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sorry

can be painful.

is that torture? or JANGILOVA...

Well if you are above a 100 days old, then you must have...

Would you rather take an unattractive staff?

jhumong post=/post/26824043:
yea.....buh...she doesnt even want to reply chat again or pick calls......the worst she said was that she dont deserve me.....and i was like....thats not ur decision to make..na me go decide who deserve me nao.....bt still...samething

You must be new to the game.

She obviously digs you.

Give her time to RE-ALIGN her thoughts.

PERSISTENCE PAYS...

Just give her space and time...

...then ATTACK again.

That's if you are sure of your feelings.

It might just be a passing thing.

BananaBender: The kind of work I know is compromise, learning to trust after your trust has been betrayed, patience......

The one you're talking about looks like you're forcing something to happen. It's like you guys are playing jedi mind-tricks on each other.

I don't want anything about my relationship to be business-like. If my bf starts reviewing the relationship every month, I would freak out.

I don't want to feel like there's a deadline I have to work towards. I don't want to feel pressured. Jeez! Pressure everywhere, can I just live my life.

Different strokes for different folks, I guess. I think your principle apply to those that are ready for marriage.

If you are old enough to date then you are old enough for marriage.

Don't decieve yourself into complacency.

Time is going....

kekakuz: are u ddumb?
must i spell it out?

I'm dumb.
Please spell it out...

BananaBender: I don't entirely agree with this approach. It looks like work.

You made marriage look like a goal that one has to work towards.

What is wrong with being with someone because you care strongly about them and you enjoy being with them?

Why not let if flow?

I agree with you a little though. If one desires marriage, one has to make sure his/her partner also desires marriage. It's pointless going into a relationship when both parties have different goals.

@op: the "wants to know her fate" part annoys the heck outta me. Why are putting your fate in the hands of a boyfriend? Seriously, women need to start doing the proposing. It won't kill you.

YES, it is WORK!

Relationships need WORK.

Marriages need WORK.

If you have to be locked up with someone for the rest of your life, then you need to do good WORK to make it WORK.

Let's not be too romantic about issues.

They want to export to Nigeria....


...Learners.

Kirinwa: Simply drop your goodwill messages here. She doesn't need distraction.

Naaaa.

We prefer to call her.

That way she will know we sympathize with her...

Kirinwa: Yes I do.
Starting for now.

Pray, share with us.

So we can all call to greet her.

...a friend in need....

Princecalm: Kissing in public is not too decent considering african thinking but it is one of the sure way of proving you really love your partner.So have you ever been bold enough to kiss in public?,i mean broad daylight.

Irresponsibility...

Kirinwa: Yes with the whole nairaland on her case you and I can make a difference!

Do you have her direct line?

That would be more effective...

The hustle continues...

hahahaha.

op, is that you?

Consulter: Is there an easy way to tell if your boyfriend is crazy about you? We all wish we were with a man who was vocal about his feelings. Sadly, most men just aren't. Instead, they wear their hearts very close to their sleeves and we're left to our own devices to try and determine exactly what they feel. If you suspect that your guy is wildly crazy about you, there are ways to know for certain.

Here are 3 signs that your boyfriend is crazy about you:

He loves being with you. He could be an over protective psycho, watching over his "priced possession".

Your needs come before his own. So she will have no reason to look at another man and he can feel "justified" treating her fvck ups

He'd rather talk about you than him. Why won't he want to know more when he needs to control every aspect of her life...

Nothing is at it seems....
Read between the lines.

Have you tried satisfying her?

Give me proof...

Is she sad?

whatever works...

amaprincess: One thing i like about this section is, there are so many matured minds here.
Some said marriage is sweet, beautiful and all that, but even with all the sweet comments couples give about their marriages, we still see high rate of divorce, violence and separation.
In the society today, you see so many matured men and women due for marriage, but there are not given it consideration at all.
so many are scared. others, lost interest due to horrible heart break experiences and so many reasons.
i know marriage is not a do or die affairs, but it looks good and mystery some how. imagine two people with different upbringing, background. coming together to tolerate each other, Iive as one till the end of time, it looks amazing.
Now to those already in their marriage, pls enlighten us.
1. how do you feel being married? do you feel chain/tied down by one person for the rest of your life, or how do you see it?
2. what are the things that happen in marriage that change everything forever. like sins that cant be forgiven. its common with men once a women cheats, its unforgivable. although i dont support cheating either.
3. what words of advice can you give a young man/lady who desire marriage but scared. based on what you are experiencing now either positive or negative. what can you tell someone who is afraid of entering into marriage, so he/she don't fail (divorce).
pls honest contributions pls
Thank you.

DON'T GET MARRIED!!!

...it's not a prison yard.

JERRY1925: Am not under pressure, I just want som1 to b with 4 like a year or 2 b4 marriage..am not in a haste to date..its just dat anytime a girl picks intrest in me..it does not last..d last happend like a magic just because I shouted @ her for laughing @ me...and I asked her if she normal 4 doing dat..I evn apologised..but she syd she cnt..comeback

"Just because you shouted at her"

There's no "just" here.

Because you have been trying to please her all along, showing her your best behaviour, she's not used to that side of you.
It becomes a big deal....

swagloverss: A guy and a girl have been dating for years and everything seems to be going well. However, five or six years down the line, the girl has never met the guy’s parents. Furthermore, she doesn’t know where their relationship is heading to.

Is it therefore morally right for a woman to pressurise her man into proposing to her? Or better still, is it ethically okay for a woman to ask to know her fate in a relationship?

I don't know if it's just eagerness to please or inferiority complex or immaturity or just plain societal pressure, that's makes a serious minded woman not to DEFINE a relationship before jumping into it.

For fear of losing the guy, a lady would just "play along" until she can't stand the wait any longer.
Meanwhile valuable time has been wasted!!!

My advice to all parties concerned -

A relationship should be CLEARLY DEFINED from the get go.
A monthly REVIEW of progress should be carried out.
An EXPIRY DATE should be set to CLOSE the deal, failing which both parties should go their separate ways and PROSPECT other partners.

Does this sound like a BUSINESS PLAN.
Yes, we should also be OBJECTIVE about our LOVE lives.

JERRY1925: You right..but am 27 and I want to get married b4 30

Thats why they don't work out.

Why put yourself under pressure.

Must you please others to displease yourself?

Estharfabian: It's True When Peeps Say..''guys Could spend Hours On A Football Match than Spending Romantic moments with Their Girlfriends/Wives''
Buh...That Sucks Af!! I Hate Football With Passion!! It's Boring, Senseless ,Time consuming E.t.c...I really Dunno What's So Good abt It...Guys Help Me Here??
Did I Forget To Mention?? I LOVE GUYS THAT DON'T WATCH FOOTBALL....They're More sensible..Well If U Love football That Implies........?? Lmao!

ON YOUR OWN...

Do you know you could have used your money for better thing?

JERRY1925: Being in like 3 relationships and all ends up in the same way...we date 4 a week break up for two days...and am always the one begging....the last happened when I met dis girl..I tried so hard to make us work...but recently we had issues and that made me shout on her..and dat was it..she said its OVER, a relationship that has being for a year..these the third time and its really not about money because am working..but any girl I met, we will so be in love 4 months..then we strt having issues...is it me Or its d wrong girls..

take a break...

...a long one.

he leader of Boko Haram, Abubakar Shekau has debunked claims by Nigeria Defence Headquarters that he was killed early September in Kodunga, Borno State.

Shekau dismissed Nigerian military’s claims of his death in a new video obtained by Agence-France-Presse on Thursday and said the militants had implemented strict Islamic law in captured towns.
He was seen firing weapons in the new video.

“Here I am, alive. I will only die the day Allah takes my breath,” Shekau said, adding that his group was “running our Islamic caliphate” and administering strict Sharia punishments.

Last week, the Director of Defence Information, Maj. Gen. Chris Olukolade, said during a news conference in Abuja that the corpse of the insurgents’ leader was identified by the people of Kodunga.
Olukolade illustrated the Defence authorities’ claim with pictures of the bullet-ridden corpse with Shekau’s semblance and a video of the battle in which he was killed.
He said that Shekau whose real name was Mohammed Bashir had used other names like Abacha Abdullahi Geidam and Damasack.
Nigeria’s military said last week that Shekau was dead and that a man who had been posing as the group’s leader in the videos had been killed after fighting with troops in the far northeast.

Security analysts and the United States questioned the credibility of the military’s claim.
According to a former US Ambassador to Nigeria, John Campbell, it is hard to believe Shekau was killed by Nigerian troops.

He said, “Who knows whether Shekau is alive or dead? The question may not matter much. As Boko Haram’s resurrection after the killing of its genuinely charismatic leader, Mohammed Yusuf, shows, the movement is remarkably resilient, and not dependent on a single leader.

“If Shekau is alive, as I suspect he is, evidence is scant as to what his actual role in the movement’s leadership is. Boko Haram is more than Abubakar Shekau, alive or dead.”

The new 36-minute video showed Shekau, in combat fatigues and black rubber boots, standing on the back of a pick-up truck and firing an anti-aircraft gun into the air.

Standing in front of three camouflaged vans and flanked by four heavily armed, masked fighters, he then speaks for 16 minutes in Arabic and the Hausa language widely spoken in northern Nigeria.

There was no indication of where or when the video was shot.

The heavily bearded Shekau, who appeared to be the same as those in previous clips, said the military’s claim that he was dead was propaganda.

“Nothing will kill me until my days are over… I’m still alive. Some people asked you if Shekau has two souls. No, I have one soul, by Allah,” he said, apparently reading from a script.

“It is propaganda that is prevalent. I have one soul. I’m an Islamic student.

“I’m the Islamic student whose seminary you burnt… I’m not dead,” he added, apparently referring to the destruction of the group’s mosque in the Borno state capital, Maiduguri, in 2009.

There have been two previous claims by Nigeria’s security forces that Shekau was dead. The first was in 2009 during unrest in Maiduguri and again in 2013.

Following each previous claim Boko Haram has issued denials in video messages.

Elsewhere in the new video, the terrorist group’s leader said the Boko Haram had implemented strict Islamic law in the towns that it had captured in recent weeks.

“We are running our caliphate, our Islamic caliphate. We follow the Koran. We now practise the injunctions of the Koran in the land of Allah,” he added.

The group also claimed to have shot down a Nigerian air force jet that went missing nearly three weeks ago.

An air force spokesman said the jet was missing.

“For any group to claim they shot it down is mere propaganda and rubbish,” Air Commodore Dele Alonge told AFP.

Source - PUNCHNG.COM

krall: Big turn off.

How did the kid (or should I say the "singleness" )come about in the first place?

If the father of the child is still alive then I see no reason for them all not to be "together".

spoken like a child.

life is too complex for a simplistic view...