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Here is a complete list of insurance companies in Nigeria and their coverage.
Top among the list are AIICO, Leadway, AXA Mansard, Custodian and Allied, Cornerstone, Royal Exchange, etc

Complete List of Insurance Companies in Nigeria

Here is a complete list of insurance companies in Nigeria and their coverage.
Top among the list are AIICO, Leadway, AXA Mansard, Custodian and Allied, Cornerstone, etc

Complete List of Insurance Companies in Nigeria

Please, read this first

https://www.knowseeker.com/2020/04/reasons-why-male-doctors-are-naturally-considered-flirts-promiscuous_6.html

Here are some real reasons why men cheat => https://www.knowseeker.com/2020/08/the-psychology-behind-why-men-cheat-and.html

Looking at it from the broad perspective, marrying an older lady has its own pros and cons. But from the cultural perspective, some cultures are somewhat against it, though not directly.
In my own opinion, it is best to marry someone younger because of one important reason. Ageing soon sets on women, even faster than it does for men. A woman of 40 could look even older than a man of 45. So I think it is naturally important to factor this before getting married to an older woman.

However, socially, there is nothing actually wrong with that. If there is commitment and love, and money like someone mentioned, it can still work. But make sure you read up the pros and cons here

Here
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Ephraimryder:
Love this quote,it's actually on the first page of my business dairy.

That quote actually makes me emotional sometimes, then I realize anyone can achieve what he truly wants.
I'm pleased to meet you, Ephraimryder

Sometimes, I'd say love does not exist. Other times, I'd say it does. It's not because I don't know what to believe but I've come to find out that there are different perspectives to love.

In sustaining a relationship, so many things are involved. But the simple way I define love is "commitment". The butterfly feelings may soon pass away but commitment makes you stay no matter what happens. I wrote a post about 5 reasons why my girlfriend dumped me, and in that post you will learn a lot about why I think just that emotional kind of love is not enough.

I have other articles about this topic you just raised but let me stop here for now.

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"All men are cheats, all men are flirts, all men are liars, all men are everything bad". So the very experienced ladies would say.

Is it true or just an arbitrary statement from a few women who had their own experiences concerning men's sexual behaviour while in a relationship?

The one that shocks me more is when women say they are afraid of male doctors because not only are they too notorious for flirting but are also badly known for promiscuity. However, being a doctor, I decided to write my logical take on this matter.

Do you want to know why it seems like doctors flirt more? This link will truly satisfy your curiousity.

Parents would always insist that they love all children equally. Maybe they say that because they think they are actually fair in their dealings with their children or, they just want to say that to avoid conflict. But studies have shown that many families have parents, either one or both, who show favouritism in the way they deal with their children. The value of 99% may not have been explicitly verified yet but the true values from families that my team and I sampled were close to what I just gave.

Sometimes, it is intentional with some factors surrounding this decision but most other time, they are not aware that they are directly or indirectly causing more harm than good in the family.

Many homes have disintegrated or less severely been torn apart because of the feeling that one or both parents love one child more than the others. Scholars of the Christian Bible would also agree that a certain son of the patriarch Jacob called Joseph was hated because the father loved him more than the rest of the children.

The way you would view this information presented in this post would depend on your position in the family, whether you are the favourite child or the victim child. But whichever you are, you will learn how to deal with it in order to maintain peace with your other siblings and not let your parents get in the way of your unity for their own selfish desires.

If you are the victim of this, you should have known how it feels to be seen as the bad egg for no reason other than the fact that you are simply not your parent's favourite child. Your parent's favourite sibling would be free to do whatever he/she wants and go scot-free with it while you face charges for even lesser offences. Most favourite children end up being the spoilt brats of the house, without having to care much about the dos and the don'ts.

Most of the time, the favourite child would not even notice anything. They would sometimes think you are just over-reacting to simple things without realizing that you are expressing how you feel you are being treated in the family.

Here are some experiences of people who have noticed the favouritism to their sibling(s) while they were the victims. One noticeable trend you would see, mothers seem to display preference more obviously and this may probably be because she is the closest parent.

I was just an unfortunate one in my family. My mum thinks I hate my younger brother and no matter what I do, as long as it has anything to do with him, I would always be the wrong person. I was always being watched from a distance as if my parents were envisaging something rash from me. He is actually younger than me but the preference was just so obvious.

B.J, Nigeria

My younger sister was more like my mum - they were both soft-spoken, mild-mannered and didn't disagree with anyone or stick up for themselves. My sister was content to sit around all day without doing anything much while I had the energy of 10 extra kids.

ScarryMommy.com

I am a 22-year-old female who was kicked out of my mum's house in early 2017 over a $.50 honey bun. I tried reaching her on mothers' day and left a message after the third ring. But she never called back. I later found out from my grandma what my mother feels.

A.N, USA


One question you would begin to ask is, why do parents have a favourite child? Mom would claim she loves everyone equally but you as the victim child sees the obvious difference. Before we go on to talk about how to deal with this prevalent possibility, let us see why parents make a favourite child over the others.

Why Parents Make a Favourite Child
It seems natural to love some people so dearly and hate others so passionately, isn't it? But if you want to be a free person, and minimize trouble and conflicts, you must be deliberate in your attempt to love all people equally or at least, not show that you are not practising favouritism.

However, 99% of parents who would let their favouritism get in the way of their children's unity intentionally or non-intentionally, never came across the methods of hiding their preference.

Some of these parents have a very rough time while growing up with their own parent(s) too but they just didn't find ways to avoid the doing the same to their own children.

Here are some reasons why parents have a favourite child:

Birth circumstances and childhood illness
Children who narrowly escaped childhood illnesses and who have some underlying birth history are usually considered to be very fragile and need extra protection and care. If you noticed that you are always protected and guarded against things and people you think you can personally handle, your parents may just be considering you too fragile to deal with things on your own.

These may extend to the relationship between your siblings, such that, you begin to feel that your parent(s) considers you a threat to their beloved fragile child. They don't care much about you because they know you can handle things your self, or so they choose to think.

Obedience to instructions
A more obedient child has more chances of being preferred to other children but this does not always follow. Sometimes, the most obedient child may just be the least preferred as he keeps trying hard to please the parent into loving him too, absolutely to no avail. It is painful to see that you are trying to please your parents just because you want their love, but it should never be so.

Lack of forgiveness of some past offences
Some parents would choose never to forget some wrongs you may have done some years ago. They just want to use as it a justifiable reason to hate you for. This lack of forgiveness is not always the primary reason, there is usually an underlying lack of preference for you even before you committed your wrong.

Marital circumstances
Do you know anyone who is born out of wedlock and having to leave with a step-mom? Or someone who was born to a man who had to leave your mother without settling with her? The experience is not always interesting, you'd agree.

Birth position in the family
Generally, the youngest child is often given more preferential treatments in the home by virtue of the fact that this child depends on the parents for safety. Lastborns are most vulnerable but they receive their most support from the elder ones and parents. Almost every time, they become the favoured child, except in rarer cases when another child would.

Lack of conflict resolution skills
Parents who have poor conflict resolution skills may just be displaying favouritism without even knowing it. Sometimes, they get overwhelmed with conflicts amongst the children at which point they may just settle conflict cases in favour of the more vulnerable or stronger person as the case may be.

Conflict resolution both in the home and outside the home entails that both sides of the conflict do not feel cheated or feel as if they are hated. Conflicts, when well resolved bring about more lasting peace among the conflicting parties afterwards, but when it is done carelessly or without the right skills, it can break up people who have peacefully co-existed previously.

At this point, I will go on to how you can deal with having a parent(s) who have you or your sibling as a favourite child. Not handling this properly has damaged many families, torn siblings against each other and made newer generations of children to maintain a trend of hatred for their cousins.


How To Deal With Having Parents Who Have a Favorite Child
If you are a parent, the whole cycle probably begins with you. You must consciously learn to love all your children equally or at least, not obviously show that you love one more. It is okay to have a favourite child but you must never let that get in the way of your children's relationship.


If you are the victim of favouritism, below are something you can do to maintain peace and also be happy with yourself;

Learn to flow with your parent(s) without causing a stir
This may not be very easy, but you would have to remind yourself that you won't always be with them forever or tell yourself that the ills of today cannot affect where your purpose lies. Learn to translate every one of your feelings to positive energy, by obeying your seemingly "partial" parent without obviously showing your grievances.

When they begin to make up things to victimize you with, learn to use words or gestures that would turn their heart over without knowing it.

Just obey your parent(s) as much as you can
Yes, you would become the slave of the house. Having to do everything possible if the other child(ren) so wishes for you. They seem like the lord over you but one thing you must realize is that all of that makes you a better person. It makes you more independent and capable of handling your own affairs.

It may try to have a very negative impact on the way you live, think or feel. It may affect how people see you or relate with you. People may hate you or preferentially love your "more favoured" sibling to save their face before your parents but you must not let that get to you. If you cannot stand it, then you must avoid clashes with the people who do not like you because of your circumstance in your family.

Avoid conflicts with the favourite sibling
You already know such conflicts will never end in your favour as long as your parent has a favourite child. So you must try your best to avoid every conflict with them or anything close to that.

Discuss with your sibling about how you feel
If you are the older one or you are in a position to do so, sit your sibling down for a discussion and tell them how you feel. This usually has two major outcomes. It reassures your sibling that you do not have negative feelings against them and secondly, it makes you to better handle it when another occurrence of favouritism comes.

A story here, of someone who totally mastered handling this issue of parental favouritism, showed how the victim(a lady) even laughs with the more preferred sibling even while their parent displays her acts of preferential treatments. They have obviously turned it into another reason to be closer to each other than being farther apart.

Move out of the home if you can
If you think you can't handle it anymore, you may have to stay away for a while on your own

If you have what it takes to take care of yourself, you should just find your way out of the common home you share with your immediate family, while you visit them every once in a while to check up on them or bring gifts to them. The aim is finding ways not to cause more disunity and so you must always let it be.

Peacefully confront your parents if you think they would listen
This is almost always not useful though because most parents do not think you are right about your claims of loving one child over you. Maybe they are not intentionally doing so, but if you think your parent(s) would listen, there is no harm in trying to explain to them how you truly feel politely.

If you are the child who receives the attention, or you just realized that you are the favoured child, here are some things to do to protect your other siblings who are more negatively affected, bearing in mind that it may have an outcome that may negatively affect you too.

Give respect to whom it is due
You must learn to respect your sibling and obey them if they are older than you. If you are older than, you must also learn to give them their due respect so that they can fully rule out that you are not the one to blame for all the misfortune.

You must realise that someday, you all will disperse away from your parents' home. How your relationship will be then, will depend on your current relationship with them now.

Withdraw when your other sibling is actually over-reacting

When you think you are possibly going to be the reason why your parents would lash out on your other sibling(s), withdraw from the case even if they are guilty. By doing so, you reduce the chances of them linking your parent's subsequent assaults with you.

Discuss with your parents about what you think, if you think you can
if you feel you are being seen as the over-protected, more preferred child, you can talk to your parents to reduce how they make the rest of your siblings think so.

You can ask them to avoid interfering with arguments, or conflicts involving you and your other siblings. But only do this if you feel confident that it will end positively. After all, you also do not want to sell off the favours you now receive to someone else while you become the new victim. Funny, but true.

Parental preference for one or more child is a reality many children have woken up to realise. The outcomes are usually disastrous with loss of family bonding. Newer generations of the family keep diverging away from each other with relatively no good to talk about each other.

Efforts must be made to reduce parental preference and encourage universal love as much as possible within the family.

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This post will show you ways to maximize your time to improve yourself.

When I was in college, I imagined a lot of things. The journey through secondary school education was one that seemed so long that I thought it would never come to an end. But on second thought, I realized that people have gone through the same school I imagined would never end. And the next morning, it was my graduation.

Things we consider long are not really as long as they are. If you cast your mind back to the last New Year day celebration, it seems like yesterday, right? I feel that too. My graduation seemed just like yesterday after it happened.

And thereafter, a few months after, I was in university. The final year in the university seemed like a light-year away, long enough to witness my grey-headedness and wrinkling. But little did I know that my thoughts were merely an over-exaggeration of something that would come and go in a jiffy.

The cycles of day and night are the constant cycles that distinctly separates days apart, months from the others and years past from the present. However, these boundaries are only imaginary and time-based, in the sense that, each day smoothly flows into the next without any major leap done.

More understanding of time is required for you to achieve your fullest with the time you have as a human. You may be tempted to believe that there is a lot of time left but successful people realise that time never really waits or crawls as others may think.

In this post, I am going to show you some ways in which successful people maximize their time and use the cyclical timelines of day and night, months and years to drive towards more excellence.


How Successful People Gets Better By The Earth Cycles
Among some of the things successful people do, is their importance of time management. Here are some things they do to ensure that they harness the rapidly-changing nature of the time of day and night to maximize their potentials within the short time frame they realize that they have;

They set the cycles as time targets
If there were no clocks and hour-glasses, the length of daytime and nighttime would have been the best and only measure of time. Successful people set time landmarks for their achievements and work ways to meet their timed-targets. For example, setting your next birthday as a new landmark for achieving a particular feat in your life, or giving yourself a fixed target to do something or to complete a task.

They do not waste precious time
By realising that time is not really as long as it seems, successful people have learnt to discipline themselves to maximize their time for productivity. Twenty four hours may seem like a very long time indeed, but after doing the mathematics, subtracting your sleeping time, leisure time, feeding and resting times, away from it, what is actually left is actually shorter than you will ever imagine.

People who know this also know that there is not enough time to waste on frivolities. They would even go on to buy some more time from some activities of the day they would otherwise consider normal, like night sleep.

They keep working on themselves each day
Every day is a blessing, a new day to learn new things. When you bear at the back of your mind that the next year would come earlier than you think, you also realise that the little things you do today very powerfully affect your future because truthfully, the distance between now and your future is no so distinct as you would think.

They look forward more than they look behind them
Looking back too much is a mere waste of time. What cannot be repealed or changed should be allowed to slip on as soon as possible. If for any reason, you want to look behind you, it should be for learning some important lessons that you think will be beneficial to your success in the future that is actually like tomorrow.


They realise time does not stand still
Tick tick, says the clock. Sometimes, one would just wish the clock would just stop for a moment but wishes don't always come true, do they? By knowing fully that the clock does not and never will take a break, they have also learnt to be active and productive round the clock.


They take some time to enjoy the present
Productivity is maximally enhanced when the body is refreshed in between work. Rest and sleep in controlled amounts are extremely important for your productivity. Leisure like seeing a movie, reading a novel, or going for hiking, cycling or anything you consider refreshing is a way to relax the nerves and rejuvenate your mental circuits.

Successful people also know that they must set a time to rest within the twenty-four hours they have in a day because of course, there are no other twenty fours anywhere else.


They learn that some things have seasons
The earth is programmed to rotate about its orbit and revolve around the sun and nothing is going to change that. The orderly nature of these planetary activities also sets up a natural clock for those who are keen enough to understand it.

Seasons are also determined by these planetary changes and that directly or indirectly regulates when some human activities should be done for maximal productivity. For example, successful people know that in summer, some activities would be more successful if they are done at that time than at any other time of the year.


How To Maximize Your Time As A Successful Person
Here are some ways they achieve their quest of controlling time and maximizing the time they have. Some of them are already stated in the previous section but in this section, I will be specifically highlighting some things you can do to maximize your time:

Set daily goals
It is not enough to set long-term goals. Segmenting your long-term goals into daily tasks ensures that you achieve your goal(s). The future does not come without today, therefore, you must learn to make your single days as productive as possible.

Avoid wasting time for long non-useful discussions
Spending time discussing important topics is never considered a waste of time but doing the same talking about matters that are not going to help you or someone else achieves a collective goal is considered a total waste of time.

Spend your time with the right people
Time spent with the right company is a seed that births your great dreams and ambitions into the world of fruition. In other words, you benefit a lot when you are with the right people, those who will nurture your dreams and potentials. But spending time with the wrong people corrupts your mindsets and adulterates your passions. The first step is to identify the right company.

Discuss ideas, not people
Great minds discuss ideas and not people. Apart from the hard feelings, someone who is being discussed negatively has when they find out, discussing people and finding occasions to criticize takes the radar off you, such that you forget what you should do to improve your life while you give yourself the comforting excuse that you are not alone in the business of committing wrongs and making mistakes.

Be up and doing
Do one thing at a time, and you must be caught doing something at every time. Idleness permits that you have a time when you are doing nothing other than thinking about some past events. Yeah, that's what an idle mind does; thinks about the past, how he has failed. Successful minds have idle moments too but in actual sense, these are not actually idle because they engage in thoughtful processes to be more productive and enhance their productivity.

Even if it will be your time for leisure and movies, just learn to be always caught doing something.

Know when to stop and be disciplined about it

The truth is, whether we admit it or not, everyone becomes of guilty of conscious time-wasting activities, some of which I have highlighted above, but you must discipline yourself to know when to stop. Sometimes, you deliberately, but almost uncontrollably overflow your own time limit. At these times, you must be ready to pay for the time you wasted with the time for other activities of your day that can afford to be sacrificed. The ideal thing, however, is that you are disciplined enough to prevent eating into your work time with your playtime.

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Steven Paul Jobs, founder of Apple Inc.

"Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels,

the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes,

the ones who see things differently,

they are not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status quo,

you can quote them, disagree with them, glorify them or vilify them,

but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things,

they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as crazy, we see genius,

because the people who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do."

Steve Jobs


The founder of Apple Inc was someone who was known for his dogmatic resilience in changing the world of mobile computing and I have come to really loved so much. Though he is gone, memories of his impact in the world keeps making me remember him.

Jobs, who died on October 5, 2011, at the age of 56, was someone who saw things differently in the sphere of technology. His invention of the Apple II, and the revolutionization of the Macintosh gave way to the introduction of many new products that keeps the world longing for more.

Not only did the Iphone and Apple laptops change the world of computing, but these products gave way to the introduction of many other lines of new inventions.

Apart from introducing stylish fonts, touchscreen devices, handheld music players(the IPod), the Apple keeps on setting the pace because Jobs focused on one thing; making the computer an extension of the person no matter what it would cost.


The quote in the beginning not only motivates me but it also makes me emotional for some unknown reasons, partly resulting for my new-found love for the Apple CEO of very blessed memory.

He recounted the crazy, misfits, troublemakers and all such things everyone would consider inappropriate but his point here remains one of the strongest motivation, if seen the right way.


"You can choose to glorify them or vilify them" but you cannot ignore them. Jobs is not referring to people who make a difference as the worst criminals. He is not talking about people who are different from the rest of the world around them by being dubious or deceitful. He doesn't refer to the black sheeps as the world changers. But what he meant was those who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world.

Do you know why it has to be a crazy idea to think that you can change the world?

The world is really a big place, really big. I just kinda wonder how possible it is to change the world, not to consider when it is to be done by one person. That's almost an impossible task but Jobs insists that there are some crazy people, those who are "crazy" enough to think that they can change the world, that can actually cause the change.


The world is not looking for sane people who will never see it beyond some sets of protocols of life cycles till death and bye.

The world does not want people who are too full of understanding that the world is too large to be changed.

Jobs chose to prove geography wrong that the 7.8 billion people spanning over the 149 million square kilometres, can be affected by a single person, either singly or cumulatively. But only a crazy person would choose to believe that.


The world is already full of people who are afraid to do new things but the change we all need comes only from those who are willing to cause a change, by thinking differently and doing things differently from the world out there.


Have you ever being praised for not being different, flow with the crowd? Be happy about that a little, but you also need to be worried. Have you ever been mocked and rejected for being a misfit, not because you are notorious for some evil acts, but that you are stubborn to pursue what you truly believe in? Never give up. This is the kind of crazy people that would change the world.


Steve Jobs, though gone will continue to remain a motivation through this quote to millions of lives including you and I. He also said "I will put a dent in the universe" and guess what. He actually did.

And even in the end, I still can't get over the emotions when I read the line again "...because the people who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world actually do".

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Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

I love you so much and I am going to tel you the truth. Love can sometimes overshadow right judgment.
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Take a look at these 12 signs that show if your boyfriend truly loves you and make your decision on where exactly is your position in his life and this will help you to be focused as to concentrate on the love or move on to secure a better relationship that has something positive to offer you.
Signs that show if your boyfriend truly loves you


1. Communication: If your guy really loves you, he will want to communicate with you at every point in time no matter what. He will talk more often to you than any other person in his life, even his friends will receive much less communication than he talks to you.

2. He gets captivated by you: Have you ever caught him in the act staring at you when you’re busy doing something else? It’s a sure sign that he really loves you and he want to get more of you and can’t wait till you’re free.

3 He can go all the way for you: if a man truly loves you, he can do all things for you to make you happy at all time even if it’s something he does not enjoy doing ordinarily. He can even go all the way with you to the market and help you in your shopping.

4 Together time matters to him:
A guy will go all the way to look for how he can spend more time with you than any other person in his life, spending time with his best friends or family will surely take a back seat and the time he’ll be spending with you will take the front seat.

5 The impression Continues: The impression he gave you that won you over will not stop after you’ve become his girlfriend, he will continue to make it happen again and again and even extend it to your family members as well.

6. He Loves hugging you: He will hug you for no reason at all and hold you more than a few seconds thanking you for being part of his life though he may not open his mouth to say this but right there in his mind he is making the statement.

8. Your thoughts always on his mind: He can’t stop thinking of you always because he has you as top priority in his life. For you to know this, call on his attention at times when you know he will be busy doing something elsewhere to come assist you in sorting something out, he will go all the way to come around and help you out.

9. He flaunts you: Because he loves you, he can talk about you in the presence of any damsel that he knew before and make you proud because he is sure of his love for you, something guys who don’t really love you cannot do.

10. He let out his secrets: He will share with you the secret he has never shared with anyone before, the secret that he’s afraid of telling his friends so that he will not be mocked. He will be opened to let you know those secrets because he trust and love you.

11. He’s not judgmental: He will not scold you even if you’ve done something wrong, he will just let you understand in a friendly manner what you have done and at times he may even try to pull your leg but is just to make fun of it.

12. He’s changed his world: If a guy truly loves you, he won’t mind changing his lifestyle all because of you, he can miss a crucial game of football that even you yourself know very well that he loves. He can as well miss a movie he wants to watch and put you first to attend to your need before his.


So, if you have a guy that does all these do not think twice about his love for you

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Also check out these 21 signs that someone loves you
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kingsmonology:
Is it relevant to know if your guy or girl loves you? I feel someone's heart is popping, because you agree with me. It is very important you know if he or she loves you, yea! As clarifies, love involved emotional predisposition and disposition. So, how then do I know if she or he loves me? By just reading on the below points, these will enable you to ascertain if he or she actually love you.

Is the person happy being around you?
If a person has had a very bad day but lights up when you come around, that's a sign of love. If he/she is in love with you then the sight of you or your voice is guaranteed to make him or her feel better. To be sure, see how s/he reacts the next time you show up when s/he was in a bad mood.

Does the person say "I love you" and means it?
If your romantic partner really loves you and tells you this much while looking into your eyes, sounding earnest, and not wanting anything from you, then it's likely that s/he really means it. If the person undeniably loves you, then s/he will say it for no reason at all, not just because s/he needs a favor or because it feels like the right thing to say. However, remember that there is a big difference between "Love yea!" and "I love you."

Can the person honestly be him/herself around you?
When someone loves you, he completely opens up to you. If you get to see a whole side of that person that he/she doesn’t show the public that may be a love sign. For instance, if your partner is pretty serious or polite in public, but shows a more goofy and silly side when you're alone, then she or he is really opening up to you and loves you. If the person shares his/her deepest emotions with you and is comfortable with it, then that is love. If the person is also being comfortable not looking perfect, tripping, or having food stuck in his or her teeth around you, that means s/he is okay if you see every side of him or her.

How does the person look at you?
There is that stir that someone gives you that melts your soul. You can check your loved one's face the next time you see him/her… does he/she look at you in a goofy, watery, silly and adorable way that can only be described as "godly-eyed"? You will know it when you see it. You won't get this look all the time — you can spot it in the morning, or randomly across the dinner table. You may also be able to catch the person staring at you with the same expression.

Does the person talk about your future together?
If the person talks about the future and always includes you in it, then there is a good chance s/he truly loves you because true commitment means seeing a forever with another person. If the person routinely talks about what you're going to do in the future, about what your lives will look like one, two, or even ten years in the future together, what your kids will look like, where you will retire together, or where you will go for your honeymoon, then he is probably in love with you.

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tizzyhands:
How to know a guy truly loves you
Signs he loves you truly insanely are the major signs to watch out for to know if he actually cherishes you deeply. Do most women want to be sure if their boyfriend truly loves them by asking them “do you really love me”? Others tend to ask, what really do you love or see in me that makes you get attracted to me?

Signs he loves you truly
Also, no woman wants to waste her precious time in a relationship that appears bleak or a guy who is doesn’t care in giving everything. I can assure you after reading this article, you’ll wish you had known this earlier to be certain that your guy truly loves you to the moon. Here are the 23 signs he loves you truly deeply:

He tends to distance himself from you

You might be thinking this is absurd but I can assure you it is one of those signs he loves you truly madly to the core. A guy who is confused about his feelings or doesn’t understand what is going deep within his heart may see himself giving you more space than usual. Never panic as he is not drifting away from you but he is just preparing to give you that diamond ring to make you his entire world.

He quickly replies your text

Why panic when you just send your hubby a sweet text like “hey my jewel, are you back from work?” and he tends to reply you he is home in less than 2 seconds? He might even tell you he is even preparing delicious delicacy for you both to enjoy the dinner together and eventually ends the text by telling you he misses you. This is one of those clear signs he loves you to the moon and he can’t afford to delay even for a second without replying his pearl.

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importexpert:
Most ladies are confused about the way their partners relate with them. Just as people have always said it is difficult to understand women, it seems women are having a difficult time recognizing if their man loves them or not. If you are a lady, here are a few hints to know that your man is head-over-heels in love with you.

1. He loves to stare at you:

This is not the usual I-want-to-take-you-to-bed-and-get-naughty kind of look. Yes, men have high libido. But when your man loves you, he may not be able to say it repeatedly as he feels it. So instead, he takes a look at you and wonders within himself how lucky he is to be able to have a damsel like you. That is a very little, yet special way he adores you. Don’t freak out if you catch him staring. It’s just one of his weird ways of showing love.

2. He cannot stay angry with you for long:

Most men will agree with this. If you offend your man, sometimes, he gets hurt that you are the one that hurts him. Yea, that’s true. This makes him want to settle with you. But trust we men with ego, we will rarely come out straight. He will find a way to establish communication with you and give you the opportunity to apologize. That’s when you will hear, “I mistakenly dialled your number thinking it was Ebuka. Anyway, how are you?” And once you apologize, he accepts immediately.

3. He shares his future plan with you:

When a man does not love a woman, she has to beg him to know what the future is like about the two of them. You know why he lets her beg? Because he actually doesn’t have one. But if your man loves you, he is the one that will engage you on his future plans. Even if he never had one before, your presence in his life will make him want to sit up. And when he shares that future with you, know that he does so because he sees you in it and wants to build it with you.

4. He creates time for you:

There is a difference between someone who hangs out with you when they are free and someone who creates time to hang out with you. Your man is the first type of man but also the second man. He may be busy, but you’d be surprised at how he creates time out of his busy schedule to talk to you. He has come to enjoy your company that one of the way he relaxes by having you around. If he does that, appreciate him. It means he values you greatly.

5. He starts to like your flaws:

This is weird but it is one of the things that you will see in a man that loves his woman. He will stop trying to change you. He will no longer make an attempt to get angry when he sees your flaws. Instead, he laughs over it and accepts you completely. That’s when you will hear him say, “When you’re angry with me and start talking about it, you need to see your face. You always look so cute.”

6. He shows you off to anybody that cares to listen:

When your man loves you deeply, you are no longer his secret affair. You are now his open secret. He lets you know how precious you are to him. Not only that, he talks so highly of you among his friends that he makes them wish you were theirs. And rarely does he talk you down in the presence of his friends, even if you both have an issue at hand.

7. He is interested in your progress:

That’s right! He will want to know how your day went, what your short term goals are, what dreams you have etc. And he is not just interested in them; he becomes your greatest cheerleader. You can count on him to encourage you to fulfil your dreams. Why? Because deep within him is a satisfaction that comes from seeing the smile on your face when you have achieved your dreams.
So ladies, if you ever find this kind of man as your partner, never let him go because such men are rare.
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