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[quote author=Abioolly post=50850340[b]]If I must say if am to have my baby again in the US.. I will neva say with any relative or friend.. [/b]I had a terrible experience with my own aunt.. T[b]o make matter worse.. We stayed on same floor.. Use same elevator...[/b] She ll neva greet either me or my baby.. But I kept on greeting r... am back to naija a[b]nd will b forever grateful to the neighbours who God sent at my dying time[/b]...
Sorry for the long post... Just reading tru and to make pple know even outsiders r better Dan this so called family members[/quote]Wow!! So sorry about your experience with your Aunt some people are just not straight forward and don't fear God. God help us all. I think you should however recant your 1st statement that you wont stay with anyone, it was eventually someone that helped you right, who you eventually stayed with it (looks like from your post).

To a lot of people's comments, we have wonderful Hosts and wonderful Guests. We all just need to be more understanding. If you truly can't stay with or accommodate someone for an extended period it will do both parties a whole lot of good if you're open up upfront. A lot of Nigerians don't know how to say No and like being overly diplomatic. I have hosted people in Nigeria (from US) and when I came over here to the US too hosted people (from Nigeria). It will be great if you know the persons character and like people have said work with the understanding that you are hosting a pregnant woman. Setting expectations is always a bid deal, some people don't truly know what to do or expect in the US. It is very very different from Nigeria especially on utilities...

Expectations for Hosted
Conserve power (turn of lights, turn off TV and appliances when not in use)
Conserve water (turn off tap when brushing, not in use, dont wash 3 pieces of clothes in the washer)
Clean up (dishes, house, bathrooms and if they have a maid/cleaning service chip in on paying/tipping the maid)
It is not your house, so please be mindful of how your host wants stuff placed around the house, in cabinets etc (some people can be so finicky)
Give them space from time to time (sometimes they want to come home and do nothing)
Help with Kids (if any)
Chip in with groceries, gas etc (if you are using them, esp if you are a healthy eater)
Show appreciation (little things that you buy for the kids go a long way)

Expectations for the Hostee
You are accommodating a pregnant woman not a maid or a babysitter (Please be mindful that they may not always be a 100% strong)
Relax your rules a little (all you finicky ones, learn to overlook some things)
Help with hospital runs
Help keep her active, shopping, (treat her like you would your sister)
Do your regular chores and don't expect too much in terms of cooking and cleaning
Stop fussing about utilities (what were you expecting with an additional person in the house??)
Stop being nosy/jealous of situations (some people cant just deal that someone else is more wealthy/comfortable than they are)
Don't show yourself nah, you have collected credit card, car loan, mortgage dont collect from pregnant woman join na...
American culture is very different from Nigerian culture. Like people have said they dont teach you in American you "Gain Independence" fast fast. Relax a little and help them understand how things works. Do it in a subtle way
Don't encourage folks to do illegal stuff, freebies, (leave your Naija mentality in Nigeria, it wont help anyone)


These are just a few that I can think of like people have said both sides should be willing to sacrifice and it shouldn't be one sided. It takes a lot for you to open your home to someone else to stay in for more than 2 weeks, lets appreciate the good hosts and good house guests that understand what it takes. And if you cant cope please rent your accommodation.

God Bless

nefertitiram:
The foolish thing stopped working midway during surgery for me. . The pain was out of this world till d doc asked dem to administer general anasthetics cos remain small i for run comot frm operating table. Imagine being sawn into two!!!

Next time, they should just knock me out.

I can so relate to this on my 2nd which was a VBAC the thing stopped working and they had to increase the dose 2 times. I think God really wanted me to experience "Hebrew Things" At least sa,I got a few mins of relaxation where I was skyping. After the thing wore off hubby bore the brunt of it on Sykpe

Hello VO,

I am asking on behalf of my niece who is a Nigerian but schools in a university in Ghana. She is a final year student that will be finishing this December and is trying to get a NIV to visit me and my family for summer. She applied at the embassy in Nigeria and was denied with reason from VO being "she should re-apply in December when she is done with her education"

She would like to re-apply as we have already made vacation plans for this summer and she will not be able to come visit in December because she will be getting ready for her mandatory youth service year and also has plans of completing her masters during her service year.

Question is can she re-apply in Ghana (because she is back in school) or would she have to come back to Nigeria to re-apply?

Thanks

happytbaby:
Let me answer Comfortina.

I think she really asked an honest question, I do not detect any sarcasm in her post. Life is a matter of perspectives.

Now to put things in perspective, let me start by saying my Maternal grandmother had 6 girls. One of them died from childbirth complications, the baby also died. One is 60 with no child and had two still births and one infant death, that makes 3 pregnancies. Another one is in her mid forties, she had twins which died after the hospital she registered in said they couldn't do CS. She herself is a twin. Her twin sister had two still births before a live one. 5days after the lifebirth, we realised she was incontinent. We took her to a specialist who had to perform another surgery to repair her bladder which had mistakenly been cut during the CS. It was my brother and I (teenagers) that were taking care of the new born while my Mum stayed with her in the hospital. She suffered mehn! Till date, she hasn't been able to carry another pregnancy to term.

Please, if we can afford it we shall give our kids the opportunity of having a choice of where they want to live. If I had one I am not sure I will be here. Just that I cannot live in obodo oyinbo as an illegal immigrant. However, first and foremost for me is the healthcare, I cannot come and allow one useless hospital give the people chasing my life negative home support with poor resources and negligent nurses that insult patients.

I like this write up, does well highlighting some of the pros for giving birth in the US focusing mainly on healthcare which you can probably get from any other well developed country. I think however for the original poster if you are undecided about birthing in the US you need to review both Pros and cons and make a well educated decision. I will try to list some of both and I am sure others will add where I missed.

Pros for birthing and if the child decides to come back and stay
1.Better Healthcare
2.Better Education
3.Country that has a system that works (Laws, govt, amenities, economy, etc)
4.More Jobs/opportunities for career advancement
5.Better resources/way of life
6.Better Financial/Economic System- Easier access to Loans, funding etc
7.Independence - Children in America learn independence early. See this also a con cos once they are independent some kids tend to start to think they are at the same level with their parents


Cons
1.Expensive healthcare
2.Expensive Education/Childcare (Infant - early teen and college)
3.Bills Bills Bills (You pay a lot for all of the "Better" highlighted in the Pros and if you are not careful/not disciplined may run into a bad financial state)
4.Depending on where you live, no social/community feeling with your own tribe/culture (may also be a pro for some people that want to stay away from the Nigerian drama in most states)
5.Exposure to social practices that we don't want our kids involved in (Drugs, etc)
6.Will just call this "Differences in what the US govt calls child abuse and what we call discipline"
7.Higher Taxes

Again you would need to consider all pros and cons and decide why you REALLY want to birth in the US. Are you doing it just for a better health care system? Are doing it so your child does not need a visa to the US and some other countries? Are you doing this so your child can come back to the US for a better education/Job opportunities? Would it be better if you spend that money creating opportunities for your child in Nigeria?

One more point to consider is that it is much more difficult for someone who has spent all most of their life outside of the US to come back and integrate into the US. A lot of people I know struggled with this but with the right mentors/advice they were able to integrate into the system and get good jobs.Most had to go back to school, some even had to start from scratch.

If you have the funds definitely go for it, but make sure you understand fully what you are getting into.

Wow!!! Just caught up on all the drama. from stolen funds to stolen SSN. It is well!

Now that i have the full context of your story girlloom, I will advice that you still go ahead and report the case to SSA and possibly IRS if the SSN was used for tax purposes. There's so much evil that can be done with one's SSN that you don't want your child involved. I watch all these Judge Judy cases and you see some children are still paying back after so many years of their parents messing up their records.

If you are cash strapped, make peace with your SIL and get out of the house as soon as possible.

Advise to people coming to the US try and get your own space. If you must stay with someone make sure both parties are in total agreement and you both understand the commitment it involves. Especially when it comes to in laws, make sure the invitation is coming from them and not husband volunteering on their behalf. Different characters, different backgrounds and upbringing, different country, etc. Be respectful of each other and their homes and help out as you can. Not nice for ppl to call other peoples homes "cabin" they opened up their homes to you. There have been too many horror stories of Hosts being TERRIBLE as well as the hosted being TERRIBLE.


@ LeakyTribe I'm a little convinced with her story. Same thing happened to my grandma, she went to the market (nobody sent her o! cos she had a help). they followed her home, she gave them all her jewelry (even the ones she had forgotten where she hid them due to old age).

Please investigate, and not sure about you keeping her in your home while that is going on. Please be careful with that before more evils happen. God will replenish you.

justwise:
Tax is filled after financial year which is from April 5th so i don't think he has used it yet

Nope not in America you have from the beginning of the year, usually around mid January when companies send your W2 till April 15th to file your taxes.

He could have used the ssn and i beg to differ on causing family wahala. Did he think about HIS own actions causing family wahala as well?? i guess not.

the ball is in your court as vcole (i think) said if you feign ignorance trust me you are now an accomplice to tax fraud. that's up to you to decide.

SSN can be used for more than tax fraud, it can be used to open accounts, work, get benefits and all that. You can virtually ruin someone with the SSN.

Call social security and hear what they have to say. Not even sure it can be blocked/reissued. I think they can put alerts though.

girlloom:
Hello all, please I need help.
Okay, I understand ssn should be delivered to the address provided 2 weeks or so after birth. It happened that I didn't receive my son's as at a month afterwards so I felt it actually got missing and was going to request for another. I also mentioned this to my host and they agreed it was probably missing and I should forget about it as there was no need need for the number. At 7 weeks after, I decided to apply for his passport and there was a part on the application form where they requested for ssn, so I told my host that I would be going to the social security office to request for a new one. He then asked to see where the number was requested on the form so I showed him. Surprisingly, my host told me I shouldn't bother that the ss card would be delivered that day and he was very certain. At 8pm that day, he handed me my son's card lnot looking new with no envelope and his ssn exposed. Why would he open a mail that was clearly addressed to my son? I couldn't even say anything because he is my sis inlaw's husband and don't want to come across as rude. Now I suspect my son's card has been used fraudulently for tax claims. Please is it possible to block the number from being used? May I add that my host is now suddenly over protective of his mailbox. I believe there are letters he is receiving that he doesn't want me to see.

Posted this a while ago: https://www.irs.gov/Help-%26-Resources/Tools-%26-FAQs/FAQs-for-Individuals/Frequently-Asked-Tax-Questions-%26-Answers/IRS-Procedures/Reporting-Fraud/Reporting-Fraud

The link has information on finding out if your SSN has been compromised, etc.

@Justwise can we please put this on the Frontpage, people need to stop taking advantage of others. So annoying when someone thinks he can play a fast one and get away with it.

yokus:
Mmmm sigh, na wa o. Pls stand ut ground
Pls is there a way to know if someone is using ur child's SSN for tax return. I remember one of my kids own didnt arrive before i returned to Nig, only for my host to bring the envelope open. Hian. Pls is there a way to confirm if it's being used?

That is what he plans to do but we said we aren't interested . The man just dey para on the phone for almost 30 minutes say I turned it down. That he discussed with his wife before telling us. The wife was positive I was going to agree but he doubted her. He knew I wouldn't agree with it, why is he now upset? After all, wasn't that his expectation of me? I tire o!

try this website: https://faq.ssa.gov/link/portal/34011/34019/Article/3792/What-should-I-do-if-I-think-someone-is-using-my-Social-Security-number
https://www.consumer.ftc.gov/articles/0040-child-identity-theft

tjelta:
Hello house,
Pls is a hospital allowed to refused to reissue a cheque to a patient if for some reason the service is paid for and not used. I paid for the Maricopa maternity package which i didnt eventually use, they issued me a cheque about three months later( Of course I had left the US by this time) which is to expire in some weeks but I will not be in the US to cash it. So I asked for another cheque ie I asked for the cheque to be reissued or if the money can be paid directly into my account. but they refused saying either I cash the cheque before it expires which is impossible now or I forfeit the cost of the full maternity package. Let not forget that I paid in cash but was issued a cheque 3 months later, knowing fully well I am not based in the US. I am very confused and angry. I need some advise please.

The check can be deposited to a proxy's account. it just needs to be signed by you at the back of the check, how you do that is left to you.
If you have someone (relative) that stays in America have them pay it into their account and send you the funds.

LadyGuinivere:
She sha hepped me when I dey search for PTA.
Oya Abefeokin be guided! cease and desist for sarcasm and Show everybody the love u showed me .

@modath thank ye o! Humour dey neccessary to avoid kiri kiri depression o.
@FTM thank you. When are u changing your name to secondtimemum abi 2TM

Very unrelated but I had to chip this in.

Wow, Wow and Wow is all i can say to this comment. LadyG, don't know you from Adam but you have a heart of gold. Very patient and helpful. I wish every woman including myself could be as peace loving and patient as you. Its so sad that some people act like they will get an award for sarcasm, it was starting to feel like there was a competition for the best sarcastic comment.

God Bless you, God Bless you and God Bless you. Even as you love peace, Your delivery will be peaceful. You will meet with kind hearted men and women in this land that will favor you. Keep on being you and I know God almighty will surprise you this month. Wont mind connecting with you, I'm in the DMV area not sure what state you are headed to. (Pls o! I am a female in case your oga is reading )

Onenigeriangirl:
Please oh, newbie to this thread.

Has anyone given birth or intends to give birth in Boston? Looking for hospital/doc recommendations and cost estimates.

Also, I already have a visa which I renewed last year before I got pregnant. Haven't travelled since I renewed. Do I need to send a change of intent letter?

Lastly, everyone seems to travel with some kind of cash, I usually prefer not to and rely on making payments with my debit card (it's a UK card) will I have a problem convincing the POE officer of my means of payment?

A couple of folks have birthed in Boston and all said prices were high but they had free accommodation, etc. Search for posts from Busyonkwe, Bisoye82, jayjay4lyf. Also try typing Boston in the search field at the top of the page you'll find their reviews

teeteekay2367:
hello Guys

have been a silent reader just want to share my experience,we had our first child in NJ in 2012 in a private Hopital we had a bill of 17kusd and for the baby 2.5kusd ,we paid a total of 7k usd in btw the two bills,our visa expired 2014 .my wife is pregnant again and we applied for a drop box to renew our visas ,but she was called to come for an interview alone wthout me, in our first travel to the us in 2012 we told them at the POE that we are there to dleiver,

can her interview have sumtin to do with the unpaid bill some one pls advice .her interview at the us embassy in abuja is next week.

Sorry I am beating a dead horse, but I couldn't resist. Clarifying, are you saying you got a discounted bill of $7k and paid or you got $17k, paid $7k and ABSCONDED? If it is the latter, i want to put your question back to you.

Sir, I applied to come to your house in 2012, you rendered services to me and gave me a bill, i didn't pay up to half of the money and i left. I probably even did shopping for the baby, family and myself too. I then send you an email/letter 4 years later asking for permission to come to your house again. What will you do? Will you be VERY forgiving and allow me come again and even dash me more money still in the spirit of forgiving? or will you not ask me to come and wait for me with Police, Army officers, etc? may be I am hoping that they you have forgotten? or you have written it off as a bad debt?

God Bless!!

emeldamicheals:
SORRY FOR THE LONG POST. I JUST NEEDED TO SHARE MY ANNOYANCE WITH YOU PEOPLE. PROBLEM SHARED IS HALF SOLVED PLUS I HAVEN'T SLEPT SINCE LAST NIGHT MY DAD CALLED TO TELL ME IT MUST BE DURHAM, NC. He likes everyone buying his opinion....
The End. Thanks everyone.....

Dont mean to sound -ve but its usually cases like this that the whole experience goes sour. "Your Dad's friend" the wife may not have even been consulted when the 2 men were probably just discussing in passing, they now bring in someone (A pregnant lady) to stay for at least 3 months and the wife starts to act nasty. I may be wrong but to avoid issues if the person is not your CLOSE relative and did not directly invite you pls stick to your original plans.

Please tell your dad you have already paid for the other hospital and wont get a refund, he sounds just like every other dad (including mine) i know.

Take it easy dear and don't fuss too much about it.

God Bless

magicminister:
yes!... you don't have to make the arduous journey.
i would strongly recommend you travel light though!

Lol! Is there anything like traveling light to Naija, I can imagine all the requests the person would have received. even from the great aunty's,cousin who is also an in law to their great grandfather.
please help yourself by looking for a sim card or good Samaritan to use their phone and call when you get in to naija. They should be able to come pick you up from the exits. The last time I was there someone offered to allow me use their phone for a fee. Good luck!!!

allen0000:
Please NLanders, any nanny contact in Chicago should please pm or write me here, urgent

If you are a Christian, try searching (google) for the closest Nigerian church (RCCG, Winners, TAC, etc) around you. Please visit and ask members, that's also another way to search. Good luck!!

firsttymum:
So I changed the fuse... My step down is working.... *inserts dance smiley"

Cc shawlar

Just catching up on post here. hahahahaha imagine how embarassed you would have been if you carried the thing back screaming and they just changed the fuse and said "But madam the thing is working now" hahahahahahahah
#runsawaycoveringmyfaceforyou. Ha! Women and our wahala, I am guilty too

nupital:
Good Morning House,

My questions are:

1. Is the Medical Visa the best option?

2. Should we apply together or separately;should she apply first then i apply after or vice versa ( seeing that i have been refused based on the ties to Nigeria)

3. Would the N4 million be sufficient to convince the VO that we have enough funds to sort the medical bills. If not, kindly suggest.

4. Should we make a deposit for the hospitals bills ( as i see some people paying and some not paying). I also saw a RED FLAG from the embassy saying that applicant should not pay the hospital bills before the interview.

I also think you should allow your wife apply first, once she has her visa you can say you are going to witness the birth of your baby.

N4 million should be fine, but again its based on the judgement of the VO. i think what they are really interested in seeing is cash flow and the fact that you are not using your life savings to fund the trip (i.e more inflow expected)

Making payment for the hospital does not increase your chances, actually may irritate some VO's

Again, this is just an opinion.

omogedudu99:
If one has between 2 to 3 weeks before departure to naija, you can do it yourself without using an agent.

We processed our children's visa ourselves. No agent used.

Lol! was going to say the same. Always been a proponent of do it yourself bu t on this one (working with the naija embassy) if you have enough time for "stories that annoy" do it for yourself. if you are pressed for time, advise you not to take the risk

iyoyoworl:
Just a quick question please. Does a baby need to have his eyes opened when taking passport photograph to apply for his US and Nigerian passport. My boy is just 2 weeks old n na for night d guy dey like to shine his eyes.

Not necessary for US passport, my 1st baby, eyes were closed with my hands showing in the background sef , second baby taken in car seat with white cloth as background.

see below from US website: http://travel.state.gov/content/passports/en/passports/under-16.html

When taking photos of newborns and infants, please make sure no other person is in the photo, and the child is looking at the camera (preferably with his or her eyes open, not required for infants and newborns).

For infants and newborns, lay the child on his or her back on a white blanket or sheet to ensure his or her head is supported without the aid of a hand. Make sure there are no shadows on the child’s face if you are taking the picture from above. Alternatively, cover a car seat with a plain white sheet and take a picture of your child in the car seat.

Tvegas:
Your writing is not clear but from the little i can deduce.

1. You cant apply for student visa in the USA,they will refer you back to your home country. If its that easy everyone will travel with a visiting visa and convert it when they get there. You either apply for visitors visa now,travel to birth and come back to apply for student visa. Or you can apply for student visa out-rightly.

2. When you are stamped in for 6 months. Six means 6. Anything beyond that is overstaying your welcome and you may be denied a visa in the future. There are exceptions to the rule which may not apply to you but you can study the immigration site for details. cheers

I believe you can change your status in the US from a Visitors to a Students Status. See below from USCIS website. However, you must do it before the end of your 6 months.

Change My Nonimmigrant Status
If you want to change the purpose of your visit while in the United States, you (or in some cases your employer) must file a request with USCIS on the appropriate form before your authorized stay expires. For instance, if you arrived here as a tourist but want to become a student, you must submit an application to change your status. We recommend that you apply as soon as you determine that you need to change to a different nonimmigrant category.
Go to this site for more details: http://www.uscis.gov/visit-united-states/change-my-nonimmigrant-status-category/change-my-nonimmigrant-status

Modified:

Oh Sorry, didn't know someone else had replied on this. Again it is possible and it is not illegal. There shouldn't be any fear on if it should be encouraged or not because it is not guaranteed that one will get it. My guess is that the case will be reviewed like you are applying for an F1 visa and reasons why you didn't file for F1 initially. If you do not qualify you may be refused and denied the status adjustment.
to the Original Poster if you feel you will have a stronger case filing in the US then go for it it, otherwise if you feel filing from Nigeria (after coming back from birthing) gives you a stronger case then do it from Nigeria. Below is from the USCIS website

If I am eligible for a change of status and file on time, will
my application be approved?
A change in status is not automatic. We will look at your situation,
your current status, the reasons you want to change your status,
and the reasons you did not apply for this kind of visa before you
first entered. Then we will decide whether or not to grant your
application. If we grant it, we will also decide how long to extend
your stay in the new nonimmigrant status. We will only grant a
change of status for a reason that is consistent with the terms of
the requested status, or where circumstances indicate a change is
warranted

shrekandfiona:
People that apply for naija visa direct have it rough and it takes ages for the visa to come out but agents get the visa same day Hmmmm

Systemic failure everywhere we go

Na so we see am o! God will help Nigeria and us Nigerians, Won't be surprised if these agents are consular staff and they are all sharing the money. It is so sad that they wont allow the system to work so that they can enrich themselves, I pray all of this will end with our children's generation and we will honest people that just do their jobs and not looking for fast money.

francmoda:
Please does anyone have a direct line of anybody at Atlanta consulate...visa section preferably...My wife's return date in on Saturday and I submitted the application and paid the expedited fee since last week...I have been calling their number since Monday..always going to voice mail.sent mails...no reply

If you cant get someone you know/was introduced personally to you asap please make all attempts to go down by yourself if you can. Same happened to me when I submitted for my son's visa with an expedited envelope to the NewYork office. Had to go in to the office and fight with them. They left my sons passport under a pile of applications and did nothing to it for like 1 week, they only searched for it cos I was in their office making noise. Got my expedited fee back and got the visa like 30mins after the fight but was so upset cos I was avoiding going in to the consulate like a plague and still had to.

firsttymum:
we r "assistant justwise" or "personal assistant to justwise"

So there is no stopping. its a free forum... U wanna b laid back or b a chatter box. It's ur call
If everyone is using agent and pm what information will b left to share... Or don't u gerrit.? How can u b on this thread and b charged for information u can get for free?

And this thread isn't loosing any value. There were argument and misunderstanding in part one. There was also fishing out of agents too. And it won't stop.

#Inmycalmestvoiceever# this post was not meant to stir up more arguments or controversy. I DO get it and if you had read my post carefully you would also have seen that i get it that agents should be fished out and deleted.
Again my suggestion was "If you suspect anyone, send a private message with details and evidence to @Justwise, he will do the interrogation and other necessary research which he has been doing wonderfully well without 10 pages of drama" isn't it better when he silently (without drama and 10 pages of controversy bans someone off of the thread than everyone going back and forth and insulting ourselves on a nameless, faceless forum.

Just saying!!!! God Bless #stillcalm #noargument

Hmmmm!!! Almost 10 pages of controversy and argument. This thread is loosing its value. All please let's leave policing, FBI'ing and CIA'ing of this thread to @Justwise. If you suspect someone, please PM @Justwise with your thoughts and include your evidence. This bullying of people has to stop. That's how someone was accusing me of being an agent too (still funny to me)

Btw still looking for cheap hospitals in the Richmond, Virginia area. Never heard back from the lady that said she had found one.

nefertitiram:
Wuussaaai!
1000 free mins is to landline o
U need to load intl up credit to call 9ja at 5cents a min. $5 will get you $6.25 value.
On a $19 plan u get 100mb data free.
On a $29 plan u get 500mb free

I used dem n it was awesome. Please go for the $19 plan o! nothing spectacular about the $29 plan

Thanks for clarifying!!! Does anyone even still use landlines in Nigeria? That may be a good idea to get the landline in Nigeria just to benefit from the 1000 free minutes per month.

@gaggle: Too funny!! i totally get what you are saying about those sales folks. They can disturb you with calls, OMG!! I think they get paid by the number of calls they make per day. 10 different people can call the same day

kaakaa:
Hello every one..... I have successfully ported and in atlanta right now..... want to share my poe experience Cos i came in through houston and to God be the glory i was more than favoured......lol

Pls I need to know what sim card to buy o... so I can come and share my experience.... using my hosts Hotspot right now and don't want to stretch it....

Is there any affordable line I can buy that will enable me call nigeria.... please pls help me,I know it has been said on the previous thread but I don't know which page again....

Congrats ozycy on your new bundle....

Someone recently mentioned Ultra Mobile to me with free 1000 minutes to Nigeria monthly. Haven't gotten a chance to look into it so I can't confirm it. Check out their website for details.

Mumof2boys:
Wetin be your own?

I run down o! Justwise has seen competition for moderator

firsttymum:
r u like an agent

My dear, everyone doesn't need to be an agent, Stop being overly suspicious of everyone. Have a couple of family members that have made inquires like you probably have done too with your family members and the quotes I sent to them were way to high.

[quote author=Marchmum post=38788460][/quote]Please share the name of the hospital and the doctor on this forum or via private message (tried sending you a message). Been looking for cheap hospitals in Virginia for a while now. Have a couple of people that have tried to come and give birth here but couldn't get them cheap hospitals. All the ones I was seeing were in the $10-$15k range. Thanks

chukxie:
Is the car park still being constructed? [b] Work was going on at that car park when I was home last Februar[/b]y. Naija, I hail thee! A country where projects are usually executed at a 'snail's pace'. Back to the matter: Aren't airport shuttle buses meant for ferrying travelers to the airport for free? Why are travelers paying N200 to ride airport shuttle buses that were meant to be ridden for free? Can't they file complaints to the FAAN authorities? I know the likelihood of that happening is slim because we love 'suffering and smiling'.

More like work was on-going since when i last visited in 2009

cozybunch:
@azeezakande, you are on point. Every nation has her culture, chemistry or makeup and over all practices. When you go to work in the morning and your home boy stays are home, have the t.v on all day which consumes 60% of electricity, the air is on for summer or heater on for winter ( depends which type you use, electric or gas), runs water like crazy and go to the refrigerator and eat breakfast and lunch, by the time you are coming back tire say 5,6, or 7pm as the case may be, you may not even have food in the refrigerator to eat, them you start making food or try to order some food been tired. Friends you do this for 3 months, by the 4th month you will be tire and start reacting.

Now for husband and wife still thesame. Bills are slipt or paid accordingly, according to what they earn, unless your spouse earns 6 figures them his wife may now be a home sit mum, taking care of the kids.

Now lets enlighten our selves on how you spend money or money gets dugout each month. Please this is for all of our benefit

1. Rent or mortgage as the case may be (monthly)
2. Car note (monthly)
3. Car insurance (monthly)
4. Electric or gas bill depends which one you use (monthly)
5. Water bill ( monthly)
6. Disposal and recycling (monthly if you have a house or every three months if you are renting also depends on the city if they operate monthly or not)
7. Health Insurance taken out of your monthly pay check ( monthly)
8. Uncle sam (taxes) ( monthly) from pay stubs
9. Social security ( monthly)
10. Medicaid (monthly)
11. Retirement eg 401k and so on ( monthly)
12. Gas in your car (weekly)
13. Groceries (weekly)
14. Other retirement plans such as IRA etc
15. Home owners association fee ( for home owners ) depends where you leave and the type.
16. Home insurance if not included in your mortgage ( for home owners)
17. Property taxes (for home owners) depends how you city designs it may be quarterly, bimonthly, every six months etc.
18. Credit card bills if any (monthly)
19..student loan if any (monthly)
20. The craziest (high way tolls)
21. Day care if you have children or baby sitter (monthly)
22. Car insurance (monthly)

And the list goes on and on. Remember 90% of the list above is on a monthly bases. There are other list to mention but will keep it minimal for now.

That is why people react the way they do, most people choose not to come home not too often. Life in states is not easy, unless you are doing small illegal stuffs.

Even those in the medical field still do not get it easy. They still have to work like crazy, some 80hrs a week double the required given, just for overtime pay, which a lot still go to uncle sam (irs or taxes)

Good topic though

Good Luck on this quest

23. Cable
24. Internet
25. Phone Bills
26. Shopping (Clothes, etc, kids and self)
27. Car Maintenance/ Repairs
28. Dining Out/Fun activities
29. Savings

carus01:
Guy I will be travelling to USA soon but no mind dem na jealousy dey wori dem u no even need to carry dat 3rd class go u fit carry your waec go if u reach there u go dey fit re go school or you use ur waec dey work is allowed u go dey collect notin less than $4000 a month if you dey use your waec work and if u convert to naira he don reach 750k guy I wish u good luck no allow ppl slow u down

Why do people like deceiving others?? I guess that they have deceived you too and you have taken it hook , line and sinker. $4,000 per month job with just WAEC Even some PHD holders are not earning that much. Please stop making it seem like it will be possible for him to come to the US on just a visitors visa/Students visa and work any legitimate job. You better even re-think your own plans before you come.

God Bless