₦airaland Forum

QuinQ:
See reasoning o! Emphatically, we don't know whether there's been infidelity. But that's NOT the concern here. Our concern is prevention of potentially destabilizing a setteed family unit which will likely produce fatherless children and menace to society! If the man walks away who'd fill his obligation to that child? Is it not society and govt? How do fatherless children generally turn out? And even if the DNA proves the child is his what does that say about his trust for his wife that he spent scarce resources pursuing DNA? Will the home survive it? Are broken homes what we want??

QuinQ:
How many times have I make it clear that this thread is NOT about adultery, parternity fraud, mother's accountability and such, How many timed have I made it clear that the thread is about the govt recognizing that once a man accepts a child and bonds with the child for several years, THAT IS HIS CHILD! And there ought be a law encouraging him to focus on raising that precious child to maturity rather than spending time and 100's of thousands on DNA tests. I made it clear the thread is about the govt making laws encouraging him to do just that instead of spending scarce resources pursuing UNWARRANTED DNA FISHIING ECOEDITIONS! Read my posts!
We are NOT talking about DNA tests for immigration or ancestry and such, we are talking about wasting money on sudden DNA tests on a teenager you've raised and loved since infancy!

QuinQ:
I am not contradicting myself at all. You the one don't know what you talking about.
Of course it benefits the state nothing except the possibility of being saddled with another fatherless almajiri!

Maybe you are the fifth generation of an outside conception that happened long ago. What difference has it made that your ancestors are not yiur biological ancestors??

You'd never see DNA of any kids I may have unless they grow up and do it themselves. Once I accept a child as mine, he stays mine forever!

QuinQQ:
How is it a scam that you have a child that will know you as his only father and if he becomes anything tomorrow you get all the glory.
Who is scamming who??

QuinQ:
All you are saying are outside the purview of this discussion. This discussion is not about infidelity, adultry, sex, and such.
This discussion is about the state's responsibility to discourage unwarranted DNA fishing expeditiond of settled families - because it benefits the family nothing and benefits the state nothing.
Rmember we don't know that there had been infidelity. What we do know is that a man accepted a child from infancy, bonded with the child, and has been happily raising the child since childhood.
"Uwarranted DNA fishing expeditions" is years later, suddenly going on DNA amidst all that.
The govt's concern should be to discourage such, and encourage that the man saves his money and simply and happily keep raising a child that knows only him as farher and is very likely his biological child!

QuinQQ:
That's exactly the point! You're 100% his father - as Nature intended it. No doubt from anywhere. There is no DNA testing in Nature!
How do you know your ancestors are your biological ancestors. Are you not carrying their name forward? What difference does it make??

QuinQQ:
You are totally wrong. Traditionally whatever child a woman has while your wife is your child - even if you're dead. Remember, children used to be regarded as wealth not obligation

QuinQQ:
Please explain to me HOW you're defrauded. Remember people fight for custody of children tooth and nail. You don't have to do any of that. He's your child and you get ALL the benefits of fatherhood. He carries your name references you as the person who gave him every thing. And if he ever becomes something ALL the glory will go to you as his father.
Please explain to me HOW you're defrauded

RGRNetwork:
1. Just re-upload your legalized transcript there.
2. There are lots of part-time jobs for students. Make sure you learn German language A1 is enough.
3. Barbing or hairdressing because most Nigerians prefer our own barber.
4.i got admission in Vienna and Salzburg but I choose Salzburg. I don't know about Linz but accommodation is not difficult to get in Vienna

RGRNetwork:
Hello all,

Please I am having issues submitting my application on the University of Vienna website (U:Space)
I have submitted all the legalized documents except for the ["b]Proof of decree on groups of persons"[/b] which I do not know what it means.
Whenever i check my dashboard, they keep telling me that It is inadequate.

Please has anyone applied to the University of Vienna and encountered such thing before? That is the only thing holding my application to be submitted. they gave me until November 8 to finalize the submission of my application.

Please urgent response is needed because I do not know what documents to submit there and I need help on what to do about it.

Thanks

freeman67:
First let me tell you that I am also not happy loosing any money from money I am trying to make more on especially when it was not part of our initial agreement but then it's the government, we just have to comply and maybe complain to the appropriate authority if not pleased.

freeman67:
Are you sure you read it well or you get tunnel vision?

Slimani:
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OdogwuHappyMan:
Bro the difference between the both salary not much naa bit the difference between ur safety on both towns is so wide. Nigeria is greatly polarized between ethnicity. It's not the best time to take such risks please. If they offered you special packages like hazards, security, accommodation then it would've been considered.
Remain at your current job, another bigger offer with less relocation risk will come again.
So you mean all offers that comes your way, you try it? Make things calm down before you take such heavy risks. Remember you will be travelling always to come see your people in Lagos. Peace of mind is importanter

SouthAmericalif:
thank you sir for your candid advice
i have reported my neighbors to the landlord because he doesn’t stay in same compound and after warning them dey stay clear from me for 3days and started last night, they doing this so we can pack out and then give the house to another person and eat agent fees
the car keke and machine after been packed for years i sold it then for small money.
it was last december i started studying rigidly online and found out ways to invest by myself for myself january i started tbills and mutual funds and ok with it than wasting money for 8years i can no longer partner again we did okrika business it failed where buying from togo.

oz4real83:
This is exactly what most married men go through, they carry all family responsibilities, whether the women are working or not, and yet they don't threaten to leave the marriage all because the wives are not making financial contributions to the marriage. . A woman is doing what most men have always done, she complains and wants to leave the marriage . May God bless our men.

SouthAmericalif:
we are christian’s i have been silent for more than a year now because i respect you as my husband, this person we quarrel and swear in my gate almost everyday if her fridge did not work is me, if mosquitoe bite her is me, i don’t even know her from anywhere.
ok look for another apartment even we still have arrears of six months here but i can still afford it and we can move on na me go do everything

aycorporat:
You can reach me on aycorporate@gmail.com

Olammi:
You can send me a private message

Femich18:
Group Link sent

DaddyGngeess:
Someone that understands, thanks i send my either brother son to abroad since January this year, till now that boy has not find his feet i still send him house rent every month( 200 dollars)from Nigeria here which i am regretting why i send him there, sometimes i still feed him from here because he hasn't gotten a job yet but i think is because of his laziness shall. ( i am sorry festi if you see this but i am not happy)

immortalcrown:
You are dodging my questions. Why?

1.
Is there any importance of virginity that applies to only women?

2.
As sleeping around can damage a woman's womb, can't sleeping around render a man impotent through STDs?

3.
If your culture condemns women having sex before and outside marriage but allows men to have sex before and outside marriage, which women should men sleep with before and outside marriage?ving around in circles.

Answer these questions when you decide to be sincere in the argument.

immortalcrown:
You are dodging my questions.

1.
Is there any importance of virginity that applies to only women?

2.
As sleeping around can damage a woman's womb, can't sleeping around render a man impotent through STDs?

3.
If your culture condemns women having sex before and outside marriage but allows men to have sex before and outside marriage, which women should men sleep with before and outside marriage?

immortalcrown:
If men should not sleep around, why should virginity be the weapon against women in the argument?

immortalcrown:
Did you not see what warrants the question from me? Also, did you not see where I said that his answer will show whether virginity applies to only women?

Helath:
Sleeping around can damage a man's health through contraction of STDs.

Culturally:
You spoke about cultural celebration of virgin women. Is there a culture that condemn male virginity?

If men are culturally expected to sleep around before marriage, which women should the men sleep with? Will those men bed the single women that are expected to remain virgins until marriage? Or, will those men sleep with married women? Answer this question. Your answer will address every other thing you wrote here.

immortalcrown:
You joined the argument without understanding its origin.

First, I never asked for the importance of female virginity. What I asked for is the importance of virginity. My question here is not gender-based. There is a reason I didn't specify any gender in the question.
I stated earlier that I don't have time for baseless arguments. Let me tell you why female virginity is most stressed.

Second, go and read the comments I exchanged with my main opponent in the argument. Then, you will understand why I asked the opponent to state the importance of virginity. You will also understand why the opponent has been dodging the question.

In fact, you don't need to re
ad the previous comments I exchanged with the main opponent. This is because I clearly explained, in my comment that you quoted, that the opponent's answer to the very question will show whether virginity applies to only women.

Third, you didn't consider the argument baseless until I confronted you with facts you can't deny. Instead of you to admit that you were biased in your cultural, health and religious analysis of female virginity, you have quickly considered the argument baseless.

immortalcrown:
Helath:
Sleeping around can damage a man's health through contraction of STDs.

Culturally:
You spoke about cultural celebration of virgin women. Is there a culture that condemn male virginity?

If men are culturally expected to sleep around before marriage, which women should the men sleep with? Will those men bed the single women that are expected to remain virgins until marriage? Or, will those men sleep with married women? Answer this question. Your answer will address every other thing you wrote here.

immortalcrown:
Can you point out where I stated that sleeping around has any merit?

immortalcrown:
Imagine a man sleeping with 15 women before getting married. Why do some men sleep with their ex a few days before or after their wedding?

What is the purpose of men sleeping around before marriage?

Until you explain the purpose of virginity, you are a sentimental noisemaker.

Only a hypocrite like you will openly use virginity against women but will not be bold enough to state the purpose of virginity.

Tell us what you know as the purpose of virginity, let us see how virginity applies to only women.