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If you re' waiting for a perfect beauty/handsome created being, then get ready to wait till thy kingdom come. Better go and get some one like me, manage it and make me better as you want.

Anyway, I am happy as baba God made $me.

Uncle call me by name; Benjamin and when I answered he ask, what is that your name again? I was like uncle has it gotten to this level wey u dnt forget my name when u just called me? Then he called again 3times and said Benjamin how many times I just called you?

Too much questions on questions, typical naija man for u.

Nestle: I want LOVING .

           CARING  
         
           UNDERSTANTING  

           GOD FEARING  
       
AND      HARDWORKING  

When I hear people talking about qualities of their kind of hubby and mention Godfearing without monetary inclusive I feel happy. I wish God grant that you desire from Him as a man you will share you happy life with. Smile for its your time of visitation, since you have not ask for a man with wealth, you will have him and more than your expectations. Amen.

Rarebreed: Love

Respect

Integrity

Depth

Challenge

Trust

Intelligence and Spirituality

Since you never ask for money and worldly possession, I pray God give you more than you ask, a man who will encourage you for eternity.

I notice some contradictions here; according to your post, you re referring to yourself and you boyfriend and at thesame time your TOPIC READ "(He Said They Both Rather Die Than For Him To Leave Her.)"

The topic shld have been ( I ate my boyfriend's 2M and want to marry me in exchange but I only needed the money not him) please you can advice me, as such you can have secure and meaningful advice.

Right now I can't blame anybody bursting insult on you and reason been that;
1. Your boyfriend truly love you and wanted to support you have a better future so you can take care of the home as a virtues woman.
Now you said its out of pity you went for him - your offence is : why did you collect the money when within your subconscious that you can't marry the struggling man? Why didn't you tell him earlier that you only needed his money to complete your want?

2. Any man here insulting you is telling you their heart felt and see such as a scam cos' there is no reason you will give that even myself will believe you.
REMEDY: Tell him the truth about your intention and even he likes it or not you will refund him back the money.
- you need to be humble and plead for pardon and give him reasons why you collected the money.

3. If it was your brother who gave a girl such amount and the girl refused marrying him, what will be your reaction?.

4. Experience is always and truly the best teacher, learn from this and never repeat such again.

Goodluck in your resolutions to peace with him. I wish you will seek Gods face for a true partner.

WhyMe222: I want to forgive her and move past this period and work on the marriage, this is the reason why we have stayed together till this moment. I had the chance of informing both parents last Christmas but I chose not to with the hope we will survive it and move on. Yeah my wife is remorseful. She has tried in her own way to make amends but truth be told, it is not easy. I cannot lƠ̴͡Ơ̴͡k at her and not wonder how she got to that hotel, took her clothes off, slept with her colleague/our family friend, left and I possibly went to pick her up when she got closer home in our usual fashion, she came back and carried my daughter, forming mother and wife, slept on the same bed with me (Oh Lord I must have been so foolish), and lƠ̴͡Ơ̴͡k me in the face to tell me she loves me. And then they repeated same thing few days later, and again and possibly again and again and again until I made the discovery.
God help me.

My brother, I am assuring you that you are not in this alone, I was once a victim but mind was during courtship! I came to her house and met them both enjoying themselves and I sat with them as shame caught them all. She was expecting something nasty from me but I calm my emotions as the man jump up and put his boxer and flee, the next was begging and crying of not repeating such again. When I ask why she did that, answer was 'its the devil that lure her into doing it'.

I forgave her and adviced her, with serious cautioning but it was turn into deft ear, same thing repeated itself with another different man, same again and again. I ask, does it mean its only you that the devil enjoy using? Don't you have same and respect for your relationship, body and virtues anymore? Answers will always be shedding crocodile tears.

But some thing happen aftermaths, I was emotionally down and it affected my psychic, I started having HBP and I was rush to hospital only to confirm I was death for some hours, thank God I am alive and since then, I have learn my lesson.

1. Love your wife as you love yourself.
2. Let me her your best friend not just a wife.
3. Provide what she need if you are in the position to do so.
4. Teach her your believe to fear God and respect to marriage, if a home is not build on the true word of God, such marriage can only struggle to stand.
5. Its not too late to reconcile, but you will have to start afresh cos' she will have to EARN every bit of your trust.
6. Do not tell your family yet, and do not involve your friends cos' the will make things worse for you.
7. Tell her the marriage starts now. What has happen is pass and now you are a new person. So she should pick up fast with certain changes in behavior and character.
8. Amen! May God help you.

Wishing to have a Responsible Nurse, she will take care of the kids and family. My experience with issues tells me its of advantage marrying either a Medic Doc or a Nurse but NOT a police. But the BEST choice comes from GOD ALMIGHTY irrespective of profession.

We have fake sellers and buyers on olx but the careless and the greedy are usually caught up in this game. I bought my two cars on olx but what I do if first tell me where u are and place of inspection, if its not where you place your advert I run with my two legs and call him olochi. My cars are in perfect order, one from a banker and the other from a navy officer. Goodluck for the wise and hardluck for the fainted heart.

Can't stop laughing in my language kyakyakyakyakya kyaaaaaaa<<<<!!! Bros mi, na ur B.sc follow come alone?

jenny2007: I was with him for almost three years on and off. we were in different cities during the duration of the relationship but with regular visits. this man mistreated me, i was never happy with him, in fact its the worst relationship i have ever had. theres nothing that he didnt do to me except physically assaulting me.
A month later i saw pictures of his wedding online, the girl he married is someone i had found out that he was cheating on me with in the past , though he denied it back then. she was even pregnant on their wedding day, i was shocked when i saw the pictures and cried my heart out.
after his marriage i found some information about this man which i never knew before , he is a niger-delta militant with 2 babymammas who he beats at the silighest provocation.
what should u i do?

Hey miss! You are contradicting issues here, I read your other post and it seems there re' things your re' hiding. This is what you post. Judge for yourself and tell us the truth.

jenny2007: I Am Dying Of Guilt But I'm Innocentby jenny2007(f):7:35pmOnNov 01,2013
Hi house,
I've been a silent follower of this section on nairaland for a long time, however I have something that is eating me up in my mind. So here goes:-
My bf and I have been dating on and off for 2years now. The first time we broke up (last year) he had cheated on me, I forgave him. We broke up a second time becos he was upset that I travelled out of the country on a short break "without him knowing" according to him (I told him o but he just didn't want me to go). In the middle of all the fights and begging him about the trip he uploaded a strange girl's pix on his dp. My bf is so inlove with himself that he only uses his personal pix as dp on his phone so I went into a mad rage and tears when I saw the lady's picture on his dp. To cut the long story short, i was so hurt that after a few weeks I went online, copied a picture of a nigerian male model (Ngo Okafor) and sent it to my guy and I told him that the guy in the pix just finished sleeping-with me now and that he's better that my bf in bed. We broke up of course. Mind you I have always been faithfull to him but did this to spite him becos he had cheated on me before and also flaunting a girl on his dp. Now, we are reconciled and have been back together for a year now, however, he keeps refering to the pix that I sent him when we talk. I'm dying of guilt and don't know if I should tell him the truth. Would I look foolish to him? I worry if he would that I'm lying if I say the truth. Would he think that I'm desprate to keep him? Pls your thought woulkd help.

Fatalveli: Recently, I'm dating 3 girls to in which to my surprise, the 3 of them are claiming to be a virgin!

I am not surprised either that you re dating 3girls. Real men have only a girl that they can be proud of and care for; now can see you are still a young boy. Better repent or else the law of karma will catch up with you.

Fatalveli: Well sex is c'mon in every guy and believe me, I tried all dis sweet words dat God created in my cerebrum just to convince them 2 have sex wit me, I even go to the extent of romancing them till dey orgasm! But whenever I'm about to unbutton dat mighty trouser, dey won't let me,

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Sex is common for the ungodly and people of no conscience cos if your sister for instance who has been proud of her parents for training her to be a virgin till God give her a husband will come telling you a man like your type disvirgin her! Tell me what you will do? Sex is not the ultimate bro, but your pride and value will keep you alive and different from many others. Pls DON'T DISVIRGIN THEM but advice them and pray you marry one who ll love you till the end.

Fatalveli: Pls wah can I do to make em' wanna have sex.....

My advice for you is to be patient and wait till you get married. Remember if they where to be your sisters, how will you feel? Get one amongst them and love her not minding what you will gain from her now but the blessings that awaits you both after the marriage. Goodluck bro.

Itulah: You can have your dream wedding without breaking the
bank or sacrificing style. All that is required is creativity,
and focus on your long term goals (beyond the
ceremony itself). From reserving a low-cost wedding
ceremony site, to getting creative with décor, you can
create your dream wedding and still stay within your
budget.
One thing you have to get straight up front is that
nothing in the wedding ceremony is compulsory or cast
in concrete. From wedding gown to your vows, cakes to
decor, you name it. You can customize it. You can wed
in church/mosque or in court. You can wear the
traditional white, choose your colour, wear a skirt suit or
Aso Oke depending on the venue. It is your call. You
can bring your personality into your wedding.
It is not a do or die affair, or something to go broke
over. Your wedding is not an investment (although
some folks believe you may get cash gifts over and
above what you spent, but you may be surprised).
The first thing to do is to determine your budget, and
stick to it.
Wedding Date
Getting married on a working day can save you a lot of
money, from cheaper hall rental to reduced crowd to
feed at reception. It will also give you more leverage for
negotiation with vendors, as business is slow on week
days. It also works out cheaper for guests flying in.
Bridal Gown
This is a very emotional topic. An average bride wants a
designer wedding gown, event it means punching giant
holes in the wedding budget. You have 3 options - rent,
sew or buy (from a designer or order from abroad). If
you are serious about saving money, renting is the way
to go. For a dress you will only wear for a few hours,
buying one when you cannot afford it is an emotional
decision.
Groom's Suits
Same as the bride, you can use what you have, sew or
buy a designer suit. Unlike the case of the bride, you
can use the suit after the wedding, if you bought a
normal suit and nothing outlandish. Again, there is no
law that says the groom and the best man must wear
the same thing. If you cannot afford a new suit or see
no reason why you must get a new one, do your thing.
Invitation Cards and Program
Here too, you have options. You can produce yours on a
PC (if you are good with computer graphics), get a
friend to help or give it to a printer. Doing it yourself
gives you more control and peace of mind, if you know
what you are doing.
Reception Venue
You have different options when it comes to the venue,
depending on your budget. You can use a church or
school hall, an events centre, a field or a friend's or
family member's garden. Again, it depends on your
budget (and number of invitees). If you want to save
money, if you have a free option, why shell out so much
money?
Decoration
You can shop for an inexpensive decorator (getting
contacts from recently married friends or
acquaintances), or if you have a close friend who is
good at it, do it for you. You only get to buy the
materials. Just make sure it is something they have
done before, and not using your event to learn.

Whao!!!! This is self explanatory, thanks a lot for such breakdown. I think I have learn from your write up even do I might not do as you describe.

OYO is your case so handle. Tell us the truth, how many abortion have you done? Since you make love to her as if she is your wife and you are proud of saying it here. My friend let her be cos' she has finally accepted Jesus and want to repent of your evil practice.

I will advice you repent too so that this end time death won't catch you unaware.

I wish we know the magnitude of our GOD! We wouldn't be saying all this. Who are we to compromised GOD standard when He say "I am the LORD of lords, KING of kings, Alpha and the Omega, Beginning and the End; The JEALOUS GOD and you say He is not? We should be careful of reducing or adding from the word of God. There are teachings and doctrines that are not God base, please run away from such place/people or else u get contaminated with there false doctrines. 2Tim 3:16 All scriptures are given by inspiration of God, and is Profitable for doctrine,for reproof, for correction,for instruction in righteousness.
If you are corrected in accordance to the word of God, dnt hesitate to change for good or else you ll be doom for condemnation.
Pls NOTE: without Holiness u can't see God. The using of ornaments and gold re abomination before God Jer 4:30; and God was angry and told the children of Israel to strip there ornaments Ex 33:3-6.

Remember your body is the temple of God, pls keep it Holy! Immorality, fornication are abomination before God 1Cor 6:19-20. If I am to advice all the ladies and women I ll say pls for the sake of you soul, if weaving your hair in any form will be a hindrance to your heavenly race why not stop wearing it and cover your God giving natural hair? Rev 3:4-6 ....those who have not defile their garments and they shall walk with me in white: for they are worthy.
Deu 30:19 .......For I have set before you life and death; choose life that thou may live...
This is my advice for all of us. May God show us His mercy and give us the grace to carry on till He(Jesus) comes. Amen.

Refugee Commission have tired so much to reduce the menace and also the government on the order hand are doing there BEST also to cope with situation. Notwithstanding the individual too have to play their role in solving some of the problems.

The lady knows what she wants and who are you to make a choice for her! She is aware of the mark of the Beast(666) and any true child of God with Heavenly mind knows the implication of receiving it in any form. If it was me, I ll reject it too not minding the world gain attached to the price

EMERGENCY PHONE NUMBERS
When in sorrow...........................call John 14.
When men fail you.......................callPsalm 27.
If you want to be fruitful...............call John 15.
When you have sinned....................callPsalm 51.
When you worry......................call Matthew 6:19-34.
When you are in danger..................call Psalm 91.
When God seems far away................call Psalm 139.
When your faith needs stirring........call Hebrews 11.
When you are lonely and fearful,.........call Psalm 23.
When you grow bitter and critical...call.
For Paul's secret to happiness.........call Colossians 3:12-17.
For understanding of Christianity.....call II Corinthians 5:15-19.
When you feel down and out.................call Romans 8:31.
When you want peace and rest............call Matthew 11:25-30.
When the world seems bigger than God........callPsalm 90.
When you want Christian assurance.......call Romans 8:1-30.
When you leave home for labor or travel.....callPsalm 121.
When your prayers grow narrow or selfish....callPsalm 67.
For a great invention/opportunity..........call Isaiah 55.
When you want courage for a task...........call Joshua 1.
For how to get along with fellow men.......call Romans 12.
When you think of investments and returns... call Mark 10.
If you are depressed.......................call Psalm 27.
If your pocketbook is empty.................call Psalm 37.
If you are losing confidence in people.....callI Corinthians 13.
If people seem unkind....................callJohn 15.
If discouraged about your work.............call Psalm 126.
If you find the world growing small & yourself great....call Psalm
Alternate numbers:
For dealing with fear,................call Psalm 34:7.
For security,........................call Psalm 121:3.
For assurance,.........................call Mark 8:35.
For reassurance,....................call Psalm 145:18.
All lines to Heaven are open 24 hours a day!
Feed your faith, and doubt will starve to death!

No, Jesus and Michael the Archangel are not the same. Jesus is God in flesh, but Michael the Archangel is an angel which is a created being.
*. Daniel 10:13, ““But the prince of the kingdom of Persia was withstanding me for twenty-one days; then behold, Michael, one of the chief princes, came to help me, for I had been left there with the kings of Persia.”
*. Jude 9, “But Michael the archangel, when he disputed with the devil and argued about the body of Moses, did not dare pronounce against him a railing judgment, but said, “The Lord rebuke you.”
In Jude 9Michael would not pronounce a judgment against the devil. Instead, he said "the Lord rebuke you." If Michael and Jesus were the same, and Jesus is God in flesh, then Michael would have had the authority to rebuke the devil. But, since Michael deferred to the Lord, Michael is not the Lord. Instead, Michael is in Archangel, a created being.

@Kitay My question is this!
Do we serve God because we want to make heaven and not go to hell?
Or because we love Him.
To me, it should be because of the later, because when we love, we can do anything †̥o keep it growing and going.
Jesus said, Loviest thou me?

I wish people know when they talk of I love Jesus! Jesus said if you love me you will do my will (Gal 5:19-21) and any one who took part in any of these will not inherit the kingdome f heaven! Period. If you want to goto heaven love Christ be obeying His will and command. [color=#990000][/color]

I think its not the lady's fault but of the guy....
It seems the guy too wanted taking that advantage
of her loneliness and dead of the gurl's parents to have
her on bed any time he want's and now that she gave him
what he wanted, its her turn now i guest.
If the guy really wanted her for marriage he should have make
them get married before b4 she became a graduate... My dear
dn't be victimized by other people's word here, do what your
conscience tells you to do and if it pleases you and make you happy and
fulfilled. I will advice you talk to him and hear if he really
love, meanwhile read the writing on the wall, see if you guys were only
doing it for pleasure as of that time thereby making him sponsor you in
school fine but if his intention was for marriage then
MARRY HIM WITHOUT RESERVATION.

Its a very pathetic scenario that the people of plateau find themselves in this " We are ontop of the Situation" case. I advice everybody to be:-
1. Security Conscious
2. Be Born Again(I mean Receive Jesus) in-case such bad incident caught you unaware
3. Be an advocate for Peace
4. Propelling solutions to how we can end this dreaded inhumanity to human behavior
The question i will like to post for everybody here is..... assuming you as a christian was born in the Fulani/Muslim family, what would you have done to cope the unwanted and oriented behavior of the general stereotyping perception to the Fulani/Muslim way of life?
NOTE: DO YOUR BEST TO STAY ALIVE ANYWHERE YOU FIND YOURSELF BUT REMEMBER THE BEST PLACE TO BE SAVE IS IN CHRIST JESUS.