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Starships4u:
Asin eh,
Free launch and #2k daily.
More user-friendly than that of #108k.

Abi.

blue01:
Good morning nairalanders, please you guys should pardon me because am not much of a good writer. Am here to seek advice from some of the great minds we have here, I got this little issue that has really put me in a state of confusion.

I applied for a job sometime last month and the job is 108k/month but the issue is that the opening is still very much shaky like they are still contemplating if to employ more hands or not so the person that linked me to the job anytime I call him he keeps telling me to pray hard because of the nature of things over there, then sometime Last week he called me and asked if I can manage another job of 50k pending when that other job will be available, both jobs comes with free lunch but the one of 50k comes with extra incentives like 2k everyday but the one of 108k come with no incentives (only your salary every month end), so am really confused if to wait or just resume at the one of 50k.

Any advice is highly welcome and will be appreciated.

I forgot to add that at both jobs I will be working morning shift two days, night shift two days and I will have two days as my off days too and it's not something stressful too.

The extra incentives wins it for me! Go for the 50k job bro and better, it might be less demanding than the 108k job.

Pascopele:


Learn, women's modus operandi is WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR ME LATELY. You could literally save her from a burning house & tommorow she'll have an issue with you for not saving her burning house. Your sacrifices mean nothing to a woman!!!

I have 33 baby mamas, May 2022 ending will make it 34. 8 girlfriends

Exactly at that woman's M.O. Reason I am not close to any of them. I hate ingrates with every fiber of my being!

dollynnn:
Fear women!
Imagine, "he is not my kind"
Some ladies are heartless,wicked,selfish and confused too. They deserve no sympathy or even help.
Your baby daddy is back and you suddenly realized that your present man is not your kind(type). Ha! Heaven is far from some of us.
Meanwhile, the SIMPle man's reward will be great in heaven.

You can say that again!

odinson1:
If you don't listen and open your eyes to the Real world around you,you will have no one but yourself to Blame. Continue Sacrificing your Resources,energy and time on Women who don't and will never LOVE you. Keep on being The Good man who will come like a Knight and sweep them off their feet. No one's stopping you really.

We'll just wait here,when you make a thread about how "my wife is denying me sex" "i took my wife abroad and she chased me out of our home" "my girlfriend who I'm paying her school fees is cheating on me" , we will be ever ready to give you some Advice.

The Photo below is the Summary of Many things We Guys have been saying in this forum over and over. Women Will never Appreciate your sacrifices for her,she will leave you for the man her Privates Beats for. They lack the Ability to Grasp the concept of Gratitude,honour and Sacrifice.
A word is enough for the wise

Lalasticlala please take this to the Frontpage so more men can see and Avoid Making sacrifices for women who Can't love them.

At the story in the screenshot, he is not your kind but you collected his money and led him on SMH.

Kobojunkiee:
You are not redpillers but hypocrites, redpill-coward even, this since you conveniently create exemptions to your redpill manifesto for women such as your moms.

The OP here is instead a redpiller all the way, sometimes those of you of the cowardly stock aren't able to achieve for fear.

Ignore button! A ti kofa nle, ifa ti n she SMH.

Kingpin1000:
Why did you marry at the first place?
Compare when you were a bachelor and now.
The stress in relationship is too much. Talk more of having a bad day at work only to come home and meet someone frowning her face.
I no fit marry abeg

That is my fear too! I hate attitude when I come back from work as I love peace of mind.

sheanzy:
That explains your hatred towards the female gender.

One thing I have observed is that male children that grew up without mother's parental care and love tend to turn toxic to the female gender.




You are just a bittered soul feeling rejected and worthless cos you have been deprived motherly love, that you choose to vent your frustrations on the female gender under the disguise of redpill movement.


You feel like you are not worthy and can never be loved by a woman and the only way to make yourself feel better is adhere to the 36 LAWS OF POWER;, Disdain what you cannot have.

You are simply a misogynist!

MODIFIED;

for those calling me out for being too harsh, check through his topics and you will see how this guy insults and downgrades women, somebody like this can use a girl for rituals without thinking twice.

Nah, some of us do love our moms as redpillers but we can't just stand the disasters parading themselves as some women in this generation! Chikena!

ogene70:
Really good old days, I remember watching these men on cable network then ...I miss my childhood

Me too. I miss my childhood too!

optimusprime2:
Rest on "Bad Guy" ... You made my Saturday mornings exciting as a child

He did especially on Galaxy TV then after or before cartoons, don't know what order it is again! I remember him then, very popular as a member of NWO along with John Nash and Hulk Hogan.

osmobil5:
e de be like that bro...the wahala too much

Abi na. And I no like wahala for my life at all!

HardMirror:
first improve the welfare of the people how well is the economy working? What opportunities does an average nigerian have? What facilities are available for financing education, housing, welfare, business establishment? You are just here always advocating high cost of living and comparing costs with countries that better provides for her citizens. Countries with high costs of electricity, what is the minimum wage there? Cant they afford to pay? You and ur half clever support for the failures of the nigerian government

You dey mind am?

Arysexy:
Any idiot can govern Lagos, bc the state feed of tax of most multi nationals headquartered I. Lagos.

Fashola was d worst power Minister in Nigeria. Every effort Bath Nnaji made was wasted by this useless apc govt

So true!

rippa:
How come PDP was able to manage it and APC couldn't. U guys promised us heaven on earth only to turn back and start blaming everything. Even dead people and animals

You dey mind them?

TWoods:
They used to say education was the best legacy to your children. For Nigerians I think we should modify it, a foreign passport is a far better legacy.

You can say that again bro!

onyxo76:
All said and done. walk away now. now. now... she will never change, marriage will even worsen her.
Be very prayerful and be on the lookout for someone new.
I can't simply stand it if a lady talks rudely to me constantly, unfortunately many women are like that these days even so called
xtian sisters.

That talking rudely seems be a trait of them these days! Whenever, I can't stand it though, I give it back to them full dose as I have a caustic tongue!

TheAuthodox:
Yes ooo ....after they have made wrong choices in the past or got influenced by their wayward friends or fellow slay queens gbam! They will suddenly turn feminists overnight.... They live an unhappy life and it makes them to be venting their anger and frustration over topics/post that even has nothing to do with them... Even during physical conversation you got to know them...

You can say that again bro! You are so right about conversation discovering them as they can't hide it by being pretentious! Some are even so glaring, once you see F.I.N. or F.I.N.ster on their profile pages, your God has done it for you, kindly run!

TheAuthodox:
Bossman abeg no go marry feminist put for house oooo....you wam use your own hand put fire ontop of your roof abi?....I dislike Feminists and Mysoginist..they don't have peace of mind and they don't enjoy life.... oga desist from such a Lady ooo....

You can say that again bro! Feminists are my number one red flag, once I see it, I scram!

osmobil5:
The outermost part of your soul is trully your Emotions.

You see how emotional love is blinding you?

This one na clear danger, be like person send you go Ukraine...and u packed your bag..off you go.

Well, let me tell u my story.

My girlfriend is very beautiful...she has all the physical package a guy wants in a woman.

She loves me and I love her too...

We aren't cheating on each other...we are trying our best to be faithful.

But I have been noticing unsual characters in her...(far from cheating) combined with her weaknesses she has refused to admit and outgrow or change for better.

Knowing all these, I know what the future looks like.

I took a very bold and heart breaking step out of the relationship...mind you..I didn't tell her...

I shut off communication which is the life blood of every relationship.

I am feeling bad that we are breaking up and I am the initiator...

because she so attractive, the tin de do me somehow for body to leave her for another man to be dating.

But, my future is more important to me than her beauty that will soon fade out.

So I took the bold step out bro....e de pain me oo......but I know say na emotional pain be that and it doesn't last....before 1 month now, she will be forgotten completely as if we never knew.

Why I de share this story give u be say...na the girl Pretty face and sweet pussy the push your mumu button automatically.

She knows you are obsessed with her that's why she would be acting foolish, even though you are her sponsor.

Oga, danm your emotion and forget what men will say..for your good life.

Thanks

Let me tell my own story too. I once had a girlfriend too. Every thing was rosy up till the time she started showing her anger issues. I cut off the first time, people were saying there was no perfect relationship. I heard the advice and gave her the second chance. The second chance she blew it and I decided for my peace of mind to let her go and ignore people's talks. Now, I enjoy peace of mind these days with the thought of her giving me stress in the rearview!

nuggarito:
Virginity you didn't take.
Submission she no dey give you.
She cheated on you before.
You are paying her monthly upkeep.
Shes giving you the vibe of single parent .
She doesn't respect you( the worst)


And the OP is still fooling himself, are you cursed or what mumu OP.
OP I beg you in the name of GOD. Dont go into marriage with that human. You wont reach 50 before you die.

Abi. Make we no see him obituary in the future at a very virile age on Nairaland SMH.

fabson21:
Bro let her go of you value your peace of mind and future the red flags is already there no use pity kill yourself oh

You can say that again bro! The disrespect is even enough red flag to forget the marriage plans totally.

bewov:
Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.

These might be long, but please bare with me

There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!

After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.

My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.

We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.

I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.

So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.

January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.

This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.

She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".

She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?

She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?

Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!

Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.

When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.

Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"

Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!

She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".

Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.

Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?

Please guys, I'm very confused here

Enough red flags! For your peace of mind, please cut off the marriage plans and go for a lady who will give you peace of mind as e get why! Normally, once you see them feminists with a woman is equal to a man mantra and con dey stubborn again, that should be a deal breaker brother even with the former alone, don't even get me started on if the second one is among SMH.

A rare double over Tottenham! All thanks to Ororo, I will take the win o! Happy for today! At least, they didn't spoil my weekend as usual!

Temistar5:
Teaching in private school is modern slavery.

You can say that again bro! Some are different though but they are rare and it is like finding needle in a haystack!

AgirlsNightmAre:
You made day

He made my day too

Judybash93:
Plus size? She's morbidly obese and it isn't healthy

Abi

meobizy:
That baby elephant should pity her heart.

More like an hippopotamus instead!

paulolee:
if she remove clothes, my stick go fall n never raise till she leaves

Me too!

tnerro1:
I like ass, but this one, I jump am pass

It is not even attractive at all! Shior!

Gastoc:
Anybody except Tinubu. Sufferness don tire us
Aso villa is not a retirement home for the elderly

You can say that again bro! That man is even so shameless at his age SMH.

Masterito:
All PDP needs to do is to bring out Atiku again and he will win.

Dankwambo is a better option imo if PDP really want to win. He is not tainted with the thief brush like Atiku is which is necessary to get a bulk of the votes in the 3 Ks (Kano, Katsina and Kaduna). Tambuwal is weak to me as a PDP man, don't know why Wike continues to support him!

verybadmouth:
Noiseless,but you'll see these ones making noise over flyovers. I greet you brother Yemi.

Thank you o bro. We just have to say it the way it is. Our people don't even know what is good governance nowadays even if it hits them in the face! Happy Sunday bro.