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I wish you had mentioned the actions that have hindered your married life so far, so that the younger generation could learn from them. However, since you haven't mentioned them, I assume they are either some of the following:

1. High handedness

2. Pride

3. Commercialization of relationships supposedly conducive to marriage

4. Inability to maintain a relationship

5. Unrealistic fantasy

6. Arrogance

7. Obsession with money

8. Wrong association

9. Undefined goals

10. Hygiene

TheStoriesOfMan:
To be honest, the development in Nigeria is too snail-paced to be called real development. Feasibility, implementation, maintenance and legacy of projects are done by unserious, moral-depraved and corrupt entities.

I don't know if, when or how this country will get it right for once, but I'm sensing the Ghanaian Treatment will one day happen.

Sure! Leadership is important when you look at every country that has transformed from 3rd-world to become an emerging or developed nation. We just need an individual with the right perspective and ability to manage our diversity, others once they see the seriousness in the Leadership, they will have no choice but to follow effectively

ottersberger:
You've gotta pair production with volume of consumers. Nigeria has by far, the most consumers among the listed countries and our transmisson and distribution infrastructure is very dilapidated and iinefficient.

Nigeria should be producing and distributing x3 of South Africa's current output to maintain a norminal electricity stability.

Exactly!

TheStoriesOfMan:
The bolded can only work in a greed-free society (though 100% impossible but achievable with strict laws).

Greed na one kin bad spirit eh, if a sane person lives in a greed-filled society, the pressure will be too much than a greedy person living in a greed-free society. For the latter he can move to a place where he can operate with his folks.

The long and short, environment is a key factor. I don't judge people trying to japa for a better life for their children, because they need the perfect atmosphere to thrive and be productive.

Absolutely, and thank you for your contribution on this important topic; however, I maintain that Nigeria is no worse off than some of the countries that are currently ahead of us in terms of development. I remember, as a child in Nigeria, that odd jobs were done by Ghanaians, and that, at the same time, petty theft was often orchestrated by them (this was in the early 80s and 90s). It only took the effort of one person for Ghana to become what it is today.
Our country needs the right voice to lead and definitely, others will follow...

This is yet another misleading piece of information. We generate 40 GWh to power how many people?

To be objective and without political bias or image concerns, could you please revise these figures to reflect the amount of electricity produced relative to each country's population?
Also, include the transmission rate

I hope the younger generation will heed this advice before it's too late.

I'll add a few more points she omitted, for those who will take her message seriously:

5. Yahoo exposes young people to nefarious activities: ritual murders and other social ills can largely be attributed to Yahoo.

6. Some young boys, seeking money, resort to theft when the expected gains don't materialize.

7. Years wasted living in a vicious cycle, as she mentioned. Life is a process; individuals develop in stages. If certain stages are missed, the shortcomings will inevitably be felt in later life. In life, a child must learn to sit, crawl, stand, walk, and run, in that order. The same principle applies to financial management: young people must be taught to engage in productive activities. Money is the reward for work, but also a resource. We send money to do things, not the other way around. Once a child is mature enough to understand this principle, managing their spending well will be no problem. Engaging in fraudulent activities erodes these values ​​and makes young people vulnerable, as we have recently seen.

It is important to instill in young people the idea that money isn't everything, but that it is essential to prepare for it before needing it, otherwise it can become a trap.

This is not a new strategy. Most politicians tends to go back to their vomit in an attempt to secure a reelection. Identifying with the remnant of the local ruling party stalwarts to connect the national bloc in order to retain power beyond 2027.
As always expected, the common masses are the victims while the politicians gain...

O yes!

My experiences so far continue to strengthen my faith, especially when I find myself at a crossroads, searching for direction. I know that by sharing them here, I can offer comfort to someone:

1. I resigned from the family business because I wanted to focus on my career. The company didn't align with my aspirations, and besides, I no longer found fulfillment there.

I immediately started looking for a job after resigning, with a small amount of money left in my bank account. I was seriously considering my future once my savings were depleted, knowing that I didn't want to return to the family business or depend on my family's financial support, since I was no longer contributing. While I was still looking for work, I was introduced to a church just a short distance from my home. I began attending their services, and then I undertook a 21-day fast, my first experience with an extended fast. During this time, I began to hear God distinctly speaking about what was going to happen, including my job. I dreamt I was in a shallow place, surrounded by a fence, and suddenly, a huge hand appeared, handed me a concrete hammer to break through the fence. I did it (I was sweating) when I woke up.

After breaking through the barrier, I saw a plain and fertile land stretching as far as the eye could see. When I woke up, I knew I was a different person. The next day, I went to celebrate with a friend: I had found a job, even if it wasn't yet official.

A few days later, I received a call asking me to meet with someone immediately, which I did the next day. That's how I landed my first job over 18 years ago, and thank God, I'm still in the same profession at the management level.

Part 2 is coming depending on the level of engagement received concerning the part 1

When lies are repeated endlessly, they eventually become accepted as truth. I've read this same story on numerous forums, and I'm glad he finally responded and debunked these allegations, even though he didn't provide any details to verify whether he was indeed financially well-off at that time to have injected such humongous amount into a private residential construction. I remember my dad's coffin we bought cost less than 300 naira in Jan 1990; it was a common model for a middle-class family. Back then, 20 million naira was a considerable sum.

Six prominent figures who betrayed the PDP in 2015 to further their political ambitions are still seeking power that seems to elude them:

1. Atiku, a perpetual candidate
2. Amaechi
3. Saraki
4. Kwankwaso, who even boasted of using minors to oust PGEJ from power
5. Sule Lamido
6. Aminu Tambuwal

What a sojourn

thesicilian:
Kudos, I'm surprised you even know the meaning of digress, with the way you guys reason

When one is blinded by sentiment, the truth is always bitter and irritating.

Where were you at 24 (courtship) to max 28 (Marriage)?
Kindness, I don't get, from where to where?
Will the kindness fall from heaven except during the courteship window?
Let's even say, you start a new potentially marriage-prone relationship today, it will take at least another 2 years to discover yourselves and compatibility, and that will make you 34 (Official age o).
Then, when would menopause set in?
Ladies, please don't see this as a gender attack; it is the reality that we must face.
I come in peace, joor!

thesicilian:
If you were still not happy in that your 2015 utopia, what makes you think you'll ever be happy anytime in the future?

This is how they always digress. One political hallelujah boy spotted!

This divisive politics of tribal orientation hasn't helped the country; only the elites benefit from it, hence, "No tribe needs any alliance other than an individual with a good manifesto and track records to show he is capable of leading and promoting national cohesion.
This same politics of tribe recently gave us PMB, whose inglorious leadership plunged the country into the mess and consistently sustained by APC to date. Has his emergence really helped reduce the poverty line in his home state, not to mention his region? The answer is, No!
We must jettison this divide-and-rule sentiment. We are Nigerians, and our plights as a country are beyond ethnic lines...hunger has no tribe, hence we must learn to be Nigerians and not tribal bigots.

One question too difficult to answer by the APC promoters: "Are Nigerians better off compared to their status before 2015?
Truth is generally seen but rarely heard.

Sorry o!

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

NAFDAC, Young Nigerians Live at Risk Due to Unrestricted Access to Cheap Alcohol

There is a silent tragedy unfolding across our streets, one that many have grown too familiar with yet too numb to confront. Every weekday, during my 9-to-5 hustle, I drive past major garages as early as 5 a.m. in an attempt to beat the notorious Lagos traffic. And every morning without fail, I witness the same heartbreaking scene: young Nigerians, middle-aged men, and even the elderly clutching sachet gin as if it were a lifeline. At an hour when most people are just rising from sleep, countless individuals are already drowning in cheap alcohol.

These scenes are not isolated. They are a disturbing reflection of a nationwide problem enabled by the reckless availability of alcohol - especially sachet gin, sold openly, cheaply, and freely in every nook and cranny. The price tags are so low that anyone battling frustration, depression, hopelessness, or emotional fatigue finds an easy and harmful escape. While the government turns a blind eye, addiction digs deeper into the soul of our nation.

It is shocking that Nigeria has become one of the few countries where harmful substances are sold at giveaway prices, without meaningful regulation or tax policies to curb excessive consumption. In other countries, luxury goods and dangerous products attract heavy taxes to discourage abuse, reduce access, and protect public health. But here, substances that should be tightly controlled are instead handed out on the streets like snacks.

Meanwhile, corporate manufacturers of sachet alcohol are cashing out daily. They smile to the bank while the country loses its promising youth, its future, one sachet at a time. The burden of destroyed dreams, broken homes, kidney failures, liver damage, and untimely deaths is borne by families and by the productivity of the nation. Every addicted young person represents a loss not just to their loved ones but to Nigeria’s workforce, economy, and stability.

NAFDAC can no longer afford to stay on the sidelines. The regulatory agency must rise forcefully to this public health emergency. Sachet gin and similar harmful alcoholic substances have become a weapon silently killing our youths, and only strict regulation, enforcement, and outright bans can curb this menace. Compassion for corporate profits must never outweigh the lives of citizens.

Hospitals and health institutions have consistently shown alarming data on organ failure and other devastating consequences linked to the consumption of harmful alcoholic mixtures. Kidney failures, liver diseases, and mental health deterioration are becoming too common among people who should be in the prime of their lives. How long will we watch our future fade away without a fight?

The blood of Nigerian youths, victims of poor governance, unchecked addiction, and readily available toxic substances will continue to cry out against a state that refuses to protect them. We cannot afford to wait until more dreams are buried and more families are left in sorrow.

It is time to speak up. It is time to demand action. We must rise together to condemn and combat the epidemic of alcohol addiction fueled by sachet gin. Our society deserves better. Our youths deserve better. Our future deserves protection.

Say NO to sachet alcoholic substances.

26 - 11 - 2025

OredoPikin2:
So u support the squandering of our common resources by Tinubu?

No Sir, I'm not supporting any politician because most actions of politicians are driven by personal interests unfortunately, they always say the opposite to hoodwink the populace to support them.
If politicians really care about the emancipation of ordinary Nigerians as mentioned by this politician, Nigeria will not be like this today

I see no foul play here.
Normally, the airline needs to get an autopsy to provide comprehensive report about such unfortunate incidents.
May her soul rest in peace and pray the good Lord comfort the family she left behind.

Funny how some politicians overrate themselves. "Your aim is for the emancipation of ordinary Nigerian" You were governor for 8 years, minister, Senator...
Where is the emancipation of ordinary Nigerian? Looking at the economic conditions of ordinary Nigerians in Kano...

A lesson for future brides and grooms.

It's pointless to build a lasting relationship on lies. The truth will always come out, and once it's revealed, even your shadow will seem suspicious to your partner.

Clearly, a single lie can ruin a marriage forever. Some lies just aren't worth it. Let's say he lied to her from the very beginning of their relationship. What's stopping him from setting the record straight when they were still courting? I'm certain that discovering the truth on her own is the reason she is hurt.

And this is a party that truly want to fight corruption. One may be forced to ask;
What is the annual remuneration of a council chairman x by the duration of the Office then, one can now make an objective assessment to know ascertain if these political parties truly meant good for the country.
A simple logic will tell anyone:
1. If you are vying for an office whose remuneration is let's say 1m per month x 12 or 13 months as the case may be which is 13m max.
2. Multiply this annual remuneration of 13m x 3 or 4 years which is about 50m
3. Already, form alone will gulp 30m and let's say another 50m for electioneering campaign which is even far too small to be spent in any election.
4. This minimal calculation is already about 90m if you add some other logistics.
5. Doing all of these because a politician wants to serve his people, isn't that laughable?
6. Going by the above, clearly the system has already positioned the politician to steal before he can even recoup his expenses used to get to the office.
Sadly we are just playing to the gallery. Until we are conscious of our collective gains and making politics less attractive for embezzlement, we will continue to complain

God will continue to expose them like this.
I wish the minister would make an unscheduled visit to Lagos - Festac, Alausa and Ikoyi too

Capital, YES!
First, we have heard about the adulterous woman in the Bible. Why wasn't the man publicly denounced? For adultery to occur, there must be at least two consenting adults. Why wasn't the man publicly denounced or dishonored like the woman?

Second, it is scientifically proven that men are polygamous by nature and, judging by most of them, have mistresses while remaining close to their families, unlike women who become emotionally detached from their husbands and children as soon as they begin relationships with other men.

I still can't find the acclaimed big fish maybe, crayfish they meant to say

Opportunity to turn our creative youths to political hallelujah AKA data boys as you misused them against PGEJ?
God forbid!

This match looks too technical from both side

If they had allowed PGEJ, this proposal would be about thirteen years old this year. Imagine the impact it would have had on society as a whole: most of those currently terrorizing their hosts in the forest might have accomplished something meaningful for themselves and soceity at large. This is the kind of suggestion one would expect from someone supposedly learned, but, through greed and religious blindness, he was busy promoting the heinous acts of those they have misgoverned for centuries.

The irony of all these superficial practices, which consist of appearing pious but in reality conceal a profound perversity and great hypocrisy, is as follows:

1. Most of these laws apply only to the poor, ruined, and poorly governed masses.

2. The rich can do as they please, especially in their private lives, and even have the means to travel and enjoy themselves before returning to feign saintliness.

3. Children from wealthy families study abroad, benefit from a global perspective, and do not support these so-called laws, merely pretending to identify with their region.

4. The so-called law enforcement agencies neither mention nor attempt to punish those who plunder the common resources, thus contributing to their underdevelopment.

5. If Nigeria were to divide today, the South would experience rapid development despite the wealth stolen by the northern elites. In this scenario, their region would resemble North Korea in relation to South Korea.

6. There seem to be so many evil men hiding under the guise of Islam in Nigeria.

7. Those who introduced Islam to them are even more tolerant, going so far as to repeal certain unfavorable or unreasonable laws. Yet, our people act as if they are superior to the Arabs. What a country!

When I see him boasting about working hard, I wonder what's going through his mind, because I can't imagine an adult who stole people's mandates boasting about working hard. Whether he likes it or not, karma will catch up with him.

Most of us who have read the story of "Mr. All of you"-the Tortoise know that he wants to turn an entire state, home to many educated families, into his private estate. He hasn't grasped that there's a time for everything. He wants to own Abuja and Rivers State simultaneously. Greed has made him so restless, running from pillar to post. Isn't it shameful that an individual who isn't running for any office in 2027 has already declared war, and no authority has seen fit to call him to order?

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This idea is made necessary by the growing insecurity facing our country. While I support and encourage any government initiative aimed at curbing this scourge, I believe we must be cautious and avoid solving one problem only to create another.

If I were president, I would order the police and military to create a joint task force, similar to the ECOMOG team, to address this challenge. This team would be responsible for undergoing specialized training and establishing a dedicated unit within the security forces to combat kidnapping and related crime in Nigeria. Entrusting the use of weapons to insufficiently trained security forces could prove extremely dangerous.