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Family / Re: What Do You Bring To The Table !! by tundebasic(m): 5:14pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
Simeonjoe1:If the sole purpose of asking a woman "what are you bringing to the table" is as described by the op, then, there is no need to ask the question in the first place. You can see all those attributes and traits by mere observation. So, why should the man ask the woman what she's bringing to the table when all he wants are intangible ? I'm cooking in the kitchen, you asked me what I'm bringing to the table, I replied, "emotional intelligence." Since you were expecting me to have emotional intelligence before going into the kitchen why ask me what I'm bringing to the table? |
Family / Re: What Do You Bring To The Table !! by tundebasic(m): 4:59pm On Nov 28, 2023 |
This op is funny, and then saying you don't want to hear people make comments about what both parties have to bring to the table. Whatever you wrote up there is mainly your opinion. There is no hard fact or square rule about how people lead their lives. You are comparing intangible things to tangible things . Everything you listed up there that a woman should bring to the table, does not necessarily need to be between a man and his wife. All the things you listed for a woman to bring to the table are intangible. Can you carry out successful business deals, or even be classed as humans with a purpose if you don't have those traits you listed for both the man and the woman? You even wrote that a man should bring shared responsibility to the table. Your colleagues, relatives, business associates, etc., cannot consistently give you money to take care of your family. Money is tangible! So, when we ask a woman what she's bringing to the table, we are asking her to what extent does she want to contribute financially in the home. Nobody made it a rule that men must be the sole provider in a home. So, I'll say speak for yourself man. 4 Likes |
Romance / Re: Women, Make Una Try Get Sense by tundebasic(m): 10:39am On Nov 27, 2023 |
She is the one that is willing to divorce him, not the other way round. The blame should not entirely go to the guy because he didn't use and dump her. It was just a little misunderstanding that the two of them couldn't manage like sensible adults. 2 Likes |
Travel / Re: Cost Of A Nigeria International Passport by tundebasic(m): 7:37am On Nov 27, 2023 |
kelvindj98:Hmmm, thanks for the insight. |
Travel / Re: Cost Of A Nigeria International Passport by tundebasic(m): 1:42am On Nov 27, 2023 |
Hi guys, what will someone do if their passport expired a long time ago (2010) and they wish to renew it now? Would it be advisable for the applicant to visit an immigration office for assisted application or one can still use the DIY approach? Obviously, it appears like the assisted application is a rip off. Who had an experience like this recently? |
Celebrities / Re: Marrying A Lady You Met As A Virgin Doesn’t Guarantee Peace”israel DMW Opens Up by tundebasic(m): 7:01pm On Nov 25, 2023 |
Well, I think both of them have to work on themselves. They can still save this union. Whatever happened between them is due to lack of understanding. Israel appears to be a man that don't take instructions. What Sheila had offered him was a very good advice. What becomes of him if Davido retires from music today? Sheila too has her own flaws. She was to use petting, advice, and foresight to help him start another business. He can be a hypeman and still run business by the sides. Also, I think she thinks too highly of herself now that she has arrived. 5 Likes |
Romance / Re: Please Help!! Is This A Red Flag by tundebasic(m): 11:48am On Oct 16, 2023 |
In addition to the inputs by UyaiIncomparabl.... Prayer: If you're a christian, both of you should join the prayer unit of your denomination. Learn to pray together. Washing: I don't think there's a rule that says clothes must be washed with your hands! I hope you get it? Water fetching: Technology was invented to make our lives easier and to make us do things faster. At this age, we do not wake up at 4am to go fetch water from the stream. Think about it. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: Marriage : Define A Wrong Person? by tundebasic(m): 1:52pm On Oct 15, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:You mean he's handsome and rich, how is he stingy? I mean, how would you know (the characteristics of) a stingy rich man? 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Non-virgins Don’t Deserve Bride Price by tundebasic(m): 12:20am On Oct 11, 2023 |
Merry100: The passage you quoted above is about a daughter sold as a slave, and betrothed to the son of the master. Who provides food for a slave? So, I will like to know. You are trying to say a woman has no financial responsibility in the home? It's only the man that will do everything? If you believe a woman has financial responsibilities in the home, then what are her responsibilities? My own argument is that both of them are told to provide, not just the man. Now, you'll see how a woman should provide here: Proverbs 32:13-16. She seeks wool and flax, And willingly works with her hands. She is like the merchant ships, She brings her food from afar. She also rises while it is yet night, And provides food for her household, And a portion for her maidservants. She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard. So, what are you saying about a woman should not work if she likes? Your man should provide for you fine, you too play your own part, just do something for your husband and family. |
Romance / Re: Non-virgins Don’t Deserve Bride Price by tundebasic(m): 5:35pm On Oct 10, 2023 |
Merry100:Whether you are keeping it to honour God, or your husband it doesn't matter. What matters is obedience to God's word, simple. Moreover, if you have the opinion that one can do whatever they like with their body (since God will forgive them and they don't want to keep it for a mere husband), then, why were you asking me about the guy you mentioned earlier? Is this not the same thing he was reiterating? |
Romance / Re: Non-virgins Don’t Deserve Bride Price by tundebasic(m): 5:24pm On Oct 10, 2023 |
Merry100:I really may not have time to be going back and forth on this. However, this is another translation of the same verse you are quoting: New Living Translation (1 Tim 5 5:8. But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers. 5:16 If a woman who is a believer has relatives who are widows, she must take care of them and not put the responsibility on the church. Then the church can care for the widows who are truly alone. How would you take care of someone if you are unemployed yourself? You said widows are even justified if they don't work. Well. Why I will not want to concern myself with that, we are not focusing on widows here. We are discussing the issue of man and woman, husband and wife. |
Romance / Re: Non-virgins Don’t Deserve Bride Price by tundebasic(m): 12:00pm On Oct 10, 2023 |
Merry100:I am not the one. Maybe it was someone else. No, you should not play that game. I've come to realise that the corruption of this world will make people who don't do it seem to miss out at the end of the day. Imagine keeping yourself as a man or woman and you couldn't find a member of the opposite sex, who even claimed to be christian like you being chaste/pure? Men and women keeping themselves till marriage is both scriptural and cultural. |
Family / Re: Young Lady Shares Video Of Her Pastor Parents Denigrating Her For Asking For An by tundebasic(m): 11:51am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Kobojunkie:Why you nor buy the iPhone 8 and send to the kid (no pun intended)? What emotional abuse is there when the father did not even flog her. He only said what was running through his mind. Maybe the kid has failed Jamb several times, and the next thing she's asking for is for an iPhone? |
Romance / Re: Non-virgins Don’t Deserve Bride Price by tundebasic(m): 11:33am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Merry100:Where in my comment did you see any mention of sexual purity before wedding as a requisite for women only? I was more concerned about you saying men are to work to provide for women. As if that's the purpose of creation of a man. The passage you quoted says: But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel. That text specifically did not say a man. I know you get why he was used in that context. There are many wealthy women in the bible. The same bible that many women are using as an excuse to be lazy. I also hope you know that the role of provision given to a woman is almost equal or even much more than of a man (If you need it, I'll post it here)? Well, I support a man providing for his household, but when you say a man should "spoil" his wife, are the women also spoiling their husbands in return? Men are not robots too, they like to be "spoiled". |
Romance / Re: Non-virgins Don’t Deserve Bride Price by tundebasic(m): 7:08pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Merry100:Can you show anywhere where God said broke men should not find love? Even the first wedding that Jesus attended, the wine finished. Wine dey finish for rich man wedding? More so, where is it ever written that a man should till the ground to provide solely for his wife? |
Romance / Re: Men Who Hustled Hard To Become Successful Should Not Settle For Less by tundebasic(m): 3:45pm On Oct 03, 2023 |
Dexy4yah:I think I just discovered this. I think marriage is about the smartest person now. No more sacrifices, compromises, help, support, love, vision, determination, friendship, and defense again in the institution. "Taking care of me" is the only motive for today's marriages, and you know the gender that's pushing it! 4 Likes |
Family / Re: Hidden Characters Of Women To Look Out For Before Marriage by tundebasic(m): 3:34pm On Oct 03, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:Okay, the men understand. |
Family / Re: Hidden Characters Of Women To Look Out For Before Marriage by tundebasic(m): 3:08pm On Oct 03, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:I see, I understand what you mean. You mean, if a man got married at 30 and dies at 95. If he had two kids. He would have carried the responsibilities of four people, plus his aged parents, plus the responsibilities of his siblings, plus that of his inlaws (including the siblings of his wife) all alone? You see why we say women are inconsiderate. You think it's only the wife's responsibility he wants to carry? Sixty-five years of toiling to keep smiles on the faces of some people, without any form of appreciation, support, motivation, reward, and all? What would it take you to support him with just a few amount monthly as a partner? |
Family / Re: Hidden Characters Of Women To Look Out For Before Marriage by tundebasic(m): 9:12am On Oct 03, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:This is the funniest piece I've read. So, a man should not consider if a woman is stingy? He has all the money so, he won't notice the woman is stingy, because he is blind, his brain is half-dead, and he is a machine whose responsibility is only to provide till he dies? Okay. |
Romance / Re: What's Your Opinion About Splitting Bills With Your Partner? by tundebasic(m): 1:36pm On Sep 30, 2023 |
NoToPile:Well, if one looks at it from the perspective of inputs in marriage, the woman will feel cheated if she has to do *all the house chores* while also sharing in the bills. Abroad, the home responsibility is shared. In Nigeria, a man only calls for support because of the dwindling economy. So, let's assume the woman only contributes about 5-20% of the shared responsibilities. The man should be able to do an equivalent amount of house chores. Also, when their children become adults, the chores will no longer be in their dictionary (except probably cooking). So, an African woman should not believe because she contributed 5% of shared bills, house chores will be shared 50:50. Just my take. |
Romance / Re: What's Your Opinion About Splitting Bills With Your Partner? by tundebasic(m): 10:17pm On Sep 29, 2023 |
BloomingDale:So, women don't see men as tools? Also, how is a woman a financial tool to a man? You said she has her own money. Given that she claimed the money as hers alone and she doesn't want to split bills, how does her money become a tool to a man? |
Romance / Re: Your Wife Doesn't Love You, Your Girlfriend Doesn't Love You, Fact. by tundebasic(m): 6:04pm On Sep 19, 2023 |
Blitzking:This is wrong! The holy book also instructed women to love their husbands. Titus 2:4-5. That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. |
Family / Re: My Fiancee Doesn't Want To Court Marriage (registry) by tundebasic(m): 7:36pm On Sep 03, 2023 |
advanceDNA:Been wondering what's going on here o. Just one man complaining about his fiancee not wanting a court wedding, and the ladies here are taking it as something else. Does the opinion or experience of one man determine that of other men in the country? 8 Likes |
Family / Re: My Fiancee Doesn't Want To Court Marriage (registry) by tundebasic(m): 7:25pm On Sep 03, 2023 |
Ololade4:Well, just wondering. Who earns more income or owns more assets between you and her? 1 Like |
Family / Re: Redefinition Of The Concept Of Marriage by tundebasic(m): 7:17pm On Sep 03, 2023 |
Hathor5:The fact that a woman is working means a man should assume that she will support him? Most times, women tend to avoid discussions on the topic of finances before marriage. Once a man starts talking about finances and responsibilities, they assume he wants to push his responsibilities to them. |
Romance / Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by tundebasic(m): 1:40pm On Sep 03, 2023 |
Evestar200:What can one term as selfishness in both sexes. Like, what could make a man selfish? |
Romance / Re: Relationships Are Now More Difficult Than Ever. by tundebasic(m): 1:35pm On Sep 03, 2023 |
Jeon:Your last statement is sooo true. Can you explain what you mean by men pay for sex through career, life and destiny? 1 Like |
Family / Redefinition Of The Concept Of Marriage by tundebasic(m): 6:47pm On Aug 31, 2023 |
I chose the family thread to create this topic because I feel I can get matured advice here. I think the society needs to have a redefinition about the roles of men and women in marriage. So, I've been thinking lately why there seems to be many toxic relationships and marriages. From my findings, women only want to bring prayers, advice, and fertility to the marital table. I think this is wrong. How do married men even cope with this idea? 1. If prayer works like the women themselves opined, then, every woman on earth should be rich. Isn't that what they have chosen as their purpose? Why look for a readymade man when it's your prayers that will make your husband rich? Why not marry a random man and let your prayers make him rich? 2. If a man became wealthy as a bachelor; let's assume our bachelor has a networth of 80 million naira before meeting a lady with less than 300k naira as her total networth. This lady believes the guy should marry her so that she can give him pieces of advice as her only contribution to his life? I'm kind of lost here. This guy made his money without getting any piece of advice from you. Why would you believe this is what you are bringing into marriage? 2b. When a woman meets a rich man, she expects him to marry her even with a court wedding. She expects them to automatically become joint owners of his properties merely because she wedded him. I'll leave this at this. 3. It takes a fertile man and a fertile woman to make a baby. Even if you go to sperm bank, or you are using artificial means of insemination, you still need a fertile sperm. So, why should a woman bring only fertility when the man is also bringing his own fertility? So, I believe the idea of marriage should be redefined. Women should at least know how important it is to earn an income and support their families. Making money is hard. If not so, everyone on earth should be using either a Ferrari or a Rolls-Royce. This is entirely my opinion anyways, but this is why I think marriage needs to be redefined by the society. Married folks in the house, please how do you deal with these? 1 Like 1 Share |
Family / Re: 7 Reasons Why Nigerian Marriages Are Crashing In The UK by tundebasic(m): 6:02pm On Aug 31, 2023 |
emmaodet:I just had to comment here. See, this will continue to happen. A society where the women believe the only thing they should contribute to the life of a man is prayers and fertility. I sometimes wonder. If prayer so works why are the ladies not rich themselves? Why is it that no struggling woman has been able to pray a struggling man to wealth? Why do ladies look for made-men since it's their prayers that is making a man rich? Isn't it funny that the women you mentioned up there want to leave their marriages and look for another man ( a made-man) to marry? What had happened to their prayers in their first marriages? 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Would She Has Said This If She Truely Care And Love Me by tundebasic(m): 9:14pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
pocohantas:You are the one not understanding me. You are equating being young to provision. How would you equate them? I understand that choices are choices, but being young (the requirements for a woman) cannot be equated with being able to provide (the requirements from men). |
Family / Re: Would She Has Said This If She Truely Care And Love Me by tundebasic(m): 8:56pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
pocohantas:Why not? She should continue looking for her provider male, and the male looking for a younger woman. 1 Like |
Family / Re: Would She Has Said This If She Truely Care And Love Me by tundebasic(m): 8:31pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
pocohantas:Maybe there's something I am missing here. But, what is transactional about looking for a young, homely, and submissive woman? You mean a man should marry just any woman, or a man should marry an old, defiant, and unwelcoming woman? What is transactional about being young? Everyone was young at one time or the other.... 1 Like |
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