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At this point I don’t bother explaining nothing to a female anymore because it’s a waste of time. Women don’t think with their brains but with the feelings. Let’s say for example you need space and you’re on a very serious project, you can beg the women in your life like family, friends and partner to give you some space because you don’t need distractions but you would just be deceiving yourself because they may say yes but will do the opposite five minutes later. They don’t understand your logic, all they experience is their feelings and if that feeling is of love or attention they will bother you irrespective of your need for space till you fail on your project and then they will act like you failed on your own and they didn’t do a single thing wrong, if you push the topic too much they will again emotionally react to it and maybe start crying or some emotional blackmailing attitude.

It’s just how they are built, the same with advising a woman, such a waste of time. They will shake their heads but do the exact opposite again because a woman is a slave to how she feels, your words cannot dominate the feelings she has towards that situation.

What I do now? I just stop talking Or advicing them and go right ahead to being unavailable without explanation of any kind, you see me when you see me because I’m a man, a thinker, a planner, I’m not in a romantic relationship with my feelings like a woman. Don’t advise a woman, you’re wasting your time.

Imagine going through life and everyday people are telling you they like you repeatedly. Everyone is always trying to come greet you or just wanting to be around you. You would think that is a blessing right? Well wait till you want anything from them and see their reaction then.

That was the story of my life, people going crazy not hearing from me for a whole two days, people always trying to make me feel important for no reason, people panicking when they notice any slight stress on my face and bombarding me with questions “are you okay”

I tried to enjoy the so called blessings of being everyone’s favorite with women but that never worked out. I still had to go through the normal process everyone goes through to get a woman, no special exceptions for me. In fact it was only till I made money women started to like me properly, so I keep asking myself..why would everyone act like I’m this special person yet I could never get a random girl to want to give me free pvssy with no strings attached, so what was special about me then? I realized maybe I was too available to people that’s why, because you can’t say you’re special and still struggle to get pvssy , that’s a joke.

My point is, if you’re not getting random girls walking up to you and willing to give you free pvssy, then you may just not be as special a guy you may think you are.

Mom007:
If you can, pls move out of that place to unknown parts. Don't wait until something unspeakable happens. If your intuition is warning you, pls heed it.

I have politely told him to never bother me except on Sunday because that’s when I’m free. If he ever tries it again I will deal with him , na him to move out.

Make una no worry na me allow am reach this stage. This is the last time this man will ever bother me.

There’s this guy that wouldn’t leave me alone in my compound, no matter what I do or say this man would never leave. He has come three times alone today to look for me, I refused to open the door for him and yet he stayed outside talking about football scores because he knows that’s what I like to hear.

I have told this man to leave me alone yet it never works, I intentionally told him I needed space with him and for the first time and I had peace for a month. This man started ignoring my greetings, all because I said I wanted peace in the house I rented. I was okay with the fact I had peace finally, then people started begging me to forgive him? Forgive him for what really? Did we quarrel? They tagged me a bad person all because I wanted peace. All of a sudden he came yesterday and started forcing conversation with me and i responded back to him and before evening he was back at my window again, I ignored him.

Only today he has visited my window three times. He has a wife, he’s 43, he’s urhobo from Sapele, please am I in danger? Why is this man obsessed with me? This is the same person that when I mistakenly gave him my number, he calls me 8 times daily, just to say hello. He called me one morning at about 6 am and I was done so I told him never to call me again, and blocked his number. You’re living in my compound why tf are you calling me at 6 am to say “how far” I’m in my 30’s I’m doing important stuff, why are you obsessed with me?

In my entire life I have had hundreds of friends and I have never experienced this type of friendship before? Is it until I warn him or threaten him before he leaves me alone?

Nemesis0147:
E no easy...na why bobrisky discharge

Once dem run dem start to cash out. Because they use their male orientation coupled with female dress sense take blow. See small James brown of yesterday driving Range Rover sport 2020

IsaacRocks:
you are a sadist.

Nope. Realist.

Buksaylor:
So true...decided to break up with my girlfriend after reading this..

Please tell me you’re joking? I didn’t ask you to break up your relationship o

You people that say that nairaland men are always bashing women, it’s not bashing it’s simple truth they are revealing.
Women have no idea what it is like being a man, it’s so unfair. As a man you need to have a lot of money to even stand a chance at respect or love from both society, and women. No woman will respect you if you don’t have money. We struggle to provide for our selves, we provide for our family, we provide for our wives/girlfriends, we provide for our children, we support our friends, we are expected not to complain, we are expected not to cry as well. We carry everything and everyone on our backs daily, we don’t even have time to look good because we are busy providing and when we chase a girl they mock us for not having enough money or looking good enough for them, when we literally spend our whole time and life chasing money to provide for everyone? Can you see our reality as men?

We spend time taking care of others while having nobody to care for us, most of our children even love their mothers more because they feel we are not available enough, they have no idea we spend all our time breaking our backs literally to put food on their table , that’s why they never see us. We have to love ourselves because the most love we ever get is only from our mom, every other person just use us because we are “men” and should provide and provide till we drop dead.

Is this the same men you people say are bashing women on nairaland? The same men that will work so hard to get financially stable only to be rejected as well because you don’t have enough? After all the work you put into yourself? The same men that work so hard they forget to look good and women will reject them for not looking good as well? Is this the same men you people say are bashing women? The same men that only just want to be loved by society for all their efforts yet no matter what they do they end up be mocked and ridiculed??

My sister was insulting a guy that literally gave her his life savings and this girl was telling me that he’s not man enough, that why doesn’t he have more, like cars and houses..a man in Europe who is working in the cold to provide for her only to have himself being mocked and ridiculed for not having more

If you’re a woman reading this, go and pray to God to forgive you if you have ever disrespected any man in your life, if you know what a day is like in the life of a man, you would never troll us online or disrespect us in real life.

Silentgroper:
poor story writing...

Lol Nigerian girl go come meet you like that ? I just dey look am

Have you people ever asked yourself that question sincerely? What’s so special about you that makes you think that your so called babe is dating just you? Is it your money or car or house or looks? Why are you special? You think you’re the only one with whatever qualities you think you have ? Bro trust me , 95% of you are in a relationship with yourself or best case scenario you are sharing one girl with at least 5 other guys, take it or leave it.

As for me I have made my peace with this, I don’t expect loyalty anymore, I know that the only time I’m truly with someone is when I make it official between God and man and we get married, till then let the games begin. I never mean what I say to any girl, I don’t love anyone, I’m just flowing with the tides, and I know any girl talking to me now is definitely doing the same and it’s cool.

It’s when you start deceiving yourself that you have found your dream girl and she loves you, that’s when you become the clown. Whatever you have, there are 6 billion guys out there with more, so if that girl isn’t wearing your ring, bro you’re dating yourself or in a polygamous relationship with a girl who has other boyfriends too. Many of you won’t agree but deep down you know your babe has other babes.

Sonnobax15:


Na so na... bannies love successful nighas.......

Just like how ants love to be anywhere there's sugar...and termites love lignin .

Las las, bannies are a funny specie.....But when e tear for you,na then you go realize say na two types of water dey this life,hot and cold

The same bannies wey dey show you love now na dem go bone you if e red

phelonrays:
Try (atimes) going out with a girl - either bestie or GF - if the hailing still continues know that its organic and pure, but if not; they're in for something and you shouldn't dare open your mouth to relate any of them, as this might lead to your downfall.



This, I have seen.

I did this yesterday and they all saw me with her ad not one of them said hello to me. They even pretended not to see me by looking away, now I know their hailing has ulterior motive. So these women want something from me?? Jesus

Demigod22:
I met one in my street, the first time I visited her shop, a fashion designer, she spent the whole time insulting imaginary toasters she was telling me about. She said she likes to date educated man and was smiling at me, but honestly, I don't even like her from the way she talked about those men. She started calling me "my love" but I ignored her. After years with ladies, this one thinks she can manipulate me. These days we will just greet and walk away.

I can't just see your beautiful face and drool, my kind of woman must be highly intelligent, humane, productive and have respect and sense of humor.

Exactly, now I don’t care about their body or face anymore, it’s about character and sense of humor plus intelligence level

DarkLover:
You're right bro, give them no attention and watch their brains reset. Most of these 'classy' girls think that the world revolves around them.

Met one recently with over-bloated ego, I'm better than you in all ramifications and you still got the gut to play some stupid mind games with me, I quickly fixed her and put her in her place. She came back begging but I was done.

Same thing here. One goat was disturbing my life and when I finally gave her attention she ghosted me, they I blocked her off and the fool started disturbing me again. They have nothing to their name yet will be playing games with made men

Psych412:
another rubbish post by nairaland lousy men

They have arrived, liability squad. If I haven’t met amazing girls I would think all girls think like this bozo

TheMaharajah:
And if them see say you no send them them go do heaven and earth to bait you. Na so one foolishly leave work when carry her come go enter our bathroom all in the name of say she want wash hand. Me ma no even get time for human interaction talkless of relationship. The next time when any of this girls go cross my part again all in the name of finding my attention I swear I go make am hate me and I go still continue to fuel the hatred till she cry in frustration and flee from me.

Nothing do you my guy.

I tender my respect.

Bless you brother. Don’t ever fall for their trap

I have noticed that the so called “fine girls” are filled with drama. They want you to chase them and beg them and notice them, basically they love attention. They will do anything to make you think they like or want you just so you chase them and they can feel like they are still the “queen” or whatever delusions they have in their head.

For me I either just go for runs girls that will give me serx, or any girl that is hardworking and doesn’t think she is one “queen b” that has sense. I don’t think it’s worth it to keep bloating the egos of these so called “beautiful girls” , they will make you a senior man start behaving like a child all because they are playing their nonsense childish games. I never chase, if you’re a smart independent woman, you will see my value and I won’t have to do much before we become a thing, not some spoiled brat with 100 men on their dm expecting me to start chasing them like their pvssy is made of gold, God forbid.

The best women are not the ones with long lashes and fake hair, they are natural and hardworking and if you see them you will know. You will enjoy talking to them, not these spoiled attention seeking rats

suicidesheep:
Bro, I’m 22 and I have the same problem. Many would say I should go and hustle but the street has really helped so I’m ok financially) . I’m thinking of just getting married or getting a girl pregnant so I could just start another phase of life

At your age I was still busy playing video games, shout out to you for your maturity but I feel like you should enjoy life more abit you have all the time in the world to settle down

Prettygirl200:
All of u senseless men saying the guy is saying rubbish are high on marijuana, pls go back and read carefully he said when u are above 30s and 40s without money. Make una dey try read something well before una comment,bc the first commenter don talk he rubbish all of una wey dey bottom con dey follow am like Mugu. One mumu dey say men got time,make u no get money I go see the girl wey go reason una

Bless you baby girl. Dem dey give themselves hope, without money na konji go kee dem

malaria:
Oga nothing seems to interest you anymore.. it's time to get your life companion biko . You are just lonely alone

Your sisters have used me to play their games. Don’t worry I’m not interested

Is it just me experiencing boredom? I don’t enjoy playing video games anymore. I’m not as obsessed with serx as I was before , so women are not really helping. I don’t have much places to visit as Benin is very backward and there are no recreational centers. I don’t even enjoy watching movies on my pc , phone or dstv as much. I can stay a week without turning on the tv because it’s more of noise to me. Money is not really the issue but I don’t know if it’s me or if this is a common age thing?

I need a used PlayStation 5 in Benin city edo state

I am unsure of the true intent of the unnecessary friendliness amongst the women in my area. It all started when I started progressing in life, good clothes, good lifestyle and all that. Even if I pretend not to see them they must shout me out and hail or greet me. Some are 30s, 40s 50s and even teenage girls too. I cannot place it, because I struggle with knowing when something is casual or when it has intent behind it. What does it truly mean when random women are always trying to get your attention, ?? Is this a green light sign? Because I don’t want to embarrass myself because I misread anything. Someone enlighten me please

Moh247:



Oga no dey break Bro code and dey cast secret code


If you want to fvck all the girls in your hood, just manage buy car with good iPhone ... ShiShi you no go give them

Lol you know the story

BirtherOfKings:
Lol.lots of boys with tiny man good
Who talks like this

Lol I love how you girls always pretend online, if that guy toast you now you go rush give an your number. Una too dey pretend , why

I will tell you a secret about women for free. Girls are wired in a particular way and what works for one will work for 99 others. The problem with most men is that they are too ‘REAL’ with women, women hate that! Yes you heard it right, your problem is that you are too natural and honest. Women are built on fantasy and once you show that fantasy to them they will always fall for it, it’s why they are called “fish brains” because they all fall for the same trap all the time.

I just watch a video of a guy on TikTok and this guy walks up to random women and tells them he wants to take them home to fvck them and guess what, not once has any girl he has approached insulted him or got angry, 90 percent of these girl give him their numbers and because the camera is on them they pretend to say “no” while smiling and blushing , but they always give him their number after talking to them like they are objects.

You’re wondering why? First if you random segun walk up to girls and say that to them they will slap you and insult your life but why don’t they insult that guy on TikTok? The answer is pretense!!!!!!

This guy has a fake but almost perfect British accent, he walks up to them complimenting them, then dressed up like a proper yankee boy with headphones on his ear and then starts complimenting them with a British accent, the girls starts blushing then he politely tell them he wants to fvck them while smiling and they blush and say no but tell him he can have their numbers , meaning when the camera is off they are surely going to fvck that guy!!!

Women love lies, fake life, pretense. I used to be so real with girls and I struggled with them, but then I started to act like I’m a fantasy. I always talked like I was going to London tomorrow, and instead of them doubting me, I now have girls toasting me in real life, not because they even like me but they like the idea that my life is a fantasy and that we could just travel to London tomorrow in a private jet.

Stop being too real with girls, don’t give them a dime but make them think you can buy them a gold iPhone 14, it’s the fantasy that will drive them crazy over you.

The guys with the most girls are the fakest men on earth, they talk with a fake accent and act like they walk on water, ladies love to imagine things, give them things to imagine and na dem go dey toast you.

Illegal1:
bros...no mind dis people.

make them they there dey 30yrs to console themslf..

i got ur message 100% and i appreciate u for dis piece of advice...

God bless you brother.

Starz825:
I thought he was making some sense too
Dude must be high on some cheap motivational quotes...

I actually didn’t pass the full message properly, all I said only applies to someone who is over 30 and still living with their parents and have no dime or direction

Pierocash:
I thought you were making sense until you said men in their 30s will be looking like failures. You need brain surgery.

Most sensible women prefer mature men in their 30s and 40s because they see them more attractive,more experienced,and feel more protected been with them.


I am currently dating a young damsel of 21, beautiful,and can die for me.

I think i failed to add all these only applies to those without money, with money all you said is fact

If you’re in your prime either as a man or a woman, getting all the attention and praises..I need you to know that your 30’s and 40’s will be different. You won’t look as young and fresh anymore and guess what? The attention will dry up and if you have not married as a woman , it’s only God that will now help you. Your beauty will fade, your body will sag, and you will look like a desperado with 100 body count searching for a “mugu” to settle down with. You may not be desperate but your appearance will look desperate, men will wonder why you’re above 30 and have no man in your life, they will fear that there’s something wrong with you. Please young girls, stop doing too much shakara, grab your youthful opportunities, TikTok won’t be there to save you.

As a man you will be lonely to stupor. No girl will desire you because you’re over 30 and you can’t get girls with “fineboy” anymore, it will be all about your value , your net worth and your place in society. Teenage girls won’t want you because you’re too old for them and you have nothing to offer them, girls your age won’t want you either because you will be perceived to be a “failure” not necessarily because you are but society will tag you as one.

My point is, when you’re looking young and fresh, everyone wants you..job opportunities, career opportunities, easy attention, sharp mind, free accommodation for those still living with their parents, make use of these opportunities and build your life.

Your later years will be brutal, 30’s and 40’s will break you if you don’t get your life together on time.

For men, money will save you , for women marriage will save you. Stop all these unnecessary shakara, it’s not worth it..age will humble you.

EDIT: men at 30 don’t look like failures at all, it’s only when you don’t have money that it may seem like that. With money your 30’s will be the sweetest part of your life. I guess I didn’t add this part.

Justbehave:
That you are a simp those not make all of us simps. Ode. Go read my post. I have 3 kids from 3 different ladies.Ladies worship me. Ode.

You and your father is a simp , broke bastard. You think I give ladies money? You are so dull, u would have noticed I was simply asking a question and even trying to enlighten guys on other ways to cope without simping because konji makes many guys simp, instead of contributing intelligently you quickly attacked me to feel superior. I was once like you, make money and I bet you your insecurities will die a natural death. Instead of fighting strangers online, pathetic fool