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harjay1986:
If it will make you sleep well that's okay

Better Better sleep oooooo

harjay1986:
I'm glad you accept he create evil i the first place, the creator of snipper have a primary target which is to kill insects.. But can you tell me the primary objective of creating evil

Evil is exactly what sniper is for to get rid of pests in this case God's enemies.

harjay1986:
I don't know I'm chatting with a dumb man, who can't reason do I mention anything beyond Bible which happen to be the manual for Christianity

See Dumbo the elephant that is so blind he can not see that He has said something wey no make sense.

What a clown giving a sweet night of laughter

harjay1986:
Yet you answer nothing...

Because you said nothing

harjay1986:
You mentioned something about been touture... Who create evil and who create good let start from that

See am another question yet again, you no dey shame.

So because He created evil something that was outside man, man took it up and started doing it, so He responsible for the man's doing eh?

Like saying the producer of sniper is responsible for the people who use it to unalive people.

You must be very disturbed

harjay1986:
With your response you are equating him to ordinary human.... He is special for God Sake.. But what do I know self... Poor me... Even when Solomon pick another mans wife, he still choose him, so who are you? Open your eyes bro.... I'm not fighting with your believe.. I'm only trying to let you know that he is almighty the same yesterday, today and tomorrow and every other days with different motives

Now that I have answered you and you can not answer, you have moved to equating with another human

You just dey disgrace yourself wella

Did I not say you will move to another question?

Now it's Solomon that picked another man's wife? Na wa oooo, your soul don scatter true true. Not to talk of the fact that God rejected Solomon and never took him back again.

So which other rubbish you wan ask? I ready for you.

harjay1986:
Change the quote as you like but the truth will leave on, do you ever ask the reason why Jesus was crusified? It not because of your sin, it because he was trying to to expose the lie that you can only have contact with your maker through your pastor... His preaching was base on that you are the temple and if you are the temple you can talk to your creator directly

Ah ah, na so the answers burst your soul you spoke twice?

You are just rambling incoherently

Oh boy, guy thought nobody could answer the questions as you could not answer them when they used it to make you fall

And then the people around you could not answer either. So you thought they were unanswerable

harjay1986:
Even when it is time for Jesus he say I wish this cup can pass over me... To tells you every soul don't want to die

Even you no matter how righteous you are on the day of your last breath you will gasp for air.. Water will roll out of your eyes before you will give up... Tell me anything else

Now you have changed questions yet again after I answered your last questions


Anyway I will answer you yet again.

So? Was He not going to be tortured and murdered by evil doers like you? So of course it would be necessary for Him to gather all the strength required to go through it. No biggie

You wish but no matter how much you wish it to be like you people's death, it can never be so. ; That kind and even worse is for your kind.

Now I expect to run to another one after I don quench this one like the last one

harjay1986:
It will be long before you will understand, He said in Bible I create evil and good... He didn't say someone else create the evil... Even when the Israeli the want to leave Egypt, the same God have to go back and harden the mind of Pharao... But you never see everything different in that.. That's why he says my people are perish because they lack knowledge... Almighty God did not state anywhere that no one should question Him... But all is well

Ask yourself why it easy to crusify Jesus but Satan was left alone... Normally there is no explanation. I can say to you that will justify but wait and reason this statement

It was said in the Bible that Death is Wages of Sin, but in real life both the righteous and sinner will surely Die...

So because He created evil and good now means He is Satan his very own enemy who goes about spoiling His work?

Ha, understanding is very very very far from you ooooo

And because he dealt with the Enemy of His children who kept them in Bondage for 430 years or so by making sure that the guy collect and no escape for him, now means Satan in your convoluted mind.

And what has Jesus's crucifixion got to do with Satan who when God is ready for him, he will be dealt with final final, thrown into the lake of fire eh?

Then the wages of sin is death ehen what is the problem there? The Righteous sleep which is what Jesus says of his Loved ones see Lazarus and the young girl.

They pass on to sleep which is what people call death but Sinners surely die which is what you see when sinners are dying they squeeze and fight and claw on to life but alas they die.

We the children of God look forward to passing on for we know we die not, but go to sleep as the psalms say, "He gives his beloved, sleep".

But for you people, you scream and squeeze your faces when death comes for you, crying and begging not to die.

So better better undisputed difference dey!

Dpsychologist:
You’re accusing me of bias, but your own argument relies on a clear double standard.

When I say a woman is "functioning as an adult," I am holding her to the exact same high standard of agency and responsibility as the man. It is interesting that you view "adult responsibility" as an acknowledgment for a man but a "downplay" for a woman. If we are equals, then "functioning as an adult" is the baseline for both of us, not an insult.

See how you choose to hang on the word functioning adult which I did not make an issue of? And dodged the issue of not giving the burdens faced by the woman it's due weight as you did in the case of the man?
So there is nothing to answer here.

Dpsychologist:
You claim I didn't give weight to the woman’s professional struggles, but in the same breath, you admit she faces "all those same things" I listed for the man. If the struggles are the same, then my description of the man’s day is the description of her day. You are essentially complaining that I didn't write the same list twice.

Funny, I had to come out to do that which you failed to do. Now you want to claim my doing which you did not do as your doing? Is that not what we call a pilferer? This is quite low even for you.

Dpsychologist:
Your argument that the woman "carries and does all the work at home" is a biased assumption that ignores the reality of many modern partnerships. By framing the woman as the sole laborer and the man as a passive observer, you are creating a "suffering competition" rather than a logical discussion.

Of course everyone knows that is greatly the woman’s work and there is no bias in saying it as it is

Dpsychologist:
Marriage isn't about who has the "shorter end of the stick"; it's about two adults managing their collective weight.

Whether you say marriage isn't about that or not is immaterial as we have seen that it is and has been causing problems in marriages
You wouldn't have come making this thread if this has not caused problems.

Dpsychologist:
Furthermore, suggesting that a woman will inevitably "bring the home down on your head" if she’s unhappy isn't an argument for love, it’s a justification for destructive behavior.

No where did I say it is an argument for love. You clearly saw me say "on a side note" but you chose to blind your eyes to it.

Dpsychologist:
As adults, we are both responsible for the health of the home. If you believe a woman has the power to destroy a home, you must also acknowledge she has the agency to help build it without being treated like a victim.

The bottom line is that acknowledging a man’s burden does not diminish a woman’s. If you think highlighting the pressures men face is "bias," it suggests you aren't looking for a balanced marriage, but one where only one person's sacrifices are allowed to be seen.

If you highlight only the problems of one side and do not do the same for the other, rather you even downplay it, that is bias in the purest form.

A good piece must be balanced and unbiased in order for it to stand, if not its falls must be pointed out and the other side put forth which is what I have done.

harjay1986:
I once say to a friend that God is the same person we call Satan... They all laugh at me... But no qwarm we gather dey...

Why will they not laugh at you gon gon.

So God is his enemy eh?

So you are both "you" and "your own enemy"?

So your enemy who goes about spoiling your work, is the same person as you, right?

Na wa ooo, some people are raving m....and they don't know it

Diamond098454:
smile smile smile smile smile smile smile you are funny

Funny how?

thesolutions:
Women faces same in different settings.
Again, you can not use this argument in contemporary environment because some women earns more than their men. That is where her bias is coming from. What they call equal right in marriage is having the man do chores or run errands, choosing not to have children or chosing foster parents because they would not want to loose their figure or quit their jobs.

I am trying to make sense of what you are saying and how it connects to what I said.

You get that I spoke based on what he presented and did not say anything outside that, so I do not get where this is coming.

Odebayo4010:
WOMAN, YOUR BEAUTY WILL FAIL YOU.
I shall explain.
You see, because you are physically attractive you use your beauty to get things from men. Instead of developing skillsets you can use to create value in the marketplace and make money, you depend on your pretty face, boobs and yansh.

But there are three problems with this.
1. Not every man will want you for sex because you are nit their type.
2. Those men want value and not sex.
3. Your beauty will fade. More beautiful women will replace you.

If you want to create value until your 60's-70's, you should develop high value skillsets that you can use to deliver value and make money.

“Charm is deceptive, beauty does not last, but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.”
Proverbs 31:30

They know ooo but will not listen to advice until they are totally beyond usefulness.

Dpsychologist:
Let’s stop pretending this isn’t happening.

When a man is struggling financially, society mocks him. When a man has erectile issues, he’s ridiculed and written off. When a man falls, people don’t ask why, they mock and move on.

But when the tables turn?
Excuses appear. Sympathy flows. Accountability disappears. This isn’t bitterness. It’s pattern recognition.

Men are expected to be strong before they’re allowed to be loved. Women are often loved while they’re still figuring things out. That’s the reality many men learn the hard way.

So here’s the practical takeaway no emotions, just execution:

1. Build value: financially, mentally, physically. Nobody respects what isn’t solid.
2. Set standards: stop accepting imbalance and calling it love.
3. Demand reciprocity: effort, respect, contribution or walk.
4. Protect your dignity: your lowest moments will not be met with mercy.

As a man, no one is coming to save you. No one will cushion your fall. And no one will hesitate to judge you when you’re down. That doesn’t make life unfair it makes it clear.

So take responsibility for your growth.
Guard your peace.
Choose wisely.
And never outsource your self-worth to anyone.

Compliments of the season.

You know the craziest part of it? It is that he is mocked and ridiculed by his fellow men and not just by women, alone.

Then when the tables turn, it is still men who do the excuses and sympathies for a woman. You will hear leave am now, na woman she be.

Revealer3:
They thought they were upgrading. They thought leaving their husbands for “freedom” and “independence” would give them peace, happiness, and self-discovery.

These are painful realities women only realize after destroying their marriage:

1. No one else will tolerate what their husband did: That man they dumped was patient, loving, and forgiving. But outside, no man is willing to deal with your entitled, combative behavior.

2. Feminism doesn’t pay rent: Online feminists will hype you up, but when you’re broke, lonely, and falling apart, they won’t offer a dime or a shoulder.

3. Sexual market value drops with age: You’re not 24 anymore. You’re older, with more baggage and less patience. The options shrink. The demands increase. And most men now want younger, feminine, peaceful women.

4. “Freedom” is just loneliness in disguise: You thought you were escaping a “boring marriage,” now you’re eating dinner alone, faking happiness on Instagram, and battling depression in silence.

5. Your kids suffer the most: You broke a family to chase trends. Now the children grow up emotionally fractured. No father. No stability. No structure.

6. Being a single mother is not a badge of honor: You thought it made you strong? It made life 10 times harder. Now no high-value man wants to sign up for a ready-made burden.

7. Hypergamy has a deadline: You wanted a richer man, a more exciting man. Now you realize the pool you thought was full is actually shallow.

8. Attention is not the same as respect: You may still get likes and DMs. But no one respects you anymore. You’re entertainment, not investment.

9. Peace is priceless, and you threw it away: He wasn’t perfect, but he gave you peace. Now your world is chaos, drama, and anxiety. And you caused it.

10. The internet doesn’t care about your regret: You followed strangers online, now you’re suffering offline. And guess what? They’ve moved on. You’re the one paying the price.

This is the reality of modern women who traded submission for rebellion, family for fantasy, and wisdom for TikTok advice.

Marriage Tv

They know all these things ooo but they are always thinking that their case will be different all because one or two women seem to have had it different.

They don't even bother to follow up that woman's life to see how it ends or how miserable she is.

Dpsychologist:
Let’s first summarize the argument we keep hearing:

Many women say it’s unfair that they go to work and still come home to handle most house chores, while men “only” go to work and rest. They frame this as men oppressing women and benefiting from unpaid labor.

Now, let’s respond to it calmly, honestly, and without emotions.

The Hard Truth Most People Avoid

Life is not a competition of suffering.
Marriage and relationships are partnerships, not scoreboards.

The real question is not “Who is suffering more?”
The real question is “How are responsibilities shared based on reality, not ideology?”

Work Outside vs Work Inside the Home

Yes, house chores are work. No argument there.
But paid work is also work mentally, physically, and emotionally.

A man who wakes up daily to face traffic, pressure, deadlines, insults from bosses, financial responsibility, rent, school fees, emergencies, and societal expectations is not “doing nothing.”doe

Likewise, a woman who works outside and still contributes at home is not weak or oppressed, she is functioning as an adult.

Adults handle responsibilities. Children complain about them

Where the Argument Falls Apart

The problem starts when:

A woman wants full modern independence
But also wants full traditional privilege
While rejecting shared responsibility

You can’t say:

“I’m equal, independent, and empowered” AND
“House chores are oppression”
Pick a lane.

Equality means shared responsibility, not selective convenience.

The Uncomfortable Question Nobody Asks

If a woman goes to work and earns money:

Does she also contribute financially?
Does she see the man as a partner or just a provider?

Because many men work and still help at home, but that part is often ignored.

Fairness is not:

Man pays everything + helps at home
Woman earns + complains about chores
That’s not equality. That’s imbalance with branding.

The Real Solution (Not Online Noise)

Every home is different

Fairness should be based on:

Work hours
Income contribution
Physical strength
Health
Mutual agreement

Not Twitter trends.
Not gender wars.
Not victim narratives.

A wise couple discusses, adjusts, and supports each other.

Final Truth

House chores are not oppression.
Work is not punishment.
Marriage is not slavery.

What destroys homes is entitlement, not responsibility.

If you want a peaceful relationship:

Stop competing
Start cooperating
Drop the victim mindset
Build a system that works for both people

Because real life doesn’t care about online arguments it only rewards maturity.

End of discussion.

Cc nlfpmod Dominique seun

Inspite of your careful attempt to sound reasonable and balanced, your bias showed.

See how you described all that a man goes through

"A man who wakes up daily to face traffic, pressure, deadlines, insults from bosses, financial responsibility, rent, school fees, emergencies, and societal expectations is not “doing nothing.”

Who does not feel the weight carried by the man?

But when it came to the woman, here are your words

"Likewise, a woman who works outside and still contributes at home is not weak or oppressed, she is functioning as an adult"

Here we see you only acknowledging that works but no weight given to the fact that she faces all those same things which is what goes with work.

Then you say she contributes at home downplaying the fact that she does not just contribute she is infact the person who carries and does all the work at home which of course I do not need to list here as everyone knows them.

Then you say she is only functioning as an adult. Is the man not doing the same?

So the truth is the woman who goes through what the man goes through working and then comes home to all the work has the shorter end of the stick and what a suffering and burden. There is no way she would not eventually snap. And there is no way that marriage can be peaceful.

Love demands that you care for each other and support each other after all it is both your home and if it collapses, you both will suffer the consequences.

(On a side note, men tend to forget that it is first your home into which you bring the woman. If she is unhappy you can be sure she would bring down that home on your head then you begin to hear my wife did this and that.)

But since people rarely ever love themselves nor whom they marry, this issue will continue to plague and cause problems in their marriages.

greatiyk4u:
CHEATING FAITHFULLY IN MARRIAGE

These are ways to cheat faithfully as a married man, this advice is strictly for those who lack the discipline to conquer the temptation of extra martial affairs

Note, I am not in any way supporting cheating oooooooooooo
Here are the details




1...When you stick to one side chick, you are cheating faithfully

2...when you use protection cautiously and carefully to avoid contracting and passing diseases to your spouse, you are cheating faithfully

3. When you block every trace of evidence that will lead to suspicion, that's great respect you are cheating faithfully

4....When you avoid parading your CHEATEE publicly and start moving her in tinted glass vehicles you are cheating faithfully

5...when you don't spend money meant for running the family needs on your CHEATEE you are a faithful cheat.

5...When as someone wey never make am and you are cheating, then you are a very unfortunate and unfaithful CHEAT

Add your own and don't take it too serious
Remember:
Cheating faithfully in marriage is like trying to have your cake and eat it too 🤔 – it’s a recipe for disaster 😬. Infidelity can cause deep wounds, and rebuilding trust is tough 💔.

You say you are not supporting cheating but you have detailed how a person can cheat and then you also go on to say it's a recipe for disaster.

How can a person speak from one side of the mouth, then go on to speak from the other side and then again from one side. You are a lesson in how to twist and turn like that thing that crawls on the ground.

Then there is nothing like cheat faithfully.

How can any sane person put cheating and faithfulness together?

Cheating and faithfulness contradict and oppose each other.

Immediately you cheat on your spouse, faithfulness has left you even if you cheated with one person which is why the word cheating comes in, in the first place.

So this is utter and complete bull manure.

alobright17:
You only made noise you never answered anything as usual apart from making excuses for a book God that spared Satan but kpaid Ananias and wife.

The same you will say government will leave politicians that steal billions but jail someone that steal plantain ,but you won't say same when it comes to this imaginary godd that even did worse

See am, you have moved to politicians now as you can not counter my answer to you.

The id.....%$/thought there was no answer.

Now your turn to wail some more.

Dogalmighty17:
Withholding intimacy unto say na gold you carry for there? Any wife who does this is an unserious person.
I will keep saying this. Side chicks are the greatest contributors to the economic health of Nigeria. Side chicks are the reason why a great majority of marriages last long.

For crying out loud, all the men in the bible God loved had side chicks. Jacob carried OS. God told Hosea to go and get down with OS (Hosea 1:2). Abraham was given a loot. David had multiple women. Abi na Solomon own I go talk? Dude had more p--sy lying around than days in a year and yet him and God were leveling up. So WTF?

The same God that gave Moses the commandment against adultery ordered his prophet to go f--ck a prosti**te.

If she close leg, dem plenty outside. Go run your thing. No time for rubbish.

You lie when you say All the men in the Bible God loved had side chicks.

What a mighty liar you are!

Are Job, Noah and Daniel not Loved by God and commended by God and even called Righteous by Him? And did they have side chicks?

Did he ever call those men you mentioned Righteous? Their names are not on that List.

But see your life, you no see the men God commended to follow, it is the ones he did not commend you are following.

Follow your follow after all na your unalive but do it alone, stop looking for who to follow you.

alobright17:
Making excuses for one yeye God that carry Satan send to you for you to use prayer defeat him after the same Satan committed sin inside the so called heaven .

Before this Satan was chased down there was no sin on earth .

How can you see bias when you're a believer?
Why the bias God that kpai Ananias and wife instantly no kpai Satan or David you're here saying David son slept with his wife.

See how you sound incoherent like one ma... person.

You thought no one could answer you eh?

Abegi, you kukuma no get anything wey make sense to say, so you can continue ranting till you port comot, it would not change anything you already dey see for this life.

DeepSight:
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Relax, i am just playing with his fetish mind. He was the one who started with curses and appealed to the earth, sea and air in doing so, so i am only tasking that silly fetish approach.

He did nothing fetish. It is you who went all fetish showing us exactly who you truly are.

Oh wow! What a sight.

The breeze has blown and your pretence has blown wide open.

You are a failure as an atheist and what you really really are is a fetishist. And even at that you are still a failure.

Dtruthspeaker:
The Lord God has Said it

Evil shall slay the wicked, calamity will come upon him suddenly, Therefore shall evil come upon thee; thou shalt not know from whence it cometh: and mischief shall fall upon thee; thou shalt not be able to put it off: and desolation shall come upon thee suddenly, which thou shalt not know.from the 4 corners of the earth, daily through out all thy very long days upon the earth.

And it is Written the eaters of flesh shall eat their own flesh and yours and shall drink their own blood and yours, Says The Lord.

AMEN!

What an eve ill thing after first trying to look like one reasonable human being but I am not surprised anyway.

dollypi:
I don't deal in absolutes. Floating point, that's the way of nature. Take it or leave it.

This is just another way of saying you don't have facts .

This generation of women dey fear person ooo!

They no dey even hear advice unlike in our own time.

But just in case there is any woman out there, still pure and having not given in to the pressures of hk and who knows to fear God, remain pure and standing in God for this is thy blessing and your life.

Once you lose your pureness, you lose everything and causes follow you for the rest of your life.

alobright17:
Even your God did same that's why you people claimed he's waiting for the last day before he will punish satan .upon all what David did your God was bias but quickly strike Ananias and the wife, and tell us David is man after his heart .

Don't even go there .

See painment!

When did God punish the innocent? Then for Satan, wetin be your own as to when he decides to carry out Satan's punishment? How that one take concern you eh?

Then for David you people like to forget that as David took another man's wife, his own son took his wives and slept with them publicly! So where is the Bias eh?

Then for Ananias and wife, you people fail to see beyond your noses.

I bet you do not see that it's not just about lying before the Spirit of God but further doing a serious evil of "I am sure I can deceive God and he will not know"

He and his wife planned it together.

So they sought to deceive God in His very face and they were not afraid hence the death sentence.

But I know say God dey pepper you and obviously He does not answer you which is why you came out ranting.

fyneboi79:
Dem force you to quote? Truth hurts..deal with it..

So someone has spoken on this. I was just about to say the same thing.

Incognito403:
Why is 70% of christian posts about s*x and cornography?

Is this all what you people think about in church and on sundays.
I think this speaks a lot about Nigeria. christians. chromiscuity is their bread and butter especially those pulpitprenuers.

Remember yesterday's thread about how lack of modesty and self-control is why most pastors are going to jail? Yet, it's these same people that point hands to muslims and call them names.

Is sex and porn not a heavy thing that even Christians suffer from? So they are trying to speak to one another to encourage themselves to stay away from it!

You wey no be Christian, how e take concern or affect you? Get out of the thread as it is none of your business, Mr busybody.

AntiChristian:
Some people don line up for formication of the season!

Anyways, sexual impurity doesn't stop holy spirit from using you!

Samson as a case study!

You are truly a devu's seed.

You did not remind them how the same Samson ended up blinded and stripped of his powers by the same vessel of sexual impurity and sold to the same people he tormented, caged by them, tormented I bet daily and the end of his days was being crushed to death by the house he brought down on himself and his tormentors.

You truly caused thing and forever shall you be till you port