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MissMeiya: So writing articles is about writing things you have no experience in? Ok, I see how credible your post is now.

Erm writing articles need an element(to a large extent actually) of research. So your point of view/ experience isn't nearly enough to lend credibility to your article. You need other people's point of view, and the OP did say it was from a guys' perspective.

Say, I can write an article about breast cancer or the World war 1, and God knows I've never experienced any of those things.

EnlightenedSoul: Stuff and nonsense.

You described exactly the kind of "cross-gender friendship" that is to be dreaded - the kind that disguises itself as a friendship but yearns to be more, and what a terrible "friendship" at that.

The characters of your "epistle" clearly need to DTR (Define The Relationship)

Awesome!
Clearly compound interest disguised as friendship.


@topic
I guess I'm quite lucky then.
I've successfully managed one cross-gender friendship(remarkable huh ) and we still talk every week for 3yrs running now

@Jay bee You might want to explain this a little better

How would you handle a situation where one of these numerous "defined role play" friends of yours start developing the feeling of only ever being needed whenever you want?

But let me just say that I take people as they come. No expectations, no special friendship rule book, nothing. If you prove to be someone I can depend on for something or the other, fine. If you remember to even think about me despite whatever you're going through in your own life, I'll be grateful for that. I just believe that most of our dissatisfaction from people stem from expectations we place on them, then we feel hurt and neglected when they don't measure up.

@Jay bee
You might want to explain this a little better

[quote]How would you handle a situation where one of these numerous "defined role play" friends of yours start developing the feeling of only ever being needed whenever you want?[/b]

But let me just say that I take people as they come. No expectations, no special friendship rule book, nothing.
If you prove to be someone i can depend on for something or the other, fine. If you remember to even think about me inspite of whatever you're going through in your own life, I'll be grateful for that.
I just believe that most of our dissatisfaction from people stem from expectations we place on them, then we feel hurt and neglected when they don't measure up.

I think the problem with this post lies in assuming that material support is the most worthy thing to give a friend.
There's emotional support and loyalty, things some people hold high above other things.
So from different people, there are varying things to get. From one man I can trust to help when I have material need, from another I can count on for emotional support, and other can give me a good time when I'm bored senseless. And yet from a few I can count on to always have my back(unwavering loyalty).
Figure out what roles your friends play in your life, and stop expecting that everyone is capable of giving back as much as you are able to give so you stop feeling short changed when it doesn't happen.

dagr8: And you don't need money to have a great family ....Are they things?

You do realize that 'thing' isn't used to denote only objects, right?

New age--Laura Sullivan, Enya, Yanni
In that order

FrancisTony: Yeah! That should be after my exam but I'll still be updating it like once in a week right now.

Great

@Mynd, you just need people.

FrancisTony: @Uj_sizzle, I'm still trying and it's not working. Just new in the system.

Nl absence made me to create it.

I noticed. Do you plan to keep up with it?


Just tweak around a bit. Editing your posts shouldn't be difficult though.

dagr8: Thank you Mynd jare

Haba,I am not related to Suarez and I didn't bite anybody, yet antispambot ban me

Good morning everybody...
I was expecting to see Ihedinobi3

@Uj_sizzle @your_siggy...You will need money to do/have most of these important things

You don't need money to have great friends

FrancisTony: I don't know O. I'll try or I may republish it.

You must have turned off comments for that post then. When you edit, look for that option too (turn on comments for this post), then adjust it. And erm paragraph your post, will you

FrancisTony: Wow! Thanks for stopping by. Posted it in Uncategorised section but when I tried moving it to Education, it got locked. Would try to fix it later. Thanks once again.

Just edit the post, scroll down to categories, uncheck uncategorized, and check education. Then click publish.

But that still doesn't explain why there's no comment box on that post

FrancisTony! Checked out your blog, nice
Would have left a comment on your exam post, but I think your comment is turned off. Fix it? Your theme's great too

Hehehe funny people

I'm actually a lot more concerned about those posts I've liked in the past not showing up on my 'liked posts'. These are people I want to quote tomorrow

[quote author=][color=#000030]Fifa releases a cheat code to bite with suarez, on playstation. [/color][/quote]guy you don madt

Someone buy that guy a muzzle

Vivly: If old pictures and deactivated accounts can resurface, then there is need for concern.

My point exactly.

FrancisTony: All my post, diary, topic is gone. I lost over 6,500 post and 43topics.

Yipee. Striktlymi and joshthefirst is back.

Awww pele

So we old diarylanders are the only ones on ground

Most entertaining match I've seen so far. Musa sure put all that speed to good use this time

Never mind I don't feel very safe here anymore

FrancisTony: The worst is that itstex is gone and texanomaly is back.

lol all is swell. It's still her

Knock knock!!!!

@Ty aren't you the analyst. Are you sure i don't know you? Thank you for understanding the whole point of this, not everyone is blessed with the rare gift of perception



@Crackhaus, it isn't about who gains and who loses. It's about fixing it. If we all continue to point accusing fingers then the problem won't go away. If you see something as a vice, you should try to rid yourself and the society of it not encourage it.
Are you going to justify your actions/behaviour based on what you consider wrong, then go ahead to condemn said wrong?
If you encourage it, then you are part of the problem.
If you are part of the problem, then you can also be a part of the solution.


Sorry folks, if i made my stand straightforward then there would be no need for a discussion, would there?

I think Ty has explained this well enough though. So go back and read again if ypu wish.





Now Ty, lets talk......

jay bee: Unbalance equation ma'am when choice gets thrown into it


The wealthy guy will almost certainly get more offers from would be gold diggers whereas the gold digger only has the wealthy dude as the only option.

Your equation will bring about jealousy and in turn depression

I did make mention of the possibility of the benefits each derieve from the other being skewed

But really, the whole point of this was to tell guys not to encourage what they consider bad and then complain afterwards. If you don't like something, you either change it or ignore it. Don't embrace and cry

Lol you guys need to ignore the title of the thread, it was supposed to get your attention. Do you people even buy newspapers at all

crackhaus: Yea well, there were some valid statements hidden in there though, so I guess some people chose to argue using validation as the 'fulcrum' and then work up from there.
I did the opposite as did some of the other posters.

Oh and by the way, this one got me laughing... "men should chase money so women can chase us...and we stop complaining" , or something like that you wrote.

I guess there are different ways to look at it


@Bolded, you do know i was referring to those men who believe their wealth is all they have to offer, and the women who believe the wealth is all they need They'll balance each other out until one sect decide to have more sense

@Crackhaus I'm not fighting any battles lol. I try to understand people's motivations is all. Didn't expect half the population to agree with me really
I'm even surprised some people agreed sef

jay bee: Why can't all of that be achieved singly without having the need to rely on someone else with a promise of love to achieve them?

I mean all these are common goals each and every human being make at any point in their respective lives. The key difference is the self worth and so called happiness derived from achieving these goals is of importance only to the person setting the goals.

What gives?

Some people are either too lazy to bother, or have never in their lives been instilled with the discipline to work....who know?

Lol I bet a woman who hustles to secure a 'big' man will pat herself on the back when she succeeds

@Ty, i never said she was going to stay happy, did i? All i said was that the feeling is present at some point however momentarily



Tywin wasn't as smart as Tyrion