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How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by indadi: 11:56pm On Aug 08, 2021
My Dad called me this evening to tell me the essence of praying. The thing is that I don't believe praying solves anything Atleast to me. the day I stopped believing and started working more on myself, I found out that things started getting better for me than those who goes to the Church and Mosques.

When I think about a lot of things I have read and what I have experienced I feel like I have always been deceived all my life.

The Pastors and Prophets with their fake miracles or the Boko Haram and their suicide with the reasons of going to heaven to get virgins.

I currently live with them though I plan on moving to my own place by the end of this year or early next year.

I really want to tell them in a polite way so they can accept my way.

My Dad won't accept this, as he believes that it is God or nothing.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Kandeed: 12:08am On Aug 09, 2021
indadi:

My Dad won't accept this, as he believes that it is God or nothing


Sadly, this is the truth. we grew up knowing without God if everything seems going well with you, you just gotta be careful, there's something wrong ur just ignorant of

But I hope you get to understand sooner than later tho

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by freshtimi(m): 12:09am On Aug 09, 2021
Trust me, they will always find reasons why u r wrong not to follow religion. I was in your shoes a couple of years ago, trying to explain my decision to family and friends n I found out that they will never understand you. Just dont stress yourself about it. Keep working hard, be a good person as much as you can and lastly help as many as you have the capacity to.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by indadi: 12:15am On Aug 09, 2021
Kandeed:


Sadly, this is the truth. we grew up knowing without God if everything seems going well with you, you just gotta be careful, there's something wrong ur just ignorant of

But I hope you get to understand sooner than later tho


I really don't understand what you mean
I learned to work hard for what I want so that I won't have to beg from others.
I have my reasons for my decision but that's a story for another day

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by indadi: 12:16am On Aug 09, 2021
freshtimi:
Trust me, they will always find reasons why u r wrong not to follow religion. I was in your shoes a couple of years ago, trying to explain my decision to family and friends n I found out that they will never understand you. Just dont stress yourself about it. Keep working hard, be a good person as much as you can and lastly help as many as you have the capacity to.
Thanks

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by arthurwillia(m): 12:30am On Aug 09, 2021
indadi:



I really don't understand what you mean
I learned to work hard for what I want so that I won't have to beg from others.
I have my reasons for my decision but that's a story for another day

Tell the Story now or collect

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Afamsi: 12:50am On Aug 09, 2021
I bet you don't know much about Christianity. Christianity never encourages laziness. In Christianity you back your belief with your work.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by yanabasee1(m): 12:56am On Aug 09, 2021
indadi:
My Dad called me this evening to tell me the essence of praying. The thing is that I don't believe praying solves anything Atleast to me. the day I stopped believing and started working more on myself, I found out that things started getting better for me than those who goes to the Church and Mosques.
When I think about a lot of things I have read and what I have experienced I feel like I have always been deceived all my life.
The Pastors and Prophets with their fake miracles or the Boko Haram and their suicide with the reasons of going to heaven to get virgins.

I currently live with them though I plan on moving to my own place by the end of this year or early next year.
I really want to tell them in a polite way so they can accept my way.

My Dad won't accept this, as he believes that it is God or nothing

lalasticlala
Mynd44


By simply telling them to their faces that you are becoming an atheist under their roof...

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by JaneYave(f): 1:52am On Aug 09, 2021
The prayers you don't pray today, You will pray tomorrow.
Storms are so real. It takes prayers to stand strong when they come.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Dliquidmetal(m): 8:04am On Aug 09, 2021
This assistant jesus's would soon be here to tell OP he has a problem grin
OP dont bother telling them anything if they are Nigerias they cant be that tolerant or open minded,it would most likely be a waste of time and they would frustrate you henceforth(after letting them know your stance) what you should do it to make enough money and get anyplace where you can live your life on your own terms,best of luck.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by obembet(f): 11:32am On Aug 09, 2021
A peaceful household shows that the bastard is still young grin


indadi:
My Dad called me this evening to tell me the essence of praying. The thing is that I don't believe praying solves anything Atleast to me. the day I stopped believing and started working more on myself, I found out that things started getting better for me than those who goes to the Church and Mosques.

When I think about a lot of things I have read and what I have experienced I feel like I have always been deceived all my life.

The Pastors and Prophets with their fake miracles or the Boko Haram and their suicide with the reasons of going to heaven to get virgins.

I currently live with them though I plan on moving to my own place by the end of this year or early next year.

I really want to tell them in a polite way so they can accept my way.

My Dad won't accept this, as he believes that it is God or nothing.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by 21sleekprox: 11:32am On Aug 09, 2021
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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by arejibadz(m): 11:32am On Aug 09, 2021
Be like everybody don day wake up...with all the religion we gt for this country we still dy were we dy

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by sotall(m): 11:32am On Aug 09, 2021
undecided

You need a personal encounter with God.
I didn't say you should go to church or mosque. Just search deeper within your heart and be sincere with your desire for God and he will shew himself to you.

You have taken a bold decision by wanting to stay away from religion but then you still have to battle with the mystery of the spiritual nature of man.
To answer that question, you need God.

To find God, you need a sincere and honest desire of your heart and will.

Remember science cannot answer the spiritual nature of man and this mystery is what all humans must confront and solve someday while you are alive on earth.
My advise is dont wait for life issues to make you running looking for your creator.

I always remember my biological class when we learnt about the theory of cells. Cells are the basic unit of life including humans.
Now one fact that was stated during that class is that " all cells come from previously-existing cells".
This means you have a creator. Take your time and find him.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Nobody: 11:32am On Aug 09, 2021
I don't think you owe them any explanation. Just keep playing along till you leave their house for your own place. You may want to be religiously neutral but I earnestly hope you would live for humanity.

As for me, I only see my going to church as an addiction. Funnily, some people call me Pastor (which I do rebuke openly) because of my lifestyle, but God knows I'm not close to being a Pastor.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by PAWG(m): 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
It won’t be an easy task. No advise to give but following though

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Judybash93(m): 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
Kandeed:


Sadly, this is the truth. we grew up knowing without God if everything seems going well with you, you just gotta be careful, there's something wrong ur just ignorant of

But I hope you get to understand sooner than later tho

Please oo, which god are we referring to?

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by fowlyansh181(m): 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
Don’t discuss it with them, they’ll chastise you for it .. simply continue with whatever you are doing till you move out ...

When I was still with my family , I hardly joined the morning prayers, I don’t go to church on sundays , not in a stubborn way but just my thing .. if them shout for you like 4 times and you still do it, they’ll eventually just ignore you.. now I own my house and do whatever I think is right for me and no one questions anymore ...

Stop treating those forcing you to go to church as a problem, rather kindly do whatever you like without labeling it..

No go Dey cause problem for yourself with your parents because they believe religion is right and they want the best for you , don’t hate them for that, rather do your own thing without even stressing yourself .. they don’t know any better.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Calibrator: 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
Same way I did.


By pointing out the obvious plot holes in the stories contained in the story books of whatever religion they practice.



They will start avoiding you themselves when they don't have any logical answers to your enquiries then you will have the freedom to do as you please.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by SilverDesign(m): 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
Pray

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Thathumbleboy(m): 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Plomo: 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
JaneYave:
The prayers you don't pray today, You will pray tomorrow.
Storms are so real. It takes prayers to stand strong when they come.

What is this? Mtchewww


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indadi:
My Dad called me this evening to tell me the essence of praying. The thing is that I don't believe praying solves anything Atleast to me. the day I stopped believing and started working more on myself, I found out that things started getting better for me than those who goes to the Church and Mosques.

Listen OP, there is only one way to do what you want to do; and that is tell them to their faces.

I don’t know how old you are or if you’re a graduate and working or still in school or if you still live with your parents.

If you’re still in school, they assume that you’re still a kid and must listen to and do all they say because they alone know what’s best for you.

If you’re already independent to some extent, they’ll still try but at the end of the day, they have to accept that you’re your own person now. You will make your own decisions and stand by them.

If you don’t already stand up to your parents, well now is the time to start. Standing up to them does not necessarily mean being rude to them but you shouldn’t be scared to say “I’m sorry but no” when they say or suggest somethings.

Religion is a personal choice and decision. Parents should stop forcing and pushing their children. You cannot force it down someone’s throat.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by ivolt: 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
You don't.
Why the need to steer up trouble with those who hold the key to your sustenance?

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Hichatt: 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
Have you heard of the Grail message?
Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by hustla(m): 11:33am On Aug 09, 2021
JaneYave:
The prayers you don't pray today, You will pray tomorrow.
Storms are so real. It takes prayers to stand strong when they come.

cheesy

Prayer wey we don pray for Nigeria since 700 yrs ago nko

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Rebuke: 11:34am On Aug 09, 2021
By taking responsibilities; move out to start living and providing for yhurself, don't forget to also change your surname undecided

Finally, when yhu have yhur children be prepared for the same experience. undecided

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Timoleon(m): 11:34am On Aug 09, 2021
You don’t explain to them. You live at peace with your parents. If giving them a few hours of your Sunday secures that peace, give it to them. Religion/spirituality is a personal journey. If you like go to church and study online or work online, they won’t think much of it. For the most part, people are more concerned with appearances than reality. So if going to church especially if you still stay under their roof allows you and them peace of mind, do it. If you aren’t under their roof, always tell them church was fine whenever they ask ‘how was church?’ Wether you go or not.
Seek peace at all times.

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by yesloaded: 11:34am On Aug 09, 2021
Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by b0rn2fuck(m): 11:35am On Aug 09, 2021
I have to quit any thing religious for four years now

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by Blaqqcorleone(m): 11:35am On Aug 09, 2021
JaneYave:
The prayers you don't pray today, You will pray tomorrow.
Storms are so real. It takes prayers to stand strong when they come.

Well done! Great believer.

undecided

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by EmekaBlue(m): 11:35am On Aug 09, 2021
You be like me o

I'm so angry how things are not working for me i have stopped praying and sometimes attack people who ask me to pray. Inner me i think it's bad but how i feel so bad supersede my belief currently

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Re: How Do I Explain To My Parents That I Don't Want To Belong To Any Religion by pocohantas(f): 11:36am On Aug 09, 2021
You don’t explain. You simply carry on with your irreligious life, they’ll get the memo.

Would be hard(er) if you are still eating mummy-thank-you.

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