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I have said this countless times... Marriage isn't religious. It's purely traditional, even in the scripture

We're so confused in this part of the world cos we copy so much that we don't even know what to do anymore

Furthermore, marriage is for two matured souls. Discuss everything and anything before saying I Do. There's nothing spiritual about being married. It's solely on maturity and understanding

Mouth action, if it can help your home become stronger and better, it's fine

Find time to talk to your husband

Love800:
Thanks so much.

I'm glad I could help. Enjoy the rest of your day

pheelhip:
How much will it cost?

It's been awhile I installed this for clients, the market is just too fragile to know the current price. But, Jumia, Konga or Jiji should help

Love800:
Okay.
This one is just to check how much light you consume. Is not the normal meter, abi?

Yeah...
So, the main metre is there, why the check metre is just to check what you personally consume, that, nobody is cheated or in this case, you're not cheated

I will advice anyone sharing metre to buy a personal "CHECK METRE". This is not the regular metre, but, a check metre. It measures your energy consumption. Once you know your energy consumption, then, you have the idea of the amount to pay

You can also suggest to the landlord or facility mgt company to install Check metres for all tenants or occupance, thereby, everyone pay for what they consumes while sharing on Metre

ivandragon:
Hmm...

Most of these analysis that requires conversion from one currency to the other are often misleading and negate what truly matters, which is the purchasing power of the common man, primarily, the least paid workers.

A straightforward analogy which makes more sense is how much fuel can be bought with the minimum wage?

The average minimum monthly wage in Saudi Arabia is about 4000 SAR. PMS averages at about 2.3 SAR per litre. So 4000 SAR gets you about 1700 litres of PMS.

In nigeria, with minimum wage at N70000 and pms averaging N1000 per litre, your minimum wage gets you 70 litres of pms.

Case closed. Any other calculations or conversions are just exercises in futility because the purchasing power of the masses in any country is what matters most.


Look at USA. Average minimum monthly wage is about $1200. Average pms price is $1 per litre. So minimum wage in USA gets you about 1200 litres of pms.

You just used 70,000 as the minimum wage where it only affected Civil servants which are less than 30% of Nigerian workers. Some states are yet to even comply

DevilsEqual:


FG now have more funds to spend on major projects in education and security

Money saved from subsidy removal can now be used to improve other sectors

God bless PBAT.

With 2.8B?
Is that for the materials for services or structural members?

I wouldn't know if I'm the only one confused here. Maybe you should explain the news better for someone like me

I must say, this is very impressive!

You see leadership... It will humble you!
It has happened to me

When he finishes as the president, the way he acts and talks will change totally!

1Sharon:
I don't think this response is meant for me. Direct it to the guy I quoted.

Ooooooohhhhh... So sorry, I think it was an oversight

So sorry about that

Enjoy the rest of your day

1Sharon:
Is this what your dad believed?

I can only imagine how e be for the stranger in your family home your mother?

So, how did your mother became part of your family, if your dad had this notion then?

You see, there will be more problems in the social space in the nearest future if we continue to have this kind of baby mindset.

You have to grow and start taking stands now on how you want to raise a beautiful home. Every home you see today beautiful has lots of scars, but, one things stand out, preference for your immediate family. This is why your wife will see you as your mother's supporter and she won't invest in that business with you. She won't see that future with you. Because, over time, you've shown it to her she's not part of your family

And note, it's how you carry your wife in the mist of your family, that's how your mother and your siblings will carry her. If your family knows you cherish your wife and disrespecting her means disrespecting you, their heads go correct, except you're an irresponsible husband and sibling

Demurray:
It depends on the kind of mother and wife you have.

If both of them are okay in characters, I will go for my wife because she whom I have chosen to be with for the rest of my life , mother will leave her life and depar leaving you behind however, that I can't send my mother away for my wife sake.

I doubt that in the case of most wives

In the marriage institution, once you marry, both of you have good and bad character. There's no perfect home. You just have to stay on top of the situation as a man intelligently

Sometimes, even you don't understand yourself! So, choosing who to protect due to character for me shouldn't even come up

Marriage is for a very matured. When I mean maturity, I'm talking about Emotional Intelligence

Once you're making plans to marry, there's a level of boundaries you must put in place, otherwise, you'll ruin yourself out of carelessness

Your mother can complain and quarrel, my son sucked my breast for a year plus, your son will suck his wife's own for over 30yrs.

The love for mother is quite different from the love for wife, otherwise, you could have just married your mother then. There's no point of comparison. Infact, you should never tolerate these comparison. Learn the difference

When matters arisings in the home, as a man, don't takes side, listen carefully to both sides, trust me, they're both women, if you're not intelligent enough, the one with sweetest tongue will buy you over. Carefully, listen intelligently and resolve the issues differently. Speak to your wife separately as you speak to your mother in like manners

If the issue persist, oya, mama, come dey go! Let there be peace! You might get to some point that you can't just stand in the middle anymore, you just need to save your home. Some mothers are very insensitive and hence, can say dangerous things that can affect your wife psychologically and even her self esteem. So, at some point, you must protect your wife. If you don't, who will? She left her home to join and build a new home and family, so, you're the first sibling she has...

My mom's love for me almost caused serious issues when she came when my wife delivered. I had to remind her of boundaries, mama sharply re-adjust and there was peace and harmony again.

Peace to your home for everyone going through family issues

Samson Siasia should be hired, but, I know this NFF gang, they will want someone they can control

Siasia is very close to Eguavon too and other former footballer. He's also the son of the soil. Has got loads of experiences, both home and abroad

He understand the Nigeria style and game culture

These people will blame everybody except themselves

You should be telling us this is what you met and these are what you've done for the past one year to reduce smuggling

Abi na me civilian wan reduce smuggling?

Shikena:
I agree with you. Where there is will, there is always a way.

As said by a seasoned leader in Nigeria, there are very few brilliant ideas that are not already written as proposal sitting idly on cubicles across Nigeria.

Engineers/professors can't just wake up and start dredging federal government properties. We have to be in possesion of accurate information, then understand a problem and the constraints first before we apportion blames.

Of course yes. I totally agree with you.

One of the policies I enjoyed in this administration is the "NEW ELECTRICITY ACT 2024" that allows individuals and private entities with the necessary capacities and tools to generate, transmit and distribute electricity

Lagos State government is at the final phase of their paper work regarding that policy. I was in the NSE seminar where the guest from Lagos State affirms this statement. Hopefully, it will yield positive results

Shikena:
The lagoon at the back of UNILAG cannot generate enough consistent tidal currents for such purpose. Besides, you are going to create bigger environmental issues that we are clearly not serious enough to handle as a nation.

This is a citadel of higher learning. If there's a problem, they should create a solution. Our institutions are short of ideas, hence the students they produce

Aside Tidal, there are other renewable energy source. I still believe Tidal can still work. They can dredge, after all, the government has been dredging those areas for years. Reason in my other post, I tagged the Federal ministry of environment

Unilag suppose to generate her own electricity and with the new reform, with working with the state government, they can sell to neighbors. Lagos State is almost done with their paper work on this

A citadel of higher learning... Sometimes, when I hear news like this, I feel so sad!

So, what are they teaching the engineering students there? You have a massive lagoon at your back. There's renewable energy policy already in place, so, the school can't think outside the box except FG's bailout! Nawa!

I'll continue to say it... Protest, whether sponsored or not, whether people will cash out or not has one objective, reduce the suffering of the masses!

We're so difficult in this country that will pamper our leaders, then, fight ourselves. Who does that!

I was very active in the last protest here in ALAUSA, Ikeja. And I'm glad I did, it was very peaceful and even the govt tried to give us some tp, but was rejected promptly. Uniform men later joined us!

The truth is, we're acting exactly like slaves that loves their chains. Even the countries we're japa...ing to can't take these tolerance from their leaders. People fought for that. Seat down at home and be saying some will cash out or the govt won't listen. If you're benefiting for these charades, don't forget, you have brothers, Aunty, cousins and others who are weeping daily

Protest is legal by all definition. The security agencies have just one duty, to keep law and order. Anyone who steals or cause unnecessary panic in the processes, should be dealth with seriously. This should be our messages

I've worked with many of these politicians. They barely care about the commoner. Funnily, it's the oppressed that is still defending them. Or you think Farz or Femi Falana, Sowore and others are hungry. By God's grace, I'm doing fine myself. I won't go hungry, but, trust me, staff will be sacked if things continues like this.

Our leaders knows we're too weak to demand for good governance, they know! They also know those that will speak out, so, it's easily to mount pressure on them, but, if we rise in our numbers and say, no to these insensitivity, the govt will be afraid but to do the right things. Dem no born any agberos in Ojota and ALAUSA to hijack the protest, these can be replicated everywhere of we're truly serious!

Apus:
And here i am thinking of quitting my job of over 300k cause it's stressful as f**k and i find it hard to save.

I don't mind getting a job with less pay that gives me time to face my online gigs.

No company that will pay you above 250k and won't stress you. Like, stress is the bedrock of these kind of jobs. Just say goodbye to sleep as you earn higher

In the midst of hunger and suffering... What's your definition of a flopped protest?

In Africa, we're slaves that loves our chains! I was proudly part of those who was part of the final day of the protest here in ALAUSA, Ikeja. And it was very successful and peaceful at the same time. Infact, the military joined us as we collectively spoke our mind out. The political actors right now are convening meetings upandan, because they know this is just a litmus test and shouldn't be joked with

DND069:
Men, when you gather enough cash, try other African women. Our mentality here in nigeria is bleeped beyond repairs!

The circle of entitlement continues.

Notice most of our celebrities since last year to this year are dating ladies outside the country. Few like Davido said in an interview the reason he chose the wife!

Men are very critical in issues of marriages even dating as in the case of celebrities

Our young ladies should start learning... The world doesn't ends with me, myself and I. Even so called Pastors are now running from Nigerian ladies. Something must be wrong fundamentally!

7demons:
Lol! Matured mind.
I'm glad you're seeing this from a different perspective. This is one of the least things to worry about on a first date(if he's very serious with the lady) would have corrected her cos more of these nasty behaviors are yet to come. Dating is a trial stage: Getting to know someone, there are some things you might not be OK with your partner but find a subtle way to talk them out. Not this childish red-pill bunkum these kids read online.
Don't expect any REASONABLE COMMENTS for the First 2pages of this forum cos most of them are bladderdash from all these young teenagers that's haven't experienced life. I have been saying this: We need to overhaul our educational sector and I'm glad the Government has realized this and putting up measures to revolutionize tertiary teachers.

I love what you said, "dating is a trial stage". In a trial stage, a lady needs to understand and know if the guy is capable of footing the bills. The guy might also decide they get water or something that fits his pocket.

Ladies, please and please, don't behave irresponsible on a date. Be prepared to also take care of the guy. Do something responsible that makes you different!

The problem here wasn't the ordering, the issue is ordering without his consent. It's simple courtesy. I read where some said, take care to a park, se Dem no dey sell things for park?

It's a date... Both of you wants to know each other. The responsibility of taken care of the day can come from any of you or both of you. But, most ladies in Nigeria have this sole mentality that a man should call for a date and foot the bill! Anyone can call for a date. A date is a date! So, however it looks, act responsible

siofra:
This is how you know he doesn't like you. Any guy that's comfortable seeing you pay for anything doesn't love you.

Please, come again! So, any guy that sees a lady pay for "anything" without paying it for her doesn't love the lady?

I wanted to know if this was what you meant. If that is what you implies, I'm sorry to say, you're still single, I guess!

The essence of you working is to take care of your needs. What is even wrong with us! You work and crave for independence, and you still want to be dependent on a guy in a date!

This is 21st century. If a guy invites you for a date and he never mentioned order for food, you better respect yourself. Ordering food without his consent is even a red flag. If you must order, then, you should be able to pay for what you're about eating. It's self respect. If the guy pays, fine! If he doesn't, he doesn't mean he's not a serious dude, it means you should be more cautious next time

Before you come crashing on me... I'm happily married and in our first date, my wife showed me maturity, even rejected my money for tfare. That act alone showed maturity and a responsible lady. I wanted to know more about her and the rest they say is history...

When two matured persons go out on a date, let's be very responsible and be civil! It doesn't take much!

The protest about #EndingBadGovernment is ongoing everywhere in the state. This is the perfect time to call on The Council for the Regulation of Engineering in Nigeria (COREN) and The Nigerian Society of Engineers (NSE) to also address the issue of unqualified personnel in the engineering profession.

I join many others in protesting against the presence of unqualified personnel in the engineering value chain. This has cost the industry significantly, leading to the need for foreign experts despite the presence of qualified professionals within our nation. As the saying goes, "bad eggs spoil the profession." We must take drastic action to eliminate unqualified personnel from the industry.

The government can also improve by appointing engineers to lead various engineering ministries and parastatals. Imagine an accountant being the Minister for Power—this is a mismatch when we have diligent engineers with years of experience in the power sector and other engineering fields.

We need to provide young and aspiring engineers with platforms to develop and grow. One way to achieve this is to ensure that engineering graduates during NYSC are not posted to schools and other irrelevant fields but are placed in roles where they can practice their profession

I am GOODLUCK UDEH and I join many in protesting against the presence of unqualified personnel in the engineering value chain.

This is wrong in every sense. Yes, we should protest, especially with the hardship and tough situation, but, the vandalizing and looting, one can say, this is evil

[quote author=Khalid72 post=131263588][/quote]Thank you sir

You keep hearing projects in the Niger Delta... Most of them are lies. Many of these projects are awarded to cronies and allies of the corrupt government in the region. Akpabio, James Ibori and many of the corrupt leaders in the region are now in one party

The government should tell us how many Niger Delta youth have been employed in NNPC. How many trainings have they facilitated and the youth they've empowered. Publish their names

The East West road, which is the major road in Niger Delta can't be piled. It's a dead trap

Or do they mean, awarding contracts to their friends and thugs are the achievements? Let the statistics be released, showing us true empowerment in the region.

I will continue saying it. The Northerners both literates and illiterates are everywhere in the force, how many Niger Deltan youth is employed by these oil companies in the Niger Deltan? How many seaports has the government allowed to work as that of Apapa in Lagos? The refineries there, are they working?

Our people are into farming and fishing... The lands aren't productive anymore due to the oil drilling. The rivers are destroyed on daily basis due to spillages. My people are left in severe hunger, except for those that can go into crimes like bunkering or carrying of arms as a militant... If you chose the good and responsible lives then, you have to go out of the region or better still settle for the least

Take the statistics of those working in all the subsidiaries of NNPC, Shell, Chevron and the likes, we're the least.

The cost of food and buying of basic needs in the Niger Deltan is a triple of what we experience in other parts of the country. Because, you go to same market you have a worker in these oil companies. House rent nkor? Sometimes, this trader have to travel down to Lagos to buy goods, after adding the cost of logistics to the region, one can't even imagine the cost.

Fuel is more expensive to buy in Niger Delta. Don't even talk about electricity...

We're the most peaceful region with all the resources and hardship at the same time. Not even talking about the environmental impact on our people

The government can be very specific, but, when it gets to Niger Delta, they start talking vague.

Sometimes I weep for this nation. People are demanding for good governance using one of the most effected tool which is protest, the oppressed are making it tribal and regional

See, when these leaders wants to steal, they steal together, no shouting!

You can stay in your house and let posterity judge those who are prepared to come out to lend their voice.

The sufferings is just too much!

TIME MATTERS

Time itself is a critical factor. Often, on site, I find time to speak with my technicians, artisans, and some engineer friends who are earning consistently. I frequently ask them, "Why are you not married?" The common response is, "Ha, Engineer, no money na! The country is hard." This makes me wonder: aside from the nostalgic tales from the 70s told by our parents, has there ever been a time when the country was easy for the common man?

Time, planning, and decisions are directly proportional to settling down and achieving one's purpose. For instance, as a man, you might hesitate to marry without making enough money. It's good to work hard and save up, but remember: there is no amount of money that is ever enough for marriage if proper decision-making and planning do not consider time.

You can buy a well-furnished house today, purchase the best cars, or travel to any country you choose, but you cannot have a ten-year-old child today. There is no injection or technology for that. This means that while you scale the ladder of your career and accumulate enough money before marrying, time remains a crucial factor. Don’t wait until your sixties to have a child in primary school. Don't be deceived; time is a factor.

Note: Today's message is for those working. Regardless of your age, you need a constant source of income before thinking about marriage.

Drop your comment, even if you disagree

I am Engr Goodluck Udeh, and I am emphasizing that time is a factor when it comes to marriage, especially for technicians and engineers

Obiedun:
Do not partake in any unnecessary protest.

Can you State two reasons why the protest is unnecessary?

Hygiene on Construction Sites In The Face Of Cholera Outbreak

Today being Friday, I want to address the importance of hygiene on construction sites.

When it comes to site hygiene, the community or company might not always prioritize it as much as you should. Personal hygiene is crucial because it directly affects your health and that of your fellow workers. It's about more than just wearing PPE

Defecating and dumping waste on site is highly dangerous, especially with the current spread of cholera. Today, I want to focus on the food and drinks commonly consumed by construction workers, which can be relatively unhygienic during this cholera outbreak. Be cautious with the following drinks unless you are certain of their safety and preparation processes:

Kunu

Zobo

Tiger Nut

The goal isn't just to work but to work safely and return home healthy.

I am Engr. Goodluck Udeh, and I want to remind you that cholera is transferable. Protect yourself and your family. Enjoy your weekend!