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Jupxter:
No matter the assets a lady commands, no matter her beauty or intelligence, if she has terrible character. It's a no-brainer. We need to move !

Dude, thanks for this men. I celebrate you

tosyne2much:
Upbringing is a very vital thing and it's something guys should never despise when choosing a lady. It's upbringing that makes many lady behave the way they do.

But they don't care to understand this little thing.

Jupxter:
I agree. One of the features i look in a lady is her character. The character can't be hidden for too long. And character is a product of a lady's association and upbringing, we shouldn't invest too much time on people that are less-deserving. Spot ladies with issues, no need trying to save if there's unwilligness on her part to make changes, we need to move on. No time to check time bro. Wedding bells ringing soon. I can feel it

lol too much

tosyne2much:
My brother, you should have known that ladies normally take good men for granted and from my little experience and observation, I see that some ladies are programmed in such a way that they humble and submit themselves to men who treat them with cruelty but disloyal, disrespectful and disobedient to you even though you try to treat them better than their way all their exes did.

That aside, I think common sense should have let you know that you can't live the rest of your
life with someone like that. I think ladies who exhibit such characters grew up witnessing their mother talking to their father rudely and disrespectfully. When you see a lady that exhibits these kinds of characters, kindly make a little research and you would see the root of the problems is from their homes.

Abeg no time to dey waste on any fruitless relationship

Bro... I told my friend this and he asked me if her mum. And dad usually quarrel I had to. Make out time to ask her this over and over again.
Though her dad is late but she was only 8 then, I know of her mum as someone who won't tall to her husband any how even people affirm to that.
I told her in my own case that till my dad died, I've never heard my mum talk to him with a tone above desired. They lived lovely.
Now I asked her, in this case, the both of our parents never exhibited such attitude, where is this coming from.

I'm actually gathering momentum to let it go despite the difficulty.

Filmewell:
How can you call my opinion a shame. Simply because you have another angle to whole scenario. Mr man or Mrs woman come back here and apologize .I wonder how you cope with your partner when there is disagreement. Am waiting

Lol.. Funny woman

linearity:
It is very difficult though, doing all that you are still stringing along as if all is good, whereas you know that is not the truth.

Alternatively, skipping her birthday altogether, will give her a clue that, all is not good between you guys, and it will provide her with a cushion for the break-off, since she would already have braced herself for 'anything'. And skipping her birthday will also prompt her to confront you on what the issue is and both of can T-off the conversation.

To some extend, it appear that you want to honor the birthday in order to return a favor or pay her nicely due to what she did towards you during your birthday....in that case, why not go the whole length; use the opportunity of the birthday to discuss the issues and give her a second chance. You truly do not have anything to loose by giving her a second chance. If she is not for you, she will still 'mess up' and you can initiate the break-off, but you never know, you said you love her, and there are chances she might change after stirring a potential break-off right in the face, either way, it is a win-win-win......1st win for honoring her birthday and freeing yourself from the guilty; second win for getting your breakdown the road, if the second chance did not work out and the last win for getting the love of your life back if the second chance worked out.

Cool man! Thanks very much for this, well articulated... As a gentle man, I think I will go with the later. But this isn't actually the second time I will be given her a second chance. I keep wondering what kind of person she is, though lovable but after a chance and a way into the next phase, the whole character starts balling again. And u know the worst, she makes it seem I am always on the wringing side. Damn! That actually pisses me off.

You know that moment someone us asking you a question as a doctor and you give him (the patient) a response and he says, I'm not sure it's like that. It is this other way.

linearity:
Why do you want to ‘celebrate’ her birthday and then ‘walk’... That is like pump and dump, if you don’t like her and don’t see any need for the relationship, be man enoug to call her right away and tell her...

don’t wait for her birthday to make her happy, then make her sad days after.

I actually don't mean marking the bday for her, but u know, a kind of send her text, do her a post on fb maybe call and wish her happy birthday and or take her for maybe a bite. That's all.

ayokellany:
@ OP the girl is still young n possibly still looking for what is not lost. Once she finds out there nothing more unique than you out there she will come back. It is now your prerogative to take her back; patiently wait till she's back or move on. But, I will tell you this much never vouch for any girl not with you at any particular moment especially ones that give altitude such as you described about the girl.

When a girl love she won't give you one single trouble. If there is any semblance of complain once raised n parties genuinely in love will resolve it seamlessly. Only unfaithful partners give altitudes n complicates relationship. I wouldn't say I can authoritatively tell your girl is cheat but I will be amazed if she's not.

Any partner uncomfortable leaving his or her phone with a partner over lenghty period are CHEATS. You don't hide phone because you are expecting money or biz call or whatever lies anyone might think of.

Thanks I appreciate this man

AABBIIMM:
I've been there, it's always painful
u believe in developing and shaping her from ur wealth of experience and resources, but she is nagging, contentious, and irritating behaviourally
Sorry, apologies, and soothing words are never in their dictionary.
Bros, dem get spirit husband wey dey worry dem oooo
thank ur stars
block her , cross ur mind and move on.
she'll try to come back by calling after weeks, but their leopard cannot change its spot, neither can u.
bros, move on oooooo
let him that hath ear.......

Thanks for this bro.

bizzy500:
re we fighting..i shld keep quiet ....can u see Where d problem is coming from....i rest my case

Lol... You did not read me well.
I mean, if any one is arguing with me, I just allow the person to talk when he's done he or she keeps qwayet.
Sorry you misunderstood me.

pocohantas:
All these ones na story, once some babes see small foreign currency and the guy be like, 'you're Mazi **** daughter, innit?' . They will just hang leg for burglary proof and volunteer to be homebased wife.

The hustling young man would become filth in their eyes or they can reserve him for servicing purposes when they end up as homebased wives.

Though men have to be careful, some of these babes are no more clueless as you guys think. They have this whole thing planned out. It's a win win for them. They marry you for money and kids, then continue their undercover work while you are in the abroad for over 12mths with your foreign wife.

They all don't remember Jesus is coming one day.

bizzy500:
u yell when u argue right?

Not at all. That's my turn off. I grew up in a military environment... In short I am an ex boy. My tone is naturally kind of fearful when I am angry. But it doesn't get loud. I hate argument so I don't argue. I allow u talk after you are done u keep qwayet

2dice01:
hehehe I laugh in Swahili

Lemme tell you something

She knows you wanna wife her
She knows you can't do without her
She knows you will still come for her(u already doing that indirectly)

You need to upgrade your version bro

Thanks man. But this time around... I've set everything rolling...

bizzy500:
arsenal?maybe dats y she always yelling at u coz arsenal re meant to be yell at"

Not as if I allow it. But I dint say anything as "yell'

Shegzy8:
well think you said it all..you can't live with someone like that, i really think she's been childish and probably been around you makes her misbehave....trust me on this cause some girls do that

Thanks bro

bizzy500:
op ask her if she is a chelsea fan

Lol she's not. she usually claim man u. Maybe I am able to stay all this while cos I am arsenal.

2dice01:
Same girl you are cracking your brain for is busy crushing/smashing some niggä


Dust your shoes... Bro move on

So you mean yon


You owe her Nada

I can vouch for her in this case. She's not smashing no nigga

Shegzy8:
well think you said it all..you can't live with someone like that, i really think she's been childish and probably been around you makes her misbehave....trust me on this cause some girls do that

I see sense in your response.... She told me ones that non of her ex treats her the way I do.
Like non of them. Gives her advice, non even asks if she prays, non ever cookd, all they do is take her out, and don't care about other parts of her life.
And I do all that. But still wonder why she can't just let pride and hauty responds off.

ubunja:
i liked your kind response.
let me give myself time to read it

Thanchu bro

Filmewell:
You don't like her enough for a wife you know it why are giving yourself headache on top her matter.

I do, seriously.. But the temperament and behaviours is just turning me off

ubunja:
u call this epistle "as few words as possible"

Lol, bro, sorry if it bored you. But that's the least way I can express those. This one small Gan.
Please read it I'm sure it's not boring.

Hello great people.
I just want to in a few words as possible articulate my issue.
I got to know this girl through a housemate when I went offshore. He told me that she used to be his childhood girlfriend and all that.

I actually told him that I need a good girl to marry, she should be tall, fair, a graduate and outspoken and not a slott he now brought the girls issue. I asked for her contact, he refused to give it to me. As a gentle guy na I ignored him. This guy will always come to me and ask me for my phone to make call after the days work, and I give him and stay indoors with my system. I just saved the number one day in my phone ND checked her up on whaysap, chatted her up with hi, how are you... And she asked who are u. I just got tired ND ignored the girl.

After about 7 months I checked his fb friend list and saw the girl, checked out her pic and added her up, chatted her but she ignored all my chat for about 4 months.

When I got back from work one day I started going through all my chats to see if I can get a good girl cos for a more than 2 years I was not dating. I checked our chat and noticed she never responded to one single chat. I got angry and asked her do I need to beg for chat before she responds to a common greeting. That Was when she now responded with I'm sorry is not like that.

Long story short she tripped for me and I liked her after some weeks, we were hooked to each other on fb all the time, I did not know she was sick all the while, till she told me.
I made out time to go see her after about a month of chat.
We fell in love after seeing each other the whole thing blossomed. And I said to myself if she will gimme rest of mind, I will marry her. On her birthday 23rd Nov then I was home and very busy with work on my system.. I celebrated her though that was when I got a new apartment so we were busy all through.

Little by little, we loved up so much that we shared much secretes she told me about all her ex which to an extent started getting me pissed I wonder a girl at 21 will have so much ex. I calmed down and wanted to move with her ND Marry her.

I am a very intelligent guy and I decode things within seconds, she's not a player but she likes to argue with me so much that she doesn't want to learn from. Me and feels she knows more.
She's not exposed as the only place she have lived is in rivers state.
I graduated 8 years ago and have worked severally, traveled all northern started and most of South and Eastern state and West, I've met great business personells. And exposed persons.

Days ago, she was looking for job and her people asked her to submit cv in one of the refineries in her areas for office job. I decoded that there nothing else she can do dia I'd not a front desk officer or data entry and all this has to do with computer.

I had to call her myself and asked her to come so I teach her computer... I told it a responsibility every second day of the week to teach her. I did this till she got done with Microsoft Word, Excell then she needed to learn Internet especially to send mails.

She came to my place on Monday as usual, I asked her to bring her phone so I can show her at least how to send a mail. She brought it I was teaching her and she was just showing attitudes upandan. Collecting her phone from me that she wants to check a mail that was dia severally and I asked her to let it be it's dia lemme finish what I am teaching her, she was dragging the phone. I left her to her phone.

She started ranting that is this how to teach something, why am I shouting at her and why can't I allow her to check the mail she wanted to.
And this is a graduate who doesn't know how to send mail and I'm teaching her.

That's not just it. I got angry and allowed her ND said to myself I won't teach her anything again. In short this is enough in this relationship. We took a cab cos we planned to go to an eatery, while we were in the cab she asked for my phone to take some music, I refused and collected my phone. As son as she got down from the cab she didn't even look at she went straight to pick another to her place I just went to the eatery ND ate. Den left for my friends place.

I said to myself, I am done with the relationship cos it doesn't look like she wants to learn from my streams of knowledge, she doesn't want to submit at all. When I talk she take the talk from me and keep talking. She can never call to apologize even when she is at the wringing end.

All this got me thinking. And I can't live with such person. I have asked her if her mum and dad use to quarrel she said no and neither does mine. So I asked why is this quarrel everytime.

The main thing now is after Monday, she decided to call today and I was in church I did not pick I called back and asked her if there's anything she wants to say, she said no, I ended she came on whatsapp and started clapping for me that she was still speaking and I ended the call.

I did not even open mouth for her.

23rd is her birthday, she celebrated me well on my birthday and I am not happy with her not for her action but the fact that she goes extreme and I am not seeing any change and I can't live with such person. And when I am not happy it shows clearly. I need advice on how to celebrate her on her birthday and possibly what to do to matured walk away of the relationship..

praizblog:
The duo are spotted together recently.

Who else is feeling this combo?



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Even for pishure this girl armpit day smell me.

PenGriffey:
dafuq??

Try more

26Clueless:
Adesua is getting married tomorrow...

OK... Let me go and fry cray fish and eat it with semo

shaybebaby:
It is ugly girls like me that get the finest guys. If you think it's a lie, ask my boyfriend.

uto

PenGriffey:
hian! Wrong timing boi!

uma

PenGriffey:

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Trash you to the swine

shaybebaby:
A very sexual and disrespectful relationship I see here. Now I'm not a prude but his fingers are literally digging into her arsehole and not just a proprietory had placement on her butt.

You not very beautiful but I think I like you.

pocohantas:
Which dog breed does she bark like?
Be specific...


There are tips to correct that behaviour, but we need to know the breed and circumstances surrounding the barking

Do you use to act FIM?

Metrobaba:
This Could Me And One Beautiful Chiketo, But My Liver Will Always Disappoint Me. Don't Know How To Approach A Girl.

The Fear Of Being Rejected Is Just My Problem.

Na because you short

deafeyez:
Abi o. I no come dey serious with God work.

Please start o. E fit help and from there you go see them. God will plot your graph.