sylve11:
Not all, I actually met an Igbo man in Lagos some years ago. He told me that since he got married to his wife for over 47 years,; he has never cheated on the wife.

Whenever there's misunderstanding, they make sure the children aren't aware. They settle it in their room.

That's true love.


My shock absorber almost burst. 47 years!

dulux07:
What we call love most times isn't love, most people are in a relationship because of societal pressure, mutual benefits, religious belief.....etc
Love is enough to stop you from cheating, when you truly love someone you try as much as possible to avoid hurting them.

Palema007:
Yes Love is enough. But in Africa, it doesn't exist.

xynerise:


I guess Love doesn't exist in many marriages today.

ArticleBeast:
Until you have no other option but to cheat.

Judybash93:
What exactly is love?

yourgistpartner:
Love is never enough. self discipline is key to stop cheating


let's take the smoking scenario for example; they know smoking is bad but they still do, not because they don't love themselves but because they can't discipline themselves appropriately

1miccza:



The simple truth is people are merely satisfying their lust and fantasies.

When you truly love someone, you would never want to see that person hurt, you'll always look forward to being with that person.

IMO01:


Exactly what I wanted to type. Love is a just a meaningless word.

How do love form. If love is formed by companionship it simply means there is someone can always replace you or me.

What most people call love in marriage is not love but commitment.

I promise to be with forever is not love it's commitment

nairavsdollars:
Money plays a huge role

LastProphet:


You are still learning, you will understand

2dice01:
Love is never enough

Most people have what tickle their fantasy so when they eventual see someone that ticks all the boxes

It takes more than love to pass such test especially in this modern age

eyinjuege:
Love is intentional
So is cheating.
People cheat because they want to, and they can.

xynerise:
Funny enough, I have heard people especially married men say they love their wives but they have side chics. I begin to wonder what power does love has towards infidelity?

Does it mean one can hurt the person he/she loves intentionally and still profess love for that person?

You reading this should ask yourself when you cheated (if you have), were you still in love with your partner?

If yes, then what is this LOVE we are talking about if it involves hurting the one we love?

Does it mean we love verbally and not practically, or Love is not enough to stop one from cheating?

xynerise:
I guess Love doesn't exist in many marriages today.

dulux07:
What we call love most times isn't love, most people are in a relationship because of societal pressure, mutual benefits, religious belief.....etc
Love is enough to stop you from cheating, when you truly love someone you try as much as possible to avoid hurting them.

jmoore:
Love is self-control. You can't claim to love when you lack self-control.

MrBrownJay1:


sadly, many marry for the WRONG reasons:
- Arranged marriage
- marriage of convenience
- marriage to please family
- marriage to fit with the Joneses
- marriage because baba pastor says thats the one "god" chose for you
- marriage because of money
- marriage because of pregnancy
- marriage because of big nyansh/tittays
- yeyebrity marriage
- body clock (let me get married to any donkey) marriage
etc etc etc

xynerise:
Funny enough, I have heard people especially married men say they love their wives but they have side chics. I begin to wonder what power does love has towards infidelity?

Does it mean one can hurt the person he/she loves intentionally and still profess love for that person?

You reading this should ask yourself when you cheated (if you have), were you still in love with your partner?

If yes, then what is this LOVE we are talking about if it involves hurting the one we love?

Does it mean we love verbally and not practically, or Love is not enough to stop one from cheating?

xynerise:
Funny enough, I have heard people especially married men say they love their wives but they have side chics. I begin to wonder what power does love has towards infidelity?

Does it mean one can hurt the person he/she loves intentionally and still profess love for that person?

You reading this should ask yourself when you cheated (if you have), were you still in love with your partner?

If yes, then what is this LOVE we are talking about if it involves hurting the one we love?

Does it mean we love verbally and not practically, or Love is not enough to stop one from cheating?

BluntTheApostle:


Love is not enough.

What is needed is self restrain or discipline.

You can love someone and still cheat on them.

There is something called compartmentalization.

You are able to compartmentalize your feelings. You love your wife, and only her alone. Whenever you meet another girl, you only want sex. You are not able to love them like you love your wife.

Men are more capable of compartmentalization than women.

Many women can develop feelings by having sex with another man. They place a lot of emphasis on sex, and they will only have sex with a man they love.

But a man can have sex with a woman without loving her. He go just wan chop and clean mouth.

If a typical married woman starts having sex out of wedlock, she may never love her husband as before

If a typical married man starts having an affair out of wedlock, he may still love his wife strongly.

No he doesn't, he only values his wife and sees her as major priority

frozen70:


Love is absolutely enough to prevent one form cheating especially women

But for men, they are serial cheaters and can love their wives and love their girlfriend and still have a lover

I don't know why they where wired so

They just don't want to stay one place

Yet don't want a woman to do same as if they don't like varieties

plessis:
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Fallacy of hasty generalization.

Speak for your father and brothers.

Some of us have great respect for our bodies.

osalala:
Only the FEAR of GOD can prevent any spouse from cheating. Nothing more. Not even a Trillion metric tons of love

dulux07:
What we call love most times isn't love, most people are in a relationship because of societal pressure, mutual benefits, religious belief.....etc
Love is enough to stop you from cheating, when you truly love someone you try as much as possible to avoid hurting them.