Ishilove: Op, I don't know what you're talking about. One of my closest friends is a guy who I've known for 15yrs now( since secondary school). He lectures in Canada now, but not once has there ever been any awkwardness between us. There is almost nothing we can't tell each other, and never once have we ever had the issues you mentioned. He's a friend and a brother, and our friendship waxes stronger.

Caracta: It's working for me. I must be lucky.

To each his own. I take people as individuals, I don't judge them based on what a theory says about a particular gender.

Mynd_44:

This is a simple state of balance. You just said the man gives physical support and the woman gives emotional right? But what if the guys gives all the physical support and the woman gives zilch? That is when the though of being used come in

shaggy007: You guyz have made very nice points. But let me tell you what is really going on. Guys don't change, girls don't change. They are simply being their true selves.

Why I emphasized oh the word "true" is because most people lead fake lives. No woman will want to be a friend with a brokeass, ugly, unintelligent mofo. Like wise, no guy will want to be friends with the same type of girl (brokeass, ugly...).

Now, in order to balance the equation, guys pretend to be whom they are not...prince charming, gentleman, rich...blablabla...
And girls pretend to be what they are not...golden girls, with wide hips and full b00bs, speak in a weird accent, try to belong...blablabla.

When push comes to shove, everyone will go back to being him/Herself...The inconsiderate sex-starved, money hungry...blablabla person that they are.

I dont know why people pretend to be who/what they are not, just to be accepted in the society?

How long can you pretend?

Why don't you try to be your true selves and damn the consequences leading to inferiority complex.

You'll fell better that way with less and lesser headaches.

satanist:

DickDastardly:

Mynd are you by any means encouraging guys not to help sisters in need? That the assistance must always be rewarded in kind? What is the world turning into? What of the part of the bible that says "give alms to the needy".
If i so wish i can sponsor a poor girl to the University and wont even think of her pants, as God's reward is the best!
Please this thread will only incite good guys to be wicked and withdraw their aid to poor girls they have hitherto helped. Thanks

Caracta:

Yes o. Two mature adults can make things happen.


Lol @ 'cross gender'

Mynd_44:
This is not about right and wrong. This about the continous programming of the mind of girls that guys won't do you a favor without wanting sex

napema: Friendship between a girl and a boy doesn´t exist because one of them will need sex.

JeffreyJamez: I can relate to this post.... And dude..... It's Spot on !!!!!

They will be "brother-zoning" "friendzoning" and "twinny-zoning"..... But guys who they consider sharp guys would be breaking their hearts and they will come running back to us.... Mcheeew...

Anyhoo...... Cross-gender friendships can work if the" giving and taking" is equal, but if it's one-sided, that's just plain evil!!!!

DickDastardly: Mynd are you by any means encouraging guys not to help sisters in need? That the assistance must always be rewarded in kind? What is the world turning into? What of the part of the bible that says "give alms to the needy".
If i so wish i can sponsor a poor girl to the University and wont even think of her pants, as God's reward is the best!
Please this thread will only incite good guys to be wicked and withdraw their aid to poor girls they have hitherto helped. Thanks

satanist:
I actually thought ynd was refering to transgenders ay first............... well i dont have any female friends, so i cam't say........

Caracta:

We all know you are gay

Lacombre: A very poor attempt at trying to paint most male folks as the victims.
The male friend gives his physical support,the female her emotional support. But here it is obviously downgraded.
This is a one-sided biased myopic article...

tintingz:

Cross-gender friendship can only work out successfully without no "what-do-I-get-in-returning-thingy" is when the boy and the girl know each other right from childhood.