Anomnity:
Sorry Beat,I've been busy.The story is pathetic.There are points to note from all you've said:-
1.She lacks integrity: She can demand for something as deep as an oat & easily disregard it shows she not even worth being married by any man.If a man dares marries that type,she'll easily break the marriage covenant & sleep around with your friends without regard.
2. You are better than her:- not saying this to flatter you but consider that you still regarded the oat but she has easily lost all regard as if it never happened.
3.She's dangerous:- her type can do anything to get a man for her selfish interest & she can kill or dump the man afterwards.Such can poison their husband in order to inherit property.
4. she's probably a player or a marine agent: All she did to you falls into the category of a player or a marine agent morespecially that use men,render them stagnant,steal their virtue & kill them or manipulate them to kill themselves.
These are my thoughts but not having the full details I'm limited.Please try find a saintly man of God with anointing to break every SOUL TIE & everything binding you to her.
>>>Try that mountains of fires churrch maybe they can help.Don't allow any worthless fellow that you are 100 times more intelligent,gifted,learned,endowed to destroy your life.

clean2: the best remedy is for u to talk to ur heart and tell it to come under your control and forget her. Hit ur heart /left side of ur chest/ with ur hand and speak out telling it to come under ur control, within a short time u will be relieved of much pain. Once upon a time when i was at ur stage this technique kept me alive till date, love is naughty feeling it needs talking to

Anomnity:
YC , blood oat covenant is a very serious & dangerous matter & if broken by any of the parties could create a spiritual embargo to hard work,marriage,childbirth etc.GOOD PART IS THAT IT HAS EASY REMEDIES.If you probably had a blood oat with your ex there are ways out:-
1. call your ex & confess your breach of the oat & beg for forgiveness & agree together to nullify & withdraw from the oat being careful you never engage in sinful extra-marital intimacy with her again.

>>>If your ex is the wicked type she can refuse to forgive & it can cause problems.So send a gift that will impress her & cause her to agree to have it broken.But do not ever near her(intimacy) again forever or the repercussion is worse than before.
>>>Note: Premarital relationship is contrary to divine order.

2. Give your life to Christ & find saintly anointed man of God to break it or if you are holy & prayerful you can break it with blood of Jesus.

Bavvv: yes...biblically a breach of d oath is death

Bavvv: yes...biblically a breach of d oath is death

gbosaa: Continued...I feel for him and wish him well but i sincerely believe that there are lots of things he need to sort out in his life.
Money is the least of his problem..give him a billion dollars and it wont solve nawt.

Im not a moral champion but i dont have sympathy for people who beat up other people esp that girl who help drain his frustrations and tensions away..same way i hate drunk men who beat up their partners and blame it on the drink and devil..

Sort yourself out bro..theres light at the end of tje tunnel..theres a lot to live for if you are brave enough..
Comfort yourself by the fact that there are worse people out there and they are still kicking and hoping for the better.

Dont expect everyone to embrace you..There are lots of people who will like to give you a kick up your backside..its not cos they hate you..its just their way of motivating you.

99.9% of people here asking why mr kevin hasnt done it yet dont really wish him bad.

Smile Kevin You,ll embrace a great future but you have to be patient.When life throws its dirts at you,brush it off and continue walking,if you fall,dont stay on the dirt crying and whining..get up and continue..life is a journey,if you are brave and persevering,you,ll make the finish line and get your honours.

Anomnity:

Bros, the chap owned up in remorse clearly showing he knows he did wrong which is the first step to willingness to change.What else do you want from him, Mr man.Even when people owned up their wrongs Jesus forgave them.Yet you are so unforgiving & yet claim you'll do better in his situation.Na Lie!!
You stylishly addressed him with all these horrible names.You try to make him look like the devil all because he deeply humbled himself to confess.You met a man at the verge of commiting suicide and deeply humbling himself to own up wrong that most people do with impunity all their lives and everyone else is trying to calm him down and all you can say is let him go to blazes.

>Bros I put it to you,you are far worse, you manifest heartlessness & will not only beat a woman,you can even kill the way I see you cos you already want a repentant fellow dead.Its called unforgiveness and it dwells with revenge.

>By the way how do you know the woman was a saint.How do you know she didn't have her own share of the blame.Did he tell the whole story or were you there? abegi go & remove the log of wood in your own eye before you remove the spec from another person.

I.cud.kill:
Dude ar u in school?
Ar u working?

Anomnity:
Ycbeat listen up.You are in a crisis period.If you don't carefully study what aggravates & abates your condition,it could mar you.From what I see so far being alone aggravates it so STOP BEING ALONE.By all means go out & interact e.g If you had woken up early this morning with efforts to prepare for service and off you go to a nearby bubbling church you won't have time to even remember depression exists.After service wait on the queue to see the pastor & discuss your situation with him.If you aren't satisfied with his reply go to another church.By the time you visit ten churches,there must be one or more that have genuine solutions.
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Here's my councel:-
1. OPEN UP TO SPEEDY EMERGENCY ADJUSTMENTS:-keep in mind that there are adjustments you have to make to preserve your life this crisis period that you may not ordinarily like but you must necessarilty make. One of such is you must avoid staying alone.
2. DON'T STAY ALONE FOR NOW:- To keep out anything that will encourage depression,loneliness & negative thoughts go & squat with a "bubbling" friend or relative for now.Whether at your friends or at your place, Wake up!!... bath!!.... and off you go!!.Visit people,make friends,help them with their problems like running errands for them just to keep busy & you win love & favour,,go to hospitals & visit people that are sick & lonely & God will remove yours,get into football even if you don't like it.Go to stadium or fields where they play & play with them,join tennis,karate,join all just to get busy.If you are working be sure its the type that engage your mind fully & after work visit friends,hospitals,church,football,sports etc.
You'll be amazed you are so busy as to crowd out depression & negative thoughts.This may not happen at once but with time.

3. CHECK TO CONFIRM THERE AREN'T SUBSTANCES U USE THAT COULD BE CULPRITS: Be sure you aren't into hard drugs or even any of such prescription drugs that cause or enhance depression & suicidal idealation as side effect.Yes even some drugs & antidepressants cause suicidal idealation as side effects.Google it.

4. SLEEP WHEN NOT BUSY:- Tire yourself working & visiting that when you get back sleep is already beckoning.Give yourself to sleep & if its difficult use natural sleep enhancers like ginger & honey.Google sleep enhancers.

5. LAUGH,JOKES,PLAY:- Encourage anything "positive" that makes you laugh.One of the easy ways to defeat any depressing circumstance be it poverty,lack etc is to make fun & jokes out of it.Open yourself to jokes.Infact become a jocker,a comedian.Its a great antidote.Listen to jokes & lots of comedies.Serious people sometimes get depressed but jokers that don't take anything seriously like mockery from an ex-wife or even relatives NEVER EVER get depressed.

prinsays k: Sorry about ur situation you are clearly depressed and need some form of achievement in ur life. What skills do you have? What can u do maybe someone can help out. I live in abuja if u r here I can give u some things to sell to get some money as am about moving house, may u find ur much desired help.

THEPOLY11: I pray for you in the Mighty Name of JESUS CHRIST , all your sorrows and pain will be a thing of the past before JAN 10th and you will share a great testimony here on Nairaland .

AMEN.

Gombs: I've been following this thread, and my honest thoughts are that the fellow should stop talking about his problems and rather, talk to the problem.

Also, I see the op is selfish and idle minded, not because of he means so, but because he is doing so unconsciously. When he said he wanted to commit suicide just because of the reasons he stated, I wanted to type

"Hey bro, please walk into any hospital, and see folks begging for life, loved ones doing all they could to sustain the life of a friend or relative. Walk into the ghettos of the city and see kids who hve no parents and have no one to love them, go to the prisons nd see people who'd give anything for chance to start life all over...if folks don't love you, think like david... David said "The Lord is my shepherd, I SHALL NOT WANT FOR ANYTHING".. he said this not because he ws king, for he was a shepherd boy, at 17. Pls op, think like David...look up to God in faith, he'd never forget u, believe"

But I didn't cos I thought he was joking... however, im glad u didn't kill yourself
God bles u op!..to start with, get busy, start something, else u'd keep considering the devils opinions

SQURA:

kelvin, first thing is to stop being self centered.
Take about an hour and think of the world. There are many people who are far more worse than you. Did you follow the philliphine flood of last year? the destruction in that country? many people lost their homes, and family, but they are still hanging on. people are dieing in sudan, senseless killing of kids and women happening there. develop a passion for people who are suffering the world over. dont stop thinking about these people for an hour. remove the thought of grieve away from yourself and into the world.
When you start feeling this grieve, take a pen and paper, write some songs or a poem, about how you feel for the world and not yourself. your direction of depression will change because you now see yourself as someone thinking about other peoples pain and in time come to know that you are an instrument to take away that pain.

secondly this might be harsh, but think about your family and your gf that got away. and this is not in the harshest terms. this is what i mean. you know men are rather selfish, always putting themselves first, but did you ever think about what the other party is going through in their life that made them act the way they do towards you? Jesus Christ said you should not think about what to eat or wear tommorrow because God will provide then he said one of the greatest golden rules is to love your neigbour like you love God! You see, think about what people are going through that makes them act the way they do and HAVE PITY ON THEM!

For me i'm not afraid to CONVERSE and DISCUSS my fears with friends and family. I'm the honest bunch because i see no secret to keep in this world. when man dies he becomes dust and in time forgotten through out the years so whats there to lose and whats there to gain. even rich men die and leave all their wealth behind, they dont take the enjoyment with them to the grave. so whats there to fear, your family? your friends? NO! be bold, talk with your family about how you are feeling in a cool manner and tell them how it affects them and not you in the picture. HUMBLE YOURSELF.

Sal C: It won't get worse if you don't give room for that

Sal C: It won't get worse if you don't give room for that

DrummaBoy:

I am grateful to God that you are still alive.

When there is life there is hope.

First, I think you should edit that post where you put your real name and password; so you still have your access to this forum yourself and not having people come as you when you could be dead!

Next, I request you tell us what state of this nation you live. Nairaland is a large community and we could get one of us visit you. If you live in Ibadan, I can visit you in an hour. lol!

Next, let us know your educational qualification. Your experitse. A summary of your CV, etc. You will be suprised there is someone ready to give you a job straight away.

And lastly, as you get on your feet I will also recommend seeing a therapist to help you coordinate your thinking. If you have entered the suicide mode before, there is nothing stopping you from entering it again. You need someone to talk to and I am sure you can get it free of charge. And if you are a christian there are hundreds of us on the religious section that can help counsel you in Christ.

Let me know your take on all this!

rapture_ready:

Have you had yourself checked out for any of the psychological disorders? you know, bipolar and all that. You may need treatment for clinical depression.

So sorry.

adavize:

Yc. the Action of committing suicide is a mental issue. I am not saying you are mad. read more on suicide on wiki pedia . but I think it's best you talk to a psychiatrist in a govt hospital so you will be helped. personally my advice is that this is a new year. bee hopeful, keep been hardworking be as prayerful as you have always been. this year will be better.

lomomike:

I'm glad u felt relieved, I trust you will come out of that depression and become a stronger person I also see you becoming that man you've always dreamt and wished to be. Just don't lose faith in God and your life. Keep hanging out with positibe minded friends and optimistic people.
I'd keep praying for you
I love you and I need you to be alive and great!

mikyke: I was. for d sake of the child dat I so lover her mother. The child is so innocent to bear d risk and bliv U me I cnt live comfortable knowing I cud help. Hypothetical d story wat true

Temptee101: You cant be far from the truth. If not why wud she allow a man that she claimed to luv dearly to risk his life travelling all the way to kaduna jus to spew that trash; that was enough to prove the guy's luv for her. Never trust girls. Talking from experience