Kennyking1234:
its your type that liters children everywhere in the name of "marriage"

Speak for yourself....


If that's the type of family you emanated from.... I am highly respected and I have extreme respect for marriage....

lexy2014:


So all d married men that are fooling themselves, carrying small girls and spending their hard earned income meant for their families on prostitutes are responsible and mature just because they are married

Oga.... there are married men and there are responsible married men...


When people like you gets married... because you feel marriage is just marriage, you end up living that type of lifestyle...


Why didn't you cite examples from the people you know that stays faithful to their wives? Don't they look responsible to you?

Henri8:

Does getting married qualify one as being a man?

Amongst your equal... yes!


You won't understand this until you have friends you hang out with and they get marrived and began to stay focus to raising a family....

litaninja:
You're talking in the nonsense.

Only because, you're way below my level of thinking and so.. you can't measure up to this standard from you childish perspective...

ekevwe:

What about first child that took responsibilities of younger ones?

Well..... I don't subscribe to giving excuses in life....

edoairways:

You point is not valid. Have you for observed why many marriages are crashing?

For many reasons.... marriage can crash... but keeping marriage is one fit that many have defeated...

Many people have tried giving up on their marriages... Whole some do others work things through....

Look at it this way...


Trying to get rich is difficult but giving up isn't an option... Some do, while others keep trying...

TOPCRUISE:

I avoid people like you who thinks been a man is getting married.
To you those that are not married are not men

You avoid people like me? As if people like me are in your level of wittiness and childishness...

seyz91:
This is wrong on all levels

Marriage is not and never a measure of maturity and responsibility! Marriage is merely a choice!

Won't say more than that!

Only if you know the difference between maturity and responsibility....

bossinblack:



Sorry but shut up!

He should only marry when he's ready and able to. There are countless very irresponsible married men everywhere.

Op, stop your playboy lifestyle too. You're putting yourself at too much risk. But don't marry because of pressure .

When you come to a forum like this to display this type of mentality of telling someone you don't even know to shut and again dish out advice... You're nothing but a child... and shouldn't be talking about marriage... you should be out there studying to pass your exams...

Semaj77:



Marriage isn't proof of responsibility , I know a lot , and I mean a lot , of men who are highly irresponsible and are married. Also this backward mentality that we have as Africans is just dumb , anyone can choose not to get married if they so desire , it doesn't take anything away from you.

This is a child's mentality....


This Africa and we hold some traditions.... if you don't by this... go out and claim citizenship of a foreign country and let Africa be...

You people will selectively agree to some Western countries traditions and abolish some.... Yet wants Africa to change and follow the white's traditions...

Semaj77:


Being single doesn't mean you can not take care of yourself , there are philanthropist who donate to worthy causes and are single , are you saying they can not take care of themselves or that they are irresponsible , you seriously need to change this your thought process

You read and don't understand.... You need to work on yourself....

kestolove95:
what if someone doesn't have the means?

Only if you don't want to...


It's a mental situation...


It's like staying broke... if you don't sit up... you'd remain broke...

Anybody who wants to get married will eventually settle down...

Emmani360:


If marriage is your yardstick for measuring maturity then you ain't mature.
It's not only priests and nuns that are exempted from staying single and if it's God's wish that we all should get married then the ratio of male to female birth/death in the whole world should be 1:1
It's Better to stay single and happy than to get married and stay unhappy for the rest of your life

Mumu.... I never said it measure maturity....


You idiots just read to quote and not to understand...


Gettat

scrolldown88:


Listen, you mistake my point. People don't have to be married to prove to society that they've grown. It's wrong to pressure them to, and even more wrong to shame them for not getting married.
Because you have a better life and in a position to afford getting married, doesn't mean people who can't afford it or simply rather avoid the complications of marriage for whatever reason are kids.
Getting married is a decision, at least for most men. For women it's not 100% in their hands because they can't simply will themselves to be married, will you say they are irresponsible too?

Stop shaming people for deciding to get married just because you are. And you are most certainly not a higher individual on simply on account of you being married

You're confusing your thoughts on what's supposed to be a norm and what isn't...


For instance...

A man who's grown (Say 35yrs old) and still living under his parents simply because he's been taken care of...

He doesn't care because he gets what ever he desires from his parent...


Now asking such a person to go get himself a job isn't a pressure...

When we ask young guys to go and get married, we're not trying to push them into it... We are directing them...

Psychologically, people don't thrive if not pushed...

If all of us would say that we're not ready to settle, we wouldn't have gotten to this stage right now..

When I got my first car... It was because I stood under the sun waving at taxi and non was waiting to pick me up . I was devasted and unemployed... I made up my mind to achieve it... because I never wanted to be in that same condition forever...


When people like you make defence of this kind... you're literally trying to shy away from what you should do by giving different excuses...

If I tell you that you should not be pushed into making money as a man... or you shouldn't be pressurized into going to make legit money, you'll think that I am trying to stop you from progressing...

Why pick excuse for marriage? it doesn't fit you ..

DOTian:

Igbo Kee me dia.. !

Comparing your region with China is the biggest joke so far...

Your problem started when you began to use kizzbrown as a Monica which we already have Chris brown as a brand...


Get your things in order...


Work on you skills and improve them... Look out to meet with good producers and popular DJs who can link you up...

daddytime:
That husband should be quizzed further.
He should be the first suspect.
He knows more than he's letting on.

If you become a police officer... you go Sabi arrest people oh...

Fahdiga:
The truth is that Secondus has outlived his usefulness to the party but Wike should exercise patience until his tenure end in few months time then we can boot him out

Wike is looking for a soft landing and doesn't want to step down from governorship and retires into nothing..


He's a very self-centered man...

Nonsense.....

They're lovely animal.... would love to have one for a pet....

Lagos is growing very fast and it's leaders tend to work extensively to mark good governance to their names....


This is a good development.....

Aba made Hennessy.....



This is one thing about the Igbos.....



They should stop duplicating other people's product and begin to manufacture their own brand and work towards advertising it to the world... Then rebranding it to give good meaning....


If not, their talent is just a waste....

scrolldown88:


I totally disagree with this. Marriage is not a standard to measure maturity or how responsible a person is. I'm not endorsing the OP play boy behavior, however there's lot of single people who are more responsible than some married folks. There's also a lot of married Playboy's, would you say they are highly responsible on account of them being married?
Besides this days we see people just in and out of married, or father children they can't care for, will you call that being matured/responsible?
And why most you take responsibility for another person. It's hard enough taking responsibility for your self and your immediate family. You can't shame a person for refusing to take up a leech.
Lol. So single men are not men because they aren't married?
This uneccessary pressure put on young people is the reason why we have broken homes littered all over.

You people always want to make arguments when you shouldn't...


What is responsible about a man who is married and still cheats on his wife?

Being single and taking family responsibilities is different from getting married and taking responsibility of your home... The later shows more of manly behaviors...


On the account that people get married to divorce doesn't add up... If a marriage fails, the both parties are to be blame and that could be anybody's fault... And I don't take divorced people serious...

Why shouldn't you take responsibility on your kids and your wife? I grow up to see my father took care of me and my siblings and my mother who was a civil servant and I am going to also have kids and take care of them and my wife ..


If it's hard for you to take care of yourself... then you're still a kid and should go home and let your parents finish taking care of you... When you grow up, you'll be able to take of yourself...

indadi:
My Dad called me this evening to tell me the essence of praying. The thing is that I don't believe praying solves anything Atleast to me. the day I stopped believing and started working more on myself, I found out that things started getting better for me than those who goes to the Church and Mosques.
When I think about a lot of things I have read and what I have experienced I feel like I have always been deceived all my life.
The Pastors and Prophets with their fake miracles or the Boko Haram and their suicide with the reasons of going to heaven to get virgins.

I currently live with them though I plan on moving to my own place by the end of this year or early next year.
I really want to tell them in a polite way so they can accept my way.

My Dad won't accept this, as he believes that it is God or nothing

lalasticlala
Mynd44

By simply telling them to their faces that you are becoming an atheist under their roof...

If all the children in your family have gotten married and began to raise a family and you don't seems to bother about it.....than you are yet to grow up.... You still have a childish mentality...


No one is forcing you to get married... But marriage shows that one has gotten to a stage in their life that they'd begin to take responsibility....

Being a man isn't just sleeping around with different girls... but going to get a woman traditionally to become your wife .


Go and marry and gettat from here....

omanzo02:

I find the recent mass surrender suspicious, I can bet my money many of them are going to find their way into the armed forces.

Definitely... or be given opportunity to go learn how to handle different kinds of weapons outside the country by the FG...

IamCookie:


I know of someone that did that. He resides in the US and haven't been to Nigeria since 2016.. He and his wife have a kid before he left... He told my friend(his wife) not to get involved with anyone within Ikorodu(where they live) but in case she needs to explore, she can try somewhere far and with just that person. He further said , he doesn't want to know that person. That s why i said re-orientation is better. Somethingz are just inevitable! No need to shy away from such discussion. Otherwise , your wife's action may be disgraceful , when she bleeps individuals within

If that dude is a Nigerian and was born and breed in this soil... Forget whatever you're saying....



He's probably married to another white woman or black American lady over there and he doesn't want to feel guilty about it...


The child is the only thing connecting them... With time, everything will reveal...


I have a feeling that your story about your friend is actually you... Given the details you give... Except it's a make up storyline...

Angelfrost:


You should learn to draw the line between needless jesting and teachable moments! Thank you.

Sorry man!!! No hard feelings....

Wizkid drilled out the honey on her.... nothing left to admire here

SarakiBukola:

Wankster. You don already cum.

Not everyone is like you....

We keep to our responsibility to satisfying our women rather than wanking.

Better for them.....

bluefilm:


Is that why you are calling my name?

lol..... Aje you deh motivate me....