TINALETC3:

Those wey no get eye at all

uneksoma:



Hello, Good morning...

We in fact do franchise... we are looking for filling stations on the island to set up.... work up a lease agreement with one and call us... it will surprise you how your interest can go from 5% to hot in a short while...

Good talk!

Not on the island or any where close. Enugu

uneksoma:
You can contact kiakiagas on:

1. Gaspreneur@kiakiagas.com
2. Info@kiakiagas.com
3. 08172381750; 08172381855; 08085269328
4. www.kiakiagas.com


We look forward to providing you with LPG and energy solutions.

If una go do franchise, I am interested

Quinn22:
Hmm...nice one

Mek I follow trend dm u

Quinn22:
12th of Dec

Nice. 1/12

Quinn22:
It's indeed a blessing having sex before marriage

Leftist December baby. What's ur dob

raumdeuter:
Your first scenario caught my attention

Most women and the world say Its never acceptable for a man to touch a woman under any circumstance not even self defence

A few weeks ago on a thread I asked all the female there, what would they tell their 8yr old son if a 8yr old girl was beating him on the play field regularly.

Most women said they would tell him to defend himself. (defend himself to a 8yr old means hitting back a woman!!)

Which means in some cases its okay for a man to touch a woman which is very different from what the popular mantra is when the subject is another woman's son.

It means what women actually want from a man is different from how they'll want their own son to behave

Basically its difficult to practice what you preach

toonoisy or whats your own opinion

No mind them. Equality in its fullest sense, and Planet5050 which UN adopts as one of her SDGs implies a slap for a slap...

TooNoisy:
Everyday, especially with the rise of social media, the menfolk are bashed and branded “evil”. We often make generalisations about the whole “specie” based on isolated experiences.

Recently, a Nollywood actress wrote that “all men cheat”. My intention is not to write a rejoinder to the referenced article, neither is it an attempt to repudiate the assertion. However, in my moment of solitude, I asked if truly something is wrong with us as men.

Before making my case, please permit me to share three independent events that will help connect the dots with you.

Event 1
Recently, at a party, I was having a conversation with a group of childhood girlfriends. One of them, Omolara, was deeply concerned about the posture her nine-year-old son is beginning to assume in life. According to her, he is becoming too “SWEET” for a man, (Sweetness in her dictionary is a lovey-dovey, soft, simple and good man). She was actually seeking my opinion on how to help him ‘toughen up’. As I struggled to make sense of her request, I asked why she wanted to alter the poor boy’s personality and to my utmost bewilderment, Bidemi, Shewa and Zainab, all other three ladies sitting with us attacked me with an intense “Jezebelic” venom. I left the party wondering to myself if I was some sort of a novice, probably naïve or worse still, archaic in my thinking.

Event 2
A few months ago, I got a phone call from a very dear friend. She asked if I could recommend the service of a good lawyer for her. Since she worked in my former constituency (i.e. the Nigerian banking industry), I erroneously assumed that she was about to resign her job to register and start a new business, Alas, my very good-natured, homely gentle and caring Bolanle wants to get a divorce. The reason: Bros has been cheating on her with two of his ex-es and a new kid on the block in his office.

Disturbed at the distraught sound of her voice, we agreed to meet up at a nearby restaurant on my invitation. As she walked towards me, the pain from her countenance would best be described as the percussion to the symphony of a shattered heart; in one word: BROKEN.
I watched as she broke down in tears whilst she narrated her experience. She had led a chaste and responsible life as a single chic and had been a faithful and dutiful wife. Her world was tearing apart not only because she caught Le-boo red-handed, but, because he rubbed his affairs in her face and was too prideful to show any form of remorse.
Secondly, because NOBODY was in support of her divorce. Everyone, including her darling mum and numero uno confidante, encouraged her to her stay on in the marriage and their unanimous reason is that, all over the world and particularly in Africa, philandering is in the DNA of men.

As I listened to the societal justification for her to remain in the marriage, I realised that, somehow in our social construct, we may have bought into an unconscious “conspiracy theory” that has no empirical, cognitive, scriptural, or moral validation.

Event 3
The first time I saw Iyanya’s ‘Oreo’ music video, (no disrespect to the talented dude) my first instinct was fear for the ‘boy child’. I reckoned that excessive exposure to those sort of videos in his formative years can catalyse his inclination towards a ‘vulgar’ future expressed in poor character traits such as objectifying women, multiple dating, infidelity, lack of respect for women, cheating, polygamy et al. You can then imagine the emotion I felt when I walked into a friend’s house as the video was playing on one of the music channels on DSTV and right before Daddy and Mummy, was their six-year-old son watching and singing along without parental check.

Here’s my pain:
In most cases, all through her life, the girl child was trained to be contrite, to be meek, to cook, to serve the king as a queen, she was generally prepared for life. The question is, who prepared the boy child for life? Who bothered to help him discover his theme and guide him on how to navigate his way through the tides of life? Who spent time to teach him how to care for a pregnant wife? Who counselled him on how to be a gentleman?

As a teenager, I recall listening to a conversation about the girl child losing her innocence. For the girl child it is a taboo, but in most cases, for the boy child it is acceptable. I have seen where an African mother defended her boy child in a case of fornication gone wrong, but the girl child was stigmatized for the same “crime”.
In some homes, the boy child finished eating his meals and the Mother ensured that the girl child packed up his plate and washed them. It was forbidden for him to do the dishes because he was either the only son, the last boy or the first boy (as some Yoruba mothers will say, “Baba yin ni”).

All his life, the boy child has been told that he is the champion and that it is a sign of weakness to be vulnerable. In some parts of Africa, he is the preferred gender, the one to carry on the family name (‘o ma se o’). There is nothing wrong with building up a child’s self-esteem but there must be a balanced approach to it, the sad effect of these alpha-male doctrines and masculine philosophies is that it messes up the child’s belief system and often times he loses the power of believing right. (The Bible says that faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word).

The world tells the boy child that he is the VICTOR whereas he is actually the VICTIM.
He is the victim of a society that lied to him that he is superior to the girl child (that is probably why some men may never be able to handle a super successful, upwardly- mobile woman).
He is the victim of a system that deceived him; that it is a sign of weakness for a man to cry.
He is the victim of a system that gave him a false sense of dominance over his female counterpart.
He is the victim of a system where his own mother concurred to the sinister doctrine that polygamist tendencies is an innate trait of the masculine gender.
He is the victim of a system that had no strict boundaries for his social conduct and contriteness whereas the girl was prepared for life and marriage.
He is the victim of our cultural flaws and idiosyncrasies.
He is the victim of a faulty foundation of a failed society.

Here’s how I see it:
It is our responsibility to show him (the boy child) the masterplan of his creator.
To be strong at heart yet not afraid to admit his weaknesses and cry if need be
To be a leader yet with the humility to be a servant and have control over himself
To be courageous yet not afraid to open to his errors in the days of adversity
To be strong yet meek
To be swift yet patient
To be sweet yet wise
To be kind yet firm
To be wise, prudent, caring and focused
To be honourable in the place of chastity
To build the capacity to commit to his words and not renege on his promise of love
To respect the WOMAN, her GOD, her will and her body
To demonize feminine abuse and revere her emotions, her spirit and her essence
To own his story, his will, his calling, his purpose, his family and his life
A man who will treat all women with dignity and not exploit her vulnerabilities even when the latter so easily give in.

Let’s help develop a breed of perfect gentlemen
Let’s help the boys grow to become Men after God’s heart!

To young mothers with growing boys, teach them how to handle the needs of a woman from a woman’s perspective, it is obvious that men don’t get it as much……(Family Customer Service 101)

We may not be able to change the global stock of men, but in our little corner, with our sons, our nephews, our cousins, our protégées, our godsons, our neighbour’s sons. We can build ONE man that will affect a nation.
A sage once told me: it is easier to build up growing children than to repair broken adults.

A good gender analysis, well written...come have a glass of water and one biro

Samirana360:
i remember when i wanted to join NA,a senior officer(col adeyemi) told me nt to unless i want to diein d hands if bh...he said since am a graduate dat he wil help me to go for short service ...buh me i no even dey interested again.....NA gbakwa oku

You don't have to write officer's name..do you? Is the name a dummy

vampire2020:
u won go Deutschland ni

Nein. I just love it. Prefer it to Français

sekem:


Ha ha ha

Was mache ich ohne Google?

Hmmm

vampire2020:
ein wenig

Ok. I took elementary classes. Will make out time to further the knowledge I have of it after July

sekem:


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sekem:
Let's try this

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5 odds

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Good luck

Danke

sekem:




Egwu onye o kara obi

Etie okwe erie okwe

O naa; o naa

O banye; o banye

You don forecast today matches?

Comment on what you will do If DonJazzy proposes to Linda Ikeji.

If DonJazzy proposes to her, I'd read LindaIkeji's blog from the oldest blog post.

Not into modern miracle workers but why una dy beg am? because he is a source of religious tourism...
#WhoIsPresidency

True. One professor that addressed us at a PhD defense calls it a paradigm shift...in Trumpian administration I will still be cautious.. Trump be like "climate change is fiction" jare.

I go just dy eat as my stomach and mood dictates sha...

MissCuppy:
All these masochists sef, always making men see women as sex object.

Man was on his own o

Humans

So you want to see his demons? Pray to the lord of demons

bufness:
thanks theres no way to send him a pm tho, sent him a tweet dont know if he'll reply

He will.

sexybash:
Hi all
i have been in a relationship for 3months, then i discovered his girl who strolled away start to come back

In summary so many thing went down which i would not like to bug you guys with but what am confused about is that he does not want to let me go

i have sent him mails for him to tell me what he wants but he is not saying anything when he calls he act

so emotional , the truth is am ready to move on, i have taken so much Sh---it in this relationship, he is

a nice guy no doubt, perfect hussy material but i need to move on, i am ready to be with him

if he wants to be with me, but if he does not want to be with me sweety eat the humble pie and let me know,

i will take no offense if he goes for her, but just be nice and let me know

my fellow NL am i acting desperado here

You opinion is highly welcome

This is the 3rd year of ur post.. did you guys settle down together or you moved on?

Do you want to meet your angel?
They can be contacted but I can't teach how.

Follow @paulocoelho on twitter and ask him to teach you

Quinn22:
Say no to broke guys! They are fucking leeches and gold digging niggas

You don't mean it

Naijaaccountwiz:

pray do tell,what does 5,7,8 and 12 means biko

5 is ecological..the gun of industrial 'progress' pointing at nature

7: Perhaps, facebook users whose lives depends on the likes they get?

8: Perhaps those ladies with one face and many masks such that one can't even tell their real face..ndi pancake or whatever it is

12: female figures on skimpy wears enriching their bodies but one edifying their mind.

Little attempt

Buhari freelancer...work and earn from home

the most euphoric yet traumatic experience for dogs is to kill their archenemy za cat

Writing something very similar as my undergraduate thesis.

Thank you for some practical insights (contributions of the middle class and high class).