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mastermaestro:
You want to help him heal? Healer! Face your marriage, madam! The only healing he needs now is to focus on his family, while you focus on yours.

Wait, how do singles (male and female) even manage to keep married people this intimately close? It's unhealthy!

Madam, leave him alone for his wife to heal him!

I'm sure you aren't married, and judging by your nairaland gender symbol, you are most likely male.
Trust me, someday and in some foreseeable future, you'd find out that being married isn't the ideal fantasyland you dreamt it would be.
Both husband and wife go through phases where a little distraction helps deal with domestic stress and trials.
These convenient distractions are not meant to destroy or weaken the fabrics of your marriage, but rather spicen and ensure the spark remains lit.

Men by their very nature are more disposed to episodes of such distractions. It's basically a coping mechanism.
Married men keeping and actively communicating with single ladies isn't necessarily for sexual benefits. Rather, as men grow older and rack up more years in matrimony, there's rekindled desire to revive youthful zest and its indulgences.
It is a perfectly normal reflex which most men will experience at some point in their lives. You inclusive.

I understand the context of this story slightly differs from my opinion piece. But all the same, I believe there's a lot to learn about marriage and external relationships.

This song has a melancholic feel.. quite touching... Musicians must arise and use their talents for tackling societal rot just the way it used to be in the 80s and 90s.

Synord:
A hit song is the dream of all recording Artistes and musicians worldwide and a hit song with a lot of covers is icing on the cake . More popularity, more market penetration and more publicity for the artiste and their brand .

Today , we take a look at the Top Five Nigerian songs that revolutionized music Covers in Nigeria . These five songs are the songs that had the most impact as regards song covers in the Nigerian music industry .

5) Skibii That's How Stars Do - Former Five stars Act and the CEO of More Grace Records, Skibii Mayana followed up his first Major Hit " Sensima " with the Single " Dats How Stars Do " featuring Teni, DJ Neptune and Falz. The Song was well received by music listeners across the country and soon covers started dropping too. Harrysong, ice prince , Vector and many more artistes jumped on the trend and it soon became a viral sensation on the internet .

4) Mayorkun Geng- Mayorkun's Geng started off as a freestyle in the Studio . The Quebeats Produced Track was Mayorkun's first attempt at making the UK/Grime type of music . On the song , he talks about a relatable topic of social status with hilarious and witty lines , describing the various affiliations youths have decided to be identified with in the present day Nigeria.

The song became a viral sensation and was the first monster hit of 2020 in Nigeria. It was so big Mayorkun had to drop a Geng remix EP that consisted of Geng remix Africa , Geng remix Nigeria and Geng remix UK . The song also landed Mayorkun a Stanbic Bank Ad. Rappers like Vector , MI, Ycee, Sinzu,Falz and many others participated in the Geng cover trend.

3) Olamide Who You Epp- Like Mayorkun's Geng, Olamide Who you EPP was also a freestyle track that was produced and recorded within 30 mins by veteran producer , Shizzi. The song was released by Olamide with the intention of other artistes jumping on the song and a space for at least 16 bars was left on the track to be utilized by artistes across the country .

Head of Notjustok, Ovie O stated during the Who you EPP challenge facilitated by him on Notjustok that over 1000 entries from artistes across Nigeria and Africa were received . The song soon became a hit with covers from.the likes of Chinko Ekun, Phyno, Sinzu, Wande Coal , Pelepele, Lil kesh,Ayo jay , Reminsice among others .

2) Ice Prince Oleku- Oleku was the song that changed ice prince 's Life and made his account go from low to Apex and to become fat and shapeless . Off the" Everybody Loves Ice prince "album , oleku features Brymo and was produced by Jessejagz. The song became an instant hit birthing a lot of covers and solidifying the position of rappers in contemporary Nigerian music industry .


Covers from Vector and Yung6ix became Smash Hits that was instrumental to their careers , Tekno 's Onyenekwu cover of the song got him a record deal , Sarkodie and Mugeez of R2bees also did covers likewise Victoria kimani of Kenya .The song is rated as one of the biggest rap songs ever released from Nigeria .

1) Kizz Daniel Fvck You - Following the release of his Sophomore album" No Bad Songz " under Flyboy Inc , Oluwatobiloba Daniel Anidugbe aka Kizz Daniel released the Young John produced " Fvck You " track which was centered around a cheating girlfriend and her activities .

Capitalizing on the storyline , kizzdaniel created a challenge for artistes to bear their minds around the same story of infidelity and tagged it the "fvckyouchallenge " . Label mates then , Lk Kuddy and Demmie Vee quickly released their own versions and then Young John also followed with his own version .

. Drawing strength from it's relatable premise of love ,relationships and infidelity , The Fvck you challenge started spreading like wild fire . Sound Sultan , Rugged man , Pasuma, Qdot, Alao malakia , Tiwasavage , Yemi Alade, , lil kesh , dremo, Falz , Vector , Sinzu , Simi, Chinko Ekun, Reminisce , Mi abaga , Kranium, Wyclef, Ladi Poe , Tobigrey, Eva Alordiah, Sarkodie , Buswiswa and tons of artistes jumped on the trend . Comedians like Bovi, Basketmouth , Ay , Buchi and a host of others also joined on the trend . Not forgetting DJs like DJ Spinall. Even the Governor of Kaduna State , Mallam Nasir El Rufai made a comical freestyle on the song.

. Artistes from China , Germany , UK , America , Austria and so many other European countries were not left out . The song was twisted and refined to fit into various topics like hypocrisy , police brutality, Gender inequality among others and despite the fact that it did not enjoy radio play and Never had a video , it was the number one song in the country for weeks.

Each cover generated controversies like Simi cover where she was criticised for body shaming someone, vector's controversial plot twist, sound Sultan call for revolution and ruggedman's Awakening call as to police brutality .

Kizz Daniel Fvck you remains the only song in the history of contemporary Nigeria music industry that has covers from Comedians, OAPs , Rappers , Fuji artistes , Gospel Artistes , politicians , Normal fun loving fans and tons of upcoming Artistes worldwide and as such is our number one song on the list . Even though kizz daniel teased an official Fvck you naija remix and international remix , it was never released.

Notable mentions
Kizz Daniel Woju
Davido Aye
Dbanj Oliver Twist
Mayorkun Hustlers Anthem

Written by Iamsynord

Iamsynord is an entertainment lawyer and music critic that tweets via the handle @iamsynord on Twitter

Indomie generation OP with his indomie recommendations/list.

I pray that you would someday have the opportunity to listen to quality music from the past. Beats were pure and lyrics soul uplifting.

As immoral as it is to sleep with a married man or even woman.. I'd bet you 9 out of 10 times that the OP who appears to be a man would most likely have a girlfriend aka sidechic when he gets married. You never truly know a man's capabilities until he's endowed with all the good things of life such as wealth, material acquisitions, a vibrant family and other bells and whistles that go with the terrain.
'Boys' generally act self-righteous while still coming up in life.. absence of cash keeps them devoted to a single lady but that doesn't mean they do not crave sexual relationships with other ladies - just that they are incapacitated financially to pursue multiple affairs. However, there a few young men who are true monogamists and generally remain faithful to their partners, but trust me, its a very tiny percentage of men. Very very small population!

And on the flipside, whats the assurance of marrying a faithful and devout husband even if a lady does not indulge in bed-hopping with married men?
Its as random as the outcome from a Russian Roulette.

Shit is getting real

As long as this remains the focal point of most relationships.. then such situations as narrated by the original poster may persist.

Preshy561:
This new uproar in dating married men and married men cheating on their wives with little girls is called what?
To even think they are friends
What do some ladies gain in breaking people's home eeh? This is heartlessness, the pains some women go through cos of This, can't be contained. Cos you wan slay?
If you are reading this and you are datinga married man, which you are fully aware/you are dating a young lady when you have a wife at home, God will judge you accordingly. This is so sad.
And the Lady, you should also confront the old dog you have at home first.
He was the one that toasted the lady, both him and the sugar girl are guilty.

You sound bitter. Hope a slay queen didn't snatch your dad from your mum? Or did your boy friend end up with a sugar mummy?

Damn!! Your post was bile loaded.

Buratai Dinner!

tobolos:


I got one of them through Bsquared. Crossbreeding St Bernard and Caucasian is not a bad one. The outcome is a recognized breed known as MWD(Moscow Watch Dog).

Hmmm.. Crossing two breeds (A & B respectively) who are the principal contributors to another breed (C) does not automatically create a puppy conformant to breed C's technical specifications.
This was a topic of much heated debate in a Caucasian whatsapp group I belong to. I think the science of breed creation goes beyond just mating separate breeds in the hopes of creating a new one. There are DNA profiling, genotypic and phenotypic considerations etc.
What gender are your saints?
I just groomed my Caucasian shepherds this weekend, 3 dogs @ a combined price of 9k (3k per dog).
But the groomer does an excellent job though.

tobolos:


They are very sensitive to their environment and they are good at creating awareness of any looming danger. They can be easily trained to acquire other skills.
Another reason I love them is the way they bond with my other dogs. They don't contest the "alpha race". They love to play with other dogs by jumping on them. Smaller breeds always shy away from their rough play though.

Oh! I see.. Thanks for the info. You know what they say "experience is the best teacher".
I'm aware of two breeders in Jos who do St. Bs namely Bsquarekennels and PSK too.
To be candid, I've perpetually held myself back from acquiring this awesome breed owing to my greatest concern i.e. avoiding undesirable crossbreeding between my pack of Caucasian shepherds and the St. B.
Heat periods can be quite tricky and if u aren't on top of your game such "disasters" may occur.
How have u been able to address this phenomenon?

So beautiful.. The first pic is infinitely adorable. I love St. Bs. But from ur experience, do they make reliable guard dogs when compared to gsds, rotts, Boerboels and Caucasian ovtcharka?

Yeah! I did read the entire write-up and it was masterfully crafted in easy to understand vocabulary. OP writes quite well.
However on second thought, brevity would probably suffice for advert purposes in the future. Readers prefer more graphics and less talk (if u catch my drift).
@OP, what about the parents' pix?

Lavendra:


did you really read everything from the beginning to the end? I only scrolled down to view pics...

Bros or Babe (which ever you are)... I just want to say.. YOU ARE TOO MUCH!!!.
You've taken pet advertisement/marketing to a whole new realm.
As a matter of policy, i only keep Caucasian Shepherds.. but these Boerboels look so premium that i'm strongly inclined to reconsider my CO only policy.
But do you have equally pedigree black females?
One more thing, Are you a backyard breeder (no pun intended) or do you own and operate a full-fledged dog farm/kennel?
Cause i feel most people do dog breeding as a secondary source of income and probably have other vocations they are into.

I've got this nice Caucasian-gsd adult female that I would love to giveaway to an aspiring dog enthusiast. She's being a loyal servant during her time with me. And she's an excellent security dog too.
So feel free to drop ur number and I would contact u asap for further discussions.
This offer's only for Abuja residents.
Thanks.

Yes @princetobi kindly shed more light on the nonprofitability bit. I honestly feel the economy has forced pet enthusiasts to repriotize wants and needs. There's a high supply of pups/dogs and the pricing is just not as attractive as it once was. Only established breeders e.g Tox kennel jos still manage to sell at very decent prices and this is purely due to their vast network of clients. My top 4 ingredients for success:
1. Passion and love
2. Quality Breeding stock and the right ethics too
3. Get yourself into the right Whatsapp dog breeders groups (trust me.. U really need this for networking and education)
4. Doggedness and a never-give-up spirit. Sales & marketing isn't as easy as u think.

In the context of this discussion one notable breeder marketer comes to mind .
He has succeeded in putting up a resounding deceit campaign over the years posing as a breeder of a broad spectrum of dog breeds.
Churning out puppy/dog adverts with frenzied momentum and always ascribing them to his kennel making me wonder how a solitary kennel can be that productive.
For a regrettable moment, even I fell victim to this individual's antics and true to the OP's assertions a day came when I sought the truth of my puppy's parentage but all I got was a barrage of false information which spurred me to conduct personal investigation until I unveiled the actual truth. Trust me.. The truth was distasteful to say the least. However the deal had been sealed already so yours faithfully is now being compelled to make the best of the situation after doling out a substantial amount for a pedigree pup. But as the saying goes no need crying over spilt milk... just have to man up and move on.

Puppy's age pls?

can 1.5m move it?
cash down!!

3.3m?? U get mind oo!!

Nice car... But u can do better with ur picture quality. I can't make a healthy assessment from the blurry pictures u uploaded.

Dione007:
When y'all marry, I can most assuredly promise you, you will remember this thread

Hahaha
Tell them.. Especially them boys.

Taiwo20:
People don't like the truth, I am a factual person and love factual people. This epistle according to miss lawlardey is not an endorsement of polygamy or unfaithfulness, infidelity . I was taught essay writing. This may simple comprehension

Kai! What a response. I like the honesty of it. Too much religion and self righteousness screwing up the world nowadays. Truth is we don't really know how 2moro will be.. We can only hope alot of us men don't end up eating our words.

rinzylee:
Lies from the pit of hell. God designed marriage to be beautiful and people have been enjoying beautiful marriages devoid of unfaithfulness. Stop coming here to tell us what you have planned to do in your own marriage OP. I will not cheat on my wife and every cheat is hell bound.
Just shut up if you don't have worthy examples of marriage to give us.

Go and find a real godly marriage where Christ is at the center and bring for case study.

My parents are 35years in marriage and not one day of scandal or suspicion.

Go and find the Bible model and follow.

There is no excuse for unfaithfulness in marriage.

Young man.. It's a long journey ahead. Godspeed go with u. I wish u all the best.

emusbyz:
There are guys who stay faithful to themselves eyt have no girlfriend nor married. So this OP is talking from the point that probably she is heart broken and accepted her faith and a truth that men will always cheat. But that's a fat lie from the pit of hell. Every rlship has their challenges and every challenge is meant to be overcome and conquered.
For the guys out there, if you ever want to be faithful, do not stay faithful because you have a wife or a gf out there, stay faithful because you are a good person and cheating is not in your personality.
There are a lot to say, but lemme pause here...

You must be a good boy. Thumbs up bro!
But are u married? Just asking.

femi4:
I know what I m talking about. It has nothing to do with money. Infact ladies tagged them boring. You don't normally see ladies around them. They have few or no female friends

So the obvious question that begs.. Would a lady prefer being with a faithfully "boring" social misfit or be with a socially balanced guy regardless of whether he would cheat on her or not? Go figure.
I won't answer on behalf of the ladies. But I guess u do get the general consensus on this one.

missyelegant:
Hmm see as u just dey reply pple u get time ooo this is just your opinion oo not the constution, grandpa's story is one story hav you not heard of other stories of faithful men and foolish wives, my dear remove dat mentality from your head ooo the few men dat are modest are being scarred by the bad ones, no one is perfect not even you...going into marriage with the mentality that ur man is a cheat is very dangerous u will ruin ur marriage...a word is enuf for the wise

From ur moniker it shows ur still single (miss)
Life is funny. I believe I'm older and more experienced. Have seen some pretty bizarre things in my time. Ur right. It's quite lethal for a lady to enter marriage with the mindset that her spouse would cheat on her somewhere down the line. I think u should desist from reading such posts and articles cause u may develop a very sour taste for matrimony going at ur pace.
I have had all sort of women confide in me on what they are passing thru in marriage. When I mean all sort I mean all sort.

JuneOctober:
Cheating is not something you do suddenly. You sit to think about how to lay with another lady or visit a sexworker. This world yaff taya me small.

Make e no taya u my fine sister. Like I said earlier.. We didn't invent cheating we all came and met it. The polygamous instinct resides in all of us (both male and female alike). Societal taboos suppress the ladies from freely indulging however the male folks are in a way permitted. But read my earlier submission to get more insight before u begin dey fire me.

femi4:
GBAM ....I concur. Faithful men still dey though they might not flamboyant and most times you ladies are not attracted to them

Guy!! Most "nonflambouyant" men are that way mostly due to their average financial status. Make man make better money come get small power join am.. Then u go know what's up. Trust me on this one Bro.. I have witnessed alot of transformations in my time. And I no be small boy ooo.
Sure a few good men still stand but unfortunately I can't vouch for anyone. Sorry!

Ol' boy!!! This post is full of hypocrites and self righteous people (especially those males running there mouths that they would/cannot cheat on their present or future spouses). Most don't even have experience concerning regular boyfriend-girlfriend relationship not to talk of marriage. Boys and girls.. Hear this and listen with rapt attention. Marriage isn't all about the lovey-dovey butterfly-in-your-stomach type feeling u get when u think ur in love. It's a practical school with no real tangible graduation date.
OP knows what she's talking about.. And it shouldn't be misconstrued as a sign of weakness or stupidity. It's just plain fact. Men do a bunch of stuff and get away with it.. Women try same things and get a battering from society. We didn't make things this way, we all just met it and have to deal with. For those women (girls) who can't deal with a cheating man.. 2 possible way out. 1st, cheat back but make sure to do it codedly cause if caught u know what's up. 2ndly, just take a walk if u can't deal with it.
Don't mind these men (or boys) running their mouth that they can't or won't cheat on their present or future spouses. All na lie. No mind them jare.

Ol' boy!!! This post is full of hypocrites and self righteous people (especially those males running there mouths that they would/cannot cheat on their present or future spouses). Most don't even have experience concerning regular boyfriend-girlfriend relationship not to talk of marriage. Boys and girls.. Hear this and listen with rapt attention. Marriage isn't all about the lovey-dovey butterfly-in-your-stomach type feeling u get when u think ur in love. It's a practical school with no real tangible graduation date.
OP knows what she's talking about.. And it shouldn't be misconstrued as a sign of weakness or stupidity. It's just plain fact. Men do a bunch of stuff and get away with it.. Women try same things and get a battering from society. We didn't make things this way, we all just met it and have to deal with. For those women (girls) who can't deal with a cheating man.. 2 possible way out. 1st, cheat back but make sure to do it codedly cause if caught u know what's up. 2ndly, just take a walk if u can't deal with it.
Don't mind these men (or boys) running their mouth that they can't or won't cheat on their present or future spouses. All na lie. No mind them jare.