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 Family › Re: I'm Scared Of Marrying Her by VEE2010(m): 11:06am On Mar 14, 2022 |
Dear OP, The issues raised are valid points for developing a fear of not continuing in a relationship but I think the advice below will help as someone who has been married for almost 8 years I think I should help future couples cope with their fears and all: 1. Spend more time on communication: In your post, the issue of alleged insubordination is so blatant, through effective communication, you might realize if she's actually stubborn just to test your patience or not. As you rightly mentioned she was raised by a single parent you need to know why it happened that way maybe her dad was a bully to her mom and she is trying maybe to make sure she doesn't fall into the same trap. I get that most guys hate housework, but I think it should also be something we guys consider noble. There are days I just want to make dinner for the whole family, my wife, the house staff will prepare the condiments while I cook, it's a kind of fun and bonding activity for me. For things that you are not comfortable with, always point them out as they happen and warn her of the consequences as well. 2. Learn to solve problems as they arise, no need to keep problems in mind and worry about what you can't change. According to your submission, she cheated in May and you raise the issue in September, you should have opened up to her as she denied, resolved, and moved on. Marriage is not a tea party, there may be many challenges, but your maturity in solving them makes you a man. 3. Marriage proposal has been overrated lately by young people, I remember my conversation with my wife recently, we couldn't even remember how I proposed to her because, it all happened so naturally, we weren't constrained by the fun-loving society – just more than the real activity. The proposal is not what you need now, but the openness. And I would also advise you not to make your intention known at this stage. 4. She may not be a bad person now, but the way you handle her may encourage her to be submissive or stubborn. I will advise you not to deal with what you can't stand; a broken relationship is better than a divorce. 5. Family influences on raising children cannot be undermined, get closer to her mother, communicate to understand the kind of foundation she's raised. 6. As a man, you are also not perfect, you have to look within, those attitudes that you know too well cannot be tolerated by your partner must also be purged. 1 Like |
| Politics › Re: NDLEA Appoints MC Oluomo As Ambassador For War Against Drug Abuse In Lagos by VEE2010(m): 5:46pm On Mar 04, 2022 |
It is indeed strategic. Some people won't understand, but if you live with a thief, the best approach to staying safe is to hand over valuables to the thief. Can a thief steal from himself? The answer is, No!. It's a set-up in disguised |
| Politics › Re: Bisi Fayemi: NGWF Members Were Not In Dubai Solely For Aisha Buhari's Birthday by VEE2010(m): 5:40pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
A very important thing to take away from said explanation by the group. Obviously, they read all the messages on social media, especially gossip. They should use their positions to communicate more to Nigerians when it matters most, not only when they feel they're being maligned. |
| Politics › Re: Women In Abuja Protest Against National Assembly's Misogynistic Agenda (Photos) by VEE2010(m): 5:33pm On Mar 02, 2022 |
See them, after controlling men at home, they still want to dominate men outside. Aunty Feminists, what do you people really want? |
| Foreign Affairs › Re: World War III Trends, Memes (Photo) by VEE2010(m): 9:30am On Feb 24, 2022 |
Putin must sheathe his sword, he should learn from Adolf Hitler... War is no one's friend. It may seem logical from the beginning, but the end of it can be destructive |
| Politics › Re: Update On The Second Niger Bridge (Muhammadu Buhari Bridge) (Video) by VEE2010(m): 9:37am On Feb 12, 2022 |
pquaver:It is either you are a sycophant or one of the lazy brainwashed Nigerians who can easily be tricked by politicians. My message was quite patriotic, and it will continue to remain so regardless of your superficial mind. 1 Like |
| Politics › Re: Update On The Second Niger Bridge (Muhammadu Buhari Bridge) (Video) by VEE2010(m): 7:59pm On Feb 11, 2022 |
I don't seem to understand the noise around this PPP project yet to be completed. Already a toll gate as seen in the picture has been installed by the project financiers to recoup their investment so what is the noise? For those mischievous politicians who use this PPP as a campaign tool, God will judge you all. Normally, if we had been prudent with our resources, would we have opted for a PPP for a bridge under 2 km? Babaginda built a 12KM third mainland bridge without seeking a PPP partnership, they should be ashamed that this project dragged on for so long despite the fact that the last administration even supported the kick-off of the project before they left office. This is a joke that a bridge that is less than 2KM is dragging in the last 8 years and some nitwits still find it laudable to score cheap political points with it. What a shame of a country! 2 Likes |
| Politics › Re: Hoodlums Attack Aregbesola Supporters In Osun(photos) by VEE2010(m): 3:42pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
Lazy youths! Aregbesola is there enjoying his loots with his family while the poor nitwits are killing and maiming each other. What a shame!! 1 Like |
| Family › A Divorced Single Mother's Dairy - A Bitter Lesson Shared To Save Marriages! by VEE2010(op): 3:38pm On Feb 02, 2022 |
A DIVORCED SINGLE MOTHER WROTE I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it's good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws. I am 32 years of age. My ex husband and I dated for 6 years. We where best of friends. I waited until he completed college and started work. My family and his family then met. We got married and had a son. (7 years old now). My husband was short tempered at times but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel he couldn't control me. Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and explain. My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. If he was controlling me I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me. I never wanted divorce. I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a loose woman in his eyes. One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside. I went to my family, my family took him to the police, every time I looked like I was being abused! But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained. I was asked by his family to withdraw the case. I felt that what I was doing was wrong. My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized. I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled. After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue and he remained alone. After two days, I received a call that he was in the hospital. My family told me that I shouldn't go there because it would look like I was begging him and my sisters believed he was feigning the illness. All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused. He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I just received a divorce summon. I wanted to say no to divorce, but because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me. I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell. When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared. To my surprise he openly told the court that whatever he and I acquired together should be given to me, all he wanted was divorce. We were divorced in 2009 July. Now, my husband is married, whilst l am here wasted! My family members are gossiping about me. I depend on what my ex husband gives to my son for survival. I know I wasted my marriage. I am here telling all wives that they should be careful how they get advise. Don't be cheated, don't entertain family interference in your marriage my dear reader. Even my young sisters are much more respected than me. Those who encouraged me to get divorced are always teasing and bad mouthing me. Please ladies, be vigilant in your marriage. Thought it wise to share my story to save your marriage. There is no benefit in pride for nothing. SOMETIMES IT'S NOT THE MAN'S FAULT AT ALL, IT'S YOUR PRIDE,AND THE PEOPLE YOU ALLOWED TO ADVISE YOU,SO BE WISE AND VIGILANT IN YOUR MARRIAGE. 5 Likes |
| Travel › Re: Assault Of Nigerian Passengers At Togo Airport: Minister, Envoy Intervene by VEE2010(m): 3:04pm On Dec 20, 2021 |
It is sad and out of place. Nigerians are harassed all over the world because of the institutional decay we have witnessed in our country. I once passed through Lomé airport on board Asky and to my surprise, over 60% of the passengers on that flight were going to the United States via the Ethiopia airline. And I was so curious, given the size of our population and influx of travelers, what is stopping the airline from offering a direct flight from Nigeria since Nigerians are their main customers? The flight from Lagos to Lomé takes approximately 35 minutes. It is unfortunate that the government has not been able to convert the opportunities and leased value chains in the aviation sector to provide jobs for its citizens. I am very sure that most Airlines in Togo will struggle to survive without Nigerian travelers The government must do all within the ambit of the law to protect her citizens whom they have compelled to migrate as a result of poor leadership. 2 Likes |
| Romance › Re: All My Efforts To Settle Down This Year Is Failing by VEE2010(m): 2:59pm On Dec 16, 2021 |
EkehPraise:I always advise people not to be so conscious about settling down, just live your life as if you are not looking for a wife while you try to mingle and make friends. The right person will come your way when you are less concerned about quitting bachelorhood. Importantly, be sensitive, the right person that will emerge will come so naturally and your instinct will prove it. I met my wife when I was so relaxed about the thought of getting married. While we dated, the instinct was so strong from both of us even when I tried very hard to resist it citing several failed attempts. I was so freaking about just continuing with the dating only until I was totally convinced that it was actually the right chemistry between both of us. We are happily married for 7 years now and have no regret even when we have a little misunderstanding, we still find ourselves attuned to each other. Meanwhile, these are the little secrets traits that mustn't be ignored while dating: 1. Be free as if you are living your normal life - avoid drama and fake life 2. Be sincere to her in virtually everything, you may not disclose your intention even in the next 6 months 3. Study and understand her background 4. Get involved in her personal affairs to know if you can cope with her 5. Let her know your close relatives on time so that, they can as well observe her. Mind you, do not disclose your intention even to your relatives and friends. 6. Do not be too emotionally attached to her because doing so might keep lots of things away from you. You may not know when you start making decisions based on your emotion or sentiments 7. Learn to create little issues to know if you can manage her temperament 8. Do not judge her but rather let her know her little weaknesses and see if she will take correction 9. Do not be too perfect to a fault, she will also need to understudy your attitude to know if she can cope with you 10. Avoid what you will not like in the future...if you are not an outgoing type, make it known to her except you are willing to change to suit her person 11. Be fervent in your prayers and also, observe her spiritual life 12. Church dating most times is full of deceit and pretense because both of you may want to look good to each other courtesy of the message you hear in church 13. Try to understand the essence of a win-win situation in every argument that ensues between you both. 14. Be open in your finances on both sides 15. Focus more on what the future holds for you both even when you have not made your intention known to her 16. Be courageous to accept your faults and take responsibility when reflecting on remote causes of your little issues 17. Be caring and observe if she will reciprocate the same 18. Do not be too circulated around her while it is important you step back at times to assess her urge for you 19. Build friendship instead of lust for her 20. Don't pay so much attention to her shape but focus more on her inner beauty which is what will stand the test of time 23 Likes 6 Shares |
| Crime › Re: With N500, You Can Obtain Birth Certificate For A Non-existent Nigerian Child by VEE2010(m): 11:54am On Nov 23, 2021 |
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| Crime › Re: With N500, You Can Obtain Birth Certificate For A Non-existent Nigerian Child by VEE2010(m): 11:52am On Nov 23, 2021 |
It's sad and kudos to the undercover journalist for his due diligence. I hope the government will pay attention to issues like this to clean up our public service, from the federal level and down to the LG level. I had a similar experience years ago when I was assaulted by my landlord's son. I went to the police and got a note to visit the general hospital for a medical report; I was only asked by the doctor who was supposed to examine my body to understand the degree of injury suffered to help the investigation, I was surprised, everything he wrote as a report was just based on my explanation on how I was feeling. He was so concerned about the money I had to pay to get the document, not a single sympathy about my condition. We have degraded deep within our country and nothing less than at least four decades of consistent reorientation can remedy the situation. That is, if we can start now otherwise, we still have a long way to go. Jobs in civil and public services are not meant for those without political networks. The LG has become a dumping ground for politicians relatives and thugs. We cannot continue this way if we must have a decent country. Politicians are elected for a maximum of 8 years but sadly these bad eggs will stay in the service for good 35 years and frustrating the efforts of even the politicians who may actually have the political will to impact the public lives positively. A listening government would understand the essence of placing moles in every parastatal to assess the level of rots in the service. What a shame of a country! 2 Likes |
| Crime › Re: 3 Men Arrested For Exhuming 10 Corpses & Beheading Them For Ritual In Ekiti by VEE2010(m): 1:30pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
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| Politics › Re: Lagos EndSARS Panel Report: Sanwo Olu Deserves Commendation – Youth Alliance by VEE2010(m): 2:06pm On Nov 16, 2021*. Modified: 12:52pm On Nov 17, 2021 |
Honestly, Gov Sanwo Olu is a courageous leader for him to allow independent fact-finding into the massacre and hopes Mr. Lai will allow the atmosphere to be at peace. His senseless defense of evil would do nothing than more harm to the APC-led administration. No amount of image laundering will kill the truth. May the soul of the innocent youths killed by a self-serving government rest in peace. For those that, the government mercenaries used to perpetuate this evil, your days are numbered, whether you like it or not, the blood of the innocent youths deprived from their well being, good education, water, and even the breath of life would continue to hunt you and your generation. Amen and amen! 3 Likes |
| Travel › Cost Of Covid-19 Pcr Test In Nigeria Vs Other Countries by VEE2010(op): 2:16pm On Oct 18, 2021 |
The covid pandemic has exposed many countries to untold hardship and thanks to sensitive administrations around the world who are so humane in reducing hardship for their citizens. Contrary to the situation in Nigeria, the government instead sees the pandemic as a way to further exploit its citizens. Obviously, they've created several businesses around the pandemic to further exploit citizens of their hard-earned resources. I remember my first trip to Nigeria immediately after the first lockdown was eased, I had to do my covid test in one of the neighboring countries where I was stranded due to the lockdown. It was quite a stressful experience to stay away from family and friends, the excitement of going to see my family was such that I was willing to pay any price to come home. When I arrived at the covid test center, I was asked to pay 40,000 FCFA, which is equivalent to 28,000 naira as at the time (no thanks to the bad monetary policy of Nigeria leading to the daily decline of the naira) . It was a great relief for me after receiving my covid test results which were negative, the joy of meeting my wife and children had no limit. Fast forward to my arrival in Nigeria, I was commissioned to undergo another covid test after 7 days of arrival and I was shocked to accept the fact that, the same test I did a few days ago for about 28,000 naira will now go for 52,400 naira. Sho! Wetin dey happen for here, ain't that same covid test where dey put cotton on my mouth and nose? How come the price is different here? Already, I was pissed off, I decided to check the cost of the covid test in other countries, USA (56 USD on average), UK (69 pounds on average) so I was consoled after all, the different was not much. It is no longer bearable to have discovered that the French-speaking countries of West Africa had cooperated with each other through a bilateral engagement and have graciously reduced the cost of the covid test on their territory from 40,000 FCFA to 25,000 FCFA, which is even less than 20,000 naira. I expected Nigeria to go even lower considering the influx of travelers due to its population but this has not been done as they are on the verge of exploiting innocent Nigerians in the name of protecting the country from the pandemic. I won't even mention the blatant extortion shown by those they placed at the airport in the same way. Until we start doing things right, no country will take us seriously. I see no reason why the covid test is always above 50,000 naira in Nigeria. That's a shame! |
| Politics › Re: Buhari Receives NDDC Forensic Audit Report by VEE2010(m): 1:17pm On Sep 02, 2021 |
The so-called audit is already compromised for the following reasons: 1. Akpabio who was initially indicted because of his dominant influence in the affairs of the Niger Delta Ministry. If the same individual, for whatever reason, had access to the document that was supposed to be investigating him as well, do we expect him to hand over a document that would confirm his charge? 2. We have all heard of inappropriate behavior and gross abuse of public trust, whether in direct speech, body language, alleged financial embezzlement, etc. leveled against the said Attorney General and Minister of Justice. Yet the same person receives the document on behalf of FGN. It is only a fool or learner who would expect something good from said audit report. Tueh! |
| Politics › Re: MURIC Blames Jonathan For The Killing Of Palestinians by VEE2010(m): 5:03pm On May 17, 2021 |
This MURIC guy seriously need help. The Israelis are primarily a Judaism and Islamic state. Only about 3% Christianity. It is a great shame for a so-called Professor to always peddle openly lies just to promote religious warfare. These simply indicate the type of leaders we have in both the political and religious spheres of our society. I would have expected someone who claimed to be a Professor to have done his research properly before going out to misinform the public. The conflict between Israel and the Palestinians has not only started today. This challenge is so complex even for the United Nations. Someone like Ishaq whose main objective is to promote Jihad will only look at one angle of this conflict to misinformed the new generations for a selfish gains driven by his extremism. I would advise people who might want to understand the truthful and impartial history that led to this prolongation of hostilities to consider the pre-1947-1948 agreement to know the actual owners of the land. Professor Ishaq is a religion bigot and extremist always poised to incite the populace using the instrument of religion to purse his evil and perilous desires, period! |
| Science/Technology › Re: Starved Lion In Kaduna Zoo Died Two Weeks After Viral Reports ― Official (pic) by VEE2010(m): 1:31pm On Mar 25, 2021 |
I won't be surprised if the lion reportedly ate a cow every day ... Every negative thing is possible in Obodo Nigeria If they can shamelessly embezzled our common patrimony and worst of it, palliatives, is it Lion's food they will spare? |
| Politics › Re: Kogi Lawmakers Endorse Yahaya Bello For Presidency by VEE2010(m): 3:44pm On Dec 03, 2020 |
Yes, he is entitled to his opinion and that of his parochial followers perhaps he is under pressure to run I can't find any political capital in his candidature. Let him just try at least it will give some people the opportunity to share from the loot he's garnered for himself and family going to 5 years now |
| Politics › Re: Rashida Bello In Dubai For Weight Reduction by VEE2010(m): 11:22am On Dec 03, 2020*. Modified: 1:40pm On Dec 03, 2020 |
This is a height of inferiority complex, how many kings' wive in Dubai come to Nigeria for anything? Their husbands fixed their country and they are all at peace whereas, Nigeria politicians destroyed our country and now running helter sckelter to enjoy social amenities put in place by human like them. God will punish all of them! |
| Politics › Re: Umahi: "I Was Forced To Borrow N5bn To Fund PDP Campaign" by VEE2010(m): 3:35pm On Dec 01, 2020 |
I have said it before, Gov Umahi is gradually losing his political capital. He needs to apply some restraints in his utterances. Leaders are not supposed to talk any how or say things that betrays their power of discretion. All I can see is, he is actually belittling himself, this claim shows he can easily be coerced or influenced to take a decision which ordinarily should be discretionary. I hope he can just maintain some calmness and keeps embracing his newly chosen party. His continues complains and blames will only help his party not to take him serious or even trust him on sensitive issues. He's a good man in terms of achievement and programs to uplift his people but talking too much is not helping his political career or even his alignment with the ruling party |
| Politics › Re: 2023 Presidency: Yahaya Bello Is Under Pressure To Run - Kingsley Fanwo by VEE2010(m): 10:13am On Nov 29, 2020 |
Wao! You mean he is under pressure to run mad, I guess? |
| Politics › Re: Umahi: Anyim Pius Is The Leader Of IPOB In Ebonyi & Senator Egwu Is Their Member by VEE2010(m): 9:48am On Nov 28, 2020 |
This Gov Umahi was doing quite well before joining the ruling party. It is evident that virtually all defectors are always quick to pass on unnecessary and unguarded statements against their previous parties. For me, this will only account for his rapid loss of political capital rather than increasing his popularity through the undue sympathy trick he is trying to gain for himself. I will advise him to come down and make peace with his brothers at home. Political office is short-lived, but the development of his state is what history will remember him for. His time in government is very limited and should be used to build more bridges rather than the unnecessary infighting he is currently engaging in. I admire him as a person, and he must not naively inherit the disgust most people have for the evil party he has chosen to belong to. 1 Like |
| Properties › Re: What Is The Weirdest Rule A Landlady/Landlord Has Ever Given You? by VEE2010(m): 11:06pm On Nov 26, 2020 |
I had the best disciplinarian as landlady during my bachelor's days. She can give rules! 1. No generator and no Okada. In fact, don't bring petrol into the compound. 2. Introduce only one lady to her at a time except your relatives. Mehn, this point sweet me as anyone that visit me automatically become a relative except my ex that year! 3. Do not extend your painting beyond your apartment, she takes care of the house painting every 2 years! 4. You are given only 3 buckets of water per day and if you need more, you buy from her. 5. A Male visitor must not spend more than 3 days in the house except he comes every evening when other tenants must have returned from work. This is to avoid bringing in a guy to service other tenants' wives when the husbands are at work. 12 Likes |
| Sports › Re: Diego Maradona Dead by VEE2010(m): 5:48pm On Nov 25, 2020 |
rip |
| Sports › Re: Maradona, Football Legend Dies At 60 by VEE2010(m): 5:47pm On Nov 25, 2020 |
Rip |
| Celebrities › Re: Adesua Etomi Blasts Lauretta Onochie: 'You Are A Disgrace, Both Home & Abroad' by VEE2010(m): 3:03pm On Nov 24, 2020 |
In a saner clime, the likes of Lauretta will be a casual factory worker whose only input is physical but lacks objectivity. Her irrational and lack of sense in virtually all her post speaks volumes about her personality 4 Likes |
| Politics › Re: Lai Mohammed Writes CNN On Lekki Shooting by VEE2010(m): 10:05pm On Nov 23, 2020 |
Why are they shivering from the CNN report? I thought they will have the balls to threaten CNN with sanctions as they would have done to a local news outlet they managed to gag. The last time I checked, CNN was a propaganda machine for the Democratic Party that they also benefited from because of Obama's problem with GEJ. I laughed in Chinese since the report is already on Biden's desk and I will appreciate reasonable sanctions meted at these blatant liars in power. May the death of the innocent continue to hunt them out! |
| Health › Re: Check Pathology Department Of LASUTH If You Are Looking For You Loved Ones by VEE2010(m): 10:07am On Nov 19, 2020 |
So, they have finally owned up to the massacre of innocent citizens at Lekki toll gate. For those who masterminded this dastardly act, may the wrath of God visit them one by one! And also, a strong message to those who naively or deliberately endorsed or defended these blood thirsty demons in power, may you recieve in 100 folds what you wished others. I believe this publication will be taken as an evidence to further pursue justice for the innocent souls wasted by the Buhari led administration. International community must rise up to defend the right to life which has been abused by the present day dictatorship in Nigeria. No one is safe until every one is safe. The endsars protest continues... 6 Likes |
| Politics › Re: Ministry Of Mines Denies Claims Of CBN Buying Gold From Zamfara State Government by VEE2010(m): 9:10am On Nov 17, 2020 |
What a moronic defense! So, local miners in the North are allowed to extract gold and even have the legal right to sell same to the government while oil bunkers in the south are being arrested, demoralised and killed as common criminals and even labelled militants? It's high time we started thinking aloud, there is no single trust and fairness in this socalled union (Nigeria) |
| Politics › Re: Dahiru Buba: Buhari Trekker Gets Car, N2 Million From Gombe Governor by VEE2010(m): 9:00am On Nov 17, 2020 |
Misplaced priority. He should have also rewarded all the mad people in the state because they also trekked. What a mockery of good governance. I am sure lots of request for educational supports are laying fallow on their table which they seem to ignore because of the lesser value they placed on man power development but always quick to reward stupidity instead. I am sure most of unemployed persons will be practicing trekking in anticipation of 2023. What a country! 1 Like |
