I can relate to it. We married a wife from a state that had similar procedure. The list was too much. We negotiated and paid for the whole items in cash :300K! pls i am not exaggerating! now, the chit of a gal is misbehaving. I kukuma mind my business before someone go insult her fada! mschewww.

DARN!!!!

Don't believe this story!

sounds too fictions, something a story teller conjured up!

Juton: @poster, i can see that the man takes care of his family very well.if she is ok with child bearing, let her be protecting herself from stds that she mentioned by using female condoms. She has her children to take care of cos if anything should happened to her, another woman is waiting to take charge nd ur children will have u to blame. Stop thinking abt it, let him be, get busy with your work. Nd leave everything to God. If mine is caring nd not abusive i wud hve stayed. Dont think of leaving. Aku fecha!!

#gbam!# like your answer.

so it's a 2yrs post that i wasted my time reading and commenting...but who put it up as NEW mscheww!

It's likely a witch craft attack;

see a pastor for intense prayer and deliverance.

finger nails don't make sure cuts. The cuts are slanty like this: ///// could be 3 -5 marks.

It is to draw blood for sucking or initiation rites.....someone within your household needs serious deliverance asap!

[quote author=chaircover]learn to bite your tongue and stop making an issue out of it. He is most probably deliberatly doing it just to prove a point + ego so just pretend that it doesnt bother you by ignoring him but subtly taking action.

Take control of his wardrobe. Throw out or give away the "tired" looking clothes.
I throw my husbands tired clothes away and I will even be helping him look for them so much easier that way than to fight over something not even worth fighting for.

If you dont have a washing machine always have a bucket of sopay water in your bathroom and when he comes back from work just immerse the dirty clothes into the water. Next morning he will have no choice but to wear something else. Or you can hide the dirty clothes until you can give them to a washerman to wash/dryclean.

Try and lay out clothes for him that he will wear the next day and take charge of making/buying his cloths. Just say something like someone brought things to your office to sell and you decided to buy him a few shirts cos you know he will look good in them.

When he does look good compliment him rather than nag him when he looks rough. He sounds like another big baby, that God has blessed us with and so has to be treated like one

I note you say that he is good in other areas so please try and play down the areas that he is not so good in. I wish we all could find perfect husbands but sadly there arent any & we make the best out of the ones that we have

#gbam!# i like your answer and that is what i did to my husband, until, he is now so conscious of his dressing.

I feel you. Am married for 12years with 4 kids, and sex is NEVER the same as the years go by because of stress of surviving in Nigeria.

Living in separate bedroom, is a NO-NO! Move in back! If he likes, let him don't have sex with you, but in the middle of the night when

he makes contact with your warm body, he might get aroused. OR if you want it, you seduce him with feathering kisses, whisper words in

his ears.....and see what would happen.

As for communication, men generally are not programmed to be talkative like we women. Discuss with him any important issue concerning the family,

and staying in the same bedroom, gives chance for pillow talks, whether he listens or not! He would soon get used to your voice and look

forward to it.

Then find how to entertain yourself! Not necessarily, transferring ALL your attention on your children. Read, watch films, browse and visit places

that interest you.

Please don't live your life around your husband and get closer to God. HE is our comforter.

They made the RIGHT decision.

Looking after a child with SS trait,is so tasking, both emotionally and financially.

Pray she recovers.

Please accept my sympathy and i pray GOD should help you over come this 29years of emotional trauma.

Since, we know how corrupt our legal system is and frustrating, we should learn to go spiritual: fasting and praying, no festish.

Since you have his name and picture, present it to GOD in prayer and lay CURSE on him!

You can do this as from Midnight, standing naked in your room, lay his picture on the ground, knee down, and cry to GOD with all sincerity

and lay CURSES on his life ONLY!

I understand this woman problem,  it started from the foundation: courtship, how was it thn? did  you guys had so much to gist about?

I ask because, we women make the mistake that a man would change any particular trait we don't like in them after wedding, but it gets worst!

You've tried you best from all what i had read, for a 2years old marriage, by the time you guys reach a decade, i shudder to think, how

miserable the situation would be!

My recommendation:

1}share the same bedroom with him! Separate rooms are not that good for couples, never like it.

2}Try and make friends, but be careful not to have a blabber mouth or a leech as one, veryyyy few friends, lesssss trouble!

3}If the friend issue does not appeal to you, find your own entertainment: BROWSING, WATCHING FILMS, AND READING NOVELS, GO OUT WITH

YOUR DAUGHTER AND GIVE YOURSELF A TREAT, by the time he notices you are not bothered, he would be curious and want to get closer

4}Continue having sex with him and be wild,  enjoy it to the fullest, because it's your right babe! #gives u a playful smack on your behind#

5}Continue to cook his fav meals and yours, simply because you enjoy doing it and like good meals.

6}As long as he plays his other roles at home well, please don't let this issue cause you misery, learn to make something good out of it.

I hope this helps, i am married now for 12years, goodluck.

oops! i meant pounded yam.

Hey why is my template behaving funny huh? :DD

Let me see if i can help you here; I would speak from the average Nigeria person angle and from the lagos lifestyle;

BREAKFAST; Tea and bread with butter or fried/boiled eggs or stew

:Akamu {pap /corn meal} with akara/moi-moi {beans cake} or with boiled beans mixed with palmoil or tomatoes sauce.



LUNCH: Rice with stew/jollof rice/fried rice, boiled yam with stew/egg/ vegetables/palmoil, yam porridge/fried yam/pounded yam/eba/elubo {cassava flour}

amala{yam/plantain flour} /tuwo {rice flour} with variety of soups ranging from Ogbono, egusi, efo riro, okro, ewedu, banga, Oha, Nsala, Afang

edikakong, bitterleaf, efiri, etc, depending on the tribe

Boiled/ fried unripe/ripe platain with eggs or stew or beans, and don't forget Ijebu garri with cold water and groundnuts or smoked fish.

DINNER: Any of the above can be repeated depending on the family if they like heavy or light dinner.


When a woman puts to bed, pepper soup with pounded is prepared for her for strength and to help the healing of the womb {so am told}

Families eat together, children underage eat together but as they grow older, separate plates are given. But some families don't encourage that now, for

personal reasons and lifestyles. Hope i helped a little

happened in 2005? she is 15years old now, the baby 5years??, yes, it is a must read.

UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!


who is the irresponsible man that slept with her

i know of 13yeras giving birth, i served in North, but 10years??, where is the breast to feed the baby?, glad CS was carried out on her.

oooo, poor child,, the mysteries and wonders of the world! #audible sigh#

Congratulations on the arrival on your new bundle of joy

I have given birth to 4 children and my MIL bathed them in the traditional way, When my younger brother's wife gave birth, my mother called

my MIL to do same for my nephew and massage my SIL. I found out my children do sleep very well after each bath and i

also sleep well after the hot-water massage. When i had my 2nd child, i tried to do yanga, no be my clear eye,

dem rush me go bathroom come massage me with hot water the 3rd day! My child was not sleeping well and her umbilical cord gave me trouble

because i refused to use the local herb my M.I.L gave me to massage the navel anytime i bath her or change her diapers, none of my

children suffered from stomach pain as some women complained , their skins are glowing that someone asked me

what cream i use on them, i said ordinary vaseline! She did not believe me. So my advise is, follow your belief and do whatever your maternal

instinct tells you, but from my experience and that of my friends, i would follow the traditional -Nigerian method on my grand-children, because

it worked for me. once, more congrats

Yep! i did it for all my children, no biggie! It helps in clearing the nasal congestion faster and make them breathe well, and stop the crying, by

the time they reached 4years, they could blow it out themselves with my help, but if there is a stubborn catarh that refused to come out, mommy is on

the rescue mission!.#laughing# really, it is not nasty as you think, just quickly spit it out and rinse your mouth. ahahahhhaa. believe me, it's a life

saver atimes. Children can sleep peacefully, and a mother can get her winks.

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