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Boss, how much is this going for last price and where is ur location?

kiddaz:
Nah you can't afford me

how expensive are you?

kiddaz:
Well, it's not my fault you can't read to understand simple English. So twist it however you like

u fit bcom my english teacher....i no kuku go sch

kiddaz:
That's total BS. I read vibes and moods if and when we're together and if it feels like she's ready for it I will initiate it. What's important is the "how". Adults going out on dates know that at some point (early or later) there's going to be sex so keep all those your sanctimonious BS in your house. If you're not keen on it go to church instead of a romantic date. Anything and everything romantic is possible and there's absolutely nothing wrong for adults to engage in sex if it's mutual. It doesn't make her cheap and would never determine if we would go forward or not. Sex is just one part of the bigger picture

So every lady you meet and vibe with, ur intentions is just for you to chop their pussy cat and move on......Men like you do not make a better home and men like you fall victims alot bcus all what u think upstairs when you are with a lady is how to have sex with her.
I asked a simple question, why do you guys like telling women to visit u at ur place....is your place heaven or do they share dollars there?.....and funny enough, if she declined, u go start show attitude on top person choice of coming to ur place or not.

kiddaz:
That's total BS. I read vibes and moods if and when we're together and if it feels like she's ready for it I will initiate it. What's important is the "how". Adults going out on dates know that at some point (early or later) there's going to be sex so keep all those your sanctimonious BS in your house. If you're not keen on it go to church instead of a romantic date. Anything and everything romantic is possible and there's absolutely nothing wrong for adults to engage in sex if it's mutual. It doesn't make her cheap and would never determine if we would go forward or not. Sex is just one part of the bigger picture

you don talk finish abi another part remain wey u never talk.....Soro soke

Goodmarlian:
There is this girl I have being wooing for a while now,she replies my chats with speed,
She views almost everything I post on my status and likes them ,subconsciously I got convinced she likes me and mind you she is a church girl type who attends fellowship regularly.this girls always checks up on me first and I found it cool.

2 days ago I tried testing the waters I told her I would like her to come around and spend some time with me she declined so I concluded it could be because of her religious upbringing she may consider it morally wrong so I didn’t bother her again.

We just continued talking after some time in the middle of our conversation she told me she can’t date a guy like me and I asked her why she just kept me on hold for a long time she didn’t reply I immediately cancelled her in my mind because a girl who genuinely likes you will not make such a statement I knew this one wants to play mind games with me so I just told her not to worry that I never really liked her either that I have friendzone her since the day she refused to come around when I asked her
This girl immediately replied me bye bye and blocked me asap

I saw her this morning she was looking so sad and didn’t even greet me.
My question is since she doesn’t wanna date a guy like me why is she sad I made such a statement women reject men with brutality and get depressed when the same is done to them .

Imagine, you asked her to come over to your side...are you doing promo in ur house or what.....just tell her u wanted to have sex with her when she comes over and then dump her off and move....
No matter how the urge might be, never ask a lady to come over your place...her brain will immediately run over 1001 reasons u re asking her to come over and that will be a red flag to her.....
Wait o, what if she come over ur place and kpai at ur side nko, u go blame devil or village people bah.....ok, continue...........

When a lady likes or love you deeply, trust me, she will be the one to tell you she wants to come and visit you...
Know this and know peace

lamentor78:
Please which COntinent is England , Ireland Wales '''''''abi UK na heaven e dey

me self dey confused o

breadtoaster:
https://www.nairaland.com/8538043/married-feeling-single-im-losing

I made the post above around October last year when I was already miserable in my marriage and asking women how they cope with being married to someone who feels more like a roommate than a friend.
If you remember the post, I was complaining, how I felt like I was living in a graveyard, how I couldn't freely talk to my friends, because he didn't trust them or me, how he didn't really have that drive or initiative I expected from a partner, and how I was scared I was slowly losing myself.
At that time, I still thought maybe I was just overreacting.
I thought maybe marriage was something I needed to learn.
I thought maybe I needed to be more patient.
I thought maybe I was expecting too much.
Well... a lot happened after that post.
And honestly, looking back now, that post was just the beginning.
One major thing I didn't really explain then was our sex life.
I was a virgin when we got married, but consummating the marriage was not straightforward at all. He had issues with getting/maintaining an erection and eventually I had to get tablets for him from a pharmacy because he was having difficulty.
I remember being so confused because I thought, okay, we are married now, we are supposed to be learning each other and you should be enthusiastic for us to learn how to make love well even if that’s all we would be doin all day instead of fighting and you keeping malice or withdrawing.
And with time, the intimacy also became another thing I stopped bothering about. If I didn't initiate 95% of times, sometimes nothing would happen. Eventually I just stopped asking, except maybe when I was ovulating and the desire comes naturally.
Then something happened that really shocked me…..At some point, he started saying he wasn't even sure my virginity was real..
There was all that drama online around Ned and Regina Daniels at the time, and Jaruma had said she arranged virginity for Regina to get Ned in one of the numerous videos Ned and Regina and Jaruma her friend was posting. Because our house was always so quiet, I used to bring Regina jist home or any other celebrity gossip home and tell him since he has nothing to tell me as he doesn’t watch tv either. So somehow, I wonder how that means I have met Jaruma in my life and arranged my virginity with her too.
I was like, excuse me
You were the one who had sex with me.
If it was fake, why didn't you know the day you had the first sex why were you struggling to enter?
Why are you saying this now after we have eventually consummated the marriage and I'm even pregnant?
I remember telling him something like, if I was going to fake virginity, why would I fake it for you when you are not Ned, A senator ? 😂 I would have made much more money from it if I even sold it. It was honestly absurd to me.
But by then, almost everything had become suspicion. There was always something or the other he was suspecting or had mistrust about me for.
We eventually started counselling.
Around November last year, we started counselling.
The counsellor would give us tasks.
One of the things she told us was that whenever there was an issue, we should sit down and talk without being judgmental, actually listen to each other and try to resolve things.
But even that became another problem.
He would do the task on paper but we won’t practise it. We won’t practise the not keeping offenses. He would withdraw and exist on his own. I dare not even say ah we have a funfair gathering from work I want to attend, he would be offended kind of. May be he thinks I want to go and see man there.
I also have to admit that after this his attitude sometimes I would get reactive.
When he did something that hurt me, sometimes I would say things like, “Why are you doing this? Does that mean you don't love me?”
Or, “why can’t you trust me”, “ the way you are treating me I don’t think you love me, makes me scared to continue your papers sponsorship etc.he also hated my family and he didn't seem interested in having a relationship with them. Na malice he Dey go keep if we visit there too...
There were times when I needed him to show up with me when I went for my driving test. I had to beg him to come along. Seriously beg, for him to be there to cheer me up. It always saddened me. I felt he should be my number one cheer leader and vice versa.
Sometimes I would be like you doing even bother if we have paid rent, yo don’t comment or ask “ he said he wasn’t the one paying so why should he ask”, he would be like “what do I even think I am doing and all that”. That I want him to be worshiping me because I am holding everything together.

At one point he even said our dreams were different when I was asked when. We would start planing together things or visions we could work with as a couple.
That statement really scared me.
Because I was thinking, I'm here sponsoring this man and building plans for our future, and you're telling me our dreams are different?
There were also times he would say things like, “If we're still together...at some point in the future….”

And that one really got to me.
I'm like, if we're still together?
I'm making all these sacrifices and you are already speaking as though you don't even know whether we will still be married?

Then I got pregnant.
I remember telling him and honestly expecting excitement.
Instead, he was angry. And was like I did the test alone do I take him for a fool. I expected happiness and congratulations even though he had actually told me before Dt I should sign before I ever get pregnant so no one would say he pregnant me when he hasn’t found work.
He accused me of sleeping around steadying and talking about him around. If I go out, he would say I went somewhere else, if I take a walk, he would say it is to talk to man, he would ask to see my phone if I am chatting to see who I am talking to. If at night I am pressing phone at night, he would ask me what am I doing etc etc. with time I would be scared to go out becuse I would be judged. So to avoid issues and malice to come I would just sit and be looking while he is quiet and the whole house remains as grave yard. Remember he has no where he wants us to go or anything he wants us to do.

The first trimester was also very difficult for me.
I was very sick and couldn't really do much.
To be fair, he did help in some ways. He made rice in the mornings and walk me to office but that was all he ever did for me from his heart. As I couldn’t cook at night because of the pregnancy he would bring chair to kitchen for me to cook instead of him suffering to do night one again. I couldn’t trek much because they told me there was a little complication and I needed him to help me return some clothes, he was angry and said this better be the last I order because he won’t help me return it, that I am buying the clothes because I enjoy seeing him return it as my slave. Before most times, we would go return orders together when I was ok. Some he went alone. But this time as I was pregnant, the pressure was more of him and he started reacting. I craved tigernut so bad one day, I told him we would go pick it up together the next day. The morning of next day I had so much stomach pressure and I was so scared. I said op can he go alone , he said he has things to do that I would just come up all of a sudden to tell him to go and get it alone. I wept, dressed and tried to book a taxi much expensive than the tigernut, the he said he would follow me and I was like no point. The taxi is already outside and waiting for me you won’t meet up. By the next day, I had to go to the hospital. He was quiet there all through, wouldn’t enter the room the were checking me except I called him that ah ah you should be here, later he told me he has spent all day here and I should
find the doctor and all that because he has things to do. He was there but not there. A friend called and was like is your husband there, I said no he isn’t because I was angry that he was physically there but not emotionally there for me in anyway, that became an issue o. He said I disrespected him etc.

He was not invested emotionally, except for the first three weeks before our court wedding that’s when he played and laughed. At this post we were like room mates, he was just there giving orders and controlling my life and I was a participant getting frustrated and reacting sometimes.
Even the pregnancy announcement initially was an issue, I asked him not to tell his family immediately that I was pregnant as we had not even done scan to confirm if the baby was formed well, Not because I wanted to hide the baby but I just wanted us to do the first scan to be sure all is ok before announcing all round. But truth is I had told my mom abit earlier because she’s a medical person and I wanted to understand what vitamins I needed to start taking early on.
He took offence that I didn't want his family to know immediately. I had even told him that at that point he can tell his sister in laws let them tell me how to cope abroad. What they take abroad to calm the symptoms as that’s the major help I needed then. He was sha angry that his mum and his brother are they major people and I was saying he should hold on with telling them first.

Everything somehow became an issue.
Even when I was trying to be careful.
Then January came. By January, things had deteriorated badly.
He went to visit his sibling in another state for Christmas and new year.
At some point during his visit, he told me he had gotten a job he could do from Nigeria abroad.
I was happy for him, obviously.
But I was also confused.
Because how come I didn't know?
I was thinking, are you actually planning things behind me?
Is this the same thing you said your brother was doing with his wife, where she didn't know exactly what was going on when he looked for jobs because they feel she is the one against his progress and all and that if she knows things before hand it doesn’t work.
Are you trying to do the same thing with me?
And then I started questioning everything.
Because throughout the marriage, he kept saying he wanted to work. Infact that’s the first thing he said in year 2023 before our parents even met when I was in Nigeria, he said that we can marry without both parents knowing then do hi papers so that he would come and be able to start working immediately while both families get to know each other. We actually started talking again that year 2023 when he knew my own stay abroad had clicked because before then as a friend I knew before, I was encouraging him to process his papers too, he had told me since 2017 or so that he want coming abroad but couldnt accomplish it. So when I started mine, I encouraged him to see his own to completion.
But when he came in year 2025, we did the court wedding within three weeks of his arrival as he said/ advised so he can start working early, yet he didn't even apply for a work permit for a long time. He was just busy causing Issues, saying I am talking around about him etc. I said ok tell me who I am talking to and I would stop, then he said if he tells me I won’t tell them again and he won’t hear.
So I honestly didn't know what was true anymore. He would say he wanted to work, but then there were no actions.
And then he would still accused me of listening to other people's advice and allowing outsiders to turn my head.
I just wanted to live a normal life, be able to talk a walk without judgment, hold my phone without judgment, laugh on a call without judgement etc.

Eventually everything exploded
There was a conversation 1st January where things escalated and I told him I was very resentful of him. I challenged him about just telling me about the job he got on Saturday and he is resuming Monday and he escalated it saying why am I loooking down on him and all that. Even the virginity issue came up again where he said he knows I faked it. There had been so much suspicion, so many accusations, so many things that I had kept inside.
And eventually my father got involved.
My father contacted his family because by then I was pregnant and needed him to come defend the men he says I am sleeping with and the virginity he said is fake and the numerous complains, malice etc and my literal unhappiness as I had become a shadow of myself. My father spoke a lot actually, said that he doesn’t know what I saw in their son, that the guy can’t even have sex and he is saying I sleep around and faked my virginity etc. I was in parent’s place that January while he had gone to his own family in another state for the celebration. He made sure he didn’t spend it with my family/me even though our counsellor had told him to plan the trip another time and let’s do our first Christmas and new year together. He just resented us and I dont really know why. He hated my mum as she had once told him to stop feeling insecure and all that and that no one was judging him whether he has money or not and to feel at rest and focus and make it. I think she told him he was the lowest man in terms of money that came for me yet they agreed because they tot he is calm and he fear God so he should portray it. He said they had insulted him. If they talk he may not even answer etc etc
There were phone calls that early January
His mother eventually spoke with my mother.
And my mother told her what had been happening from my side.
My mother told them he holds to Odense too easily and is a very bitter person and that I was pregnant.
His mother later called that em, her son said my mum insults him every time and that I was trying to control her son cus I have
Money. Mind you I was dong the lowest wage job at that time when I told him to come and let’s share together and work hard together.
My sister's husband called him and tried to encourage him to come back and resolve things.
He said he couldn't because he was staying with his brother and didn't have money to take care of himself if he left and if he disobey his brothers and come who would help him if things don’t turn out well with my family.
He sent me a message saying “hurtful things had been said and that he needed time to recover and that there was light at end of tunnel” and I said “ I was also hurting and I looked forward to a time we can ever stay together and we would both be happy”
And then...he asked of the baby and I didn’t even see the text message early took some days but when i saw it I was like Shebi his mum said his brother and him would come and we would discuss.
And then there was silence…didn’t hear from him over a month. I was pregnant, no communication again. He wasn't talking to me and I wondered why.
And then finally I stopped his immigration process. When I did he called our pastor to tell him I am a club girl, I masturbate, he didn’t know I was like this etc etc. the church wanted to meet with us and I said it was pregnant I don’t Wana do back and forth shouting with him. Let them meet him And let them meet me after him. So he said a lot to them there. That Jaruma did my virginity because he saw a video where she did for Regina, that I don’t like long sex, that I have asked him can’t he have sex in lift, that I watch Angienation on Facebook, that I don’t pray, that I once took him to a lounge etc etc etc. that I blocked him that’s why he never contacted me from
January meanwhile I didn’t block him deliberately because I knew he would use it as an excuse for not yet reaching out yet he used the excuse any way.
He had always been bitter and had the view that why don’t he just come and marry me abroad and then go back and when his final residency paper is ready, he would come, why did I want him to stay with me, get work permit first before his final green card comes. I felt we wld have both advantage as we would be together, grow together etc.

Well, Eventually I had my baby alone and did the rest of pregnancy alone.
Nobody from his side reached out again through out.
And I can't even explain what that felt like.
Because I had spent so much time trying to make this marriage work.
I had sponsored him.
I had supported him.
I had fought for us.
I had gone to counselling.
I had tried to understand him.
I had tried to change myself.
And now I was holding our baby and basically doing motherhood without him.
Then came the DNA issue
Eventually it seems someone from church contacted him and told him about the baby.
And his response was that he wanted a DNA test because he wasn't sure the baby was his. That I said the baby is not his.
It gives me the if there is no residency attached, then I don’t want the baby vibes.
At that point, honestly, I didn't even know what to say.
The same pregnancy I had told him about.
The same pregnancy he had been angry about and was even angry I didn’t want him to tell. His people immediately. He even reported me to my mother about it.
Now the baby had been born and he wanted to know if the child was his.

Well, My focus now is my daughter.
So where am I now.
That's why I'm updating this thread.
Because when I wrote the first post, I was asking:
How do I stay ambitious while married to this kind of man?
I didn't know that eventually I would be asking myself a completely different question:
How do I rebuild myself after this marriage?
I am still legally married and not even sure of how the begin the way out.
There is a child involved which I don’t mind fathering an mothering alone if the Impregnantor would give me headache. Emotionally, I think the marriage ended a long time ago Infact the very moment it started,
And honestly, I don't know whether this particular marriage can still be worked on.
At this point, I'm not even sure I want to spend my life trying to convince somebody to choose me.
Maybe that's the biggest thing I have learned.
I can accept that I wasn't a perfect wife either
I may have said things I shouldn't have said.
I could have communicated better where needed.
I am not saying I did everything right.
But I also don't think I should spend the rest of my life blaming myself for not being able to make a marriage work alone.
Maybe we were just very wrong for each other.
Maybe we brought out the worst in each other.
Maybe there were deeper issues on both sides that we didn't know how to handle.
I honestly don't know.
All I know is that I became miserable.
I stopped feeling like myself.
And now I have a daughter who needs me to be okay.
And yes, one of the things I am scared about is whether I will ever find love again. A love that genuinely works, if not, I would stand being enough for my Daughter and her being enough for me.
I don’t know where life would take me but I plan to be more involved with God than ever before and work on any part of me that needs work.
But before then, I would be hustling like no man’s business because eventually, all those visions I have always had must come to fusion.

Thank you!

Na novel u write abi wetin self

Na only blacks i dey see.
..white no dey go church ni

Now wey him don kpia, all those efforts are waste.....money wey him for don chop b4 him die.......
Make God no allow me do wahala save money finish come die leave all my struggle behind......nawa oh

Even for 30k, aren't buying this shit....this phone nd multi-links, no difference.......real china chinko.
One can never buy this phone nd make a good testimony out of it and that's why you are selling yours bcus you can't make a good testimony out of it as well.

This one dey fine people 5k to chop for this 2026 wey people never see food chop...
Subscribe ko activate ni....mayb na u or AI wan play the match.

Priest my ass....dis ones go still knack wetin no good.....if u knw u knw and if u do not knw, go ask chief Priest

Praise be to Allah the founder of the religion of peace and bombers

WatchYourSix:
Unless ur poultry is near Volcano…. U can’t find such bacteria that can survive temp above 100°C around normal areas

which means literally some areas aren't normal right

chairmanawe:
All of the bacteria that can survive in human body would have been dead by the temperature of a well boiled rice. Before you attack me, I have a Ph.D in Microbiology

I heard some bacterias do survive up to 100°C just as some could survive under 0°C

This one na bandit yam harvester

The security questions must be completed for you to make a withdrawal

Sirchiboy:
‎Does a Landlord have the right to stop a male tenant from bringing different women into the house?

why u self go dey carry different girls enter house? ...U dey cast out demon from their body ni abi una dey plan to sell landlord house for him back

The way people dey rush in for this shares enh...make e no go be garbage in garbage out matter o.....wey 525 go bcom 400 naira

Dennisochampa:
I'm obsessed with Samsung.
I have the following :

S20 ultra (x2) - - - one for me and one for my wife which now belongs to me because she switched to iPhone.

S8 plus active - fully functional

S22 fully functional

M33 5g - fully functional

S24 ultra - my current phone ( will upgrade to s27 once it comes out cos I don't think there's much difference between the 24 ultra and the 25 or 26 ultra)

I have Samsung buds 4 pro

Samsung buds 3 pro

Watch 7

Watch 8 ultra...

I don't see myself using any other phone or device apart from Samsung..

I take care of my screens wella...

I use a spigen armour casing and it protects the phone in the rare event of a fall..... Rugged case.

Even my ear buds and smart watches all have spigen cases...

All my devices are well looked after and I don't see myself using any other brand

And did I mention I also have a Samsung tag?? Oh yes I do have it....

we no call people wey dey sell samsung gadgets come here o

Bostin:
Pegging 20,000

Digging 100,000 ,if the land is hard add 20,000

Blinding 70,000 ( 3 briclayers ,3-4 labours a day job )

Short pillars 50,000

Block settings ( Is this price to lentel level or just for foundation) if for foundation only 200,000 for 1000blocks

Filling ( is he buying filling sand ? if not 100,000

Rammers 20,000

German floor 100,000

No try am say u wan charge digging 100k now for this country o...u will regret it....the price labour charge for digging is way far from what they collect for casting....15k per labour, let's say 5 labours for a day job...if the work no finish nko depending on the size of the building..
Some people room be like a room and palour self con combine

callmemikel:
Pls help review this bricklayer quote for foundation for 4-bedroom duplex.
Looks too expensive. Don't know how I want to bargain sef.
Location is Ikorodu, Lagos.
Thank you.

Pegging 35,000.00
Digging 200,000.00
Blinding 120,000.00
Short Pillars 100,000.00
Block Settings 400,000.00
Filling 250,000.00
Rammers 40,000.00
German Floor 150,000.00

Other insights are welcome too.
cc: Bostin, Hallahgeisher

talk to him to reduce the price for you....that digging depends on the soil formation and how big you want the house to be. The blinding is worth the amount, short pillers(do you mean the casting or the wood nd iron?).
Filling is worth the amount
Rammers, depends on the type they want to use.some cost 40k truly.
German floor is worth the 150k.
With the high rate of things in the country, just talk to him to reduce some for you but what he wrote is totally right o

manitobor:
I am so pissed off right, knowing that I wasted close to two years with a useless lady with no skill, who has a terrible and sordid past that I cannot mention here and who has turned out to be an ingrate, disrespectful and vile. Her baby papa abandoned her for years. When she gave birth to the first son, the baby daddy didn't even pay the 50k hospital bill they were charged 4 years ago. He said he had no money and ran away. They didn't go to his house to harass him to come and pay. They stayed in the hospital for up to a month until the family rallied around within themselves to sort out the bill and bail them out of the hospital. Yet, my ungrateful fiance and her jezebel of a mother have ganged up against me and are calling me all sorts of name just cos I left for a few days.

I have decided that I am no longer proceeding with the marriage. I feel sorry for my daughter who would grow up without her real mother cos I've decided I am taking custody of her. I can never allow them bring up my daughter in a public yard where they live. They would ruin my daughter there.

I made a most costly and terrible error of my life putting up with a single mother with no tangible skill, who is extremely lazy, who is possessed by a dark force. I sincerely feel so bad right now and wish I could turn back the hands of time to go back to when I first met her and tell the dumbo that I have no interest in marrying her. I remember all the money I've wasted to please her and impress her and I bite my fingers in deep regret.

Men, learn from my terrible mistake, never marry a jobless woman, especially a single mother who is jobless. Cos, that's the major bone of contention. If this lady had sustained the business I started for her, she wouldn't be short of cash to support the family in this trying times.

I deliberately left out some details from the write up, cos if I attempt to write down all the terrible experiences I've had in the hands of this terrible, marine spirit possessed single mother, you would weep for me.

Let me stop for now.

It wasn't because the lady was jobless that brought your downfall. It was because you never made a proper planning.
As a man, you need have an option A and B in case things goes south. Besides, the lady (your suppose fiance) was a terrible woman and you should have background checked b4 even planing anything marriage with her....

Bro, there are some good ladies out there who are single mothers with a beautiful character....let's just put it this way, you were out of luck and you picked the wronged woman....I know how sad you are but all you need is to cool your head down and make a plan B, think down deeply before taking any further step so that it doesn't ruin you completely......

Women can be a pain in the ass sometimes..

As for her mother, that one na Atenuje...Ojukokoro.....na there set dey drain person pikin from millionaire to person wey go dey beg for food....avoid people like that.

With all what u wrote, na small tin u take spoil everything...
YOUR WORK COMES FIRST BEFORE ANY OTHER THING.
Bro, Man to Man...You can't build a family yet with this ur mentally.
Definitely, u will choose ur work over ur family or over something more important than the werey work u are doing....
I just pity that poor girl bcus even in emergency, u will pick ur work over her health....
Now imagine if she was calling you on something like an emergency nko....
Chai, bro abeg pray for wisdom...No b work b everything o....people wey do am pass you, some are 6ft down.

Peace

Say na book wey dem wan read go stop the addiction or wetin?

gracias124:
yeah e don finish

try anoda one nxt week again

gracias124:
i no get funds again i will join una tomorrow

boom to the pit of hell....Money don finish abi wetin i hear so?

Buy this one use am do decoration for house cuz which kind games dis one wan play for this 2026 wey we dey abeg

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