importexpert:
When a man loves a girl, he would want to go over mountains and seas for her. Some girls have discovered this and have positioned themselves to take full advantage of it. Sadly, most guys are not aware of this. It often takes another person to realize that the guy is being used. If you are in a relationship, here are seven ways of discovering this for yourself.

1. She does not take no for an answer:

If your girlfriend likes to have her way at all times, it is a sign that she is emotionally blackmailing you. She has studied you and come to realize that you love her. This is now her bargaining weapon. If you have an argument, she would do all she can for you to concede. If that fails, she will resort to tears because she knows it will break you.

2. She wants you to invest heavily in the relationship:

You may ask "What is wrong with it?" Nothing, if only she invests in the same measure. If you are the one always investing in a relationship and she rarely invests in the same manner, bro, she is just enjoying "dividends of a maga". The simple fact is, if someone loves you, there will be the natural instinct to give all she can. While there is need for reciprocation, true love does not try to get first, instead, it gives. no matter how little she gives within her capacity. it is better for her to take her little time to prepare nice eba and egusi soup for you than to go and buy it elsewhere.

3. She cancels plans with you repeatedly:

If she is fond of cancelling any plans that you both have made and does so with reckless abandon, watch it. No one who loves you will keep you hanging like that. "But she gives reasons why she couldn't make it", you say. Those reasons are excuses, and she gives you because you need something to comfort yourself with. The time and attention she is starving you of is what someone gets with ease.

4. She does not really care about you:

When a girl loves a guy, she wants to tell him everything that is happening with her and also wants to know what is happening with him. If your girlfriend does not show interest in knowing about what is going on with you that is a red flag. Rather than know about your progress with life, she occupies herself with telling you about her needs or family problems and needs, you really need to think twice.

5. You have a desire to gain her approval:

A woman's desire is what her man should have and not try to earn. If you feel the need to get her to like anything you do or approve of who you are, then you should be careful. If your girlfriend discovers this desire in you, she is supposed to help you address it by telling you she approves of you unconditionally. If she does not but instead feeds that desire, you are not her lover but her worker who is trying hard to earn her approval.

6. She uses sex as a bargaining chip:

It is up to the two of you to decide whether to abstain or have sex. The problem here is if she uses sex as a tool for negotiation. She knows most men will make a decision based on what lies between their legs rather than what is in their heart. If she deprives you of intimacy just to have her way, it is clear that she is trying to take advantage of you.

7. She makes you feel guilty:

Guilt is a powerful emotion that most people do not know how to cope with. Your girlfriend too may recognize this and try to use it for her own good. When she needs your presence, she will probably say something like, "I know you don't miss me anymore, that's why you don't hang out with me" or when she needs something, "I know you don't care about me and how I survive. Later you will say you love me". If your girl makes statements along these lines, she is trying to get you defensive and then do her bidding. It's simple reverse psychology!

If you discover you are in this category, it is best you break up with such a girl. Manipulation is a decision and not an accident. That girl is not your girlfriend but a manipulator .

U are blessed, writer

JeffreyJamez:
"Oga leave am,na woman"


This statement is annoying!...But if it's a guy that slapped a girl now,all of them will start beating and insulting the man.

Lemme see that girl that will slap me in public,I will beat you till you start to bleed from your ears .Then let me see that son of man that will tell me "you're not a man" for doing that..You go chop your own beating join.. Nonsense!!

God will bless you for hitting the nail on head. Some idio t ones would be laughing and making jest of the man. Why did she slap him, dt woman derves to be flogged

Ryocaj:

Arsenal signed her from Liverpool ladies last season.. o ti e update..

Dnt mind him

dollyjuke:
The range no fine at alll

badth belleeee sighted

Theoritical:
I use airtel” BlackBerry phone' Pls, expatiate more bro.

..noting more to expatiate bro, just Recharge n dial the code n u will be giving said data....now rocking on my phn

sagacitytunday:
I've consciously restrained myself from making comments on this Senators Remi/Dino' saga because I always want to stand and protect the rights of women, but at this junction, we should call a spade a spade.

The Stance of my APC friends on this issue is very annoying and if there's anything I detest about APC, it's hypocrisy. If Nigeria doesn't kill hypocrisy, hypocrisy will kill Nigeria.

Senator Dino is a personality that's very popular for his intermittent display of the five minutes madness syndrome, right from his days as a member of the House of Rep. This was well celebrated by the APC and he was a Hero during the GEJ era!

Senator Remi Tinubu on the other hand was the First lady of Lagos State for eight years and she returned to the Senate for a second term, not forgetting her husband has been in the corridors of power from time immemorial. For a personality in her position, who has been a VIP for a long time, her unruly behaviour in the Senate is not only worrisome, uncalled for, but a disgrace to whatever she represent. Haba, is she the only woman senator in the Senate? From Obanikoro, to Saraki, to Ekwermadu and now Dino, in sane Clime's, people would have demanded for her resignation.

There's time for everything. If she desired to be the Senate President, she should wait for her time. Lagos belongs to the Tinubus', so if she's willing, she can return to the Senate every four years like Senator David Mark, until she becomes the SP. She should be cautioned, because to every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction. Everyone cannot be a gentleman like Saraki, Obanikoro and the rest. If she has an unruly tongue, somebody possess an unruly behaviour. Hers is the first case of a woman throwing all caution into the wind as a legislator in Nigeria. She should be a good Ambassador of her party, the womanhood and her husband who's a National leader of their party.

My grandmother once told me a story..... My grandfather was the Ewi of Ado-Ekiti.... The Late Anirare Aladesanmi. She said there was a particular day, a boy and his parents were brought to the Palace to be punished for insulting the king. On getting to the Ewi, a man who will never justify the wicked nor punished the innocent, asked that the boy should be given the opportunity to speak before he pronounces judgement on him and his family. The boy began by telling the gathering how the Prince (the Ewi' son, who were worshipped like gods those days) started by insulting and cursing his father, the boy reiterated that when he couldn't withstand the abuse on his father, he too cursed the father of the Prince. The Ewi asked his son if the boy lied and the Prince responded that he was the first to curse the boy's father. My grandfather told the gathering that a father is a father, king or not, that since his son was the first to curse another person' father, the boy too possess the right to curse the Prince' father, irrespective of who the father may be. He asked that the boy and his family be released while his son should be severely dealt with, for having the effrontery to insult the father of the boy. She said, thereafter, no Prince or Princess dared go out of the Palace to misbehave.

Morals: If the King had praised his son and punished the boy and his family, other Princes and Princesses would have followed suit. Till date, the Aladesanmis are well respected wherever they are mentioned or appear.

At a time in this country, Patience Jonathan was a personality the APC insulted and ridiculed everyday. GEJ never reacted to qny insult on him and his family. Someone even called her Shepopotamus and the APC celebrated him, what goes around comes around.

Imagine poking her hand in the face of a colleague, someone's husband and father! If we continue to celebrate this, it's a disgrace to womanhood. A woman of her calibre should be reserved, cool&calculated, comported, a role model and not confrontational, impatient, violent or provocative.

Senator Bola Tinubu should caution her, because a child that goes out insulting other people's parents (Yoruba's call them Omo atiro) will succeed in taking curses and insults back to his parents. Respect is reciprocal, so is insults and violence!

The APC on the other hand should save the country, this dramas and national embarrassments. Nigerians are hungry and not bored. Enough of the Nollywood, Africa Magic scenarios between the Executive and the Legislative. Instead of addressing the economic woes of the country, the ruling party is engaged in disgraceful power tussle, from inception till date.

It's glaring Nigerians made the greatest mistake of the century, the day they adopted this negative party, with negative change, offering negative solutions to the challenges of the country.

Senator Dino Melaye, get a medical expert on the treatment to your five minutes madness malady. It's becoming unbecoming.

Wetin be my own sef?
Eran Oba lo mu isu Oba je.
APC vs APC....... All na change!!!

Well spoken comment. U spoke with no bias n gave the two fighters words of thought. More oil to ur bolt

N in other way round brings one down with her unconfirmed information

Starlet50:
Gosh!!! I still don't understand why niggas enjoy having tattoos...I mean if u cn inscribe words on ue body what's stopping u frm writing 666 on ur forehead

are u a Librarian? because that digits simple means Nigeria by using DDC, Africa West Africa n Nigeria Respectful. Kudos to all Librarians in here

midolian:
God, why not block the holes between their legs until they clock 18? And then give them nipples without breasts until they clock 20?

Lalasticlala, have you seen these children?

hv u ever been told how cruel u are? If not, den u funny plus bad sha. How old were u when u started pulling things under skirts down?

Nice question. Try to remember woman doesn't settle down with a man lesser to her in status. With all her savings n stipends she might use it to do something greater than urs n later discover u aint up to her class n this might go into her head n see u as nothing. The only thing that makes u a man is what she benefits from u n once u lost the gear, forget u could be dumped or take as pinch of salt. U gonna foot the bills of Ur unborn offsprings n shoulder financial stuff of ur siblings, parents n kindred. Try to establish urself bf u turn urself to Bill Gates. Holes aint loyal

Most Nigerians enrolled owing to lack of job opportunities... Wish u best of luck sha as u planed to join the number of thievesss In blackk

Nairaland is lagging behind these days, hv read this since morning while it just made readable for nairalanders. Dnt much rely on nairaland or else........

No one ready to accuse the woman of raping, reverse is the when that man coerce her. Mtcheew women's world

Wow, he got served

chiefolododo:
Shame on her, she cannot endure.she is still going to miss all those beatings of her life she received from her dear boo

Nigerians always make je st of all, no matter the circumstances

chiefolododo:
Shame on her, she cannot endure.she is still going to miss all those beatings of her life she received from her dear boo

Nigerians always make jest of all, no matter the circumstances

May u heal insha Allahu

Thank God i got the original mid last year bf the version of imitation... Still hot... Luv the phn

To get A in polytechnics with 4gp, one must score 75 while Universities with 5gp is 70(A)
In my school, 75=A, 70-74=AB. Try to research well bf u jump to social media

Jazakumullah khaira

No religion was called to action in this illi cit act of a man, reverse is the case when any muslim does that let alone cleric, Imam. Pastor for that mattaaaa

Kazrem:

Has someone cheated on you before?
Ladies and their cheating ways:
Despite buying her latest phone, taking her to shop every forth night, giving her enough monthly allowance, sending money to her brother in school and her mummy in the village, doing everything possible to have six packs she demands yet the lady will still cheat, calling him mugu, magger, ATM etc. Why?

Men (man and woman are insatiable) It is only the discipline that will not.

.. Well said dude. Most men that ends up chasing another girls outside marriage were corner by the same wives n this leads to finding alternative in order to avoid being turn mumu at home. Some girls changed alot after gaining the minds of men at alter, they, girls, forgot all what brought abt their love to the men n start engaging in total changes of character n attitude. Tell me why guys wont sort their ways? Also, most of them claiming holy as house wives were once after married men in order to remain in vogue....iyen ogun odun asi ma joni lowo

The whites had brainwashed most of u to the extent of giving kudos to all what women/girls do bt batter men/guys for slightes err. Can Americans allow woman occupy the no one hot seat in forth coming election? U aint whites n cant be like them... Thus think straight dudes n lets imble what is ours

Vyolet:
Men have no reason for cheating, they just cheat anyway.
If a woman is beautiful physically, knows how to cook, has a reserved character, turns 360degrees in bed during sex, a home keeper, submissive, working class and she bears male and female kids, a man will still cheat on her, Unless the man is disciplined.
It is therefore safe to say, there is no such thing as wife material as defined by men.
A man would claim to love slim ladies,he ends up marrying one, after sometime, he goes out to cheat on her with chubby ladies, this is same for men that Married chubby ladies because they prefer them, this doesn't stop them from going after skinny girls later.
Women should still look good after childbirth, she listens to this advice and try her best, rigorous exercise, starvation, slimming tea become her regular routine, after all this, the man will still cheat on her.
Mcttchew, tired of ranting.

u alway blame men so much. Can u beat ur chest that women aint into it? Stop the tras* n talk like lerned one... May God save us from women's world.. mtcheew

Danzakidakura:
terrorist always defending their people.

ur utterance shows whom u are n where u come from gullibuuu

Dnt really believe the shops were set ablaze by ghost. Bt, truth most be told, things are very expensive in Anambra... Anambrans are too fond of money n care not abt the welfare of their folks.

Dnt really believe the shops were set ablaze by ghost. Bt, truth most be told, things are very expensive in Anambra... Anambrans are too fond of money n care not abt the welfare of their folks

U are just little serious for occupied such huge space. Well, u gbaski

utenwuson:
I can't ever. sent a gurl I don't knw a pm' God forbid! nothing piss me off like seeing over 100 comments on a very ugly lady pic on facebook! I them hate guys wt low self esteem!

u are a matured person with ur comment. Sm guys are so nau*ghty to the extent of thanking whores for accepting their frnd request. So hateful