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I am living in the UK, too, SW London and my husband made the decision to save the child benefit or Kindergeld as it is called in Germany, my native ever since we had our first son. This amount of around 70 Pfound goes to the children savings. However Child Tax Credit and Working Tax Credit is A TAX REBATE of your or his income tax. Does your husband realy wish to pay to much Tax for the UK inland revenue? or the right amount?

Here some more informations:

http://www.hmrc.gov.uk/index.htm

Please and Please, tell your husband he should not give away the moeny he worked for !!!

If you have questions - please ask -

What the brothers would say to a good christian woman, when her husband was and still is chetting on her and she had one or two children with him and the girlfried would fall pregnant for the second time and she (the christian wife) had took her chetting husband back by the first time she caught him chetting . . . sister, take the girl as you second wife and do not be so up set with her . . . you, as a good christian and nigerian should know "our girls" can not have only one child, they need two or three . . . do not be so greedy to him . . . he is just a man and do what all men are doing . , pray over it and take him/her in your heart . . . forgive him and thank god for your ownb children . . .

Well, where is the difference? With her and yourself?

My sons

frist Babatunde, a German Name, Yoruba Name
Second Adetayo a German Name, Yoruba Name

Tunde & Tayo for short

NO English name!

I am just so unhappy, there are good people in Nigeria as well, which treated there house boys and girls right. Give them food, give them accommodation, sometimes there own room, pay for there basic primary school, teach him english, teach them german, teach them france and buy even cloths well in the UK or USA. or teach them there trade on the market, in there shops, by them a ticket home for chrismas or ramadan.

One of my friends (m) here in London catched his own wife mistreating the housegirl. This woman has four children with her husband, who works in the UK. He was surprised the housegirl never talked much to him. Later on his son told him the mother had cut the housegirls hand with rasier blade to punish her for stealing a few nira. He talked to the girl and the girl told him, Oga i am so happy you are around, now i have good food and can sleep on a mattress and i can eat with your children. In the past i had one meal a day and i was not allowed to eat with your children. The house girl was around 10 or 11 years old and the mans son around 8 years. The man sattelt the things with the girls family and kicked his wife out.

Unbelievable - how a mother can use a girl like this, house girl or not, to sleep on the bare floor, only one meal a day and not to speake with the children of the house - and this woman had pounds coming in every months - i am only hopping this "big madam will root in hell!

What is what and why

I hear the guy s talking and i was wondering what is what for an Nigrian bloke?

Which advice would you give to your own sister, if she is overseas, waiting for her husband to be to join her and he might get his visa and than she told her, well it just happend i was out with my mates, my mates put my dxx in the grils and made me fuXX her and NOW she just gave briths to my first child.

If you can tell your sister, No Problem, be the second wife and give this guy his papers, than you can go ahead with your wife to be.

@ debest1 (m) - Nigerian Chruch and traffic - be honest this might take up to 6 hours.

Is your cousion younger than you and your wife?
Did the cousin had your phone number and could he had calles you before comming or texting you wail cooking?

What do you mean you where on your way to church? Everybody were dressed up and ready to go?

Still he came to you house, he was a vistor and Jesus even tell so to welcome people and share wiht them our food and drink.
Is n t it? What happend when Jesus feed the 4, 000?

I, as a wife, will not be happy if i am back form church and my food was finished, but i have to ask myself, Why, How and does it is ready so bad?

You as the man of the house, did not deal well with this matter, you as the head of the familie should have told your cousion it was not nice what he did and he did not show respect for you family with taking or eating something with out asking and he should buy a new yam next time, when visiting. And you as the man of the family should calm you wife now and tell her did you do your own job, did you ask or why now she is so furious.

Cleaing or washing the cloths! is no reasons for me.

If you feed you baby under one - OK - far enough
If you are in the shower, OK - far enogh
If you are on the phone - say you call back and attend to your gast.

If you rash to work, OK - good one - no one will say something.

Greeting and offering  for food or refreshment goes and in hand for me.

My grandmother always asked anyboby who came to her house - How are you? How was your trip? How is your family and your buniness, what can I offer you? And she is still doing this now a days and granny is over 80.

What reasons could the woman of the house have not to greet her visitors properly?
Where did this thing happend? Nigeria, USA or Europe?

Mostly a womann is not alone in the house, you can sent your kids to warm the food or you can sent somebody to buy food, if you do not have it ready, if it very bad you can offer tuna and bread, but not not offering something?!

Or does the brother eat with you to save his own money and does only take advantage of you? Than talk to your husband ASAP!

Is it not the job of the ladies of the house to ask visitors with they would like to eat and to drink?
Is the brother junior or senior to you husband?
If it is a child or a teen than she or he must ask aunty naturally

I do not think it was me, 6 years ago i was not in Frankfurt so often, i was staying with my mother than near to Achaffenburg.
Anyway my story is unusual and usually i am not into telling people in the train about myself, unless they are friends to my husband or step father.

A married woman have to watch her good name! And people know how to gossip.

No we are living in SW London. I was living in Frankfurt years ago.

Why do you thing you know me? My story is not unusually.

I was bright up by a German mam and an Nigeria (Yoruba) Dad - my own dad (white) dead when i was young. My own mother was called names (bixxx), after my mother married to my Stepdad, i was not allowed to some of my germany friend houses. My grandma get along with my stepdad well. When I was between 10 and 18 i have Nigerian and German friends. My stepdad taught my how to cook, greet and speak as the Yoruba do.

I am married to my husband for over 15 years now and I am the mother of two mixed children.

And what should i do not know, how Nigerian men feel in German. I have seen it by my stepdad in the 80 ths and by my husband in 90 ths. Booths have made it to a good standart of living.

People can call me whatever they like! I know how I am and what I am writing or talking about. My sons names might say how i feel booths of them have two Yoruba names and one German, all traditional and NO slave or British name.

I must laugh, a black man do not get a job in Germany.

Right, how comes my husband has worked as a technical engine in Germany and his cousion is working for BMW as an engine.
Oh, i have to pointed out here the are Nigerians - Yoruba.

I know what black man are going through in the same way every woman will know and for myself I have seen the real life in Lagos, London and Frankfurt for years and worked in offices job in all of them and do speak their languages.

I love Nigeria and i hope god will bless me to go back there for one or two years and show my two boy s, who live is there for real, not only on holidays twice a years. And for England, the people are OK, London is a place to make good moeny.

Everybody lay s a lot in Nigeria and London and promise you every thing and end of the day, only littel is accomplish!
In Germany on the other hand people will tell you in your face what they think of you and if the say the will do something for you they will do it and the german can work hand and stand to there word. Do i not have the right to make my own choice where i would like to life.
The question was were would you like to live eith your family and my awser is Germany or Austria.

It is easy to trash Germany and Austria for beeing to racist.
And it is easy to trasch Nigeria for beeing the HQ of hustler
and to glorify the UK.

I just was trying to make a point here, for myself.

Anway to all of you which are planing to go to Germany. Good Luck in Business or what ever you are doing.

Paris, London, Lagos or Medenus Benz, Toyota, Hummer
Brooklyn usw

Destiny, Glory or Princess/Prince

Habe Sie den schon einmal das N Wort zu dir ins Gesicht gesagt oder haben sie zu Dir gesagt "Du Auslaender, geh da hin wo du herkommst" auf der Strasse oder haben Sie nur Ihre Auto gekauft und es nach Lagos geschifft?

Deutsche Frau, du glaubt nur deinen Kumpels oder was?

exclusion or honesty in Germany?

and trapped or imprisoned in Germany?

How come - you can marry on of those "hideous & nasty bixxch and make your OWN stay/passort giver (child) and than just take of to London.

There are a lot of sister/brother in the UK now, they thought Germany was ShxxT, but do not meet the live they was hoping for in the UK.

The only way is a good education and always Know your color and your gender!

And What is with the British? Oh, yes, sir - your lord and master - i have seen some smart Nigeria in the 70 th and 80 th in London, only speaking English to there children and why people in Lagos "wear English" to the office? LOL

The Germans "Yes" they do not like you, true, but they say it in your face, not like some other counties - you are all the same and later in life, well - How many mangers do you know which are black in the bigger companies in the UK?

And by the way . . . somebody said in Yoruba . . . well, I am giving broth to the frist son of the family to her friends at a hall party in London . . . of course a girl form Lagos . . . the problems was only, her husband has a son, mixed race, mother German, age 14 years, which he loves over everything and this boy was with her and with his father and this party on this party . . . SO . . . HOW you can give birth to the first son of the family, if the Frost born is standing right beside you?

Nobody shell tell me EXXON about Germans are this and this - other are not better!

And, oh , you was on holiday in Germany and perhaps on business? Well, yes therefore you know the country. Right?

Do you sisters/brothers in German speak the language? or did the got a German degree?
Or do the enjoy the welfare state?

@ typical - How do you know i am white? My name? i might be mixed?! You never know.

@ mama-gee (f) WHY London? Have you been there - Brixtion and Packham is a part of Lagos not of London - LOL -

@ Fhemmmy - My husband and myself we have booths degrees and the language.

What speaks for Germany and Austria is

1. You do not have to dress up 24/7
2. On headache with other Nigeria friends and family
3. Everbody is minding there own own business
4. The houses are bigger than in London, the rent is cheaper and the standart of living is higher than in the UK/USA
5. Your kids can learn a second or third language wail there are young.

Germany or Austira of course, the people there are straight to the point, the only problem you must have university degree and you must speak the language very well. I might make a trip to the UK every 8 to 12 weeks, because the social life is not greate there.

My step daddy did bring this boy/student home one day. My mother took pitty on him and he had nothing better to do as to tosted the doughter of the house. This happend when we were so jung 16 and 21. Where are toghter since and have to beauty sons. My husband is thanking god this we do not have a girl togther, he says he will go nuts, if someone will do this to his own dought, what he has done to my stepfather.

As a white lady and as a step daughter of an nigerian man - I can say - things change very day - my german grandmother told her daughter - my mother - get a good education and make your own money - my grandmother inlow told her duagther - my mother in low - they same thing - my mother told be and my mother in low told her daughter - my four sister in low. Therefore Yoruba and German can give the same kind of advice. And an other advice form boths sides to the daugther was - if you want something from a man, sale it to him as his own idea. All of us are marry for a long time and just if you wonder my own father did, when I was jung this is why i am a step daughter.

Second wife

The poster will not be the frist and the last - white lady - who could handle this - the first is always the first as long as she do not give in or give out on her sweetheardt - the second is the second - and he has to obey the first one - the first one is the mother of the house.

And number twos - the broom is always ready for you with numer three ;-)

Greetings

I do not have a problem with the Nigerian Girls, Wife and Sisters - OK - somethings, they can sure you the cold shoulder

I handel this in this way - E káàrò Ma - Báwo ni? - excuse me - did you not see me?
If this things happen often with the same person, I will report her to my husband, to her husband or to the famliy and tell them how rude this person his and ask if she do not got manners.

And if you have a child - they should call you Iya Bleep or Mummy Bleep, take care this not to my people adress you only by your frist name.

work very hard in Europe or in the USA, build your OWN house or buy it in a good estate - before going! , bring two or three cars down in a good condition and to old, open an account in Nigeria, look for a good school for the kids and make sure you can pay the school fee.

and learn and live the culture - you must be strong and have faith and trust in god - than it is possible

If you can give your kids african names and us them to call you kids

What is wrong with the britsh/nigerian youths

1. In the UK you can not traing your kid in the way you were trained. The goverment pet the kids to much - human right and stuff
2. Mummy is alone in London and have to make a living, wail daddy is trying to be Mr. Big Business Man back home.
3. The partens do not teach ther kids to cherish what they have.
4. The partens cargo everything to Nigeria cherish and give the kids a poor standart of living
5. Moeny is blownen on Parties and Showing off not on your kids.

English, Yoruba and German

Ceily - do you have a statistic for "Bi nationale ehen" for Germany as well. What is the rate there?