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I was looking for a house and the agent out the landlord on the phone to talk to me. The first thing the man asked me was my tribe, I asked him what that has got to do with the house? Like most Nigerians, he started getting defensive and angry.
I just cut the phone.

There's also hypocrisy of them wanting to make sure you're married. Yet yahoo boys are all over the place carrying girls, doing vices. It is you the decent looking hardworking man they want to police with a false sense of morality.
Immediately they see a yahoo boy, they drop those useless questions and "standards" and simply collect the money.

You're wrong bro, he actually looks 60...if too young 55.

Shedrack777:
This man ain't 27. If he is 27, then I am 25. He should be around 39 or 40years

Parliament 🤣🤣🤣

hatchy:
Why are you guys surprised, afterall Iyakara 1 of Iragbiji, Senator Oluremi Tinubu once sold Akara and Kuli.

No condition is parliament

It is the same way the incoming one will also soon resign.
The UK is operating a broken system of government that is no longer working.
In this woke era, everything is ultra sensitive. If you cough, the next thing is "resign".
They should stop this merry go round of Prime Ministers turn over.
It is making the country not have any significant long term progress

Nobody is holding them. They just can't because they know the devastating consequences they stand to face and Iran has sufficiently showed them it is capable of responding. Iran is not Gaza. You don't hate Iran more than Israel. If there is anything they could have done to wipe them off, they would...but they can't.

Gotocourt:
If Israel is allowed, they'll blow up Kharg island and Iran power plants. Infrastructure such as bridges, hospitals 🤷🏿

All these arrangee marriages, just to make things rhyme.
They are all so consumed with making the optics work.
Okay, after we have done the oooh, awash, wooow, what next?
By the way, we that you're trying to impress don't give a hoot about y'all.

Okay noted Sir.
However, there are other areas of banking operations like treasury operations, investment banking, project financing, taxation and collections, etc

frankblinkz:
People still dey work for bank?


Opay or nothing.


Don't even know what can take me to bank again sef.

I'm not exaggerating, but it's been over 3years and more that I haven't gone to the bank for financial transactions.


I don't run POS, so I don't buy cash at the bank

See this ode

Righteousness2:
President Trump we love you but this is the most useless and foolish talk that a mere creature powered by the Breath of the HOLY ONE OF ISRAEL Can say.

Do you want to Destroy yourself and Nation?
Do you want to become the modern Day Nebuchadnezzer who went into the bush and became an animal for 7years because of his utterances?

Who the hell are you to utter such words on THE COVENANT NATION OF THE HOLY ONE OF ISRAEL.

ARE You not afraid President Trump?
Do you want to become the Modern Day Nebuchadnezzer that jumps inside bush and becomes an animal for 7yrs all because of his Foolish talks?

I love you so much President Trump but I must tell you truth.
You have acted Foolishly in making such utterance.
Nobody body No being dares utters such such folly words about ISRAEL and remains.

Make amends quickly President to avoid making yourself and Nation a caricature.

I remember that group so vividly!
Morocco 2 Norway 2 the commentator screamed "Oh! what drama in Montpellier!" The Moroccan squad had Mustapha Hadji, Youssef Chippo z Hadda, etc.

Then Morocco did Africa proud beating Scotland 3-0.
But Brazil fluffed the final game against Norway 1-2 to deny Morocco a place in the next round.

The western masters have spoken. The African puppet will swiftly implement, and you can't do jack about it.
They have put you on notice by publishing the news.

Someone criticised the poll up there. The wording of the second option is a bit too direct, but unfortunately true. During Buhari's 8years, northerners reacted like you committed blasphemy if you dared criticise Buhari. While the southwesterners taunted you for belonging to the other tribe. Together, they held down blind support for that failed government.
Today, southwesterners are staunchly defending based on tribe.
So, the country can never be good. The division is too much...and what is the division over? Meaningless tribal affiliation.
The Blackman is truly a subhuman...imagine people believing the delusion that they came from somewhere and that somehow means something

Redmi is Xiaomi

Adewale1603:
So redmi no dey.




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Hahahaha that's a nice one! The bank just sit down jeje, dem go register party with him name

Pootle:
access party belongs to access bank

Nothing.
It is all a psychological blackmail to get you to be a slave for life while flattering you to think you're doing something noble and respectable.
Before, men thought they were gaining respect and loyalty (which are actually meaningless and valueless) but today, even those tokens are gone! No respect, no loyalty, nothing, but somehow, You're still expected or harassed into taking in someone to provide and care for them.

In terms of kids, that is also not a win for the man. Kids most times align with their mothers. The man is usually just there, no matter how much he slaves.

This is why in the modern day, men are rethinking the whole marriage thing....a woman must bring tangible value to the table -not the homemaker bullshiit, real value! A good job, a good business, willingness to actively contribute, not "my money is my money" crap.
Cos anyway, they no longer respect you for anything. So, they might as well bring money to the table.

Grown adults playing dress up every year.
I have watched this program, it is not about anything... No agenda, no program of the events, just adults moving about aimlessly in a crowded venue in clownish attires. The African's greatest weakness is mindless entertainment.
The resources expended every year on this jamboree will fund education, financing of cottage industries, etc. But trust Blackman to be wasteful.

If it were truly payment for sexual access, then divorce would legally entitle a man to ownership rights over the woman indefinitely Wrong. Divorce, involves returning the money (bride price) back to the man. And after that you have no legal access to her body. This even buttresses my point further.

your argument ignores reciprocity within marriage itself Again, wrong.
What is supposed to happen inside marriage is not what the analogy was about. The analogy was about money i.e. bride price (whether literal or symbolic) being what qualifies a man access to a woman.
Listing the things a woman is expected to do after the money has been paid on her head is immaterial to the discourse.
Marriage is a contract, like every other contract with expectations and responsibilities.
The hookup is also a contract, with reciprocity expectations on both partners.
For marriage the contract is long term, written, with more elaborate responsibilities like sex, loyalty, children, partnership,etc
while for hookup the contract is short term, mostly unwritten or oral, with less elaborate conditions, like sex, companionship for the night or weekend, etc.
The fundamental condition that validates both contracts is: MONEY and in both situations , the man is the one to make the payment...and he gets none if he cannot pay the money.
You cannot marry if you cannot afford the bride price, so, also you cannot get hookup if you cannot afford the fee.
Lets not over romanticize the issue

Newlight777:
Your argument sounds logical on the surface, but it collapses once you distinguish between responsibility, symbolism, consent, and outright transactional intimacy.

Bride price is not equivalent to paying for sex, and reducing it to that is an oversimplification of African marriage systems. In most Nigerian cultures, bride price is symbolic recognition of union between families, commitment, responsibility, and legitimacy of marriage, not a commercial purchase of a woman’s body. If it were truly payment for sexual access, then divorce would legally entitle a man to ownership rights over the woman indefinitely, which modern society and even most traditional systems reject.

Secondly, your argument ignores reciprocity within marriage itself. Men are expected to provide, yes, but women are also culturally expected to contribute labour, loyalty, childbearing, home building, emotional support, and family continuity. Traditional marriage was structured as mutual obligation, not one sided prostitution. Provision in that context was tied to responsibility and long term covenant, not “pay and receive pleasure.”

The hookup culture being criticised is different because it strips away responsibility while keeping the transactional mindset. That is the key distinction. In traditional marriage systems, provision came with duty, accountability, permanence, family involvement, and social expectations. In hookup culture, the exchange is often immediate gratification without deeper obligation. One is covenantal exchange, the other is consumptive exchange.

Also, saying “women expect gifts and money” does not automatically prove sex is inherently transactional. Human courtship across cultures has always involved signalling investment, competence, seriousness, and commitment. Men compete for women even in societies without bride price because attraction is not purely physical. The average woman bears higher biological and social risks from intimacy, including pregnancy, vulnerability, reputational damage, and historically economic dependence. That naturally shaped mating behaviour long before modern Nigeria existed.

Your argument also unintentionally reduces women to passive reward dispensers and men to permanent purchasers, which is not even how most real relationships function. Many women genuinely desire companionship, emotional security, attraction, and love, not merely extraction of resources. Likewise, many men pursue intimacy for ego validation, conquest, status, or pleasure, not just affection. Transactional behaviour exists on both sides.

Finally, the existence of financial or symbolic obligations around marriage does not automatically justify hookup culture or prove all intimacy is transactional. By that logic, paying for a wedding ring would make love itself commercial. The presence of material responsibility in relationships does not erase the emotional, spiritual, social, and moral dimensions attached to intimacy.

So the nexus you pointed out exists partially, but the conclusion drawn from it is too reductionist. Traditional marriage systems linked provision to responsibility and social order. Hookup culture often separates pleasure from responsibility altogether. Those are not the same thing.

I don't think I quite agree with the submissions made here:
1. Hookup has two participants, the male and the female, which of these two is the writeup talking about? If it is the male, the average man in Nigeria grows up to understand he has to provide something before he can earn the affection or intimacy of the opposite gender - even marriage is ratified only by PAYMENT of money called bride price. Whether it is literal or symbolic, it is money and must be paid for him to get a wife.
Other interactions follow same patterns, you must give an amount, you must provide, before they reward you with pleasure.

For the female on the flipside, it is an entitlement ratified by the larger society. Money must be paid to marry them, gifts must be provided.
So, why are we all acting sanctimonious as to why sex is transactional in Nigeria? It is entrenched even in our most sacred cultures and traditions.
People will come here now and try to say bride price is different and something noble and honourable. I never said it wasn't, I'm merely pointing out the nexus.

I shared my story here sometime in 2024.
I'll just recap for the purpose of this thread:
I caught her early into our marriage. She was having an affair with a colleague at work.
I ended the marriage.

15 random Key takeaways from my experience:
1. Any woman is capable of cheating. It is a mistake to think yours can't.
2. It doesn't matter what your history together was. Whether been together through thick or thin or not.
3. The more stable, solid and secure you make the home/relationship, the higher the tendency that she will cheat.
4. They will attempt to minimise the cheating, frame the cheating as a one off, and a "mistake" or due to being "overwhelmed".They will say it was not about the sex, that they are not crazy about sex, that the person was someone "they could talk to", ... Its all a lie. The cheating was cold and calculated, and was about the sex and excitement that comes with meeting a new person.....and they actively pursued it.
5. They will blame you for being the cause, that you made them do it: its a defence mechanism to escape accountability.
6. They will cry, get angry, shout, create a scene, threaten physical harm to themselves and you when they see you're not falling for the fake apologies.
7. Inside the anger, they will let slip the real truth that they don't regret doing what they did.
8. They feel entitled, they feel they deserved the break to have another man once in a while.
9. At the time of having the affair, they will rate the other man better than you in bed and delude themselves that he is so wonderful in bed. But it is all an illusion, the key ingredient that made it exciting was simply because they were doing something they were not supposed to do.
Take away that fact, the affair loses its excitement. Which is why, when you find out and decide to end the marriage, they suddenly no longer desire the other person. (As a simple example, watch whether Chike and Frank Edoho ex wife will continue their affair, now that they have been left for each other.)
10. If you have a small kid or kids, you will feel very bad about having to leave them (cos the woman gets the kids, especially if they are young)... But don't! Don't stay cos of the kids, it is the absolute wrong decision, however noble it looks on paper.
11. While you are still around, they will feel some sort of power that they are in control, that they cheated and you still stayed.
12. They will be impatient about you hurting and will start giving you ultimatum to "forgive" and get back to normal with them
13. They don't want to experience any form of discomfort. The period You're trying to gather your thoughts and make sense of the whole situation, they are already filling the void by taking to other men, cause they need constant validation.
14. Until you show you're capable of walking away, they will never truly respect you.
Because they so much believed you love them so much, you can't walk away.
15. When you eventually walk away, you will be proud of yourself and know deep down you did the right thing
And your fear about the kids is not that bad. They will be alright.

Not really, they are only okay to satisfy the occasional sexual need. The girls themselves know this, that is why they have low self esteem.

If you mistakenly marry a chubby girl, they will cheat on you, because of the low self esteem, which makes it easy for men to get them because they need constant validation to feel wanted.
You can never see the true selfconfidence you see in a normal slim or slimthick girl in a chubby girl. The ones pretending to be self confident are doing it as a defence mechanism

Which Netanyahu wasn't consulted? Netanyahu is the one running this whole show, trump is just an errand boy. An errand boy has no say when the master gives an instruction. Are you even been serious right now? All of a sudden "Netanyahu wasn't consulted"? Which kind lamba you dey wan use whine us for here?

Godjone:
If you kill a serpent and allowed it to continue struggling with it head still on it neck, the serpent will heal and rise in a more deadly manner. Trump made a big mistake to have agreed on a ceasefire with Iran. He should have seek advice from Benjamin Netayanhu first before agreeing on any ceasefire.

He was almost crushing Iran to submission but at the last minute he allowed them to regroup all in the name of ceasefire. This monster in Terhan right now is stronger than even before the war. Starting another war again with Iran is like starting all over again from square one.

Benjamin netanyahu who understood the language of terrorists should have been consulted before entering any ceasefire with the IRGC terrorists.

To defeat Iran, washington and Telaviv need to come out with a different strategy and if this strategy come into reality, they should continue with the war until Iran is vanquished. Nobody jokes with terrorists except Nigeria and I expected Trump to know better

Yes, engineering is a versatile profession. Engineers excel in various other fields, especially in Management. The reason is that Engineering provides the technical and conceptual skills vital to Management

themanderon:
An engineer the chairman of a bank? That's interesting.

For what? If the autopsy shows it was a natural death, he is free to go

2cribz:
Life in jail

See this business man, selling market. All these are the tools of his trade.
False stories, dubious claims, ostentatious and luxurious living off the gullibility of the masses..

If more than 50% press red, you all die.
Red is NOT a guarantee for staying alive

GanagiBitrus:
This simply means pressing the Red Button is the option that guarantees me staying alive,
So I will press RED

Makes no sense to press BLUE.

Its called good-cop-bad-cop. One pretends to be hot headed and the other the calming one. Can't believe you're falling for this gimmicks

Elusive001:
Really?

So you think that Israel is happy with the ceasefire with iran and Hezbollah?


Read the article below

https://www.ynetnews.com/article/rkgffpdabe#autoplay

Bros, israel did not want ceasefire with Iran and Hezbollah. You can doubt this, but no problems.

They put out these reports to make it look like America has a say when it comes to Isreal, they don't.

Elusive001:
Bros, get the right information abeg.