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ItsQuinn:
maybe not you but other ladies can like me

nt twice. u can only forgive once...any lady dt forgives her spouse dt cheats repeatedly is a cheat or was once a cheat oo

ItsQuinn:
Thats not true

reallyso a faithful wife can forgive her cheating spouse..i dnt think so

Toks2008:
As far as I'm concerned the bible is my guide.

Desertion is the only condition for a woman to divorce her husband

A man can keep cheating and asking for forgiveness just as we keep sinning and asking that God forgives us

Human philosophy has replaced vivid biblical injunctions

So yes you are expected to keep forgiving him except he leaves the marriage totally but if he still wants you I guess you have no reason to divorce him.

This is exactly the point..ladies have soft minds and they could forgive a husband who is a repetitive adulterer but the heart of many men is so hard that they are even ready to stone an adulteress to death.

Any lady dt keeps forgiving a cheating hubby is a cheating wife...birds of a feather flocks together

Toks2008:
A guy wrote the same thing about Jesus giving a streamline response bug that is not so. remember he was asked a predefined question about a man divorcing his wife by giving her a divorce note so it was not a streamlined e answer but a very gender specific response.

Now you keep mixing my write up with sentiments.

We have two types of adulterous acts..one where the husband apologizes or keeps apologizing and one that the man out rightly abandons his marriage and moves on with another lady and same goes for the man.

These days we see some ladies rushing for divorce because their hubbies cheat on them even when the man apologizes and that is why I wrote this.

well

Toks2008:
A guy wrote the same thing about Jesus giving a streamline response bug that is not so. remember he was asked a predefined question about a man divorcing his wife by giving her a divorce note so it was not a streamlined e answer but a very gender specific response.

Now you keep mixing my write up with sentiments.

We have two types of adulterous acts..one where the husband apologizes or keeps apologizing and one that the man out rightly abandons his marriage and moves on with another lady and same goes for the man.

These days we see some ladies rushing for divorce because their hubbies cheat on them even when the man apologizes and that is why I wrote this.

well i'm not against a wife forgiving her cheating spouse..i'm only against your view about a man having the sole right to divorce his cheating spouse while citing a portion of the bible to back up your claim...God is not Partial so he cant frown at a lady bc she divorced her cheating partner. he is only against the two remarrying another person.God is nt in support of polygamy please...man chose to be polygamous out of greediness...if God wants a polygamous setting he would have created EVE AND EVELYN FOR ADAM

Toks2008:
My sister no matter the sermon in churches and scriptures ...believe it or not, the crazy act of a man cheating will forever remain...so rather than waste time echoing the sermons why not be factual about it.

When a man cheats. he cheats with a lady so wht is ur pointthe crazy act of a lady cheating with a man will forever remain abi

Toks2008:
Cool down sis

The truth is that there is a ground for divorce and that is desertion which I made clear.

Today many ladies easily quote that scripture to back up a divorce move once the man commits adultery and I have seen many cases where the man apologized yet she still sees the divorce through.

If you read that article very well you will see where I made a clear distinction between outright desertion and an adulterous act.

I'M cool already......My point is if any man should mess up after promising his lovely wife heaven and earth...he should face the music. quoting of bible will not help him because JESUS was only responding to them based their question.....A man or woman is allowed to divorce a cheating partner so long as it will save you from hell

Toks2008 what you are trying to tell us is that JESUS WAS GENDER SPECIFIC in his teachings why did he ask the adulterous woman to go and sin no morefor your information the bible didnt command us to die in an abusive relationship please...cheating in marriage is an emotional abuse..i cant stand a cheating partner.....Jesus said we shld cut away anything that can deprive us of his kingdom

CindyeMerAld:
its fun,if ur cheating on a cheat

it is better u quit dear

jeffery251:
Guy u better sex her oh cos once she gains admission, she becomes a food for all.so stamp ur signature. #fact

stp saying rubbish....they are alot of hot fyn virgin graduates out there...it all depends on personal choice

mira24:
Am I normal almost all my life no serious relationship, no boyfriend,no faincee,no husband yet,and am 24 ,,,I keep being scared Dont really want to keep being lonely ,,at times I wonder if its my physical physique dats deneying me all DAT,d whole thing is gradually eating my self esteen away,would really want a miracle but this time not a boyfriend ,but a husband....need ur prayers.....

gilrl u r nt well.

NairalandEFCC1:
i dont really understand relationships but i dey try small,

i read a thread yesterday about sex-less relationships guys dont believe that story, thats a lie, better lie, i will explain my reasons









whenever a girl say no sex and you agree and never make an attempt for your mind you be her hero but she actually sees you as a mumu, another guy go date that your 2 years no sex babe and under a week him done pipe am, and she go leave you

my queen said no sex at first too but i forced it from her and she always says it that IF I DIDNT FORCE HER, NA SO I FOR JUST DEY

DONT BE FOOLED THERE IS NOTHING LIKE SEXLESS RELATIONSHIP, IF YOU DEY ONE RUN, SHE IS DATING SOMEONE ELSE

lalasticalala pls help the brothers

yet the girl left u despite the sex.

Strahovski1:
Poster above is right about poster above poster above what was that...

Anyway op I feel your pain. I've passed through it before. Take heart, be a man and move on.. Let's see what the sadist above has to say

Modified---

For those saying he tried to cage her you are wrong. You guys are looking at it as if he just kidnapped a girl and kept in his house. That is not true. Read the story well. Even the sadist above use the word "potential slut" meaning that she was not yet a Slut. She was about to be and he was her FIRST client. And she loved him FIRST. What else do you want him to do?

We dont choose who we love. Our hearts choose themselves. Love is truly blind.What matters is how u change the person to be a good person which he did and I applaud him for that.

But about caging her, that is wrong. The girl was unfair to leave him just like that. 20 years old is not a baby that cannot make a choice of her own. If she didn't like his actions she could have told him. And do you expect such a guy like that to leave her to roam free ? Take for example you find a child stealing then u punish the child for stealing and to ensure the child doesn't steal again u give the child anything he wants. Are u not going to still be close to the child to ensure he doesn't steal when u are not there? At least for a while? So that's the case of op and d girl. He kept her with himself so that she won't go back to the old life. Not that he would leave her alone and shout he has a girlfriend meanwhile she is in club. I get his point coz ive passed through it.

He just used brute force to change her and what matters is it worked according to him. She changed. So what do u guys mean by cage? Ok he should leave her to be fvcking around yes ? What I see here is the father brainwashed her as Vinshu said above. The father said some thing to her that made her leave. Because if she never plan to return she would have taken her stuff.

love is blind ke...na waoh oooo

Frankraj:
Hahahaha you talk about 5 guys . Go to Instagram you see a single girl having more than. 10,000 men flowers and you go to face book you see them having more than 3500 men friends .tell me which man in his right sense will marry you

stone age man

VolTOxic:
I've seen and read some very wack crappy articles on Nairaland. But this - this here takes the cake. Oh lawd.

As in eh.....this op is damn funny

fullofregrets:
I am feeling so devastated right now , my fiance is leaving me , cause I open up to him , that I once had an abortion .
my fiance and I already meet with our parents , he asked of my hands in marriage, and I accepts , we have been to our parents house , but there's an issue in my side , my father don't was not really good with it , cause of cultural differences, but later agreed we can go ahead with it , so my fiance tells me I need to get pregnant , so that we will do the marriage , I agree to that , but it isn't forthcoming , so I started remembering my past , when I had an abortion , so I opened up to him cause of the love we and trust I shared with him , I have carried out possible best, I am okay but some hormonal challenges , after a month he text me , that he's no more interested in the relationship , i am full of regrets right now , I don't know what to do

babe move on he wsnt ur hubby

ItsQuinn:
suicidal thoughts because of a man? ....you are a disgrace to womanhood

lol. AS in eh
..hw can op terminate her life bc of one yeye man
op to b frank u will see sme1 Dt will love and marry u...jst belief in GOD.



This is y i tell my fellow girls dt no one can rewrite her past...it is better a man leaves u bc u refused to hv sex wt him dan for u to accept sex and get pregnant thereby leading to abortion..

FinestPINACLE:
I sell my kidney or not how is dat ur business? my hubby n I agreed to it so long as it is safe so sis abeg swerve n stop haunting alrdy made men. dey wld kip dumping ur sorry arse Fool!

LMAO...I DNT HAUNT MEN. THEY HAUNT ME AND I SELECT MY SPEC......I'M SELF MADE. VERY INDEPENDENT TO THE CORE

FinestPINACLE:
Hmmmm see me see wahala? Guess u must hv bin dumped a million times by ur partners. So sorry but don't come and show ur act of stupidity to d world! Ode! itz everybody who have boyfriends in schl dat do abortions. receive sense plz. Am happily married to my schl boyfriend and a proud mother of a son! idiot!

LOL SEE THIS SHAMELESS WOMAN.U WENT TO SCH TO Bleep AROUND INSTEAD OF FACING UR STUDIES OR LEARNING ANY SKILL. COMMON 150K IS WHT U AND UR SO CALLD HUBBY CANT RAISE YET U ARE CLAIMING TO BE HAPPILY MARRIED...SEE TELL HIM TO SELL HIS OWN KIDNEY IF HE TRULY LOVES YOU..I GUESS HE IS TIRED OF U DT IS Y HE WANTS TO SHORTEN UR LIFE BY ADVISING U TO SELL UR KIDNEY....



FYI....I HV NEVER BEEN DUMPED BY ANY GUY SINCE I WS BORN...

Favorite1:
Is this your problem? When people are looking for money to feed in this country? My friend get off this forum if you have nothing beneficial to contribute to the world. It's your kind that makes the youth a joke in Nigeria.

lmao

oluwalewis:
Y is it that u ladies are problematic in nature,u ll tel a guy no expectin him to bring down the sun to show his seriousness bt if he doesnt and decides to go for anoda gurl,u say he is a cheat.

to b frank. i dnt understand u

icedbeatz:
Can you buy a car without test driving it to know if you like how it runs? the ball is in your court dear, everyone have to pay their dues in order to achieve a goal. BTW he's going to be show you much love and do the same things or more for you while you're doing all these but if those ain't you then by all means do whatever you like, its not by force.

alright. keep test driving u hear..oda guys are also test driving ur future wife...i pray u meet her on time

doctorkush:
oh I see, no wonder she likes money too...

i make my own money by working oo. i dnt beg niggas for money

icedbeatz:
Lol hahahaha I understand its naughty yeah but that's males for you dear,
1) Don't compare prostitutes with a bae,
2) Men don't marry just because of sex but some other things i typed up there are what we use to make marriage decisions but sex is very important to us,
3) What I mean by personal who** is that she has to do "all" the wild things we like on the bed with only us, being open minded to make our fantasies come true and its vice versa. If you don't do that to/for your man the chances of him doing all that with another lady outside is very big, that's why some side chicks end up being the main chick/married one. Give no room for other chicks to get at your man by ensuring he's satisfied and vice versa.

if a guy wants dt he shld put a ring in my finger first...and yes i dnt demand money frm anybody in d name of relationship

icedbeatz:
my dear yes I agree with you, not just a man but everyone have to love themselves first but sometimes someone's love can also make them generate or realize that they have to love themselves too it happens. My points might sound crazy to you but its functional if the girl is true to herself but if she uses these points to manipulate the guy I'll only feel sorry for her because he will know eventually. Try love your guy like this and thank me later.

hello ur point 2 is a no no for me...if it is correct i think all prostitutes shld b married by now

hello op. a man can only love a girl if he loves himslf...forget ur crazy points.....u cant give wht u dnt have.....

op Thanks for this

doctorkush:
agh! no wonder... Igbo kwenu... will appreciate if u can put a pic of yourself and let me see who is behind the monicker...

i'm dt nurse behind you

chuckwizzy:
don't you know how goooooooood sex feels.. it's a natural pain killer.. you'll forget about your worries

common a guy dt ws sent to sch to study is nt supposed to house a girl...secure ur future first...sex is a time waster...it makes those people dt indulge in it lose purpose and focus

engrelvis:
d truth is most guys at DAT age is being control by their sex hormone .guys will never agree to DAT but is d truth.d more a girl keep herself d better her chances of gettin married. Even d bad guys need a good girl for marriage. D Western world u r copying r more tolerant.if u v travelled out u will understand. Their societal value n orientation v put paid to dat

period

otunba88:
na this kind girls as described by the op will get married to a rich dude and live happilly ever after while the 'holier than thou ladies' will still be going to crusade and vigil . lol

and you are among the rich dude dt will marry those type of girls...

FinestPINACLE:
me too am happily married to my schl boyfriend whom I lived with.

happily married indeed yet u want to donate your kidney for sale...i wont b surprised you dnt hv any child since den due to many abortions u did wt him...stop deceiving urslf u hear