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 Celebrities › Re: P-square Now Sells Pop Corn? (photo) by vjsmiles(op): 11:33am On Jul 11, 2015 |
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| Celebrities › P-square Now Sells Pop Corn? (photo) by vjsmiles(op): 9:31am On Jul 11, 2015 |
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| Celebrities › This Guy Says He Looks Like Ice Prince, Do You Agree? by vjsmiles(op): 9:12am On Jul 11, 2015 |
[size=14pt] Hit LIKE if you agree and hit SHARE if you disagree [/size] 1 Like
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| Family › 3 Ways To Fight With Your Wife/husband Without Destroying Your Marriage by vjsmiles(op): 8:16am On Jul 11, 2015 |
All couples disagree about some things. For some it is in-laws, for others it is money, dividing up household responsibilities, or how to discipline the kids. As long as two individuals live together there will be always be different ideas and opinions. The issue becomes serious when parents don’t know how to resolve their disagreements with dignity and respect. Children grow up seeing constant conflict and hearing their parents bicker. They live with negativity and inappropriate ways of dealing with marital discord. How can a couple work out their differences without hurting each other and destroying their marriage? 1.Establish rules of engagement No matter how opinionated you are or how correct you feel you in your views, you do not have the right to put down your spouse. We should never believe that we can strip another person of their dignity; and certainly not our partner in life. Children cannot grow up thinking that it is okay to belittle, yell, scream, intimidate, mock, threaten, put down, or be hostile to one another just because you have a difference of opinion. Of course it goes without saying that physical violence – grabbing, shoving, or any other means of physical assault is out of the question. Unfortunately, when we become passionate about our views we act in ways that we come to regret afterwards. Husbands and wives should sit down before the conflicts occur and establish rules of conduct for when they disagree. This way we ensure that we deal with our differences in a respectful manner. We certainly cannot expect more from our children’s behavior than we do from ourselves. 2. Discover the Source of your Anger There are times that we allow emotions to simmer until they boil over. There comes a huge blow-up and we have no idea why this fight became so hostile. The problem is that we are angry about other things and all the emotion comes out now. Don’t allow emotions to go unchecked. If you are upset, communicate with your spouse in a respectful way. Otherwise, you will find yourself exploding and overreacting. This type of fighting quickly becomes all-consuming as pent up anger threatens to overtake the conversation. 3. Be Solution Oriented Many fights are just accusations, complaints or criticisms flung against each other. We’ve got to stop playing the blame game and learn to live in unity. Life will bring us challenges. No one is immune. Arguing about whose fault it is accomplishes zero. Instead of going back and forth, decide to seek solutions together. The way to do this is after we communicate our emotions, instead of just leaving the discussion with bad feeling, practice good communication skills. If you have a sarcastic edge, bite your tongue. Take a moment and reflect back what you believe your spouse is trying to tell you. Try to consider your partner’s perspective; you cannot always be right. Resolve that you both attempt to bring a solution to the table and discuss the ways you can make this work. Once you do find resolution – be it an apology and forgiveness, a fresh approach in dealing with work and money issues, a more effective discipline plan – do not go backwards and bring up old complaints. Solutions bring us forward. Do not rehash old arguments. Hostile fighting depletes us and destroys the most precious relationship that we have. We can resolve our disagreements respectfully and create an atmosphere of peace despite our differences. Good day. |
| Celebrities › Re: Liz Benson Returns To Nollywood by vjsmiles(op): 8:02am On Jul 11, 2015 |
KingTom:[size=14pt] stop derailing my thread  Goat  [/size] |
| Dating And Meet-up Zone › Re: Rating NAIRALAND Guys by vjsmiles: 8:00am On Jul 11, 2015 |
TheSonOfMark:[size=14pt] like wtf i'm i reading? The amount of time she spends online shouldn't be your ^Bleep!ng^ business... Her time, data...... Just stop the FUcking lurking already... Cool off [/size] |
| Celebrities › Re: Liz Benson Returns To Nollywood by vjsmiles(op): 7:24pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Lalasticlala Ishilove |
| Celebrities › Liz Benson Returns To Nollywood by vjsmiles(op): 7:21pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
Veteran actress, Liz Benson-Ameye who has been missing on screen for many years now, has staged a comeback to her first love, acting. The delectable actress was spotted on the set of a new TV series in Owerri. She disappeared from the screen after she remarried her Bishop Great Emeya husband, in Warri, Delta State. The legendary actress who ruled the screen in the 80s was captured in her costume, which was designed by Chiemela Nwagboso while on set. Liz expressed her happiness, returning on screen again. Presently an evangelist, Liz will be thrilling her fans once again as she stars in this yet-to-be aired television series. SOURCE
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| Politics › Ebola: No plan to ban Liberia flights, says NCAA by vjsmiles(op): 7:06pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
The Nigerian Civil Aviation Authority says it has no plan to ban Liberian airlines from coming into Nigeria, following a fresh outbreak of the Ebola Virus Disease in Liberia. NCAA’s General Manager (Public Affairs), Mr. Fan Ndubuoke, said this on Friday while speaking with the News Agency of Nigeria in Lagos. NAN reports that a fresh case of Ebola was detected in Liberia, nearly two months after the West African country was declared free of the virus by the World Health Organisation. The Liberian authorities are monitoring at least 100 people thought to have been in contact with a 17-year-old boy, Abraham Memaigar, who died on June 28 in Margibi County, Liberia. A NAN correspondent who visited the Murtala Muhammed International Airport, Lagos, on Friday saw both inbound and outbound passengers being screened for the virus by Port Health Officials. Ndubuoke said Ebola Prevention and Control was a collaborative effort by the NCAA, the Nigerian Immigration Service, the Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria, the Ministry of Internal Affairs, the Ministry of Health and Port Health Services. According to him, rather than banning the airlines, the various agencies have intensified necessary preventive measures at all the international airports in the country. He said, “I am not aware of any move to ban any Liberian airline from coming into the country. “Last year, we were the ones that banned AskAir when we knew that the airline brought in Mr. Patrick Sawyer. We stopped the airline from operating in our country.” Ndubuoke said adequate facilities were in place at the Port Health Office where inbound and outbound passengers were adequately screened. He assured the public and intending passengers that all government agencies were on their guard not to allow any passenger who refused to be screened into the country. source
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| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 2:38pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 1:53pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
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| Politics › Re: Oliseh Wants Same Salary As Keshi - The Nation by vjsmiles: 1:47pm On Jul 10, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: Good Gossip; Help! She Is Becoming Desperate, Depressed & Going Crazy. by vjsmiles: 7:23am On Jul 10, 2015 |
tdayof:[size=14pt] trying to help a girl in need  [/size] |
| Romance › Re: Good Gossip; Help! She Is Becoming Desperate, Depressed & Going Crazy. by vjsmiles: 7:16am On Jul 10, 2015 |
[size=14pt] when you go there collect her digits i can give her visa to China [/size] |
| Romance › Re: How Do You Interprete This? by vjsmiles: 10:16pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 10:09pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
halfrica:[size=14pt] now she is gradually getting sense  [/size] |
| Romance › Re: How Do You Interprete This? by vjsmiles: 10:08pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 10:08pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
halfrica:[size=14pt] i warned you didn't i? To fvking kbow who you play with... You have been tossed around enough .. Bow fvvk off my mentions and dont you ever quote me again [/size] |
| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 10:05pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
halfrica:[size=14pt]i fvvking warned you didn't i? To be careful of me... You fvking know me? You just lucky i'm in a good mood this morning... Now run along pussycat [/size] |
| Romance › Re: How Do You Interprete This? by vjsmiles: 10:04pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 10:02pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
halfrica:
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| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 9:52pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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| Nairaland General › Re: My Grisly Experience In My Room Yesterday by vjsmiles: 9:50pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
ivyy:[size=14pt] morning baby [/size] |
| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 9:04pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: Photo: Don't Take Selfies at Oshodi. by vjsmiles: 9:01pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 9:00pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: Photo: Don't Take Selfies at Oshodi. by vjsmiles: 8:57pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 8:52pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
halfrica:[size=14pt] hugs who? With tht Hausa perfumed body? Goat please shut up and go fvvk a dog... What time is it in Nigeria? [/size] |
| Romance › Re: LMAO When The White Guy Wants To Jilt His Nigerian Girlfriend ( Photo) by vjsmiles: 8:40pm On Jul 09, 2015 |
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