@Boolet

Just as the statement of account and other docus became useless according to what we've read, so would have the invitation letter. They use maniacal discretion - the consulate officers - which is misconstrued for psychology.

Gbam! You are sooo right. Most of the decisions they take regarding 1st time travellers are just arbitrary and devoid of any logical / transparent process.

The only time they seem to apply some logic / common sense is when it involves frequent travellers and people with previous travel records. Even at that.
A friend’s sister was denied visa to a country she had visited several times without overstaying her visa 1 min, among the reasons given was that they were not sure she would return to her place of residence after her visit, which she had done countless times previously. Can you beat that?
Why should they even be taken seriously when they have difficulty distinguishing fake docs from genuine ones. How many times have they not condemned genuine docs for being fake.

@Tit

What exactly will this 2 million people be doing?
what value or service will they be adding to the economy?

This should answer your question:

http://www.pwc.in/en_IN/in/assets/pdfs/evolution-of-bpo-in-india.pdf

Should you need further clarification, do no hesitate.

Imagination is greater than knowledge!

I'm a victim of the overrated marriage in our society.

You are not the victim here dear. The victim is your hubby to be who is planning and excited to enter into this union in all sincerity and you already have your plans ready to kill his dreams.

I'm a victim of the overrated marriage in our society.

I do like the fact that you know and are resolute about what you want though, but for heaven sake, safe this guy the misery and move on with your life. There are other guys out there that meet your requirements / demands and are marriagable. In case you are not the marriage type, there isn't anything wrong with that, if you ask me. If you are of the opinion that marriage is overrated, this action / approach of yours only help to keep this MYTH alive!

Since you have resorted to taking the victim position, should you then make more victims?

Pple. I hv done sm liittle research into this in the past too. Our conclusion was that it is that slight taste of the burnt buttom of the pot where all the ingredients come together & get slightly burnt, wch then sort of gets deployed to to form the dominating lovely smell & taste. To check this, try cook jollof rice wthout the slightly burnt buttom, u'll see that the magical yummy taste & smell will not be present.

Hmmm... Sad! Sad!!

And we complain about politicians!? And these are the supposed leaders of tomorrow..?

@Sweetguy25

Sexy milf. Anytime I hear her name, I get a hard-on.

Dat na why she has been able to put Jona head between her laps o despite all the allegations of mis-appropriations.

Na MILF material sha.

@misfab

lols....thaats a whole lot of a healthy sex life ur neighbours gat

and d part of wifey greetn them neibours extra nicely got me

op...me thinks thirs shuld b an aphrodisiac for u thou. get busy wit ur own wen next u hear them. kai.

Nice one. I like your take on this. Very healthy approach from a very healthy chick.

I clear throath small.

@bushdoc9919

The problem is....we do have a service delivery issue in this country....and it needs sorting out.

Everywhere in Nigeria...hundreds of people lose their temper unnecessarily because they do not get the right kind of assistance from company XVF

I completely agree with you bro on the extremely poor services / assistance and all that.

But this guy definitely went way too far. Look, if he would check the terms and conditions on his ticket, it is clearly stated what the consequencies and his rights are even when the airlines are found to be at fault. And I definitely can tell you it does not include endangering his life and the lives of others in the manner he had done.

In a sane society, he would never have access to cause such security breach. That is part of the issue we should be looking at, he resorted to such, with the same Naija mentality of “do you know who I am” and I am untouchable.

And all the others on the flight? What have they done to deserve him putting them through inconveniences cos he lost his temper? That might be part of the reasons we are where we are as a people in Nigeria, too many people losing their tempers at the wrong places.


We deserve to have better roads too, i.e. Lagos – Ibadan express road, why hasn’t he gone to stand on the express road to protest the fact that the people responsible have not provided the right services they should be providing to the populace?

In developed countries, do you know how much it costs airlines financially each time they miss their slot?

@ Belewu:

Simple. Allow the naira find its 'true' value. At that poimt the demand for foreign currency will stabilize. What you see right now is a quasi demand which will slowly wither away

Nice one. Aside that, upholding the exchange rate of the Naira through this measure is not sustainable. Further, Nigeria does not have the resources to finance such. You already see that the CBN is stepping down on this process.

Eze goes to school! ha ha ha....

Samneer:

Mr and Mrs Bako.... . Mr Giwa a shopkeeper
Edet
Simbi
Ralia the sugar; the book was given to me as a prize for being the best student.
Good old days

...Mr Giwa is a trader, he lives in David's village.. ha ha ha. ......

carlwinnie
May 23
my birth mate

We share same b-day. Nice one. lol

OP,

And you finally show your true colour with the below comment.

And you say you are not jugdemental? Since when are you the one to decide for others what is good or bad?

Are you saying that there is actually a good way to do bad things?

Be the one to cast the first stone bro!

hardbody
You may be rigjt about my path and hands but why must it be ladies and women always? When its not about them not getting married, it about them living as single ladies all alone.....

What a backward society you all have and celebrate. A group of people refusing to use their time meaningfully to think out good initiatives only coming tough on why women should this or that. Haba

May you continue to increase in wisdom bros.

I wonder o. Why is this a female only issue as some people already asked!? When guys / men do same, you don't have an issue with it.

And when these ladies ask you for money to arrange very basic things, you will be the first to come on Nairaland to call them all sorts of names. When they take the initiative, get the bull by it's horns to put their lives in order and be self-reliant and self-dependent, it is not good either.

And btw most ladies are smarter than you think bro, the ones that will prostitute will still do it even if they remain in the villages.

And you say you are not here to bash women, hmmmm.. That is exactly a good reflection of how female-unfriendly our society is. You gave the example of the one that only stays at home when she is having her period. How do you know? Did she tell you? Of course you are free to ask whatever question and however, it is a free world. But your approach and insinuations are flawed bro. Our women in Africa deserve more respect. They are the ones keeping the homes, in the village they do all sort of manial choirs (fetch water kilometers away from hom, fetch firewood, cook food, take care of the kids, serve the men sexually etc) in combination with the hardships some have to put up with, with some terrible in-laws. I actually thot this was really too low for me to respond to, but got encouraged by hardbody.

@Sexyseun

If you still can't understand all these steps, Allow me to have him for just a Day

How about you allowing us have you just for a few hours? After having used "okuta" lol.

What say you? Ha ha ha..

Hi Op,

Hey Folks
Pls i need your help. I got married few months ago and its really beautiful, i'm enjoying every minute of it. To be straight, my husband loves sex but he doesn't last long. He barely last 3 mins and it takes him another 2 hours to be fit again. I love making love with him too but usually i don't get satified because he doesn't last long. Cheating is not even an option, solving the present issue is priority. I'm in my late twenties while he is in his early thirties. I have been a guest for long but his issue made me create an account. Pls what do you think i should do to help him? Matured responses pls. Thanks in advance

I really like your attitude of not giving-up on him and your determination to seek a solution.

I have read a few suggestions, however well-meaning they might be, but as you have stated, it is not that your hubby has an ere.tion issue.

The issue, if I get you correctly, is that he is a 3-min-man so to say. lol.

So he climaxes to soon for your preference.

Well, the reason for that is that he is unable to or does not want to control his excitement to climax.

Ok solution / suggestion for improvement to enable him prolong his climax.

When you are guys are making love and you get the feeling he is about to climax, let him withdraw, wait like 30 secs or a bit longer if necessary and let him start all over again. If he is not able to do this on his own, you might help him by letting him out of you in a subtle way.

He should practice this for some time, and make himself become conscious of it and then try to imbibe this into your sex-life. (automatism)

@OP,

You might have to tell your sister eventually. But take into consideration that TIMING is very crucial in everything we do in life.

You can imagine how you feel emotionally presently about this, even considering you are not the one this has affected first hand. Then try and imagine how your sister will feel and the impact this could have on her and her health in her present condition.!

Difficult situation, but I am not sure you want your sister to experience additional agros in combination with the emotional instabilities that accompany some pregnancies.

Good luck with whatever decisions you take.

elantraceey

Ladies beware of perverts that are only interested in your body

Sista,

Pls enlighten us on what is pervasive about the above o. Unless your interpretation is...

It's a way to appreciate God's work, don't you think?

I see a lot of girls fall into traps of wicked konji stricken men all the time, and i feel sad and sorry for them, so i wanna educate them on how to pick out the bad guys! smiley
this list is not perfect, but its what i have to say, and im making it brief because my nails are paining me.

- he forgets your name when you call him

- guys who want ur body will always be looking at you in a dirty and pervert manner, especially if u are the heavily endowned type.

-they love touching you. The first day u guys meet, and he has already started touching ur hands, laps etc.. U knw. Beware!!! Stay off him!

- he looks at other women that are more endowned than you.

- he is always dull and inactive when you bring up the topic of love or something related to it.

- he doesnt and never wants to talk about the future or marriage and kids with you.

- he always talks dirty and naughty infront of you, even when you are not responding.

- he doesnt wanna spend on u, until he uses u.

- he is always holding your bootty or bosoms privately or publicly.
Talk about disrespect!!!! angry

- he watches Indecency and doesnt hide it from you. Ladies, that clearly means he wants to do it with u, thats y hes free to show u!

- he always tries to push you to the bedroom or initiate sex directly. And when you refuse, he becomes mad, and forget u like u never existed.

- he loves calling you in the middle of the night to try and sexchat with you

no insalts! angry you can add more to the list if you want.

@Op,

I think you are mixing up a lot of things.

Look at you writing about "how to catch guys who only want yout body"

* Your user name is: EroticAngelina (It's allowed, it's a free world) hmmm...very suggestive though.

and then one of the elements you've mentioned is the below

- he doesnt wanna spend on u, until he uses u.

The obvious question that comes to mind is, are you a LovePeddler?

And by the way, what have you got to offer in your assumed ideal relationship except sex that is available in abundance to any guy that can present himself reasonable well, and for which you are demanding an ATM for?

Please serious advice on how to keep my new year resolution?
Only serious minded ones should advice me please....

@ Op,

Self service?

@Babyosisi

He was trying to get fresh air in his yonder

Hmm.. you are imagining things.. good work of imagination.. You go blow am fresh air ba? lol

@Sukkot

not exactly true. there is a general saying amongst men in the west. WHEN THE MARRIAGE PAPER IS SIGNED, S-E-X STOPS. lmao. let me tell you something, its only a mad man who will be satisfied with eating rice for the rest of his life. any sane person will go crazy eating rice everyday, no matter how sweet the stew is.

You are funny, I do not totally agree with you though. Look I got into a discussion with a doctor while travelling from Naija to my base, it was about food consumption and diet consciousness in Nigeria. He was like, we tend to eat a lot of fatty food, at the same time, he was quick to say that in a situation where people eat for survival, then you are limited in your choices. There are loads of sane people who eat rice for too long without necessarily going crazy or allow themselves to go crazy. Going crazy in this context, I will take as a matter of perception

so then the onus is on you to create an environment to where you can try to enjoy rice for the rest of your life. one of those environments is separate rooms. i dont care how much in love someone think they are. you are going to get to a point where you are sick and tired of sleeping with AND COPULATING with the same person. and this is where men who are tactful and sophisticated come in. you try to create an environment that enables and not disable your -s-e-x life. there is no such thing as ' if you dont like sleeping with each other again then there is a problem' . there is no problem in that. it is a natural progression. there are many couples who are together and love each other but are in s-e-xless relationships after many years of being together. but you have to make it work. separate rooms is a start.

The natural progression part I agree with.

I live in Amsterdam, it is suppose to be a very liberal environment where the issue of sexuality is concerned. i.e. I have witnessed a situation where a couple with the consent of both parties solicit the services of prostitute because the situation being discussed here had developed with them.

Another example, a man arranges for another guy to come scratch his wife’s back in his presence, cos he was not in a position to do same any longer while they were both still madly in love and the wife needed to have her urge satisfied. This is a totally different level of engagement. I am not sure Naija couples will go to that level


Further, I am not sure about your idea of separate rooms though. That might widen the already developed intimacy gap.


Oeps.. I already typed the above and then saw your below comment.. Now I know where you are coming from. lol.

lol. you have to try to prevent it from the start. establish boundaries that you dont want crossed from the start. hey darling i dont want you farting around me or leaving used sanitary towels where i can see it etc etc lmao. that shhytt is a terrible experience for any sane man. or maybe i am on my own lol. i get grossed out easily though. i dont even want guys farting around me.

You know the level of familiarity i am talking about ? you have seen her on the toilet many times and smelt her shyttt, and you may have run into her inappropriately disposed bloody sa-nitary towels a few times etc etc. its like a family member now as opposed to a sex-ual desire driven union. its a companion union and no longer se-xually driven.

Hmm… Sexual desire driven union? Sexual desire is an essential part of package of the union and among other elements: Respect, love, your closest friend, that person you miss when you are not together, that person that makes your heart race, that person with which you laugh, that person that generates feeling of jealousy in you whenever you get the feeling someone else is trying to make advances at him/her, that makes you cry, that makes you project uncontrollable emotions without you knowing or even trying hard to conceal them etc..

But sexuality and sexual intimacy is like the baobab try that covers all of the above in it’s shade / shadow away from the sun and makes the above one whole.

The moment this is absent (except for medical / physical limitations), the relationship tends to lose it’s intimate legitimacy, and being the human that we are and based on our genetic composition / desire (as it were) were this is missing in a relationship and replaced by other elements that does not equate this, we tend to look elsewhere for it which could spell doom.

I felt really sad for him and tried to cheer him up the best I could till my Industrial attachment came to an end and I left. About a year after our paths crossed again, he told me he was single and asked me for a relationship which I obliged. Everything was fast, he came with his family to meet my parents and ask for my hand in marriage, we got married and the kids came in quick succession, his job took him away a lot of times, sometimes for weeks or even a month , he isn't around.

Some babes and their desperation for marriage. hmmmm.. Now it's looking like you will be rushing out of it the same way you rushed into it.

Please dear ans dis few qsts.. Wen u get married? Who wld u depend on to cook? Who wld u depend on to do d dishes? Who wld u depend on to do almost all d hous chores while u help "wen eva" u want to.

I do all these things myself in addition to working in a fast-paced and high performance / target setting. I will keep doing them myself, though I can afford to have someone do them for me. I am not your average Naija man. I have evolved and dn't play unnecessary oga at the slightest opportunity.

are u a pròstitùte no offense but u sound like one

I tire for Miss Safari o!

Hmmm

How does a woman combine focusing her energy to be rich and taking care of the home the way NLers want it?

If she focuses her energy into riches while single, won't men say she is not a wife material?

@OP:

Very funny

Only insecure men and men with low self-esteem will reason that way. I actually prefer independent ladies who have their lives on track and do not depend on a guy for almost everything.

Ladies do this, guys do that! Aren't we being too judgemental? Whatever happened to being open-minded and being friendly?

Being friendly, does not mean one should tolerate nonsense though. But some peep can be very rude & unfriendly, which is uncalled for really.

We all can't get along, but we can be civil in the way we express ourselves. Christmas is around the corner people. Let us be nice to one another.

people should just put a [b]cork [/b]on there itchy privates undecided angry

That is exactly what they are doing na! Putting "corks" on the itchy. he he he..

Am 22 years old. I 'ave dated three girls, they all left me because I told them I would never have sex before marriage.. the first girl accused me of impotency.. the second girl was blunt she told me she can't cope.. the third one left without a comment ..

I need a girl Buh don't wanna have sex. please I need your advice

Op, count your blessings. At least most of them were honest and straightup with you. They didn't make matters worse for you spending time with you and cheating on you for sex with other guys.

..And you need a girl but don't wanna have sex? Hmmm.... Have you actually asked yourself if you are physically attracted to the opposite sex or you just fronting cos of societal pressure..?