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99thEnemy:
Let's ask the OP.

vdestro is this true?

This poster has answered the question
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socoharley:
Na you no sharp.. across the bridge means the "eastern region"

jaxxy:
Ok thats impressive but i dont think i can properly advise on this matter because cos i dont know what her extra demands are or hoe execessive they maybe cos that can be relative depending of the level of the family but i think she should try to present her arguement or case better cos her husband already has an opinion of her as being materialistic cos of where shes from and not neccessarily what shes done yet.

I dont have enough infomation about the matter to judge or advise correctly.

You are on point.

bukatyne:
Why did your good friend's husband marry a woman from across the bridge when he doesn't trust them?

With how culturally diverse Nigeria is, he married a woman from a tribe he doesn't trust.

Na wa o!

You know the thing about this is, when she opened up to me, I was surprised because she and her husband are so close, I didn't know this was going on.

lookinggood:
You are still there saying what are friends for! With married woman Abiii?

Special adviser continue o, untill the husband catch you will show your appointment letter as S.A on family matter.

Lol, I am a woman na!

Dtruthspeaker:
Very funny sight indeed
However, i believe because the cheating has still not come is why they are still together. And maybe the suspicion is keeping the wife in line

I think it's counterproductive because that is what may just push her over the line. Person dey tire for suspicion.

free2ryhme:
Na seun and boy boy mod wey dey pursue engagement like their destiny depends on it 🤣🤣🤣

Asin eh, if I talk werin dey my mind dem go ban me.

ceejay80s:
which one is fvck wey dey fly again abeg?

This your comment wan off me with laugh ooo

lookinggood:
She should report this issues to her father, mother-inlaw and not you.

For her to be so close to you and tell you such issues, when there are husband family members suprise me o. Hheemmm

What are friends for?

There are certain issues that you know if you report to family their biases would just make matters worse, but for me there is no bias or anything to gain, so you are likely to get helpful responses.

jaxxy:
She works in oga's business? Is she not paid a salary? She should use her salary for any additional luxury she thinks she wants.

By experience when girl want more or feel too enitiled but dont want to come out directly they use othee girls enjoying such things because they love to compare themselves with either their friends or other girls.

If her friends husband buys his wife a new car she automatically wants a new car from oga. Its a very bad habbit. I prefer u ask for from ur own mind than using what other people are doing or having as ur reason to ask.

No, she does not work in Oga's business. They both jointly started the business from the scratch and run it together.

MrJames007:
Op what are you to her

Her good friend as I explained in my post abi wetin dey your mind?

favour32:
Nothing like across the bridge stuff.
It's a general thing.
Every man should always prepare for anything.


A woman can be with a man for more than 25 years and wake up one morning to leave without any negative action from the man.



Sigmund Freud,one of the greatest psychoanalysts,
said that in all his career,he never knew what a woman wanted.



Capisce?

My thought exactly but the beauty of putting it on here, is you get to see different opinions which is what this platform is for.

Atlantis585:
The way married women fcuck around these days is quite alarming.

The man has every reason to dey look her somehow with one eye.

That one dey sha!

jojothaiv:
Nairaland bots giran gan....

The thing eh, e dey spoil morale

jaxxy:
In other words she is a finiancial liability to oga and lowkey high maintainance but pretending not to be? Oga has seen through her oju kokoro. Lol

She should be content with what oga is currently giving her and if she isbt content she should go and work for her own money. A wife should not feel entitiled to more than what her husband can currently afford or willing to give.

She dated him and married him like that. If he pretended then thats her luck for being only after his money rather than working for her own money.

Would you opinion be different if I told you she works? Just that she and Oga run the same business and joint account things which I wonder if it's even a good idea.

JoeEeL:
Baje baje.

Ko de ni da fun nairaland bots including the pioneer of the idea.

As in eh, it's something else ooo

femi4:
If she is not guilty as charged, she has nothing to worry about

You can't change people's perception about you

Oh, yes. I agree.

dettolgel:
The man is just gas lighting her trying to break her down mentally and when she leaves the man will say "I said so".

She should ignore his sorry ass attempt at manipulating her and focus on herself and the kids. 10 years from now that man will be 90% dependent on her and all those side chics that are giving him moral will be no where to be found.

Hmm, that's a good take on this matter. You just might be right.

To everyone asking what across the bridge means. This answers it perfectly 👇

socoharley:
Na you no sharp.. across the bridge means the "eastern region"

chatinent:
The problem of this world is religion.

You people who steal, murder, destroy, lie, cheat, extort from the poor are the fathers and makers of problems of the world

paxonel:
When we say someone is saved what does it implies?
It implies that the person was born into a Christian home or he was converted into Christianity from whatever religion he had practiced previously before he joined Christianity.
The Christian Faith is the basis of salvation in the context of the bible.

Romans 1:17 For therein is the righteousness of God revealed from faith to faith: as it is written, The just shall live by faith.

Once you are into this Christian Faith irrespective of the church you attend, it is very difficult to convert you away from the Faith so that you go practice other religions, hence once saved is always saved.

Now, don't bring the issue of sin or righteous living here, because it doesn't apply

Romans 4:2 For if Abraham were justified by works, he hath whereof to glory; but not before God.

See self deceit and the spreading of lies for, It is written

9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

11 And such are you
1 Corinthians 6:9-11:

This was even stated after Christ had come and gone where ye lie tellers say.

And to seal the fact that you are a lying this statement shows and proves that no one is saved now but is saved when they are found righteous

2 Timothy 4:8
Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing.

And if you want to use Abraham to hide, do you not see that you can count Abraham's sins? You obviously know cannot count your sins is why think sin and righteous living should be removed whereas it stated

let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he (God/Christ) is righteous.

8 He that committeth sin is of the devil

And here you are lying and sinning, so you know verse 8 is who you are and you know you SHALL end up in the lake of fire in the future, just like salvation cometh in the future for those who have lived RIGHTEOUSLY..

voortrekker966:
Devil, is that you cooking?

Na im true true

ibroyal:
Okay,I think she should just ignore him and be herself, thats all.

Ok. Thank you for contributing.

poshestmina:
He suddenly doesn'trust her after over 20 years?
Na under Bridge he first marry her from? .

Make una dey leave all this foolish stories sometimes.Una dey make Nairaland reduce IQ wey I dey manage.

Do you not understand that she is just opening up to me? And that she is obviously at her wit's end?

Or you think because 20 years don knack, problem go just dissappear? If person no open up, you no go know na? So if you get something to contribute to the matter, talk am...

ibroyal:
😂😂😂😂😂 I wanted to ask the same question.

Na ban cause am oo. I kept getting banned for different variations of the tribes name ooo. So had to go that way. Lol.

It's across the Niger. Make dem no come ban me again lol

WatchYourSix:
What in the flying fvck is across the bridge??

The bots keep banning me for saying the tribe, so I had to get creative.

To your question, I mean Niger bridge. To avoid ban I can't say more than that.

My good friend just told me her husband does not trust her because of where she is from.

She is from the across the bridge and has been with Oga for 20+ years.

She said Oga said her people do not stay with their husbands if they fail to satisfy them financially or *sesually.

And that he knows she will leave him eventually when she is tired and that even though he appreciates that she is trying to do the right thing her across the bridge will get the better of her as people from that area are prone to doing.

She said everything she does now is read in that light even when she does things she knows the female gender does, e.g Oga believes in saving and spending on only necessaries, she supports Oga but sometimes wants to indulge, Oga says it's an across the bridge thing and not a feminine thing which she heavily disputes.

She says she is tired of being accused and of assuring Oga of her commitment and that she is not doing anything unusual for everything she does any woman would do same but Oga disputes this.

I told her I would put up this post to get people's opinions on this matter.

She was surprised by your dumping her. Now she is gonna be doing the surprising

MissOpe:
Chai this girl don get me oo, the demons truly scream ooooo... Chai
But e no go beta for your Skydaddy

Now everyone sees you for who you truly are!

I'm out.

MissOpe:
Anofia is the true description of your sky daddy..
U go rot in ell , u go tire.

We rey ala so

see hot fresh painment.

See as all the themons wey dey your body dey scream. You have not yet started!