₦airaland Forum

Lady-Ti:
@ jeanbro:
Ha Ha - Very funny!!!

@ jeanbro:
You can say that again!!! 

@ uf4oma:
As you can see, this bobo dey gree your own o --- What do you say? 
Judging from your name, I take it you're Urhobo?? Well, so am I! How u dey?

My sister,  I deyooo. No mind all these nairaland bobos. Who get im time? I get one bobo when dey shak me just now, na im dey make me write all these foolishness for nairaland!

sylvao2000:
@poster really don't no what to say, first kudos to your husband for keeping and respecting you in the house or do you want to go outside so he can also go after you? .

you don't need any book the only thing l guess you need is prayer don't go buy Oprah books that will get you into more troubles. I am very sure if treat him like a real man he will be faithfull to you,  be yourself he will come back to you in no time, make him feel real and don't get your home into trouble and stop broadcasting your family state,   women duty to build a home and also there duty to destroy it. you got all it take to stand your family  do it my dear you will surely overcome,

Really, you don't seem to know what to say and don't understand the issue at stake. These are real issues and real people and if you don't have anything meaningful to say, you don't have to post anything just to be counted. What is all the talk about her not knowing her duties and all that nonsense? You think all marriage is about is cooking food and taking care of home? My friend grow up. And shut your trap while you are at it.

The pastor preached about God's value system and the power of integrity. The general belief in the Nigerian society is that any one who is upright cannot succeed and may end up a loser in life. But the pastor emphasised on the need not to follow the world's value system and the wisdom of the world but to try and do things the godly way and not compromise our godly values. Being servants when we are in leadership instead of being overbearing and oppressive. He said the gateway to revelation is integrity. Also, we need to work out our own salvation, but God is constantly at work in us. We need to draw the line and begin to walk according to godly wisdom and not the worldly wisdom and way of doing things. And the two cannot be mixed together, that is, we cannot compromise here and try to be upright there. People will always remember and know us for what we stand for, even after many years. The text was from Philipians 2: 12,13, 1Corinthians 2:1-9 and Psalms 2:10,11.

If a man does not work, he should not eat. The Bible.
Instead of you to be at work, you are busy sleeping and dreaming.
PS: A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest and your poverty will come upon you like a vagabond and your want like an armed man. Prov.6.

Dreamer, attention seeker, dream on. By the time you wake up, the real world would have passed you by.
PS: Don't fall in love with a dreamer!

Basically, you need to heal, my brother and you need to let yourself heal. You have to stop holding on to this thing and the past that has kept you from getting on with your life. You can get over any hurt and pain. Like someone else said, it's a choice and I think 1 year and 6 months is long enough to make that choice. Get over it.
@olanajim, that's not why we think you men are heartless. You men are truly heartless. I have spoken to another lady on this forum and we are thinking of starting a thread, ANY FAITHFUL MEN IN THE HOUSE? We have seen much more of men's heartlessness than of ladies hurting men!

Sweetheart, yours is a heart cry and I feel your pain. I have been there, so I know what you are talking about. Can I recommend that you get the book, The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian, and start from there. I will also advise that you do not take any action against this woman or your husband. You just need to go on your knees as a starting point. Suspend your course for now, if you can. If the situation does not change God will give you the grace to bear it. Take heart. Infidelity among our men, even christian men, is the bane of family life in our society.
Again, please, having a showdown with the lady will not solve any problem; it may actually compound it. You need to keep your pride and remain calm as hard as that may be.

Touch, touch and more touch. Just touch me, hug me, kiss me, hold me, stroke my hair, take my hand unexpectedly. Touch me anyway you want and anywhere.
Then whisper in my ear, call me sugar, sweetie, honey, baby, love, any sweet nothing. Play me those love songs and sing them in my ear.
And I will do anything for you, I will cook your food, call the electrician to fix the house, call the plumber, wash your clothes, iron them, lay them out for you to wear.
Just never stop touching me and speaking those words of affirmation.

This girl was obviously very young when you met her since she just got into the university now. She has met other guys and she wants to test the waters with them. I will advise that you let her be for now. It's tough, I know but she needs some space. Your heart is obviously broken and you are terribly hurt by her insensitivity. Don't be bitter, forgive her and try to move on as hard as this may be. Look around you, at your place of work, even in the church, there may well be one or two girls who may have been trying to catch your attention. Have some casual female friends and dates(I don't mean casual sexual relations oooo, before I'm misquoted). This will help you appreciate others and set you on the path to recovery. You cannot protect her, so let her go and get her own heart broken, then she will know what she has lost. And maybe by then, you have moved on? Who knows? When you meet in church, be as casual as possible with her if you run into each other. Don't seek her out or go out of your way to her to inquire about her welfare. Give yourself time, you will get over it.

I want to be like Jesus. Text by Thomas O. Chisholm. Music by Livingstone Ives.

1st stanza.
    I have one deep supreme desire,
    That I may be like Jesus
    To this I fervently aspire
    That I may be like Jesus
    I want my heart his throne to be
    So that a watching world may see
    His likeness shining forth in me
    I want to be like Jesus.

This hymn brings tears to my eyes as many others in the album, Holy,Holy,Holy by Crystal Lewis.

Rebellion. I knew I shouldn't have married him, but I did. And it ended in divorce.

I just got a headache from reading that.

The guy is hiding something; probably a Nigerian wife back home? He fears you may know something, so he has to do whatever it takes to keep you from asking questions, even resorting to violence? Shine your eyes.

Knowing God Intimately by Joyce Meyer. It talks about how the amount of time you spend with God directly impacts on the changes that you will experience in your personality. It answered so many questions for me at the time I read it and started listening to Joyce, that I'm now totally into her ministry. I think she's an awesome teacher.
Kenneth Hagin- The Believer's Authority-Legacy Edition-awesome. Did wonders for my spiritual growth when I started praying those Ephesians 1:17-19 and 3:16-19 prayers.
Stormie Omartian: Power of a Praying Woman. It's my daily manual. If I'm going through something and I'm looking for an answer and don't know how to pray, I simply pick up this book.
T. D. Jakes: Can You Stand to be Blessed- It's the best book I read about going through adversity and understanding God's working in tough times.

There are so many wonderful servants of God and time would fail me to mention Bishop David Oyedepo, Francis Wale Oke, Lynn Hammond, Juanita Bynum, Michelle Mckinney Hammond, Creflo Dollar, Dr. K.C Price. But the greatest of them all is the Holy Bible itself. Give me the Psalms and Proverbs anyday.

@poster, I am thinking that you are a kid who is curious about sex and is looking for some answers. I am not a medical doctor, so I do not know if fingering yourself can equal disvirgining yourself. But if the objective of your friend is to keep her virginity, she should not be fingering herself at all. She should be concentrating on her studies. She should find things to do that will take her mind off sex, like some sports, dancing, singing, swimming. Anything that does not relate to sex and sexual activity. I am thinking that your friend's hormones are raging at the moment and she is thinking of what to do to relieve this itch. She is probably a moral girl who does not know how to handle these hormones. In my time, there was a book called Everything a Tenage Girl Should Know, by some doctor. It helped me loads and I will advise that you and your friend and even your group of friends get this book and read together. There are a lot of useful advise in there. If you have any further questions, please contact me through email. Take care.

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