubra.

These positions given to these ladies were positions that men fight with tooth and nail for even with flawless credentials. Secondly , when I left the banking sector, I got involved in politics and got to see how women were given contracts for works they did not bid for just because they were sleeping with commissioner . I also got to see where positions were reserved for women "because e no go good make woman no dey the committee" while intelligent and qualified men were shoved aside. I have seen women get it so easy that I wonder how some institutions continue to function

mrkunlex:
https://www.bellanaija.com/2017/11/6-problematic-things-nigerian-men-raised-believe-truth/

What is this idiat saying?
THINGS MEN SHOULD BE TAUGHT...
Don't let a woman get away with anything just because she is a woman.
You don't owe any woman marriage. You can have children without getting married.
Don't try to rescue women from stressing situations. It's not your duty. When next you hear a woman screaming, lock your door.
When next you are going on a date with a woman, buy food for only yourself.
Don't carry the financial burden of any woman. You are not her father. Leave every woman the way you met her.
Learn to call women to account for their actions without beating around the bush. If she is an adult, treat her like one and expect her to act like one in return.
Don't give any woman undue advantages over others in employment/promotion because of her looks, sexiness etc or with the expectation that you will obtain sexual favour from her. Let her technical skills speak for her.
When next (if ever) you find yourself in a catastrophic situation and someone says "save the women first", punch that person in the mouth. It should be every human being for itself.
Never let any woman manipulate you with sex. Never be afraid to show a woman who can't comply with your standard the door.
As a man who chooses to get married, if your wife asks you to help with house chores after spending a hard day battling nature and other men just to put food on the table, ask her what you paid her bride price for. You have played your part by providing. If she can't play hers and expects you to play her role in addition to yours then you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. If I am a man who carries concrete for a living, can I tell my wife " honey you don't assist me in the job I do to provide for this family. Why don't you come and help me mold some blocks so I can know you are caring ". Try that, see how it plays out.
Never hold women to lesser standards to men. They are as competent as men. So when next you see a woman struggling with a task; her car breaks down on the road, she's struggling to lift a gas cylinder, etc, don't get guilted into stepping in and saving that day. They are just as capable as yourself, but you are just being manipulated to carry their responsibilities for them. It's the trick of feigned weakness.

Medunah:
I swear down, girls are very useless!!
And No, I don't mean the girl that was raped, am talking bout the silly girls on this thread saying rubbish about the girl deserving​ it. I mean, are u guys sane?? Why not let it happen to ur daughters​ first and then u can come back here to talk trash.

Rape is rape for crying out loud, no excuse for it!! If we keep justifying acts like this, cases like this will keep on going on and on forever.

Mehn, this place is full of sickos. I pray for my kids to be surrounded by people with better mindsets.

Yes, the girl was at fault for going to his place and all but really? Is that enough reason? No means No!!!

It is comments like this that make men swear down that women have fish brain. You open a thread, read a one sided story and let your emotions whitewash your reasoning to the point that you insist all women must support a woman just because she is a woman without asking questions. Will you advice your sister or daughter to go and spend the night alone in a mans house she just met?, or to do so in his bed?, or tell the said man to simply cuddle her? or that when he tries to take off her pant and give her head unconsentingly, she should whisper no to him? Or that after everything, he confesses that he did do what your daughter or sister accused him of doing on WhatsApp, would you advice her to delete the chats then go on social media months later to narrate the events? If she would be doing so, shouldn't it be to serve as a lesson to my sister or daughter about the stupidity of her actions as opposed to the blame of someone else about the consequences of her actions? Sister , no means no. But take responsibility for not putting your self in a position where you would need to answer questions about the strength of your convictions

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

Anty me. All this English wey you dey speak no make any brain. Make the bobo bring application letter for girly to sign first before she open leg? Was he proposing marriage to her. Spontaneous sex no dey happen again? If she no want in the first place, concrete steps should have been taken... Don't go to his house, insist on sleeping in another room, sleeping with your jeans on, screaming when the matter don dey get out of hand- he has neighbours. OK girly feels guilty that she either regrets the sex or feels bad for cheating on her boyfriend. What ever the case girly should take responsibility for the role she played in this, learn from it, and move on. If the boyi come out say na consensual sex dem get, wetin she wan talk? Did he snatch and grab you from the street to his house,? Did he come to your house to force sex on you? No girly, only you waka come, off your cloth, jump for bed,. Take responsibility..

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

Anty me. All this English wey you dey speak no make any brain. Make the bobo bring application letter for girly to sign first before she open leg? Was he proposing marriage to her. Spontaneous sex no dey happen again? If she no want in the first place, concrete steps should have been taken... Don't go to his house, insist on sleeping in another room, sleeping with your jeans on, screaming when the matter don dey get out of hand- he has neighbours. OK girly feels guilty that she either regrets the sex or feels bad for cheating on her boyfriend. What ever the case girly should take responsibility for the role she played in this, learn from it, and move on. If the boyi come out say na consensual sex dem get, wetin she wan talk? Did he snatch and grab you from the street to his house,? Did he come to your house to force sex on you? No girly, only you waka come, off your cloth, jump for bed,. Take responsibility.

Ah. Afonja

Linux007:
Confused bunch of hypocrites, alcohol is strictly prohibited in the north and they now find solace in hard drugs.
i couldn't care less if the whole of the north is bloated in codeine and other hard drugs, that is there problem .
We here have greater problems to brood over, like what jubrin has been up to, and aisha has been smiling sheepishly of late
Meanwhile the only goodnews here is i woke up to FTC.

I read this comment to my daughter she prayed for sense to fall on you

Hey. Why na?

That she will expect me to marry her

Study hard and you will be successful in life.

Most likely a cheating married man and his secretary

[Aquote author=Oluwamuyeewa post=57421489]Eyin Omo oduduwa

We ought to have outgrown this Ncan of a thing,tribalism won't add a penny to our account or improve the standard of our lives,let he who have no sinned cast the first stone

Yoruba- yahoo/ritual
Igbo- drug trafficking/ kidnapping
Hausa- terrorism!
Brother o. There would have been no need for name checking. The rest of us were minding our business when a group of people started berating us, saying we were lazy, that they were hard working and are the one feeding us and they are the best. Now the scrutiny is on them so we can truly know what makes them better than the rest of us. See what they are good at above.

For where. This guys did not go to look for any employment. Na so dem dey dress go interview? These are Ekpan youths who were going to harass the company or make one stupid demand or the other. These guys feel untouchable: "na awa community be dis"
. Today hand don touch dem.

I taya for this boy self. Release album, you no gree. You are releasing babies. Second one is almost out indeed.

Or he could just want some space.

Good. People should stop giving the impression that miss Stephanie otobo is deranged. She is raising valid points. CAN should stop acting like the National Judicial Council trying to sweep issues affecting its members under the rug or turning a blind eye. At least if the Sheep cannot touch or judge the anointed, then let the Union of anointed Shepards touch themselves and judge themselves.

Na lie. We no go gree. Apostle is trying to misdirect our focus to fictional characters. Apostle licki should provide answers to the vitrified allegations against him before he can send us on a wild goose chase.

Oga sule. Please stop trying to change the focus. We will investigate el rufai on another day but first, present your passport for cross checking, explain to us what a car registered in your name was doing in an alleged mistress' house, provide answers to some of the verified allegations of your accuser that turned out to be true before you can point us in any other direction.