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I am not frustrated at all!

I am living in London.

German culture is the German language, German policties, German food, German music, German writes, German movies & tv and our way of live.

As in Nigeria there is not a German culture, there are diffenet costums from staate to saate (Bundesland).

Yes, i know England was the colonial power in Nigeria.
I know Nigerians wear 'English' to the office or to a resturants and 'native' to church, wedding, namings ect. I know Nigeria is made out of many tribes ect.

In fact i know a lot about Nigeria. But this is here not the point.

Nigerians in German must learn German in oder to find work and can communicate rent a house, get benefits, sent there children to school ect.

How good this there leve of German by the way?

Some are realy brilliant very interssed in the day-to-day live in German and really making an effort to intergrate ect.

Personally i found it quite interesting this you, 'mutter' need to get personal here!

Are we not just debating a topic, here.

And all kinds of view are welcome.

If i feel like i could write and sound like the 'perfect wife for a black husband'.

And why i was asked, if my husband is black or a Nigerian?

No of course he is not i am married to Helmut Mueller of Germany.

I am kidding, of course he is black! And of course he is a Nigerian! He even have a Yoruba name and wonder he is using it and my children have Yoruba names to and they are using them!

But what does have this to do with this here?

Today i might be the 'bad one' bec. i am not so pro Black - pro Nigerian.

Respect, understanding and appreciation is not a one way street.
Keine Einbahnstrasse!

It should go in both sites!

My sister in law here in london is a real yoruba big mama from Ogun State.

My other sister in law is a yoruba/ us american.

And i am a white german.

Our children where born in the USA or England.

Which free I am dreaming about?

Everbody is coloure blind. The kind of free Martin Luther King speaks about in 'i have a dream!'

And the kind of free Jesus Christ speaks about when he said ' blessed are the peace maker ect.

Are we not all created in the image of god our father? And did not Jesus set us all free or at least gave us some wunderfull teachings?

Mutter and who man black men married white europain girls and do not practice her culture, more try to understand it.

How many african men can eat europain food or know the best food of there wife?
How many african men speake there wife language?
Or how many men see the wife for how she ready is?

It is good if the europain or USA wife learn how to make stew, eba, eyam, samu, amala ect or how to cook sharky or cow foot and if she can manage to greet the in-laws propperly ect.

In return he should do the same!

Love changes someone and out of love for someone people can accomplish many things.

However if the love is not there, nothing will change for good, no matter if the white wife wears a rapper and bluse and 'kunle' everyday.

And why even uses words like moneky in conjunction with a human beeing?

My husband did not have a german sheeper dog and i do not have a moneky.

Mutter blame the English goverment, the US goverment the indian goverment ect. or even blame the hole world !

To learn somebodies costumes and there way of live is also required if an igbo girl is married to a yoruba guy.

Or if a Tuerkish marries a German. ect!

Thank good i wear never requested to forget i am a German.

WhiteOne is my nick name bec. i like to take the mickey out of this all.
And we where three ladies caming to Lagos. My sister in law from London, my sister in law from USA and me, all your children where brought up together. I did not hear any one saying 'Thank you' at the market to them. The tickets from the USA where more expensive.

Oh, perhaps someboby might have say take you for teach the whiteone the nigerian costums and teacher her a bit of yoruba.

If we are all the same why we still see coloure and please do not missunderstand me wrong now there was a big hapy around the current US president regarding this mattter.

When we are truly free?

Pepper Soupe made with cow leg or telapia or cat fish.
And Beef stew with eba for my husband.
washed down with a cool guniess or staut bear.

And my grand ma s cheese cake.

My husband in the kitchen, you must be joking, he will not eat for the hole day if i do not cook for him in the morning before going to the office.

Germany

If i recall my first visted to Nigerian right there were a special song for the westerns if they went to a bear paller or ristorante and pepper soupe where ordered.

And i heard stories where children in Nigerian running behind westerns and sing this specail song, too.

My sister in law is very light and complecor in her colour nobody never sang this song for her.

And when i went to a market in Lagos with my other sister in law a woman came to her and said something like 'thank you for bringing the omo oyebo the children of the whiteone home to Nigeria.'

No one say 'Thank you to my sister in law for bringing her children home from the UK or to my other sister thank you for bringing them for the USA'

In Lagos where taken 1.000 Euro of my best friend a mixed German/Nigeria on her wedding day by the Nigerian police and sometimes i am not sure, if i might get a bottle over my head for bening white when on the road alone in SW London at night.

It does not bother me much if German is better than the UK or the USA.

I just have seen to many Nigerians of the first generation coming to London and they where not better treated jobwise as in Germany aka cleaning jobs, security and taking care of the elderly.

Or black people come here to study and than the found it realy hard to land a good office job and end up at car phone warehouse ect.

Good for you if you have a good job and good for all the other people in your company, too.

And yes, my husband where stop by the british police here in the uk and was ask for his documents and he was born here.

And what about the brixton riots back in the eighties?

What about the current stop and search politic.

You write it yourself you are born and bread in the UK.
You are the second generation!

There are black germans, too. Still living in Germany in the second generation.

Yes, my dear compare Germany with England.

And you know what, please ask any Nigerian, who has lived in Germany about it.

A lot of people will tell you German might be better than England in some things like housing, like education and craftsmenship.

Talk to people of the first generation and you might gain a new view.


It upsets me to see people always talking about the great USA or the great UK.

Who is living mostly in the inner cities?

And what and how does the press and the TV reports about certain groups.

Anywhy you are 25 years old and your are living your UK/Nigerian live.

You can not understand what i am writing about anyway.

My husband were coming back from Lagos to London last year and he was asked a lot of stupied question in Heathrow.

And I was asked in Heathrow last year, how come my best friend daughter is with me in German over Christmas and does her mother gave me permission to take her to Germany.
This was on your way back to London.

It is so uncommon this a German with to mixed rase kids can take an other black teen along.

No worries! Life goes on.

And would your childhood friend mother tell you her daughter can not come and play with you becouse your mama is married to a black, happend to me!

And would your sister in law talk rabbish about white people they are no good and her children never should be to close to white british and totally over look you and later say, oh sorry i forgot you are white, too. Happend to me and i am the one, who took care of ther own three children over to my house for the last five year. happend to me!

And will you be told in a job inteview all nigerian are gangsters and they are no good, happend to me in the UK.

And when i had my national insurance interview i was told i can not be Ms. Adexxx becouse i am not black happend to me.

Or i was called a white polnish bxxtch and i should go back where i came from, becouse i am just taking the job of the black british ect.

In the USA a german, a nigerian and a british only can stay there if the marry an citizen of the USA or have a child there. And a US American can only stay the UK, if he/she marry an europian (EU) citizen or a british one or have a child.

My own white american boss hand to married to his white partner to stay here.

Therefore it is not only Germany.

And I am sure, if i wont to live in Nigeria for a longer periode i must be married to an Nigerian citizen, too.

The problem is not the culture or the cultures.
It is the lack of understanding and the unwillingsness to learn.
Black and White, both sites have a long way to go.
It might be the gernation of my children, which is truly fee and can not see coloure any more.

By the way I am not living in Germany.
I am living in London, SW not to far from Brixton.
And my mom is bearing a yoruba family name.
Still beleave i do not know, what i am writing about.

Sales meeting in the USA, see with my own eyes.

Out of 500 sales reps, software engineers and support stuff only a hand full where black.
And i have see how fair france and british people can be to black people in the private sector.

Sometimes i feel like crying !!!

And please read the english press, what was this within the London Police Service.

I am not OK with this kind of talk at all !!!

Only some people do not know i understand a bit of yoruba and broken.
And some woman start there gossip some how . . .

Yes, children must not be lost if brought up in the right way.

However there is still a lot work to do.

Germany do not make progress if it comes to mixed rase children?

And they the USA, UK and Nigeria are much better?

Realy?

I might have over looked something last time i went to a business meeting in the USA and I might have over looked something at work today.

Where where all the black managers and high flyers?

The well fair state can take care of mixed rase kids.
The kids in Europa born to a white woman are lost anywhy.
He just married her for passport and her kids do not count.

Are the nicer things, some people say.

And would a Nigerian woman have been ask, if all her children belong to the same father?

Could somebody of Nigerian origin do the honor?
It seems to me, i might not be best qualified.

But have your fun at home with the person you are married too !!!
No with the post or milk man

The countries are so different.
The partens might need somebody.
So if a girl from France and a boy from Germany, fall in love.
Do the not have the same problem?
Or you are married and your mama is getting older and she lives in Hamburg at the coast and your husband and you life in Muenchen.
This are all excuses.

Are you the only child they got?
Can not the brother or sister take care?

And what about a housegirl or some extended family to help mama or baba at home in the village? How many people are leaving in Lagos or London, who have found a solution for this matter. Why Germany should be different if you and your man are truly one.

Looking is allowed.
But have your fun at home !!!

Does this not have the same racist meaning?

nagging (English) means to nörgelnd (German)
perpetual nagging THEREFORE Naggers  . . .

I do not mean to use the other "n-word" and if you still wish to come face to face with me, please do so.

Oyebo Pepper get s yellow yellow more more. This is what i where called many times.

And why some people call my children 'Omo oyebo'

I might find this offensive, too. Ever thought about this

The plates where no big deal.

But my mum has two mugs, which no one where allowed to use.
My Dad had a one or two German Bier Cups (Humpen), which noe one where allowed to use.

And my grand mother site in her house, do not even try to sit down on it or use her mug!

My mum gave my husband a German bear cup, it was the it is the second one of my dad.

OYINKANSOW

I am married to a Yoruba and we are always amazed how the Yoruba (Ogun State) and German (Hessen State) Kulture a like.
And it not only us, who noticed !!! this our German family and our Nigerian Family !!! Even ieny and oma.


Therefore I conclude a 'good family is a good family every where' and like minded people get on very well togehter no matter where they came from.

Mutter of course you can comparing a Nigerian function/party with a German Function like a foot ball or tennis club is holding a Sommerfest ect. !!!

And by the way.

Papa have his own seat in the living room and Mama, too. And the children have to give this seat up, if Papa or Mama enter the room and Mama have to stand up, when Papa requst his sit back, only the sofa is mostly free. If Mama will Papa a blanket and a cushion, if he requests them.

Funny !!!

My mum always made sure my daddy had his food on the table, when he was hungry and she always cooked for him.
When we went for a Barbeque, it was my mum who brought the food on the table.

Or it was me!

When my daddy had friend over my mum brought them beer and sandwitches or soft drinks.

When we where out to a friends house or the football club had a function, my mum baked cakes or made food to take along.

My daddys sister, would have told her of, if she did not do all those things and my Mother told her sister in low of for not doing those things  . . .

But ONE of them is Nigerian, they are all White and from Europe !!!!

Why always everbody write the african culture is the only onw, which demand those things.

I would get a kick in my butt if i do not serve my husband, my mother, my grandma or the brother of my mother.

And they same goes for my children, if they do not serve me or there dad.

Easy!

Greet you husband first thing in the morning and first thing if you or he enters the house.
Bring him his food on a tray, when he is hungry.
And make sure he has something to drink.

Wash his cloths and do the cooking.

And give him some children.

A propper statement means you explain what you dislike and why you dislike it.

Thank you so much for the complement 
And now let us know WHY you call me an  idXXXot or are you to shy to make a propper statement

Do not live in the same town with them!
Just go and visted them, if you absolutely must!
Do not let your wife/man be like CCN NEWS or Sky NEWS to there family.
If they ask you for something, tell them you will pray about it and god will make a way, if it is in his plan!
And stay out of there family business!

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