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Maychang:
I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, the challenges and how tough it has been as a first born child.

I often heard that many of us go through a lot of challenges which could be fustrating and sometimes, lead to depression.

I also know a handful of my kind who have found it hard in every area of Life- Job, Marriage... infact all areas of life.

I remember how hard it was to scale through secondary school- i remember staying at home for 2 terms for school fees. Even gaining admission to the university was very tough- it was just as though the devil was so interested in my case. After years of struggling , I finally gained admission to the university with many challenges as well.

Now, to the Glory of God Im out of school, Nysc certified, patching up with a small scale company- yet i dont feel satisfied with
what Life has offered me. I feel cheated and its annoying when you have to struggle to get jobs with youths who had graduated at age 20/21... and you are just there looking for vacancies that has no age barrier.

My pastor once said i needed to pray well because the devil targets the first born of the family. he said i had to run to God to rescue me. Well...I did pray for many years but things are worse.

I look at my younger brother sometimes and see how well things went for him; most times without stress. I look at other families as well and see how the younger ones are faring well compared to the Eldest. Its really depressing.

Why is Life not fair to us?

Jesus is the first born of God's people (how exactly do they put it in theology)...I don't think he found things funny..

Has your mother laid her hands on you? You are the first fruit of her womb...

PublicAssurance:
my name CHUKWUUUUDIIIII is the most shouted name.

Haha. Name sake

Are you docile like me?

sevantex:
btw 35 to 40k for the cashiers i tink

its mostly in that range

Most probably. My coursemate who is a staff did mention 35k in passing..but you know how people hardly divulge their salary.

All goats are not equal o.
Kudos to Zimbabwean legislature though: homo mensura

All go join for ecological crises. Later Trump go dy play ecological sceptic...

This can make an honest civil servant think of stealing public funds o

You are en route

Incrizz:
What promise..?

to not cheat

Incrizz:
Dearest future hubby,
Please don't cheat on me o.
That is if you value your home and your relationship with me.

I will leave you faster than the speed of light if you cheat.
Dear men, you may not be so lucky with some other women as they will break your head or pour hot water on you while sleeping!
Some other women will break your side chick's head or pour acid on her!
While another may destroy your windscreen and flat screen!

I don't want issues with the police or the law enforcement agencies, so I will gently pack my bags and leave.

You don't want to eat one soup for life but you expect me to endure that same boring sh@+ forever and stick with you while you are at it!!??
I hear you!!!

Just in case you don't know,
As much as you think you were wired to cheat,
So we, females, are wired to not endure cheating speak much less of expect it!!!


A woman can endure so many ills from her man but cheating??! Haba neighbour!

Every woman, past or present, who has stayed on with her cheating man, did so with a lot of tears and anguish of soul.

Please quit trivialising it.
It is not a joking sturrvs arall

We women may even forgive a cheating man but flinging it in our faces and telling us to expect it or that you're a man and its inborn is plain heartless and we aren't ready to put up with such wickedness.

Be it known to you today, history is there as proof, there is no campaign or propaganda in this life thrown at women that will ever cause them to accept your lack of self control and view it as natural. It's like trying to reset DNA.

Telling me you'd cheat on me due to a fault of mine is like me telling you that I will cheat on you because you cheated on me. How does that sound to you?
Senseless!

Sincerly,
I think Faithful Men, and all Virgin Men are too quiet on this forum and society at large!
And that's why we think you guys don't exist!
Is it that you think you'd be laughed at?
And what if you're laughed at?

I wish you guys will all begin to speak out and leave legacies or something behind for future generations to read and be guided by.

Chai!

Incase you didn't comprehende, asking women
TO EXPECT cheating from their men is twisted, corrupt thinking!!!


"If you have ever cheated on your woman, and she is aware, and you still have a respectful wife and a peaceful home then man, you are blessed among men!"

odimma... and I be like " if ya keeping your promise am keeping mine..

hah! I consider the dentition first, smile is only a by-product for me...

jeez...I wonder what is it about the arss and bwes that trip many(or am I mpote)...

a proportionate body & a proportionate mind would do for me...no extremes

But most of those na stereotypes: a woman must smile, a woman must be pleasing to the man...bla bla bla

a patriarch told me he wants to trap a woman in his cage with marriage..a matriarch also told me she wants to tie the man down in her nest with marriage...

so let x tie y down in places c,t,j...three weddings for one marriage? hmmm...

trad is as valid as white wedding: but africa has suffered deafricanization on many fronts...erosion of traditional values

white wedding is an import..ndi ocha a na-eme kwa igba nkwu?

court marriage?

but all na the same nau...mtchw
this kain question
no follow for existential questions abeeg...going and sleeping

babyfaceafrica:
Yes...even God is a jealous God.....jealousy is normal towards someone you love ,but you have to use your brain

is jealousy part of love because God(whose name is LOVE) is a jealous God or is God jealous because it's part of love?

The NLder below me, choose one..T/D

so this thing is actually worn? I do stare at camel toed ladies & ask myself why the form of the body presents itself..
never knew

Aaaish

Saintsammurai:
In that three years, another guy was constantly having sex with her...
Who will wait for a lady for even a week in this era...?

until yesterday was waiting for one indecisive lady for over 16months

SlimHan:
The last point tho

Some girls are so guilty of this. Frowning just to form being classy or i don't care especially when they sight a guy coming towards their direction. Simply means you are either intimidated by his presence or you actually "care"

are you?

Toyolad:
#clears throat#...many a times, our feelings,emotions and our culture tend to cloud our way of reasoning.We tend to appeal to our unwritten laws which we feel so closely connected to, this makes us hastily judge issues without critically assessing and analyzing them..one of these issues is the issue about the rightness or better still, the wrongness of homosexuality.

Dear critical thinkers, as reason beckons on us...let's state our positions on this issue that has almost divided citizens of our world into two factions.

Is homosexuality right or wrong ?

cc; fynestboi, Damosky12,freemanan,yusuph1986, arcnomec,yielding....waiting for our contribution(s).

the label of homo sapiens is misleading in light of recent scientific findings

arcnomec:
please I have one question for all critical thinkers in this room......while I was in school,our philosophy lecturer drew this question at us....-"those an android rationalize? if yes,defend your assertion and if no,do like wise...... so it was a huge debt trying to defend ones postulation in school then...........So please help me and satisfy my curious mind...........Because your debt of being ness brought is to my little mind.......thanks

Still on philosophy of mind, a functionalist philosopher of mind would argue that if an artificially intelligent system(android) performs the same functions as humans_ then it is intelligent..
If an android reasons, it is not even aware of its reasoning. it does not have qualitative experience (qualia)...consider an automated teller machine and a human teller in a bank...both perform same functions... but the ATM is not 'aware' that it is giving cash, it does not experience it..

Iefosa:
The most useless course ever!!! .

The most unexamined comment ever...

Rick9:
seriously this O.p fall hand, e just make mockery of everything we represent ( Wisdom beyond Human imagination )
me when dey 200L don dey see potentials for the course. o.p seriously e no make sense.

I don't see any mockery bro. he was engaging in questionings... You see potentials in ur 200l;dont lose sight then..Someone else might see it after a postgraduate degree;be a midwife to them if you can...ur critiquing is midwifery in a way sha

where you dey get wisdom wey dy supra human imagination? I dy interested o...

IAMMUIC:
Nice Idea. I think I should go ahead to create a Whatsapp group. if interested do drop ur whatsapp number so we all who studied Philosophy and those still studying Philosophy can connect.

preferably, create a separate thread

Op, there is no easy answer, no universal answer. Philosophy does not point you specifically in any direction like those professional disciplines. It bids us to GO into the world and make whatever we may out of ourselves using our mind and body.

The contributions of you fellas delights me. I wanted to write an article for freshers in my dept but dumped it halfway because the philosopherkings and queens I was banking on to share their experiences never replied my mail and I didn't want to write abstractions.


OP, Descartes' devil did trouble me with your question in my first year. Its voice began dying out but it remained. By July, I shall have graduated. I got a part time. I dont even know my cgpa sef but I am jobhunting when I am not doing coursework. But most jobs I see on job boards are located in Lag and I am in Nsukka, so I just do more of reading. I tested waters one day, and a certain firm located in Lag told me to notify them when I grad... If you wanna get certifications, count NIM out...

What does ur resume and covering letter look like philosopher? How well do you sell urself? It matters. If employer needs analytic thinker, you did logic. If they demand communication, Nwanne I did Communication and Information Ethics, if they need what else, bro I find a relevant course..

This is what we've been prepared for..
(Please dear philosophers, methinks we should all keep in touch. WhatsApp or any other means..)

pweetyoge:
I can relate..i studied Philosophy at the University of Nigeria. It came as a result of not getting Law my first degree. did that stop me after Nysc..NAH.... I took a training in Customer service since i adore the field and i am doing fine. I am nt saying it was easy, nah it was not..bt it is a normal course, it is quite enlightening, it broadens ur knowledge and besides when we allow those who know literally nothing about the course to talk us down. It gets to u, they tell u how it is an archaic course of study or how it is an abstract thing nd can not be used in the society. It makes me laugh. Cus Plato argues that philosopher kings should be the rulers as we aim to discover the ideal polis. To b honest, no course is the ultimate, everyone is fighting to succeed. No one will ask u what u studied bt will ask what you can do. Dnt sit n ponder, learn basic office tools..u cn work as a customer service agent n any related field. Or u go for a professional masters degree. I currently study international law. So never say never. These write up is a wake up call to all philosophers. Stop allowing sentiments n naysayers who know nothing abt philosophy have a say. Corgito Ego Sum...Esto Vir

Philosopherqueen ngwanu roar for me

dubio. those things do not sufficiently qualify single guys.
Some stare long at girls...

Toks2008:
Kunle has been in a committed relationship for 5years with Abigail who happens to be an unemployed graduate of struggling parents.

Kunle who is still trying to find his feet can't provide anything more for Abigail except affection but Abigail needs more than that..she needs a job,finance to start her dream business and money to take care of little things that matter to a lady and fair enough..Abigail is no money freak neither is she materialistic but she is just so unfortunate to find herself in a jobless situation and frustration is setting in.

But as fate would have it,Abigail..meets Daniel..a gainfully employed bachelor who expressed deep desire to have her as his woman.

Abigail suddenly found herself caught between the true desire she has for Kunle and her deep need for financial succor so she throws caution to the wind and starts dating Daniel and eventually got married to Daniel leaving Kunle with a terrible heart break which made Kunle swore never to give his heart to any lady again....

This story is a typical occurence in Nigeria due to the harsh economy that has turned many hard working and decent ladies to be with rich dudes they don't really desire.

The harsh reality I want any Nigerian guy reading this to know is that LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH.

You either forget having any commited affair with any lady if you are not financially buoyant enough to spice up that romance or risk losing that lady to a dude who is more loaded but if the lady is nice enough...she just might decide to still be with you while dating another guy to get enough money to take care of you and herself.

While it is expedient for responsible ladies to strive to be financially independent in order to be with the guy they truly desire,it is a fact that ladies are naturally designed to fall for financially successful men and this does not mean they are materialistic or lovers of money....its just the way they are.

As a guy If you know you are still hustling with just enough cash to propel only you please stay clear of any committed affair with any lady who has no source of income good enough to cater for herself except you want to risk having your heart terribly broken..

Many single ladies out there expecially in Nigeria are not interested in flimsy,empty,fruitless,stale love talks....the language they understand is getting employed,starting a business,making money to take care of their needs....
and the fact that your lady is still coping with your broke state might just be because she has not found a rich dude who wants her.

If you know you are not man enough to be in any commited affair at the moment please remain single and work hard or stand the risk of losing that lady to another man who is more financially capable to be the man because LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH.

I don't know if this makes sense.

I didnt read the post..."of the three,love is the greatest"

cremedelacreme:
Apart from UI and Uniben, the school gates of the other schools are very ugly especially UNN, ABU,Unical and Unimaid

U are ydt to see unn's southwest gate

toshmann:
Interesting. Thatnks for sharing.
Is that why Saudi Arabia hates Iran?

Ya. the dispute originally occured in Saudi which is sunni. Then Ali ibn Abu Talib(a.s), son-in-law of the Holy Prophet(s.a.w) moved base to Iran

toshmann:
Hmmn, Buhari and Human rights are like fire and water.

By the way why do they hate the shiites? And what is the difference between shiites and sunnis?

So The Prophet(SAW)dies unexpectedly during one of his wars...succession dispute:should a successor be chosen from the muslim community(Sunni) or from the prophet's family, precisely one Ali, theProphet's inlaw(Shia)... shia-sunni split, shia-minority group unless you are in Iran...

[s]Muslims come and teach o. no be only jihad and haram una go dy disturb pesin[/s]

may the dead rest from this absurd life.

Is it not an absurdity of this absurd life that 4 out of 10 probably die during childbirth while 1 out of ten probably die during abortion?

Nma27:
In this recession? That tray of Asun na 20k oo

Wasn't it under similar circumstance that a widow gave her last stock to the prophet? And the Lawd multiplied

Nma27:
Order for it na

A voice told me you are gonna do Valentine give away o

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