SerikiFulani:


What do you need ?

SerikiFulani:
18k wey no reach me to smoke loud in a day 😔😔😔😔😔😔

Why are people being created to suffer in this evil world?

Imagine a human being earning $27 a month 🤯

damibjs:


Level of education... Bsc...HND... Etc

ashewoboy:





How old are you@op?

Newyorkitis:
Plan a tiny wedding.
Leave the crowd out of it.

Or postpone the wedding till when things gets better.
May God bless the works of the both of you.

XullySwt:
This comment caught me sha
I will do as you said, i appreciate the way you took out ur time to write this in details, God bless

Powersurge:


1. What business is he doing?
2. How was he able to live for two years when he has no job? Does he have other sources of income?
3. What skills does he have?


People get mind sha. I am in my mid 30s I am currently earning around 200k yet I won't dare marriage unless my wife is earning something as well (at least 50k).

I perceived you guys are from the north. Things could be different over there (cheaper things, food might not be a problem etc). If not, person no get source of income won marry a woman with kids. Hian!

My advice. Study the business. Is it yielding something? If you guys put more effort can it sustain you? How are other people doing the same business performing? If you even forget your career and marry him are u sure after growing the business he wouldn't bring other people that will be benefiting from your labor? Do you see him as ambitious person? How badly do you need the marriage? Do you think your children need a father figure? Sit down and sincerely answer these questions. Then make your decision.

XullySwt:
Oh my dear, not everyone think alike. I still wonder why he wants to marry an overused woman But then some overused unique women are rare and hard to come by maybe that's why he stick to me

Savedday:
What am trying to understand is, what kind of a man will marry a woman, that has 2 kinds, when he has no income?

That man is not in his right senses, you have use juju for the man. That is why he want to marry an overused woman with two kinds.

What a shame!

ifihearam:
Your story is incoherent..he has no job yet he has a business? you have two kids and dated a jobless guy for two years? he paid your dowry and planning wedding for november on what budget? Please clarify.

No mater what you do, do not leave your job..your kids come first..beside that will still cause issues in nearest future because you wont want to fall pregnant anytime soon and when you eventually do,he will not treat the three kids as equal trust me.

P>S...From the stories I read recently on nairaland,I cant say for a fact who is more desperate to get maried between Nigerian men and woman lately.

ifihearam:
Your story is incoherent..he has no job yet he has a business? you have two kids and dated a jobless guy for two years? he paid your dowry and planning wedding for november on what budget? Please clarify.

No mater what you do, do not leave your job..your kids come first..beside that will still cause issues in nearest future because you wont want to fall pregnant anytime soon and when you eventually do,he will not treat the three kids as equal trust me.

P>S...From the stories I read recently on nairaland,I cant say for a fact who is more desperate to get maried between Nigerian men and woman lately.

XullySwt:
Is the other way round dear. He prefer relocating down here but the issue am looking at is the cost of living in Abuja, Zaria is much better thus my idea of moving dr

2buffagain:


He sounds like an unwise man.

You don't tell your woman to leave what she is doing and come and meet you until you have prepared a place for her.
One thing before the other.

mukthar2000:
is better u shine it sisterpls and pls don't be too despite of having partner, Allah no best plans for everyone of us, loving u for 2 or 10 years doesn't mean the be ur real partner, just be very carefully and be prayerful for Allah to choose the best for u inshAllah

saintneo:


It is very difficult reside far away from your spouse. I understand that your love sweet, but it will be better to maintain different locations until your finances are good enough.

I have friend that doesn't reside in the same city as his wife, by God's grace the union is standing for eight years now. My friend is a lecturer; consequently, during his vacation he moves to his wife's place. Covid lockdown was very beneficial to the family.

Furthermore, another friend and his wife were together for only 14 months until a better job offer took him to a far away city. It wasn't easy travelling every month or two. By God's grace they never drifted, and there was no side-dish. Now my friend's finances have improved, his wife has relocated and they are enjoying their family.

My suggestion is to have a heart-to-heart talk with your boo, delay your relocation until his finances are up or you secure another teaching employment in his location.

Your kids' happiness is key as well.

frozen70:


Congratulations on your new life with a new guy

You are lucky to have a man that loves you and accepts your children with love

If he is the one that paid uoir bride price from his own money then he means taking you to another good level

Though you guys don't have much now, you are a struggling woman and am sure he is so there is hope for you guys

The main issue now is, if you guys can't afford the type amd kind of big wedding you want to

Why not invite few family members, go to your church and get God blessing, that is the same thing people do get from the alta
Then go to your parlour and entertain them

You are not doing the wedding to impress anyone but to get wedded and have your witnesses

You guys have alot to do with money
Especially you that have much responsibilities on uoir children and your new home

By the time you guys have made your fortune, you can celebrate your wedding anniversary as glamorous as you want

XullySwt:
My dear thank you for this ur comment.

bennyflipy:
People get mind sha, catering for 3 people plus yourself without a good source of income in this economy no be play o.

Zaria of all places sef, let him move to Abuja jare, within 1 month he must get something doing.

mukthar2000:
Sister never made a mistake that would lead to future regret for u pls, my own advice is that stay in ur location with ur present job, convince him to come to ABUJA if truly the love u and ur two kids, instead of u going to met him in Zaria with two kids, ABUJA is more industrious and well paid than Kaduna zaria.
But always have this at the back of ur mind that if the single guy get a better job , by then his eyes might open that single mother are not for his level, I believed by then u might have quite ur ABUJA job, sister be wise pls, ur kids and ur job are ur husband presently, any man should just be additional for u pls. BY WISE

Savedday:
What am trying to understand is, what kind of a man will marry a woman, that has 2 kinds, when he has no income?

That man is not in his right senses, you have use juju for the man. That is why he want to marry an overused woman with two kinds.

What a shame!

iHart:
He has a business and you said he is jobless, what do you mean?

Xedmark:
Hmmm...what bothers me is why you want to get married to man who still fall to the category of "I'm looking for a job" in his mid 30s. He has a business in Zaria, can he cater for both of you and the kids, provide shelter, pay the school fees, rent, emergency health issues and so on?? Follow him to Zaria if only he can provide and don't follow his words until you see proves and glaring evidences that the business is enough to provide for you.

ibechris:
This is not love...how can u take this foolish risk.

There is a an adage that says,eyes dey eat before mouth.

This isn't love madam. At least u have been married before use your common sense.

If u follow this man blindly without a job,who will feed your children? he loves your kids,how just imagine!

Advice:
Pls,leave marriage and let that man go fix himself up,how can a jobless man marry u?

Are u going forward or u are going backward?

What tribe would allow this,a man who has nothing doing to marry u...I wonder how u guys foist poverty and hopelessness upon yourselves.

Your salary isn't enough and now u want to abandoned your job for marriage without an income.

Pls,use your tongue to count your teeth.

TheGift:


He needs to get His act together first.

You don't have any of the irrational reasons society gives to women to hurry. You have married . You have had kids.

He should go to His place, take six months to one year and sort His business out. Then come back when He is ready to take care of Himself and a family.

lomprico:


Ha! I'm a man o! But marrying a jobless guy? Hmmm
Does he have any handwork or skill he uses to pay his bills?

Shoodboi:
He is in his mid 30's and wants to get married despite having no tangible source of income. It appears that he's only interested in getting married because he's getting older.

Don't throw your children into a meat grinder for "love". You'll be responsible for fending for your kids and not him. Hold onto your job (and even the marriage) until things get a bit better. He doesn't need to be rich. But he does need to be stable. And the fact that you are coming in with two kids makes that super important.

FriendsAndFans:
I need a woman, she should be 25 or above and be employed or engaged in something meaningful

I dont need you to be extraordinarily beautiful but be above basic. Currently work and resident in Ogun state

Shoodboi:
He is in his mid 30's and wants to get married despite having no tangible source of income. It appears that he's only interested in getting married because he's getting older.

Don't throw your children into a meat grinder for "love". You'll be responsible for fending for your kids and not him. Hold onto your job (and even the marriage) until things get a bit better. He doesn't need to be rich. But he does need to be stable. And the fact that you are coming in with two kids makes that super important.

Sucre6:


Op follow this comment, he's talking out of experience, he's a wise man

MyVILLAGEpeople:



Dear OP please follow the words of this sage.

aylive02:




Don't listen to any comments again. Just follow what the poster above me said. Peace be unto u