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13 saves!!

No one should blame United inability to score jare. The keeper came prepared

Na for penalty this one dey form Alpha male these days

PM news and infidelity

Ishilove:
Even 1 Kobo I no fit drop for this palava. I weak

E be like say na every week this kind thread dey show face. Next week one person go soon open thread say e sell the only land for his kindred use take play Bet.

Cancelled

Goal!!!

DrFunmisticGlow:
Outsourcing the housework is the way forward

Outsourcing the housework is a case on its own that may lead to another issue in marriage especially when the opposite sex is involved

Abeg, this game don tire me. Let me watch cartoon network small

Ishilove:
This your mata tie wrapper, come wear canvas join. E pass me.

Let the elders handle this one

This one pass elders power o. You better drop your one coin for this matter. Make me I go piss first

When do we start speaking bluntly during eulogy?

The " He/She was a good fellow" is now a culture

bukatyne:
Hmmmmmmmmm

Between the devil and the deep blue sea.

While you want your kids to have stability, you also do not want them to think the abnormal traits your partner has is 'okay'.

Afterall, if daddy beat mummy and she stayed, why should I end an abusive relationship? If daddy endured mummy's emotional abuse, why can't I endure Titi's manipulations?

Sometimes, the home becomes so toxic that the kids while physically fine, are emotionally damaged and are not fit to sustain romantic relationships until they undergo some sort of therapy or introspection.

You also have kids replicating the pattern of their parents.

Walkong out of relationships often times bring instability to the kids.

That is why I would always scream people should do very very due diligence before they marry.

Consult whatever you believe before choosing a spouse.

A martial mistake is sometimes almost impossible to correct.

Word!!

wirinet:
If she is a housewife with no external income, with young children and from a not well to do family, where do you want her to go?

Reason why every woman should see "housewifing" as an impending disaster

iyatrustee:
How skydeep dey do for Andy?

She is comfortable with me. No issues

iyatrustee:
I used to think in that direction before until the day i heard of a woman whose wedding wasn't working yet stayed on because of her kids.

Eventually, the man succeded in killing her! The Children though motherless now are still alive while the woman is no more.

I will rather leave and play my motherly roles from a distance.

Through WIFI?

As long as she is comfortable with all my sexual fetishes, then cheating is off the agenda..

UjuJoan2:
This is nurture over nature. The boy has a real father, the one who raised him when the 'sperm donor' abandoned him and his mother.

Yes he is human, not an animal that you can discard whenever you like and come back to claim him when it's convenient.

You are making a point.

Being a father is not just about getting a woman pregnant. It comes with responsibilities

See, most of you talking about Christian love should just keep religion aside. There are atheists and other religions who don't cheat in their marriage and there are also "Christians" even pastors who cheat on their spouses.

Don't get it twisted

pocohantas:
Nah. If I talk wetin I go do, them fit block my IP.

To your question;

Domestic violence - I’ll leave immediately.

Cheating or whatsoever - I won’t leave immediately.

None of this has to do with the kids, because most times women say that, it is mostly due to finance. So, substitute children for money.

So money is the reason most women won't leave?

That's degrading

Pocohantas, you have been eavesdropping for sometime now. Waiting for who to throw rebuttals at?

I have heard some women say " I am still in this marriage because of the children" when they complain about how terrible their husbands are.

Domestic violence is now common in many marriages and I am not specific to any sex as both are victims of it. Apart from domestic violence, there are other reasons one may become fed up in a marriage..

Inasmuch as some religious folks will speak against separation in marriage, there is still a point one can draw the line to let go.

My question now is, would you rather remain in a psychologically uncomfortable marriage because of your children or let go irrespective of how it affects the children?

1miccza:
Honestly , to the best of my knowledge the ''i love my wife line'' is just at the lips and nothing else, but again a philanderer is always a philanderer and a cheat always a cheat. I have come to realize that cheating has to do with our mindset and beliefs.

If it has to do with the mindset then why do people feel guilty when they cheat, especially when they are caught or something close to that?

Wrongly or diverted?

MrBrownJay1:
sadly, many marry for the WRONG reasons:
- Arranged marriage
- marriage of convenience
- marriage to please family
- marriage to fit with the Joneses
- marriage because baba pastor says thats the one "god" chose for you
- marriage because of money
- marriage because of pregnancy
- marriage because of big nyansh/tittays
- yeyebrity marriage
- body clock (let me get married to any donkey) marriage
etc etc etc

1miccza:
The simple truth is people are merely satisfying their lust and fantasies.

When you truly love someone, you would never want to see that person hurt, you'll always look forward to being with that person.

True, and it is funny when married men tell their side chics " I love my wife"

Kamala that fought with Undertaker that year and he put him inside a coffin

RIP, Legend

At the end only 1% of the population of those LGA will receive it

dulux07:
What we call love most times isn't love, most people are in a relationship because of societal pressure, mutual benefits, religious belief.....etc
Love is enough to stop you from cheating, when you truly love someone you try as much as possible to avoid hurting them.

But love is not enough to stop one from erring. As long as the cheating is not consistent

MrBrownJay1:
a person who cheats on his partner certainly doesnt LOVE that person... because if they did they wouldnt knowingly hurt that person, nor their r/ship. duh! sadly, many clueless people out there are quick to talk about love while having NO DAMN CLUE about what it means!

I guess Love doesn't exist in many marriages today.

2dice01:
Love is never enough

Most people have what tickle their fantasy so when they eventual see someone that ticks all the boxes

It takes more than love to pass such test especially in this modern age

Do you think this is possible?

Funny enough, I have heard people especially married men say they love their wives but they have side chics. I begin to wonder what power does love has towards infidelity?

Does it mean one can hurt the person he/she loves intentionally and still profess love for that person?

You reading this should ask yourself when you cheated (if you have), were you still in love with your partner?

If yes, then what is this LOVE we are talking about if it involves hurting the one we love?

Does it mean we love verbally and not practically, or Love is not enough to stop one from cheating?

Everything moderate for me.