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I am sorry to say! This is so bullsxxxt.

Even if he is married to a Nigerian Girl, even if he is of his own tribe and approved of his family.

So what? Is he not the father of your children, too? Are you not having sex with him, too. And is he not providing for you, too?

Do you ask his family before falling in love with him? And did he ask them, when making the two kids?

And all the neggers on both sites fuxxk off and might your own business!

I am a very fett, ugly white German myself!

Germany Nigerians Yoruba
And honestly family mess and sleeping around is the same everywhere.

Black Woman and BacK Man even more problems! And more family drama 
If you always have problems pray about it or get ride of the source.

Igbo! Yoruba!

Polygamy!

Oh my lord!

I am laughing! Where is the man, which can handle this?

Please do not give me this talk!

There is a child out there, i pray for him every living day, he would tell you a real sad tale about all this.

It is only god he has left to care for him. 

May the lord protect him and guide, may he become a strong man and understand what happend to him.

And White or European styled Africans are not willing to forgive, are selfcentered or minded, and do not take adivce from the older generation.
And Benefits are a way of life - Super!

My point of view is very clear.

No one is willing to work on a long term relationship now a days.

People call themself good Christian's or good Moslem's . . .

Talk HOW greater or imported the German, Western or Nigerian, West African culture is . . .

How family matters! And end of the day

No African man have the guts to stand up and tell his girlfriend back home or his white/black lady abroad the truth.

Many men's have two, three and four wife's with children and they do not know of each other!
And woman starting this shxxxxT, too.

Sister, this, Mama that,

And what happend to all the children street gangs, drugs, Bleep around, belief all kind of lies from Mama s or Daddy s side.

No good roh modes.

And here the same sad story again.

A child one year old. And mama and papa are messing up.

This is so sad.

I am married for a very long time and have been raised by a German mother and an Yoruba (Step) father.

So what are you trying to tell me "new" about Nigeria?

All of you, if you think i am wrong, well just go to Lagos, Berlin, New York, L.A. and London and open your eyes.

See the broken family's for yourself.

Martin, es ist leicht quatsch zu schreiben ohne Begruendung?
Please state your point,here why you call me point of view nonsense!

Thanks for the dog food thingy - Wuff Wuff 

And in responds to the question "What do i mean"

Where in Nigeria is the money to take back a mixed rraisechild from Europe or the USA?
If the mother is not a total mess and the cchild'slive might be at risk?

I never ever have seen a man from Nigeria, who was into all this kind of power struggle and honour for the first born son or for the family name etcl ike the Arabs

Nigeria (Yoruba's) mostly just will leave a person alone and do not talk to him or her anymore, if she/he does not obey!

ich nix bin Nigeria. i sein auslaender to Nigeria.
Have a guess, where i am from LOL.

Easy! Men are Men! And some are just still cave man! No Worries.
If a man loves a woman, he might change for her and the woman might change for him.
Partnership and understanding are the key words here.

And i am tired of a the fuss about the grammar!
Am i at school here? I am english? I am not.
What about the Naija English here?
If you do not like the gramma, just over read my postings.
Simple.
And YES i am offended.

Rubbish! God men get a bad woman and vise verse!
It is only the lord, how can deliver us!

A men loves only the wife, which cares and caters for him with a sweet home, good sex and children and which helps him to be more successfull and gives him blessing!

If a woman mess up by sexing around or is to "front face" to him. God may help her.

Anway a lot of Blacks just us White woman to get there papers and do not care much about her.
They might believe the woman back home is better or just can not be bothered to grow up and just fxxx around and spend money some how.

However all this does not help the poster!

I wish her good luck and for all the people out there, be strong and see how you can provide for your own kind!

My advice, do not get divorced, let the childes dad have this stay or his European passport, talk not bad about him in front of the child, just tell Baba to go his own way and your will go your way, advice him to take a girlfriend and do not have a big mouth to him.

If he has a girlfriend, he will not stress you for sex, food or money, HE can take it of HER!

So, he might loss interested in you.

For you co- woman - Do not let him know to soon if you, yourself have a new man in your life. mens are aways problem, if they are jealous!

I never have seen a Nigerian Men, how is willing to feed a kid or pay school fee for it, if it is not his own and the mother is faithfull and obedient to him. No one wishes to feed an extra mouths !!! Children belongs to there mothers and europan children are mostly seen as White or mixed raise.
Why on earths bring them to Nigerian, if you have a full functioning wellfair state in the western world.

Nigerian Men will just start all over again, if you get divorced new wife, new set of kids, new house and new care.
They will not care for you anymore and they will not pay anything for your kids.

They might have an interested on the kiddo as long as they might need to for the stick of there stay in the western world.

Do not let anybody fool you!

Nigeria is not a middle east county!

So many woman down in Nigeria have to bag and lay in the dust or on there knees before Baba takes (good) care for omo.

Nigerian Men Na wa ooo !!!

No, modern white woman do not know how to cook, clean or wash cloths.
And we do not like to wash yourself, too! We just us parfum.
And if we have kids, we ask your husband to change the nappies.
Oh, and we are lost without dishwasher, ready meals, washing mashine and mircowave.

So and what is if an guy from Nigeria is married to a british-nigeria lady as first wife and than he married again a second one the traditional way and never divorced the first one. What will the british home office do with him, if he has been reported.

Easy, three names
One for you
One for the father s side
and One for the mother s side
No problems at all!

Can you change the devel, which lives inside a person (it does not matter if male or female) if she or he welcomes this devel?

Did the woman/man accepted Jesus Christ into her heart?

How come they boy z or men s of Nigeria visit an herbalist for charms to keep there girlfriend or woman under his look and key or make her swear she did not have an other men or some other things, which i prefer not to mention here in public done to him or his family

And how come everyboby goes to the herbalist for sucess in live

Generally - what happes to saving or to people, which do not get there set together

Well, I will not go on about others here. Simply i do not care much, if people can not manage there own "house" or "family".

Some might say credit crunch, young unemployment, student loan, unbelievable high rents ect

As it is for me please us what god, your parents or the goverment has given to you wisely and to not take it for granted.

And do not start to blame others for your way of live!

What happend to my saving for my time in German

Well i meet my husband, when is was 16, he was 20 over my stepfather - we started going out together and i stand over with him at night - my mother and my step dad found out get very upset - we are made engaged when turned 17 and 18 moved in with him into a new rented appartment, when i was 18 three months before i got married - i used some of my saving for the deposit of 1.500 Euro, we bought a second hand car and some new furnitures and had a moderate weeding and made some trips to london, spain and city trips within german. We used some money to pay for German courses for him and some accounting classes for myself.

I was a part time student and on my apprenticeship untill i was 21/22 - we managed with parttime jobs (he in a ware house and i was cleaning) - he got than a good job with the US army and later on as technical engineering for a German company and i went on to work for a german bank - we spand a lot of money on courses for our studies . . .

When i had my first child by 22/23, which were not planed - we made the decision to buy a house in Lagos for around 15 k and it took us an other 5 to 8 k to set up the house to our likeniss. - first my mum has not so happy about it, because she hoped we would settle down in Germany and buy a house in the same town she were living, but i was not in favor to bring uy my mixed rase son in German and it was to early to buy a house in the UK, therefore "the holiday" home in Nigeria was a good choice . . .

We bought a nice Medice Benz for us, when i was 25 - relocated to London - had a second child and at the moment i am bit confused if we should buy our own home in the UK or not - i personaly see not good value for money in London - it is totaly over priced - we migth go ahaed in some year . . .

And my brother in law talk us into my building second a bigger house in Nigeria, too . . . well . , building in Nigeria comes with his own experience

Currenty we are still trying to save a lot, but living is not so cheep in Central London and i have to spend a lot of money on my children education - private tutoring for english, after shool classes and my husband takes them to Nigeria ones or twice a year . . to be in touch with there roots - he believe his children "are n t no whites" and they should see real live back home for a young age and i take them to Germany as well to know there grand ma and practice my language - that all costs money

Please do not missunder stand me, we are not agaist British folks, all this just dated back to some personal experience in your lives - london is a great place to bring up mixed rase child, but the parents have to take good care this the do not move with the wrong set of friends.

Well I can not spoke for british parents, but for nigerian and germans - mum german and step dad nigeria - married for a long time
myself i am married to an nigerian for 14 years - mother of two boy (9) and (4)
In General - it depends on the family!!!
My mother would never let me pay house rent or a part of the bills, wail i was leaving with her wail i was doing my apprenticeship, i was asked to help her a lot in the running of the home - cooking, cleaning ect - and i was ask to save up for my future - to make good saving for my first car, for my Marriage, for the deposite for my first house ect - my mum said this is more inportent for me - i would have been more in trouble if i have not done my shores and if i would not ask my step day "What he would like to drink or to eat, when he was back from work" or if i had my boyfriend for to long without been engashed  . . .
My aunt however ask my cousines two boys to pay a there part of the house rent and bills imidiantly there start working by the age of 17 or 18 and she was taff on them to move them out . . .
For the betting . . .  my grandma (German) was staying with us, when i was small to take care of me wail my mum was working - there was no difference with her and an nigeria mama . . . not at all . . . and i can realy judge this!
Well my grandma and me - were got  closer after i married and she real love my husband - she told me by than - that she would like me to live with her because i have turned out so well and this she sometimes thing she was a bit to taff on me, because she love me and now it should be my turn to entjoy - i did not move in with her - but we lived close by and she cooked for us and gave me a lot of moeny to support me and my husband and even help my sister in low nigeria - it was her way of me rewording for been responsible in matters of finishinf my education, having a good job and not sleeping around to much

And guess what my aunt did not managed to get my second cousine out of the house yet and the is 27 yeas old and has got a girl friend for the last three years and this cousin is not the fits and fast if i came to look for a job . .

So a curse which comes from your son s monther side, which had affect you and was handed to the mother of you boy by her ancestors - Yes, i did - i have hear of such a thing - and to your surprise hear of those stories - however - what are you going to do now? if you take your son with you to Nigeria, will not the curse travel with him, because the boy if his mothers son aswell - how would you defend your boy and yourself agaist it - Don t you not know spirits can travel, too - It does not matter where you are - in Ghana, Nigeria, the UK, Germany or the USA - You have to pray over it and pray for the mother of the boy and yourself - it is only Jesus Christ who can deliver your soul, the soul of the boy and the soul of his mother - and did the mother do what she had to do to keep her ancestors spirit happy? - it might be a small thingy - which triggered all that

However if you can not do anything for your boy, do not forget you are his father and make at least sure he gets a propper education and pay his shool fee and make sure he does not stay hungery at night.

Well in Europe the fish head is cut off and put in the dust bin and in West Africa and South East Asia it is the best part of the fish, which is keep for the guest of honor or for the head of the family - LOL -  of course you boss was unhappy about the fish tail - many nigerians see a meaning in every thing or aspect of there live and by giving the fish tail to your boss or line manager or colleague you are telling them "they are coming last in live or at the workplace ect you are giving them a "bad prayer and your are refusing success for them ect" - Oh, dear - that is an insult for some and than . . . well, you should know nigerian man and there way of demanding respect . . .

I am not quite sure, if the boy is white/black or black/black . . . however . . . most of the nigerian folks which i know would say the boy looks "bushy" this means the hair is to long for a boy therefore the mum should cut it off or she should plait it propply . . . and most of the british and nigerians, which i know dress there boy s like boy mostly jeans, shirts, trainers ect in blue, brown, gray and green . . . girl mostly wear lighter and softer colours like baby blue, yellow, pink ect . . . boy wear outfits with Ben 10 and girls waer outfits with barby

If you would like to learn Yoruba - just attend a course at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/School_of_Oriental_and_African_Studies - School of Oriental and African Studies or go to a nigeria church in Brixtion or Pachkam - you can not miss the yoruba folks there - and there are always happy to help you out and i am quite some yoruba guys would love to teach you . . .

You could buy english to yoruba books at a book shop, too

So you are broke if you stay with the mother of your child and you was not able to buy a new car for youself or sent money back home to Nigeria to pay for your brothers education and you went into arrears or debts, when you sleeped with her - in other words you call the mother of your child a witch and you are thinking she might have used some Ju-Ju to bind your wealth down with her and the kid . .

Well, was she working or are you the only bread winner?
How did pay for the house rent, the food in the house NEPA and so on?

There is more behind as you are telling us here!

If she is a witch regarding to your accusation, would she not use the kid to get more money out of you?
Why than you consider to take the child with you? And if you can take it, how will take care of it . . . your mum . . . your new nigerian wife . . . or will you stay at home to baby sit?

You are just talking here of yourself, i do not see a sign of blessing in your talk, yet - it is normal to have more cash at hand to spend if you just have to feed youself and not three of you.

Where is the blessing in you doing?
What would Jesus do?

My favorite place in our home is the living room with two big setties and a very lovely and fluffy carpet, some big and small cushions, a nice dinning table, where we eat and a big TV with German, Nigerian, British and US station to watch and a desk top PC and two lap tops and of course the house phone. I love this room, hanging out watching TV - a good nollywood movie and than my favorite German Sitcom and than East Enders (UK soap) nothing better of leave a hard day at the office behind . . . and the dinning table . . i love to have meals with my kids and my husband there or teaching my boys there - we always do homework together or read the newpaper there this the kids . . . the kittchen is the room in the house, which i hate in our london flat - it is just to small! The bed rooms are only made for sleeping in my eyes or the kids might play in there room with there friend, but not alone . . . i really hate it if everyboby is hidding in different rooms and do his or her thingy for to long . . . a familie and friend should live together and spend quality time together.

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i dont know the problems of we ladies. what is the big deal about greeting. Is your husband your mate? God has made him the head over u. Do u debate who to greet your father first. What is the big deal of greeting your husband first and give him all the respect due to him. Haba!!! this is africa and not western world. If u have a husband that notices this type of things why dont u do it and have peace in your marriage. Haba!!! na waoh for ladies

And i do not know what is your problem, Sir! So it is an African, an Nigeria thing to greet people and your husband and not an western thing.
Na Waoh for youself. Shame on you for talking so badly about western womans. As it is for me, i am so sorry to disappoint you - my German Oma (Grandma) would give me "pepper", if i did not greet my husband in the morning and in the afternoon and make his cup of coffee or tea for him and serve his food.

Way some African man thing always the western woman is so bad, if they do not know about your traditions and the different cultures!
We, Germans - we even "greet god every day" - "Gott zum gruesse oder Gruss God" - and if you are in German and you can not greet your working colleagues, your boss, your familiy, your neighbours - you have a lot of problems!

And by the way, no one " have got our "Sie" in Germany we greet a lot of people in an second for of "you" or "du" to give propper respect to them and no one call anybody by the first name at work or in church!

Honestly! A good nigerian or european wife of the old generation (our mothers or grandmothers) got up 30 to 60 minute earlyer as there husband, they made the breakfast table ready, made tea or coffee and were ironing his shirts and trousers and made sure the children are washed and ready for school and then she woke up her husband with a kiss and the sentence "Dear braekfast is ready, please come and greet the kids or something of this kind" - it is nice to see this as a kid and my mother did it, every day, my dad in the kitchen unimaginably, but my mothers was a home maker and a house wife back than . . . later on my mum started to work again, i got older and the time has moved on . . . i set the breakfast table and my dad woke up first and he kissed my mother every morning to wake her up and he said to her "darling, sleep longer our girl is old enough to take care of thereself and i know where she had put my coffee or tea - and my mum was the last person, which had to stand up than and it was good to see this too.

Now to me, well at the moment it is me how wake up first, make breakfast and even cook rice in the morning and i wake up the kids and make sure they are ready for shool and than i call my husband to join us for brekfst before i leave for the office, sometimes i can not eat myself, but i make sure everybody does and i make sure i had a big cap of tea or caffee with a lot of milk. Every morning my husband say "Thank you to me for doing all this things" and he always pray for the children before school. But i am sure things might change for me too as the did for my mum and even my nigerian husband have started to make breakfast for us on weekend or set the tea time or supper for us.

It does not matter, how does what first and how does what last - it does matter, that the things are done in time and all the work in the house ore outsite is appreciated - PLEASE and THANK YOU - COULD YOU PLEASE NOT YOU MUSSED -

Well one of our family friend had a house girl once and the second wife treat her very badly . . . she took a raiser blade and cut her on the upper site of the hand because she took a few nira after shopping . . . the house girl was not allowed to eat with the children of the second wife and was given a very pure diate. Our friend was not earning Nira be was earning UK Pfound!

And the second wife thought she is "big madam" now, and total miss-used everthing the man provided for her!

To make a long story short the first wife came back home, she was raised in the UK, she saw the poor house girl and had a good round with the second wife and the second wife was totaly told off!!! Later the husband had to take the housegirl back to her village and he had to pay the shool fee and some "compromise" money to the house girls family.

A few year later i saw the second one, which thought she is "big madam" selling herself to man in clubs.

She was kicked out as well for stealing - Moral of the story - Never take a wicked person into you home - and have a good Moral (no sleeping around) in your home!

The tenth part of the child benefit should be given to god, as the tenth part of the childs gross income, because the family is christian and moses did command this from his follwers in the ols testament. So, now i am in the same page. Hower Jesus teach us not to take away money of widows and children! The person how do this is better of to have a mill stone around his or her neck and be throwen into deep water . . . How old is the child we are talking of a baby, a toddler , under 10 or a teen? In my familie we pray over those things and we give to project in our church, which supports children all around the world, but mostly it is the money of mum and dad, which do this. If my sons said " Mum i like to give for the church, because they have seen a video or a presentation in church, i might consider taking some of there "savingsmoeny" for it. But giving does not start in the church alone and my husband and i do not like to be pushed into given all to the church, what is with mummy and daddy back home in Nigeria? or with the cousiones? there shool fee and there studies? My son (9) gave some of his money (30 Pfounds) to buy a bag of rice for his grandma back home in Nigeria during Chrismas time and he gave up some money for a present for him to give to some money (20 Pfounds) for cousions school fee. This are the things, which make my husband proud! Last year we where ask to give some money to a good friend of us, who is a moslem because he was doing his pilgrimage to mekka. And we did gave some some. God can see all those things and i am quite sure god wil bless us for those things - i like to make a difference in peoples life and i do not like to sponsor a big new us stile church building or pastors new mercedes benz iif people can not get a good education or starving besite me.